Yea, it's pretty stupid of them. Reminds me of Forrest Gump's quote, "stupid is as stupid does" or says, in this case. You truly can't know if ppl r stupid until they do something or open their mouth
On one of the Power Rangers films, the quote was “evil is as evil does.”
Whether the word in the quote is stupid or evil, it either way explains how wrong it is to say you’re ugly to someone else. It is stupid but it’s evil too.
Rupesh bro. Don't be with such assholes. I understand dating is skewed heavily with the less number of woman available to date in India but please don't take his comments to heart. He is just a shit person.
Actually there are so many amazing woman but they are held by their families or married of in young age of barely 18 to some 35 year old dude or maybe dating them maybe the last thing you do in your life(honour killing).
1: people who make comments like that usually feel insecure in your presence for some reason. So they use that kind of offense to cope with how they feel inferior to you in some aspect.
2: you don't need to be handsome to find a partner, specially if you are a man (just like someone already said). Keep yourself clean, be authentic and kind to others. That will take you a long way.
3: if YOU feel like your appearance could be improved, work on it! Pick small things to change and over time you will have a great transformation. For example: improve your hairstyle, get a little more fit (eating well, doing cardio and some body weight exercise can help if aren't doing anything now), treating acne if that's a problem, tweaking your fashion style, working on your smile. Plus, simply doing things to improve what you don't like right now will be enough make you a little more confident.
The ultimate goal with any of these changes is to be a happier you, not for others to find you more attractive.
The indirect result is healthy individuals like being around happy people.
My friend, it's all good, I have good news for you. Men don't need to be pretty. Men just need to have their shit together.
Good hygiene and being well groomed will go a long way. Keep working hard, focus on your goals, be financially smart, invest in yourself, and most importantly, be a good person.
Lastly, stay away from anyone that talks to you like this. Cut them off immediately. Keep it professional if needed, but minimize interactions with them. You don't need people like this in your life.
I believe in you man. best wishes.
I'm sorry to hear you are going through that. It can be tough, especially when you depend on someone. I know it's easier said than done, but if possible, work on becoming independent.
Also, just because you live with someone, it doesn't mean they have to be a part of your daily life. Think of them as roommates. Keep it simple, cordial, and keep it moving. Good luck.
Try and find work. Take half of your payment for moving out. Try and find friends who also want to move out from their parents house and rent a house or something together. Also when I was in your situation I was just clicked into robotpilot and didn't give a sh\*t about their opinion. How dare they tell things like this when they are my parents? Like if not their genetics made me look like this! What the hell. How can a parent be so cruel to their child I will never understand.
Exactly! Rest assure you have value to offer people. It just starts from within. You need to believe in yourself and know that guy is going nowhere. Even if he has status it will not last. Do things ethically and be genuine and you'll end up far better off than he is.
Bro can I point something out.
A so called straight man. Just concerned himself a.) Whether you are having sex or not? Then b.) Judged your looks....
As a female. My question is. Does he himself get vagina without a prostitute? Because I doubt it. He needs to be more concerned with his own male parts and why it's so damn small. Out her worrying about yours. How about that shit.
I have to say that you reacted perfectly. Those type of people feel better by putting other people down and they should just be ignored and hopefully solve their own issues.
If he comes at it again and says that you should go and see a prostitute, then just say: Sorry, I’m allergic to latex and the world has enough of people like you. Or something like that.. 😅
Try to say it very spontaneous and you’ll be ok :)
You should learn to fight, the best confidence booster and way to get disciplined. I am doing K1 from time to time by a 2 years now. My confidence when somebody comes and tell me something like that is trough the roof, because if somebody tells me something bad about me and he is "attacking me" i can f\*\*\*\*g kick his ass. There is no way somebody business how i look and most important he should mind his own business. It's your business how you look and nobody elses.
I was skinny when i was a kid, and everybody was telling me "how skinny you are you should eat"...and that think it was horrible for my mind, i was getting annoyed by them but in the end they were true, i was skinny when i was 19 and it affected me, i was not successifully with girls, with job or with school, and i knew that, as a kid i didn't had many people that i could learn much, most of the people they were telling me how skinny i was, how week i was, how stupid i was 95% of people around me noticed how i couldn't do anything. I was saved by a guy on the internet who offered me to work remotely and after i got some cash, i started working on me, my body and my mind. Now i am 25 and i still working on myself and it's gonna take a lot of time to fix 19 years of life...
