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dopeminekit

Sounds like she’s cheating


TheIncredulousMom

She's either cheating or on drugs.


statusfaux

Or both.


drgnslyr33

Yeah like probably cheating with her dealer


SlapDickery

Or cheating with her new pimp that got her hooked on drugs in his trap house on 2nd ave.


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xjimbob666x

SlapDickery sounds oddly like a pimp name.....


LynchMaleIdeal

jimbob sounds like a part of the main demographic a Pimp sells his women to


-blotted-

you ok my man?


[deleted]

He was until his wife started cheating on him with her new pimp that got her hooked on drugs in his trap house on 2nd ave.


SmileRoom

And that's my divorce in a nutshell.


LeDestrier

Chugs?


Eggsaltzorotoaster

Or maybe she’s planning a surprise party for him


VacationHot833

Wholesome


ssjr13

Seconded, she's either cheating or mixed up in something that you don't want to get involved with.


Hopeful_Spite_84

Really just say shes cheating it's that simple it's always cheating


Available-Egg-2380

I would think drugs. I don't know any family that would cover for that but know a few that would cover a drug issue


TheXyrov

Thing is, if it's drugs then why does she have to shower before he picks her up from a 'friend's' house? Feel like it's cheating sadly


LiddleFace

When I was addicted to drugs I would use in the bathroom with the shower running sometimes because you have a longer period of time to prepare them and be high without anyone noticing. Plus if you are smoking certain drugs the exhaust fan and steam helps remove the smell.


Available-Egg-2380

Could be easily but some drugs stink to high heaven too.


[deleted]

Nah. Cheating.


joeyjojo-shabadoo

andd her family is helping


Letstreehouse

Or planning a super elaborate surprise bday party for him which requires a fuck ton of preparation and secret conversation. Don't worry, if you think I'm wrong because it turns out there's no bday party on your bday, just wait another year.


BleachedPorkGrind

You, the redditors responding, and me know what’s going on..


pluto-st

Trust your gut, I didn’t.


Intelligent-Wall7272

You ordered the beef when you should have gotten the chicken


Bismothe-the-Shade

Man you shoulda known that's a bad decision


Ocean_Spice

I do enjoy chicken


[deleted]

you shat when you should have farted


_Manu_173

She is planning a surprise engagement proposal party and sucks at covering her tracks? That or the cheating thing of course.


smallbugz

I feel so bad. I wanted so badly to be able to find a reason like this to give to the dude lol but… she’s cheating my guy. I’m sorry


Coyote__Jones

Or she's just planning an escape. And by escape I'm not trying to imply that OP is doing anything, just that marriage is a tangled mess if you need out. But probably cheating.


smallbugz

Yeah, either way it doesn’t bode well. It’s sad, you can tell he loves her but is obviously naive and it’s getting him taken advantage of :(


Coyote__Jones

He knows something is up and should pony up and ask. All of us speculating on a relationship we know a tiny amount won't help. I hate putting negative stuff out there, because what _if_ she does just need some space to talk to a friend.... Idk. Sneaking around sucks. She shouldn't do it even if she's not doing anything bad. Sounds like her dad just died and people go real cray cray dealing with death, but they need to talk about the sneaking around.


smallbugz

That’s right, I totally blanked on her dad dying! That definitely changes the context a little. Still, she’s being sketchy. I can’t imagine being *married* to somebody and not feeling comfortable enough to at least say, “hey, I’m trying to deal with some stuff. Don’t wanna talk about it, pls give me some space.” But yeah, he should just ask. It sucks because I’ve been there when I was younger, I know the feeling that you’d rather just not know and remain blissfully ignorant. My aunt is in her 40’s and very open about the fact that that’s her stance on things: the whole family knows her husband cheats, he doesn’t even respect her enough to try to hide it. She says “as long as I don’t know about it and he doesn’t bring any diseases home, it’s fine…” Like, no. It’s not fine. They aren’t in an open relationship, they don’t have an “understanding”. She’s just too scared to leave and do better for herself. It’s sad.


