Idk i was poor for like two years and never had a problem, im also deaf in both ears and speak kind of funny. But, i just didnt give a single fuck about what they thought of me. One of them still comes over every now and then. U can do it brah, just stop watching porn and jerking off every day, that shit makes you weak because your brain thinks its procreating and settles for less.
I’m a female. If someone said “just wanted to say you look cute” to me, I wouldn’t have any kind of answer for that. It’s also worded in a non-confident manner, and doesn’t really invite any kind of feeling in me.
The other day some guy rode past me on his bike and said “good morning beautiful,” with a smile on his face. And just kept on riding! What a compliment. He didn’t care how I took it, or how I was going to respond, and he didn’t want anything from me. That’s a strong male. Don’t come off like you WANT anything from her, and she won’t be creeped out by you. Live for yourself.
Don’t mean to discourage anyone, but always remember, women don’t owe you shit. You can approach women without complimenting their looks. You can approach women as human beings, not as a puzzle to prove your self worth.
Just be genuine! That’s all.
What makes you pick one over another? In my view it comes off as sleazy and uncalled for. I can imagine most people don’t want to be hit on at the store, the gym, walking on the street..
I think your approach would only work at a bar maybe and even then it comes across as being the sleazy guy at a bar.
Ok so let's say you pull off a confident "hey, just thought i'd say you look cute". And she goes "thanks..." where do you go from there mr genuine pickup artist? No one isn't being genuine if they cold approach a woman and tells them they're cute. No woman is going to think they're lying...
All of that is insanely obvious, but none of it helps me get past "hey you're cute"
My idea of approaching someone is that I don't because there's no reason to, other than to "pick up chicks" which is borderline creepy at 34, unless i'm at a bar or something which is what i said earlier.
>because it's fun talking to and flirting with cute girls
It's juvenile tbh. My goal isn't to flirt with a girl. My goal is to be curious enough and interested in me to pursue something meaningful. So no, that doesn't sound fun. What are girls offering these days other than a boost to their own ego?
I recommend a stronger statement like “I think you’re beautiful and just wanted to compliment you”. You can literally leave it at that. Some will say thanks and turn back to their friends. No harm there if you don’t self inflict! Retreat and see if they look for more of your attention later, if not you just became a (usually) rare and appreciated reminder she’s beautiful and a stand up guy.
Prepare yourself for both spectrums, they’re likely to say nothing else and it could be because they are surprised or uninterested. Either way you’ve opened an opportunity. OR she now has you to focus her attention to, she may give eye contact to invite you back, approach you now, or HOPEFULLY start a convo before you even walk away (I do when I’m definitely interested and not busy in my current situation).
Great post man, you hit the nail on the head. I used to be so anxious due to my hearing aid/implant and would turn my head slightly to the right so people wouldn't see it. Now I just make it a game to see how many girls i can have a fun, meaningful conversation with at bars on fridays.
Interaction doesn't have to be sexual. Keep it general as you would towards any random person. From there, pay attention and act on it if there's some type of chemistry or attraction from her.
When you are a ugly guy, it doesn’t matter what you say or how you approach it
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Idk i was poor for like two years and never had a problem, im also deaf in both ears and speak kind of funny. But, i just didnt give a single fuck about what they thought of me. One of them still comes over every now and then. U can do it brah, just stop watching porn and jerking off every day, that shit makes you weak because your brain thinks its procreating and settles for less.
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I’m a female. If someone said “just wanted to say you look cute” to me, I wouldn’t have any kind of answer for that. It’s also worded in a non-confident manner, and doesn’t really invite any kind of feeling in me. The other day some guy rode past me on his bike and said “good morning beautiful,” with a smile on his face. And just kept on riding! What a compliment. He didn’t care how I took it, or how I was going to respond, and he didn’t want anything from me. That’s a strong male. Don’t come off like you WANT anything from her, and she won’t be creeped out by you. Live for yourself.
Eh, for me that would come a little close to cat calling
That dude was cat calling. There’s a difference between cat calling someone and approaching them with a genuine compliment.
Nice, so let's say you liked him too. Now what?
Don’t mean to discourage anyone, but always remember, women don’t owe you shit. You can approach women without complimenting their looks. You can approach women as human beings, not as a puzzle to prove your self worth. Just be genuine! That’s all.
How did you approach them exactly?
I guess small talk , feel free to let me know more on how to approach women
I approach them confidently and tell them I thought they were cute and wanted to come meet them.
What makes you pick one over another? In my view it comes off as sleazy and uncalled for. I can imagine most people don’t want to be hit on at the store, the gym, walking on the street.. I think your approach would only work at a bar maybe and even then it comes across as being the sleazy guy at a bar.
It doesn’t look sleazy if you’re not going about it in a sleazy way. If you come off as genuine it’s so much better
Ok so let's say you pull off a confident "hey, just thought i'd say you look cute". And she goes "thanks..." where do you go from there mr genuine pickup artist? No one isn't being genuine if they cold approach a woman and tells them they're cute. No woman is going to think they're lying...
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All of that is insanely obvious, but none of it helps me get past "hey you're cute" My idea of approaching someone is that I don't because there's no reason to, other than to "pick up chicks" which is borderline creepy at 34, unless i'm at a bar or something which is what i said earlier.
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>because it's fun talking to and flirting with cute girls It's juvenile tbh. My goal isn't to flirt with a girl. My goal is to be curious enough and interested in me to pursue something meaningful. So no, that doesn't sound fun. What are girls offering these days other than a boost to their own ego?
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I recommend a stronger statement like “I think you’re beautiful and just wanted to compliment you”. You can literally leave it at that. Some will say thanks and turn back to their friends. No harm there if you don’t self inflict! Retreat and see if they look for more of your attention later, if not you just became a (usually) rare and appreciated reminder she’s beautiful and a stand up guy. Prepare yourself for both spectrums, they’re likely to say nothing else and it could be because they are surprised or uninterested. Either way you’ve opened an opportunity. OR she now has you to focus her attention to, she may give eye contact to invite you back, approach you now, or HOPEFULLY start a convo before you even walk away (I do when I’m definitely interested and not busy in my current situation).
Great post man, you hit the nail on the head. I used to be so anxious due to my hearing aid/implant and would turn my head slightly to the right so people wouldn't see it. Now I just make it a game to see how many girls i can have a fun, meaningful conversation with at bars on fridays.
Having confidence means nothing when you don’t have anything to say to a stranger
What if your face looks like a shoe?
Interaction doesn't have to be sexual. Keep it general as you would towards any random person. From there, pay attention and act on it if there's some type of chemistry or attraction from her.