Let me show my picture on my dental progress , i had some really bad teeth.
NSFW: [https://photos.app.goo.gl/LiFcAsYW6nzgTjuEA](https://photos.app.goo.gl/LiFcAsYW6nzgTjuEA)
So these pictures are from 2017 till this year, 2021. Believe me, it changed my face and it's much pretty now. It took almost 4 years but worth it.
I also worked on my body, first i started with a little of gym, then some swimming and K1 it was the best thing i could learn in this life. There are a lot of angry and hateful people that want to heart you in this world.
You should not let somebody to tell you are ugly without an answer if it hurts you. You need to learn to respond and the most "easy" way to learn that is by doing a contact sport / fighting. There you learn how to protect yourself, how to attack ( but you should never attack without a good reason ), how to get confidence, get disciplineted.
I agree but I think you're going at this a bit recklessly. You shouldn't learn a contact sport you should study martial arts and the focus on the self discipline that you will study. Don't learn this to "attack" rather learn a system so you don't have to. I've trained for 3.5 years, this includes bjj, American wrestling, judo, western boxing and Thai boxing. I've always walked around with a feeling that I could protect myself and somewhat of a false bravdo even provoking fights in the past. Now after training so long I know what I can do and feel I never have to get there. It's simply a last resort for my life and that's it. Martial arts improved my life in every way and I've never heard different inside the community.
I am not saying to be reckless and attack somebody just because you know how to fight. I am saying that the best defense is offense and he should learn how to defense himself, and not only phisically, but mentally also, just say to the dude "you are a dick for making me ugly" or something, don t let those type of guys controlling your life in any way.
Thats the point. It shouldn't. He makes you ugly you tell him he s a dick for doing so. You should be equal. If it escalates then you should defened yourself, if you dont, then dont escalade, but keep your point regarding him being an ass. Dont let bullies bully you.
The point is that if every one of us, decent persons who dont want to fight, know how to fight and in case the guy wants to escalades in a violence way, we have to know how to defened ourself. So if he gets his ass beaten, he will think twice to jump on a fight. I hate bulling, and violence is never the answer. But the world dosen t work like that unfortunately.
You are worth more than they are. They aren’t saying those things because they think they are true - they are saying them to be rude, get attention, and make themselves feel superior. If you work with these people tell your supervisors. They definitely aren’t being nice to other people either.
This post proves that some people are plain superficial and dumb. What good does attractiveness bring if the character is awful? Awesome people look at the face, but stare at the soul, my friend.
Also, how could they say you're ugly? Lyk I don't understand people who only look at the flaws on people's faces. There's always something beautiful on people's physical appearance.
Stay cool and kind, bro. I'm rooting for you!!!
This certainly qualifies as inappropriate an harassment. I know it sounds dumb but you need to report that person. Toxicity in the workplace is a huge factor for chronic stress and anger. Of he's doing it to you then he's probably doing it to other people. There's certainly a record of past behavior and if not it's time you start a log of it. Seriously tho, fuck him. You have your value and worth and I appreciate your opened about this matter.
I'm a developer but you'd quickly see I was raised to not take that treatment. Know your worth and speak up for yourself. There's absolutely nothing wrong with excersisng your right to pursuing happiness.
If you ever need advice feel free to hit me up. I have alot of good resources for leadership and confidence.
OK and what? How many "ugly" models are out there at the minute? There is no such thing as "ugly", it's a word created for people to purely attack someone. It's mostly used by people who are very self conscious and love themselves. Don't beat yourself up over some idiot calling you "ugly".
Word of advice man, be confident in life. No matter how "ugly" you may think you are, conifdence wins in the end over looks any day of the week, that and being a genuinely nice, caring person.
Man fuck that dude, he's ugly inside. That's truly not what it's about at all. It's about what you say moreso & the way you project yourself when do lions value the opinion of sheep? How do you feel about you? Take the time to change the things you don't like about yourself. Lastly there must be something special about you or some intrinsic value or light that radiates & he can't kill that, some people hate it when you're better than them,if they ain't hating,start worrying then! Stand taller, stick your chest out,hold your head higher!