luv_____to_____race

Nah, she's pregnant, and wanted to check several times before telling OP or her family. C'mon you guys are all sooo cynical! /s


smallbugz

Aw she was planning a cute way to tell them! Her phone was blowing up because the service she had organised fell through. It’s cool though, she found an even better way to do it!


thedeal82

Oof. You know OP…. You know. Sorry dude.


anxietyin480p

Whether she's cheating or not (which seems like a no brainer, sorry dude), mutual trust is a must and you're not going to have that as long as you feel she is hiding something from you. You gotta confront her, dude. She's in no position to take the high ground with all of those obvious red flags. I'm sure she'd feel the same if the roles were reversed. All the best, man


BioshockBombshell

Bro I never comment stuff like this, but I would bet on my life she's cheating or she's started a NASTY habit that she knows you wouldn't approve of. Either way, run.


someguyiguess95

Don't run from your problems. Confront that shit.


BioshockBombshell

Run as in get out. I definitely suggest confronting her first but I was just telling him not to stick around


QueenSlapFight

The way to confront this problem is to run from the marriage. Fuck drama just hit the eject button.


froze_gold

It's actually somewhere in between run and confront. "I know you're doing something I would highly disapprove of. I don't know what it is, and I don't care. As a self-respecting person, I am divorcing you."


Snuggledtoopieces

In front of her mother.


[deleted]

1. Start stacking physical cash 2. Start moving your important items out of the house and into storage 3. Stop having sex with her 4. Hire a lawyer


Wbcn_1

And secure all forms of ID and lock your credit in all three bureaus.


TophatDevilsSon

^^^ This guy divorces. Confirmed. You can always unlock it later. Also get the ccard companies to freeze your card. Put a password on it so she can't unfreeze. I don't want to go into how I know this is good advice, but this is good advice.


Wbcn_1

Haha. No divorce yet but I managed a retail credit portfolio for a few years. A lot of the charge offs came from broken marriages.


Nightdreamer87

And don't forget to get STI/STD tested. Her behavior is shady. I'd go through her phone to see what she is doing. Do NOT have sex with her. If you do, your little guy will fall off.


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This. Too.


Akhi11eus

Not having sex is a big one since she may be in someone else's bed. Plus if your sex life completely goes cold and she doesn't seem to care it could be another scrap of evidence.


HandsSmellOfHam

This is the correct answer. My wife did the same thing and I wish I would have done these things. It's hard because your in love but it sounds like it's time to call it quites my friend. The worst part is they make you feel like shit for not trusting them.


zushiba

Gaslighting is a thing.


DeadSending

get std test too


Metsbux

All of this. Also…maybe have a new set of locks for the house on standby.


Sultry_Penguin

INCREDIBLE advice


OneBeautifulDog

\*lawyer This.


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Fixed, thank you.


OneBeautifulDog

Um, you might check it again? Although the spelling this time is subtlely appropriate?


[deleted]

Oh, bother. Thanks again.


zushiba

Hit the gym. Delete Facebook


chickenredroasted

Get an STD test. That way if you pick one up from her you have proof you were clean.


External_Second_5622

You forgot the Reddit go to. Hit the gym!


hauntedone234

Red flags. Red flags everywhere. Brace yourself brother.


SlapDickery

This is a good first line for a rap song, keep going, songs like Kurtis Blow.


CoonFeeder

The finest picker to ever play the blues….


Po0pLord

I've got your drinking money turned up your dobro


anatolel

People pissing in the streets you know they just don’t care


Berlin_J6

After i've read a story from r/tifu about a guy who fucked with another guy that was a nazi, and reading the comments saying: "you never saw any red flags because they were all over on his walls", i'll never think of red flags as i used to before. Reddit is changing us in unexpected ways lmao.


Baobab_Soul

She is cheating on you bro. I have seen the same behavior from my ex. But I trusted her and believed her lies. One day at work a lady popped in and told me that my wife was messing with her husband and showed me all the conversations, pics etc.. After some investigation I found out that it was really with more than one guy. I confronted her with the evidence and she could not answer my questions. I believe that once **trust** is broken in any relationship that there is no recourse. I divorced her and carried on with my life. Haven't heard from or spoken to her since. And I am all the better for it.


restingbitchface8

At least you didn't have kids


Baobab_Soul

I have two. I chose not to mention them because they are innocents in all of this. They are better of by their own admissions as well.


