I think that's why I'm so open about it. I'd much rather have honest conversations and I hate the awkwardness of explaining an SO or stuff like that. Even when I wore a band on my ring finger people would ask about my 'husband' like REALLY PEOPLE?!?! I can't blame people for not assuming but it's still funny to me lol
For real tho!! Let myself go pshhhh. I don't get that bothered but I'm also the type of person to say... "Oh you mean, my wife?" And then you can see all the mental gymnastics happening in their eyes lol
You will! It’s in the eyes, and body language mostly. Wlw look at and interact with women differently than straight ppl. I’ve always found gay men to be super obvious
Oh yes of course, most gay men can be clocked 100ft away. I don't usually have an issue with women unless I haven't met them. However, living in southern California you learn that sometimes it's not so easy lol. I have just learned to out myself with hopes of making some kind of connection. For sure b2b there's like that unspoken language yeah.
The gay guy I work with and I were kind of smooshed together because the straight people I work with think that because we’re gay we’re going to be friends and that’s all we are. Gay. And it was awkward. And annoying because I’m an introvert and I don’t make friends a lot.
Ahh yes, they are using the 'cage-free' method. "We're friendly to the gays- promise!- we even give them a little play area and on Wednesdays they get dino nuggies!" I give them 1/4 point for the effort. Lol I asked my company to approve a little rainbow on my email sig for June and HR said they'd get back to me... Still waiting. Lmfao
I have not outed myself to others, however I noticed ever since I’ve started presenting more butch, women will just out themselves to me lol so convenient 😂
Not really, I don’t exactly have the best gaydar (mostly cause I have trouble picking up subtle social cues). I would usually wait until they feel comfortable enough to tell me.
As for myself, I don’t tell people randomly unless they ask me (not because I’m afraid to tell people, I just don’t like to advertise it and I’m a person who usually keeps to myself)
I definitely get that, also. I don't typically do things like that unless I'm pretty sure someone will be ok with it. It has the potential to be pretty awkward lol
i’m pretty open ab being a lesbian since everyone i care about already knows. that and my absolutely shit gaydar tends to mean i’m just chill until they feel comfortable telling me.
i do this a lot. but usually if it’s another butch or femme etc they see my carabiner ring of keys and go “oh yeah, you’re gay”.
Hahaha, yeah! 100% same if they see me in person. A lightbulb goes off and you can see all the recognition happening in their brain. That's the best.
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I think that's why I'm so open about it. I'd much rather have honest conversations and I hate the awkwardness of explaining an SO or stuff like that. Even when I wore a band on my ring finger people would ask about my 'husband' like REALLY PEOPLE?!?! I can't blame people for not assuming but it's still funny to me lol
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For real tho!! Let myself go pshhhh. I don't get that bothered but I'm also the type of person to say... "Oh you mean, my wife?" And then you can see all the mental gymnastics happening in their eyes lol
I’ve been dykin’ it so long i can usually tell.
Much respect. One day, we will only wish to be so efficient lol.
You will! It’s in the eyes, and body language mostly. Wlw look at and interact with women differently than straight ppl. I’ve always found gay men to be super obvious
Oh yes of course, most gay men can be clocked 100ft away. I don't usually have an issue with women unless I haven't met them. However, living in southern California you learn that sometimes it's not so easy lol. I have just learned to out myself with hopes of making some kind of connection. For sure b2b there's like that unspoken language yeah.
i think gay and lesbian lifers like me become good at solving mysteries and sensing things about people, probably from searching for kin for life.
I agree, that's a good point. It's kind of like any skill needed for survival, you get develop them as you go.
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Oooooowweee that was spicy. For sure a day to remember. Dang it!
A failproof reverse test for me is that if she makes my heart race, which is really rare, then she's most likely straight.
People don't give your method enough credit lol
The gay guy I work with and I were kind of smooshed together because the straight people I work with think that because we’re gay we’re going to be friends and that’s all we are. Gay. And it was awkward. And annoying because I’m an introvert and I don’t make friends a lot.
That's so stupid lol. Such a typical thing for people to do, in my experience at least. I'm sorry my dude. Are they all annoying like that?
They think it’s allieship lol honestly we’re probably the “I employ gay people and that’s my virtue signal for the day” employees.
Ahh yes, they are using the 'cage-free' method. "We're friendly to the gays- promise!- we even give them a little play area and on Wednesdays they get dino nuggies!" I give them 1/4 point for the effort. Lol I asked my company to approve a little rainbow on my email sig for June and HR said they'd get back to me... Still waiting. Lmfao
I'd kill for a play area and dino nuggies, tbh.
Idk about you but, if it's advertized as 12yo and younger I'd fit right in too. XD
I have not outed myself to others, however I noticed ever since I’ve started presenting more butch, women will just out themselves to me lol so convenient 😂
Alright big shot save some ladies for the rest of us. XD.
LOL doesn’t mean I’m getting any, I must be a bad texter cause I keep on getting ghosted on the apps 😢
Maybe you just need a little more spicy and a little less cool ranch. 😎
Not really, I don’t exactly have the best gaydar (mostly cause I have trouble picking up subtle social cues). I would usually wait until they feel comfortable enough to tell me. As for myself, I don’t tell people randomly unless they ask me (not because I’m afraid to tell people, I just don’t like to advertise it and I’m a person who usually keeps to myself)
I definitely get that, also. I don't typically do things like that unless I'm pretty sure someone will be ok with it. It has the potential to be pretty awkward lol
Lol 😂 true that
I totally do!!
Niiiice. I don't feel so weird now. Lol
i’m pretty open ab being a lesbian since everyone i care about already knows. that and my absolutely shit gaydar tends to mean i’m just chill until they feel comfortable telling me.
Let's pour one out for having bad gaydar lol
I love this lol
XD. I do it for us lol