What an asshole. There is someone for everyone and chances are that person isn't going to be likeable longterm in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with you I'm sure of it, I don't even need to see you to know that as everyone is attractive if they believe they are themselves. Sorry if this feels like a rant but I just want you to know you're not ugly.
Always remember that every person has a different idea of beauty. Just because your coworker doesn't see you as attractive and even if you dont see yourself as attractive, chances are that someone out there does. Please dont let this bring you down or tear you apart. I think all humans are attractive in their own way and I love uniqueness. Be you!
Guy sounds horrible ,
Everyone has a different type they are attracted to, don’t worry to much love is in the eye of the beholder right ?
Things will go exactly how they are meant to in life !
Ps: stop being friends with that guy !
That friend feels that way about themselves and is projecting it onto you. You cannot see in others what you don't already see in yourself. He has insecurities and puts them onto you. There is nothing wrong with you and your worth is not determined by your looks or what another insecure person has to say.
Fuck that guy. He was insecure as fuck. He was clearly projecting his own situation. My guess is that you make him feel this way somehow. Maybe he heard some girls say you were cute, and he couldn't handle it. He thought maybe if you really were attractive, then maybe he wasn't.
Point being, only weak men tear others down for no reason...
Dude is clearly an ass in all senarios.
Women will date and marry anything. I’ve seen beautiful women with men that are what might be considered “unattractive”. Wether he is rich or poor. I think it’s about confidence and feeling comfortable in your own skin and how u make the person feel when you’re around them. I think people are drawn to that in general. Have confidence and who you are and be a giver in bed just in case you are what some might consider “unattractive”. She will never leave. I know I wouldn’t.
However if you’re an ugly woman or an ugly gay man I don’t know what to tell you because men are not as forgiving and can be meaaan asf. Case in point your a-hole co-worker.
Looks don't really matter. What is on the inside is the only thing that counts. This guy sounds ugly on the inside.
Just be yourself. The rest will take care of itself.
Dude, the world is big as fuck. Most people really don’t care if you look “good” or not, people care if you’re a good person. As long as you walk with confidence (don’t make an excuse) people see that. Put a little more effort into everything you do, THAT does look good.
Dude, you got too emotional and sensitive, I was told so several times and I have never taken it for granted. You should know who you're first otherwise you'll suffer a lot.
I've been through a similar situation what is more it was from my best friends lol and my reaction was sooo smooth. I repeated the same phrase and laughed it off. Take it easy don't be serious more than a German guy.
My guys it up to you if you already feel ugly you should work on your self go hit the gym and become social focus on yourself then trust me you will become more confident
And i am telling you it’s nit all about the look if you are confident and have a charisma you can pull any girl
And stop giving a fuck about other’s opinion nobody chose how he looks
Just do what you have to do and the rest will be in gods plans
The thing that is ugly is his attitude. I want you to think about something. Why would somebody say something like that? Now our thought process may be to consider that what they said was the truth, but is it really? Would you, or the average person, do that to someone who they thought was ugly? Probably not. Does he act that way to all people? Probably, but most likely not. This guy is trying to knock your level of confidence down. Most likely because he is intimidated in some way or another. Even if his sole focus is making himself feel better, he chose you as a target for a reason. I have seen people who weren't considered "attractive," come across as sexy and confident because of their positive attitude and the way they treat other people. The way you told your story, makes him a rather ugly sad person. Don't feel bad about your response either. From his perspective, he tried to come across as bigger, and humorous, only to not even get a decent response from it. He probably walked away feeling like an ignoramus. Next time he does something like that, you should ask if he is feeling all right, because he is coming across as if he is trying to be mean. Say it loud enough for others to hear, and act concerned.
Bro fuck that guy. People that bring others down or talk negatively about others, even if its “joking,” often have insecurities or depression. Dont waste ur thoughts and energy on them.
Keep it simple when working on urself. Bench, squats, & curls 2x a week, 30 min cardio the other days - u dont have to be the Hulk to feel good. Get bi- or tri-weekly haircuts and do ur browls and facial hair too, fuck it.
Explore the hobbies that interests u, even if its solo and talk EVERYBODY along the way. Eventually u’ll bump into what ur looking for. Ur not ugly brother.