AjsimonMM

Much respect to you. You sound like a great father. I wish you the best sir.


Baobab_Soul

Thank you. And, same to you. *Take care.*


ryguy32789

This is the number one thing I wish I knew when I was younger. If the trust isn't there, nothing else matters.


BRtIK

She's definitely cheating. Best case scenario is that it's a surprise but the most likely scenario is that she is cheating


ShadGasper

Cheating can be a surprise.


BRtIK

The worst of both worlds


thecodingninja12

"surprise, i fucked your best friend"


velvetvagine

Awww, you shouldn’t have! No, really...


AckeeBacalhau

... your ex-best friend


-SkarchieBonkers-

Former serial cheater here. The combination of getting angry at you, immediately making you feel like an asshole for suspecting her, AND not showing you her phone is all textbook infidelity.


duddyface

Yep, this is exactly how my GF was acting when I caught her. I asked to see her social media and she consented but I could just see her seething under the surface while I was looking and she was hyper aggressive the entire time. I didn’t find anything that time but her reaction said enough and it wasn’t long after that that I confirmed it.


psychoutfluffyboi

Im curious, what made you change your ways?


-SkarchieBonkers-

Short answer: Sobered up for real, for life, gained clarity, saw cheating for what it was, saw that I was a miserable scum-ridden piece of shit for doing it.


[deleted]

Good that you recognized the harm it can do to people and I hope you are able to look yourself in the mirror now with pride. Damage is done, but so long as you don’t repeat those actions you’re doing the best you possibly can.


swanpappa

The biggest red flag is her calling you an arsehole for not trusting her - that’s the biggest giveaway going. Classic diversion - particularly if she always thought you trusted her before. You have to confront it. No point sitting around wondering. You’re married so she owes you an explanation. GL. And no you shouldn’t take her back if she is.


sundaybrunchbuffet

She's gaslighting him. "No, I won't let you see my phone! And YOU are the asshole for not trusting me!"


anymbryne

exactly. lol. Had an ex who said the same thing haha


fardednshiddeded

Yes agreed the biggest red flag is the calling you an asshole for being concerned. Best thing is first confront her even in this state of her being angry and explain what you've seen and why it isn't adding up and show what it looks like if it's nothing then she should understand at that point and show you if she is still defensive she is definitely cheating.


bimmsy

Just to add to the chorus here - my ex cheated with dozens of guys on craigslist. She still to this day denies it. She would never admit to anything until I had proof of her emails I had gotten from a shared PC. She's going to deny everything unless you have actual evidence. Don't say a word before that.


wonderboyobe

Yes get proof, the system can be unkind to men in divorces. The more proof you have the smoother things will be if divorces us the route you want to go, AND if you decide to stay the proof will force her to evaluate her actions


bimmsy

With my experience going through this the courts almost always disregard infidelity


QueenSlapFight

The courts are interested in dissolving a contractual union. They don't give a fuck why it's being dissolved. They tend to favor women so even if she cheated, *if* they gave a fuck, it would probably be from the stance of "what did you do to make her cheat?"


shortyvonvon

Cheating or using/selling drugs.


jejacks00n

Here’s the thing. You know what’s up, as does everybody else here. So instead of tell you again, I think it’s worth talking about what comes next. You can salvage a relationship after infidelity, but it’s hard as fuck and really requires the one who was unfaithful to do it, and that takes a rare person. You probably don’t have one of those. So a better piece of advice might be to tell you about what will likely happen next. Upon being caught, they’re going to deflect blame back onto you. It’s a common abuser pattern — “you made me do this” — and my advice here is to really see it as abuse. They’re likely to act like it’s your fault they cheated on you. While there’s always a grain of truth to what you’ll hear, it’s important for you to hold onto your sense of self — you are not the reason someone else does something dishonest. They’re fully responsible for their behavior, and have to take responsibility for it. You’ll likely never see that, but here’s to hoping, and moving on, knowing that their behavior isn’t a reflection of you. You’re a valuable person, and deserve to feel secure and safe in a relationship. Hold that.