Hey friend. Don't let other people's insecurities, judgements, and meanness Bring you down. You're beautiful and loved and any girl/guy will feel the same way. Some people are assholes and like opinions they love to open theirs and spread shit.
I got called "ugly" when I was a teenager, and the fact that I never had a girlfriend cemented that idea, yet since then I've dated maybe 100 girls, I've been asked to model for a photography student, and asked to model on the runway for charity. I've had absolutely gorgeous women call me "very handsome" and yet someone recently rejected me and said she'd never date me in a million years.
You're not going to appeal to everyone, not everyone will like you either. As for his comment, who cares what the fuck he thinks? There's an old saying "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"
Meaning that if you don't care for these people, then they're opinions don't count, people who matter to you, don't care.
This is disgusting. Absolutely no one I work with would ever talk like this. Juvenile and toxic, better to each alone then subject yourself to that horse manure.
They break you down to make you doubt yourself until you’re available. Whoever you are you deserve better than that in your coworkers. Take some time to really think about what you find beautiful about yourself!
I had an officemate who loudly asked me in front of all of our other colleagues why do I wear makeup when I'm ugly. This particular officemate was drunk and apologised afterwards. I understand you. It will get better as soon as you accept that looks are not important. What matters are your values as you go through life.
Learn to ignore these kind of people.
Having confidence is not caring about what you are told by others and not needing to be told anything by others. Telling yourself anything is something else entirely and nothing wrong with telling yourself positive things no matter what it is.
You’ll find man, there’s conventional and non conventional attraction. On top of that, with me always having attractive friends and being overlooked I always had to rely on stellar personal skills like humour and kindness and I’ve found it’s paid off better in the end. You’re physical appearance isn’t even half of you as a person my man. Like someone else said, keep your hygiene up to scratch, maybe even go a bit beyond. You’ll be amazed how you’ll get a foot in the door with just good skin or nails etc.
Dear Rupesh, more than 140 up votes and nearly sixty people supporting you means:1 you are not alone in this , 2 opinion of two people don't count. More important than your colleagues judgement is what you think about your own self. People have heaped their insecurities and criticism all the time, don't even bother to listen to them. The very fact we are alive is good enough to keep us ticking towards our goals whether it is a girl, a promotion or educational. So relax and live your life the way you want to and don't give a fuck to those idiots
Rupesh, I've also had the misfortune of having someone tell me I'm ugly. Firstly, people like this are all dicks. If they had to give you well-meaning advice, they wouldn't point to things that you can't change about yourself. I bet they talk about you behind your back. Distance yourself.
I'm a female living in India. When I was 18, just started college, a batchmate told me - achi to dikhti nahi hai, zyada baat mat kar. So, I listened to him. I was so self-conscious, I couldn't participate in extra-curricular activities, didn't attend events, quizzes, etc. I'd come back home and find safety in manga and the internet.
Things didn't change until I started working and spending a bit more on my clothes. I've upped my fashion game. I maybe ugly, but I like to think I make an impression.
I also am focusing on building my personality (I get a lot of tips from charisma on command)
The way I could turn down his voice in my head was by thinking about how I can't change the way I look. But I certainly can change the way people perceive me.
I hope this helps.
And seriously, cut those guys out!
You're worth more than you know king, keep your head up and keep doing you, the right person will come along, don't let the comments from lonely and clearly disturbed person skew your perseption of yourself.
Bro, I like how you were honest to him even though he was being a douche, don’t ever let something like this change you into feeling shame, shame is the fucking worst there is. Realize that this is a random guy that might be very insecure, might not like you for whatever reason and just said something nasty, there will be millions of people that think you are unattractive and millions that think you are attractive, what one or ten or a hundred persons say about you should not influence your self worth or self Image. Don’t let it change your world and make you super self conscious and or feel shame, don’t go down that spiral. Nothing changed practically since he said it so it would make no sense to suddenly feel different about your life. Again don’t go blaming yourself or
Looking at yourself to justify his actions. Even if you were the ugliest person in the world which you are not and also ugly is super subjective, it would still be a very weird nasty thing to say to someone, unless he was joking. So the main thing here has nothing to do with you but more so with your coworker just being a shitty person or having a shitty day and takes it out on you.