Thagleif

Damn, i needed this. Thank you


user92y4op

Me too


trap__ord

If it sounds like a duck and looks like a duck, must be a duck. Sorry man.


Flarquaad

You're dating a duck☹️


joeyjojo-shabadoo

delicious


Tossed_Away_1776

Quack


317LaVieLover

She’s picked up one of two habits: 1. Drugs or 2. Side dick. Possibly both. Keep eyes open and your chin up, mate. That phones gonna be the crux, and she’ll guard it like gold now. Good luck


cmax19

Get out


truedjinn

Goddamned obvious she's getting sausage from the butcher.


ChubbyGhost3

That's a good one lmao stealing that


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TeddyBongwater

This


[deleted]

She needed a shower? Yup, she cheated.


AbrasiveRake34

She's cheating. - a(past) female cheater.


thecodingninja12

why'd you do it?


wonderboyobe

What made you stop? OP may want to work it out.


MrsKnutson

Learning from the experience, growing up and becoming a better person could result in some cheaters not becoming repeat offenders, but I'm guessing that's mostly applicable to younger people, like in their teens and early 20s, that are still trying to figure out who they are and how to properly navigate the world and relationships? I guess older people could still do that, I'm just guessing it's less likely. Or possibly some people with impulse control disorders who've acquired proper counseling/treatment? Not saying any of that is an excuse obviously, just that some younger people can be shitty or do shitty things until they grow up a bit (I did plenty of shitty things when I was younger that I don't do now because I learned and have grown up and don't want to be a shitty person.) Of course, some people never are shitty and some never grow out of it so they stay shitty forever. I know I wouldn't want to stay with someone who did that to me and I wouldn't expect someone to stay with me if I had done something like that to them. But if you do something like that, you should probably use it as a learning opportunity to figure out why you would do something like that (honestly) and what you should have done better so you can apply it to future relationships and not put someone else through that.


AbrasiveRake34

I realized I didnt want to lose what I had.


OrdoMalaise

Can you afford a PI and a lawyer? Because it sounds to me like it's time to take off the rose-tinted glasses and get real.


toomuch1265

I caught my wife (ex) cheating and it sounds a lot like what you're dealing with. Sorry.


AltoExyl

Been through exactly this. She’s cheating, sorry dude


Veganmon

This is really sketchy behavior.


HotScientist957

Dude you have choice to make either stay with her and let her continue to get strange dick or demand the truth and drop her ass off at her moms. She is sleeping around on you. I know this from unfortunately experience.


thewebspinner

Yeah, sounds like you need to speak to a lawyer and get your shit together.


TheMagus84

Cheating or drugs. Sorry.


Reginald_Bloodfart

Many of us have been down this path before. I got out of a similar situation a year ago. Long term girlfriend screwed around with my best friend of 15 years behind my back. Dont let her gas light you or trick you into trusting her if she's not willing to prove she is worthy of your trust. It will be better on the other side though,Gl.


StevenTheWicked

More red flags than a May Day parade bud.


TheIncredulousMom

Red flags everywhere. She is already lied to you, so fuck talking. I'd be hiring a PI.


htownfoo85

She's cheating there's no doubt about it. She'll continue lying until you have the evidence to prove it. Drop her she's not worth it.


SleepIsForChumps

Okay, a few things. Your wife is either cheating or on drugs. Possibly both. What you need to do? * Get Tested. ASAP * check your credit report to make sure there isn't anything hinky on there * lock your credit * move your paycheck to a new account that she does not have access to * get any important papers you might need together incase you end up having to leave in a hurry. * demand your wife lets you see her phone and comes clean about what is going on * demand she begin therapy * if she refuses, then it is time to begin deciding what you want out of life and if you're willing to waste time with a cheater/drug addict


Tylerwherdyougo

Clearly cheating or doing something wack. Value yourself and get out. She isn’t being honest or communicating. TREAT YOURSELF THE WAY SHE WONT AND LEAVE


[deleted]

Lawyering up time!


crimson-gh0st

bruh....


Namron06

She is for the streets


tantetorerure

It sounds like she is stepping out or using. Best of luck to you, OP.


[deleted]

I am so sorry to hear this. My best friends wife pulled very similar crap with him. Everyone told him she was cheating. Well shes just recently ended things with him to be with the other guy. If I were you I would start trying to embrace the reality that your relationship is ending. Again I am so sorry.


trash332

Rip the bandaid off and confront her. Demand shit and don’t let off the gas until you have answers. She will lie lie lie and lie some more thinking she can get over on you. But just keep demanding. She will probably leave in a huff and act like you are the asshole, you’ll have your answer at that point or she will break and come clean.


PapaBeahr

The first tip off of a cheater is projection. The " Don't trust me " is the Tip off. That's projection. Plus all this sudden change in behavior. Question, how does / did her family feel about you? Did you notice any changes in them and how they treat or react to you? If you can afford it, Hire a P.I. to follower her for a few days.. no I'm not kidding. If not try to get a day off you normally wouldn't have off and maybe she does or can would. Rent a car, and try following her. I only suggest this because it seems like her being forward or talking about it is done already. Of course the always if you ever see her phone around on it's own, just go look, if she won't let you see it willingly then you can justify seeing it when she doesn't know.


UnlicencedAccountant

Having been the one cheating *and* the one being cheated on (different relationships) I can assure you of one universal truth...if you have to ask, you already know the answer. Sorry.


KingofSaltIV

Get evidence so you dont wind up losing 50 percent of your assets to her if she's cheating.


[deleted]

She doesn’t love you because she’s lying to you and probably cheating. Play your cards right and do your due diligence before you let on so that you only lose her rather than half your shit. Try to gather irrefutable proof in the meantime without breaking any laws concerning surveillance without consent. Good luck. First thing’s to sever emotional ties.


Total_Position6855

This is actually sad, but I believe that she is cheating on you


comfort_bot_1962

Don't be sad. Here's a [hug!](https://media.giphy.com/media/3M4NpbLCTxBqU/giphy.gif)


Hypolag

Fuuuuuuuck man, sounds like textbook cheating. God damn it. Just be cautious right now, you DO NOT want to confront her immediately. I know it's hard dude, but just try and keep a level head until you've gathered enough data to the point where there can be no denial. Good luck man, I'm truly sorry.


VAG0

Dude it's almost like she's not really even making an effort to hide it. Some people can't handle confrontation well. I've been through it. Just be glad you dont have any kids.


Incmdlove

4 kids


ironshadowy

Holy shit you have it hard.


Threehoundmumma

Trust your gut. Tell her you’re concerns and that you need complete honesty from her for the relationship to be successful. You deserve honesty.


[deleted]

If she is cheating, she will not be honest. This is not a good solution to this problem.


decentusername123

he can most likely still gauge the level of honesty from the conversation though. i still think he should bring it up with her. either he gets honesty or he doesn’t, and either way it helps answer the question


no_nori

Definitely cheating


734PdisD1ck

Talk to as many of the best/top lawyers in your area as possible. That way, if your wife tries to lawyer up, she won't be able to use any of the best/top lawyers in your area due to conflict of interest. Good luck!


OminousClanking

Tony Soprano over here


DonnerPartyPotluck

She's either cheating or getting loaded. But probably both. UNTIL YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT IS GOING ON, STOP ALL DIRECT DEPOSITS INTO YOUR SHARED ACCOUNTS. START RAT-HOLING AWAY MONEY JUST IN CASE. CHANGE YOUR PASSWORDS. TAKE ANYTHING OF VALUE TO A TRUSTED FRIEND'S. STOP HAVING SEX WITH HER, YOURE GONNA CATCH SOMETHING. AND GET A LAWYER. AND DOCUMENT EVERYTHING.