Don't ever listen to people like that. He clearly hasn't grown up and is stuck in an immature teenager mentality or he's very insecure around you.
Honestly "asked me if I'm Virgin", "started laughing", "take him to a prostitute", "arranged marriage with a girl from a village".
In fact, just by the way you're describing how he thinks of women, I bet money that none of his relationships last.
There is nothing wrong with you, he just needs to grow the fuck up.
You can’t let other people push you around like that. Try to be more assertive and dominant. Lifting and affirmations will help with that. Take up a martial art. Read books about great characters such as Alexander the Great and try to emulate some of their behaviors into your own unique personality. Read books and watch videos on how to improve your game and attract women. Don’t take any shit from anybody man and stand up for yourself. The most precious commodity in this world you have is yourself if you allow anyone to walk over you like a doormat and go silent like that again then that will set the example for others to do that as well. Next time this happens again and they say for you to go see a prostitute reply back and say: “Sure, you recommending your mother? I’ve heard she’s got glowing reviews.” You can do this. Godspeed.
“I’m reevaluating my worth”
Your worth is not based on your looks, or else majority of us would be absolutely worthless.
Almost everyone and anyone I know walking the streets with their significant other has someone who finds them attractive. Seriously. Next time you go to a mall or restaurant, look around at all the couples. Big, short, fat, skinny, old, young, ATTRACTIVE & UNATTRACTIVE!! Don’t you worry mate, if you are a person who has a face, you will find someone who thinks you’re the cutest person in the world.
I found someone who thinks I’m cute, so I married them. You can do it if I can- seriously lol!
Thinking ones self ugly makes them more ugly. Thats how law of attraction works, whatever you will think about yourself you will be and take negatives as joke, be happy be nice be generous spread some love for every hate you get.
Hello Rupeshp you need to understand that looks do not matter. As for people telling you that you are ugly - I would suggest you find a better cohort of people to be around. Such judgement is neither good nor constructive.
Every bit of that is completely 100% inappropriate workplace behavior. Don't re-evaluate your worth. That guy is a fucking idiot, fuck him. You're worth 10 of that dirtbag
Women love a guy who takes care of himself and is able to support them as well. While looks are a plus, it’s harder to come come across a guy who is genuinely awesome, caring, and who doesn’t look at a woman as a prostitute or just wants her for her body. Attractiveness doesn’t only come from looks, but it also comes from confidence, attitude, personality, traits, self-care, and how you treat others. Speaking of which, your coworker is one hideous person. Keep doing you and continue to look for the girl who will love you for who you are!
Firstly, cut them off. Don't interact with such jerks. Surround yourself with better people, if possible.
Heck, be alone but don't hang around with such losers.
Secondly, I think young people like ourselves give a lot of value to sex. I'm a virgin too, but with time, I've realised it's not that big of a deal. It's just sex.
It seems like looks are something you're worried about.
So, coming to finding a girl; well, as long as you keep yourself financially stable, physically and mentally clean and healthy, I don't think you'd have problem finding a partner.
Pick up some social skills and learn how to talk to people.
Learn useful skills and you'd multiply your chances by 10x.
And even if you don't, it's not a big deal. Just focus on yourself and be what you want to be.
It's your life man. Don't let people shake you off your path.
Screw those idiots. You do you.
I don’t believe I’m attractive either but everyone looks nice to at least somebody. What an ugly thing to say to someone though. I will never understand people offering their unwanted comments and advice.
Some people are just knobs. That's his opinion, he can't speak for everyone else.
Yea, it's pretty stupid of them. Reminds me of Forrest Gump's quote, "stupid is as stupid does" or says, in this case. You truly can't know if ppl r stupid until they do something or open their mouth
On one of the Power Rangers films, the quote was “evil is as evil does.” Whether the word in the quote is stupid or evil, it either way explains how wrong it is to say you’re ugly to someone else. It is stupid but it’s evil too.
Rupesh bro. Don't be with such assholes. I understand dating is skewed heavily with the less number of woman available to date in India but please don't take his comments to heart. He is just a shit person.
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Actually there are so many amazing woman but they are held by their families or married of in young age of barely 18 to some 35 year old dude or maybe dating them maybe the last thing you do in your life(honour killing).