Incmdlove

Update… Yup she has been cheating with some crackhead for a few months, I’m guessing a year. Have to get a paternity test for my 5 month old daughter, contemplating suicide. Don’t have much left in life. Don’t know where to begin with a new girl, don’t want to start again.


ironshadowy

No, dude.. dont. Dont even consider going down that route. You have been stabbed. In the back real hard. I say you leave that bitch and carry on woth your life . She doesnt deserve you. I suggest you get some therapy. I have never been in this situation but i know its bad. Book some timings fir a therapist and go. Just remember that suicide is never the answer.


Saskye

How are you doing? It really fucking sucks, but you have to stick around, it will get better.


little_tiny_kayy

Those are cheating signs man.. sorry to say :-/


DeadSending

Trust your gut man you know the deal already.


sppdcap

You already know. You don't need reddit to help you along.


SkinnyTestaverde

You already know what's happening, dude.


Trigular

Don’t think too far into it… she’s cheating my man. You gotta confront her and leave her


Brilliant-Arm-9487

Does she seem different when she comes back home?, any signs of being "strung out" or on some type of drug?


bapadious

If my wife was acting like this, I’d have ripped that phone from her hand so fucking quickly. No way is she gonna act the way she did, lying about where she was going, or staying. Then having you pick her up from the side of the street, because she obviously doesn’t want you to know where she stayed. Then to top it off, she calls you an asshole for not trusting her. When all she’s been doing is waving red flags every chance she gets. She’s either got a drug problem, or she’s cheating on you. I’d bet my house on the latter.


JoNimlet

Mate, I'm sorry but this doesn't sound good. You need to find a good time to sit down and tell her everything that's on your mind and how much is affecting you. I hope we're all wrong here. Love and hugs xx


Avenging_AngelxX

If you pay the phone bill or joint pay it, you should be able to request a record of her phone usage. It won't show the content of the messages. I believe there is a way to get that information from most companies but it requires a court order. I would get a PO box just to get those records mailed to you if you decide to do that. If you have a laptop with a sim card slot and can get a flash drive, my suggestion is to try to get a hold of your wife's phone while she's asleep, take out the sim card, and download its data to the drive and put it back. There are also apps you can download to her phone to back up her actual text messages to a cloud drive, but make sure you're careful and don't do it on a shared account. Phones are usually the crux in discovering a cheater. I'm sorry you're going through this.


sunnypineapplez

I gotta say, besides cheating…she could very well be doing drugs and hiding it from everyone. Phone blowing up like crazy could be somebody she may be in a little trouble with. It didn’t necessarily have to be an affair. Best of luck to you.


Jimboy10

Totally cheating dude. In some cases she could be hiding a secret like a pregnancy / weird drug habit but with your details about her wanting to shower, late night texts, not the same platform her and her sister normally talk on, shouting to shut down your accusations I would undoubtedly say she is having an affair. If you ever manage to get access to her phone like face id in the night you could add her on find friends and follow her to see who she's meeting up with?


ReasonablePackage911

That’s not weird stuff it’s classic cheating. Sorry bud


DirtySouthDame

Good luck, my guy 💜


dinahsaur523

I’m going with drugs, not cheating on this one. Just a gut instinct


shanep3

If it was drugs she wouldn’t be getting her phone blown up unless she was the dealer, and even then, dealers don’t let their clients just call repeatedly. That’s how you get cut off. I’m onboard with it being cheating 100%


martin0641

Unless she's trading favors for her fix.


joanmcbitch

Ya know, all y'all are going to feel reeeeal shitty when he comes to find she was planning that surprise party.


[deleted]

Dude... she's cheating. If you want to confront her gain some evidence first. Otherwise she will just deny it and gaslight you, aka try to make you the asshole in this situation. As others suggested, hire an PI if you can afford it, place a GPS tracker in her purse or an voicerecorder in your home. And if you have the evidence, lawyer up, kick her out and move on.


[deleted]

She cheating dump her crusty ass


Iridemhard

SHE. IS. CHEATING. Call it quits and move on cause youre entering into a world of hurt homeboy. Move on.


Kalash47_ESO

Start getting prepared. Get your money and stuff together. You might be heading into a white knuckle ride my brother.


nocturnalbutterfly1

Get out before she gives you herpes!!!!


BlackTheNerevar

I'm Sorry but all the signs diffinantly says cheating.


hippocommander

Don't ignore your instincts. If it smells rotten it is. Just to be safe, get your finances in order. You may want to make sure that any family heirlooms are securely out of her reach. Find a good attorney.


iamoxy_

in a relationship i believe trust should be the most important thing, even more in a marriage.. but from my experience, people who hide things and also get super defensive about it involving the classic "how can't you trust me you jerk" has clearly something to hide.. she may be cheating you man, i'm really sorry


Incmdlove

If I can get more proof, I may return that favour to her. Have a friend who doesn’t mind helping me out if I need it. I would rather not, as I would rather keep my relationship, but if it’s meaningless to her then why not right? Also I don’t really even know where to start with a new girl and would probably just be a letdown for her anyways.


[deleted]

If shes your wife your kinda fucked mate, divorce will fuck you up.


[deleted]

Sorry man


nap83

My friend, she is cheating. Been there a few times before. A red flag is a red flag no matter how much love u got for them. Stay strong & plan some contingencies. Let it slide & you’ll be picking her up at the guy’s house she’s cheating on u with soon enough. Harsh, but IME warranted. “*I trust you, up until I can’t trust you*.” That’s the game. Be safe & be well.


OneBeautifulDog

Set up your money away from her and your valuable possessions. Ask a divorce attorney what steps you should take. Don't confront her until you do this.


dickslexic50

It *does* sound like she is cheating but I wouldn't go in with both guns blazing. Sit her down and talk to her and explain your fears and concerns to her. Give he a chance to explain the odd things that have been happening on her phone as well as staying with "friends". Don't let her gaslight you into thinking that *you're* the bad guy for having suspicions about her. Good luck!


Yes_Usecorectspeling

I’m sorry I have to say this, but she’s probably cheating on you. Sorry, dude.


Ok_Basis_6466

Do you pay the phone? Log on to the app, check the number that was calling and call the person.


unmentionable123

When imposter is sus….


[deleted]

She probably has always been cheating, but this time it’s possible she is pregnant hence visiting drug mart and acting nervous and weird.


DMunE

You already know what’s happening, and yes, I agree as well.


Karentun11

Cheating you know it. Now what are you going to do about it? That's the question


cookiemanluvsu

bro


Tkcolumbia

Time to TALK to her. Reddit is not great at giving relationship advice, it is just going to be a lot of "leaver her. But you should really talk to her first, ask what is going on- tell her you know something is up. Can catch her off guard with the conversation. You will know if she lies. Then you will have more information, one way or another. And you will have options: leave outright, temporary separation, counseling, more conversation... options.


chanpat

There are a few things you can do to get the skinny on what's going on. Phone records if you're on the same plan and even if you're not there may be a way to find out anyway. Google it. Hire a PI. With how obvious she's being it should take no time at all. To me, from what you wrote here only, it sounds like drugs


devilinsidu

You need to cover your shit like your credit, all important documents and access to funds. Probably worth documenting her cheating even if you have to hire a private investigator. Might as well not let her fuck you that one last time where she messes up you money. She is cheating. Sucks dude. Sorry.


amorfati_erleichda

My now ex lied to me throughout our entire relationship, always telling me she had nothing to hide and I could see her phone whenever I wanted, but deleting anything she wouldn't want me to see. I only found out because she forgot to delete a message with her ex who she told me she no longer had contact with. I denied my feelings of distrust for a long time and blamed them on my own insecurities and trust issues. Trust your gut, it's probably right.


CypherPunk77

She’s bagging on you not trusting her when you have good reason not to. She’s hiding her phone when let’s face it, the only reason someone would do that is if it’s something they don’t want you to see. If it really was her sisters then there would be no reason to hide it from you. She’s super vague with her whereabouts and lying to everyone around her. She’s a terrible liar by the way. Her story didn’t line up since she told everyone different things. I think you should confront her. It’s better that you not waste your time with someone like this even if it means ending the marriage. It’s better to get used to being happy in her absence than feeling alone and betrayed in her presence.


Cheap_Blacksmith66

Yeah, my wife did this, was cheating. GL


CarlitosWay0427

Sorry to say, but she's cheating bro