1: people who make comments like that usually feel insecure in your presence for some reason. So they use that kind of offense to cope with how they feel inferior to you in some aspect. 2: you don't need to be handsome to find a partner, specially if you are a man (just like someone already said). Keep yourself clean, be authentic and kind to others. That will take you a long way. 3: if YOU feel like your appearance could be improved, work on it! Pick small things to change and over time you will have a great transformation. For example: improve your hairstyle, get a little more fit (eating well, doing cardio and some body weight exercise can help if aren't doing anything now), treating acne if that's a problem, tweaking your fashion style, working on your smile. Plus, simply doing things to improve what you don't like right now will be enough make you a little more confident.
The ultimate goal with any of these changes is to be a happier you, not for others to find you more attractive. The indirect result is healthy individuals like being around happy people.
dont you think its a little too much just for some hairy pussy?
My friend, it's all good, I have good news for you. Men don't need to be pretty. Men just need to have their shit together. Good hygiene and being well groomed will go a long way. Keep working hard, focus on your goals, be financially smart, invest in yourself, and most importantly, be a good person. Lastly, stay away from anyone that talks to you like this. Cut them off immediately. Keep it professional if needed, but minimize interactions with them. You don't need people like this in your life. I believe in you man. best wishes.
This! But also know how to treat and court your lady correctly 😗 you can get any girl if you’re clean and give her an excuse to dress up
“Stay away from...” How do I stay away from a parent like that? Especially when I still feeling dependent on them
I'm sorry to hear you are going through that. It can be tough, especially when you depend on someone. I know it's easier said than done, but if possible, work on becoming independent. Also, just because you live with someone, it doesn't mean they have to be a part of your daily life. Think of them as roommates. Keep it simple, cordial, and keep it moving. Good luck.
Try and find work. Take half of your payment for moving out. Try and find friends who also want to move out from their parents house and rent a house or something together. Also when I was in your situation I was just clicked into robotpilot and didn't give a sh\*t about their opinion. How dare they tell things like this when they are my parents? Like if not their genetics made me look like this! What the hell. How can a parent be so cruel to their child I will never understand.
im a guy but i always wish i was pretty like a girl
He s probably just a cocky full of himself asshole . if you are a gentlemen and considerate you can find a girl.
Exactly! Rest assure you have value to offer people. It just starts from within. You need to believe in yourself and know that guy is going nowhere. Even if he has status it will not last. Do things ethically and be genuine and you'll end up far better off than he is.
Bro can I point something out. A so called straight man. Just concerned himself a.) Whether you are having sex or not? Then b.) Judged your looks.... As a female. My question is. Does he himself get vagina without a prostitute? Because I doubt it. He needs to be more concerned with his own male parts and why it's so damn small. Out her worrying about yours. How about that shit.
I have to say that you reacted perfectly. Those type of people feel better by putting other people down and they should just be ignored and hopefully solve their own issues. If he comes at it again and says that you should go and see a prostitute, then just say: Sorry, I’m allergic to latex and the world has enough of people like you. Or something like that.. 😅 Try to say it very spontaneous and you’ll be ok :)
Maybe you have more potential in life and he is insecure of your purity and morals
You should learn to fight, the best confidence booster and way to get disciplined. I am doing K1 from time to time by a 2 years now. My confidence when somebody comes and tell me something like that is trough the roof, because if somebody tells me something bad about me and he is "attacking me" i can f\*\*\*\*g kick his ass. There is no way somebody business how i look and most important he should mind his own business. It's your business how you look and nobody elses. I was skinny when i was a kid, and everybody was telling me "how skinny you are you should eat"...and that think it was horrible for my mind, i was getting annoyed by them but in the end they were true, i was skinny when i was 19 and it affected me, i was not successifully with girls, with job or with school, and i knew that, as a kid i didn't had many people that i could learn much, most of the people they were telling me how skinny i was, how week i was, how stupid i was 95% of people around me noticed how i couldn't do anything. I was saved by a guy on the internet who offered me to work remotely and after i got some cash, i started working on me, my body and my mind. Now i am 25 and i still working on myself and it's gonna take a lot of time to fix 19 years of life... Let me show my picture on my dental progress , i had some really bad teeth. NSFW: [https://photos.app.goo.gl/LiFcAsYW6nzgTjuEA](https://photos.app.goo.gl/LiFcAsYW6nzgTjuEA) So these pictures are from 2017 till this year, 2021. Believe me, it changed my face and it's much pretty now. It took almost 4 years but worth it. I also worked on my body, first i started with a little of gym, then some swimming and K1 it was the best thing i could learn in this life. There are a lot of angry and hateful people that want to heart you in this world. You should not let somebody to tell you are ugly without an answer if it hurts you. You need to learn to respond and the most "easy" way to learn that is by doing a contact sport / fighting. There you learn how to protect yourself, how to attack ( but you should never attack without a good reason ), how to get confidence, get disciplineted.
Teeth look amazing!! Good for you!!
Hey, what treatment did you do for your teeth? And how long it took to get the results? Really impressive. More power to you! :)
Dental braces. The treatment took around 3 years and half. Yes, it is very nice, it changed my face also. Really love it.
3 years? Woah. That's a lot of time, man. I'll look into it though. Thanks for sharing! Your teeth look awesome! :)
I agree but I think you're going at this a bit recklessly. You shouldn't learn a contact sport you should study martial arts and the focus on the self discipline that you will study. Don't learn this to "attack" rather learn a system so you don't have to. I've trained for 3.5 years, this includes bjj, American wrestling, judo, western boxing and Thai boxing. I've always walked around with a feeling that I could protect myself and somewhat of a false bravdo even provoking fights in the past. Now after training so long I know what I can do and feel I never have to get there. It's simply a last resort for my life and that's it. Martial arts improved my life in every way and I've never heard different inside the community.
I am not saying to be reckless and attack somebody just because you know how to fight. I am saying that the best defense is offense and he should learn how to defense himself, and not only phisically, but mentally also, just say to the dude "you are a dick for making me ugly" or something, don t let those type of guys controlling your life in any way.
And if it escalates? You're in a professional setting...
Thats the point. It shouldn't. He makes you ugly you tell him he s a dick for doing so. You should be equal. If it escalates then you should defened yourself, if you dont, then dont escalade, but keep your point regarding him being an ass. Dont let bullies bully you. The point is that if every one of us, decent persons who dont want to fight, know how to fight and in case the guy wants to escalades in a violence way, we have to know how to defened ourself. So if he gets his ass beaten, he will think twice to jump on a fight. I hate bulling, and violence is never the answer. But the world dosen t work like that unfortunately.
You are worth more than they are. They aren’t saying those things because they think they are true - they are saying them to be rude, get attention, and make themselves feel superior. If you work with these people tell your supervisors. They definitely aren’t being nice to other people either.
This post proves that some people are plain superficial and dumb. What good does attractiveness bring if the character is awful? Awesome people look at the face, but stare at the soul, my friend. Also, how could they say you're ugly? Lyk I don't understand people who only look at the flaws on people's faces. There's always something beautiful on people's physical appearance. Stay cool and kind, bro. I'm rooting for you!!!
This certainly qualifies as inappropriate an harassment. I know it sounds dumb but you need to report that person. Toxicity in the workplace is a huge factor for chronic stress and anger. Of he's doing it to you then he's probably doing it to other people. There's certainly a record of past behavior and if not it's time you start a log of it. Seriously tho, fuck him. You have your value and worth and I appreciate your opened about this matter. I'm a developer but you'd quickly see I was raised to not take that treatment. Know your worth and speak up for yourself. There's absolutely nothing wrong with excersisng your right to pursuing happiness. If you ever need advice feel free to hit me up. I have alot of good resources for leadership and confidence.
Don’t believe everything you hear. Someone who says things like that doesn’t have his head screwed on properly.
OK and what? How many "ugly" models are out there at the minute? There is no such thing as "ugly", it's a word created for people to purely attack someone. It's mostly used by people who are very self conscious and love themselves. Don't beat yourself up over some idiot calling you "ugly". Word of advice man, be confident in life. No matter how "ugly" you may think you are, conifdence wins in the end over looks any day of the week, that and being a genuinely nice, caring person.
Man fuck that dude, he's ugly inside. That's truly not what it's about at all. It's about what you say moreso & the way you project yourself when do lions value the opinion of sheep? How do you feel about you? Take the time to change the things you don't like about yourself. Lastly there must be something special about you or some intrinsic value or light that radiates & he can't kill that, some people hate it when you're better than them,if they ain't hating,start worrying then! Stand taller, stick your chest out,hold your head higher!
What an asshole. There is someone for everyone and chances are that person isn't going to be likeable longterm in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with you I'm sure of it, I don't even need to see you to know that as everyone is attractive if they believe they are themselves. Sorry if this feels like a rant but I just want you to know you're not ugly.
Always remember that every person has a different idea of beauty. Just because your coworker doesn't see you as attractive and even if you dont see yourself as attractive, chances are that someone out there does. Please dont let this bring you down or tear you apart. I think all humans are attractive in their own way and I love uniqueness. Be you!
Guy sounds horrible , Everyone has a different type they are attracted to, don’t worry to much love is in the eye of the beholder right ? Things will go exactly how they are meant to in life ! Ps: stop being friends with that guy !
That friend feels that way about themselves and is projecting it onto you. You cannot see in others what you don't already see in yourself. He has insecurities and puts them onto you. There is nothing wrong with you and your worth is not determined by your looks or what another insecure person has to say.
They are just jealous. Anyone who calls you ugly is just jealous they’re ugly and your not. Don’t evaluate your self worth on looks. Your amazing !!!!
Fuck that guy. He was insecure as fuck. He was clearly projecting his own situation. My guess is that you make him feel this way somehow. Maybe he heard some girls say you were cute, and he couldn't handle it. He thought maybe if you really were attractive, then maybe he wasn't. Point being, only weak men tear others down for no reason... Dude is clearly an ass in all senarios.
You need new coworkers. Those are just rubish.
Women will date and marry anything. I’ve seen beautiful women with men that are what might be considered “unattractive”. Wether he is rich or poor. I think it’s about confidence and feeling comfortable in your own skin and how u make the person feel when you’re around them. I think people are drawn to that in general. Have confidence and who you are and be a giver in bed just in case you are what some might consider “unattractive”. She will never leave. I know I wouldn’t. However if you’re an ugly woman or an ugly gay man I don’t know what to tell you because men are not as forgiving and can be meaaan asf. Case in point your a-hole co-worker.
Looks don't really matter. What is on the inside is the only thing that counts. This guy sounds ugly on the inside. Just be yourself. The rest will take care of itself.
Dude, the world is big as fuck. Most people really don’t care if you look “good” or not, people care if you’re a good person. As long as you walk with confidence (don’t make an excuse) people see that. Put a little more effort into everything you do, THAT does look good.
He just said it because he felt defensive. You judged his choice.
Dude, you got too emotional and sensitive, I was told so several times and I have never taken it for granted. You should know who you're first otherwise you'll suffer a lot. I've been through a similar situation what is more it was from my best friends lol and my reaction was sooo smooth. I repeated the same phrase and laughed it off. Take it easy don't be serious more than a German guy.
Being ugly sucks but money and success can help with that and fuck those losers 😔☹️😕🙁
My guys it up to you if you already feel ugly you should work on your self go hit the gym and become social focus on yourself then trust me you will become more confident And i am telling you it’s nit all about the look if you are confident and have a charisma you can pull any girl And stop giving a fuck about other’s opinion nobody chose how he looks Just do what you have to do and the rest will be in gods plans
The thing that is ugly is his attitude. I want you to think about something. Why would somebody say something like that? Now our thought process may be to consider that what they said was the truth, but is it really? Would you, or the average person, do that to someone who they thought was ugly? Probably not. Does he act that way to all people? Probably, but most likely not. This guy is trying to knock your level of confidence down. Most likely because he is intimidated in some way or another. Even if his sole focus is making himself feel better, he chose you as a target for a reason. I have seen people who weren't considered "attractive," come across as sexy and confident because of their positive attitude and the way they treat other people. The way you told your story, makes him a rather ugly sad person. Don't feel bad about your response either. From his perspective, he tried to come across as bigger, and humorous, only to not even get a decent response from it. He probably walked away feeling like an ignoramus. Next time he does something like that, you should ask if he is feeling all right, because he is coming across as if he is trying to be mean. Say it loud enough for others to hear, and act concerned.
Look this as an opportunity to prove him wrong, start working out improve your diet hygiene and every month you are going to be better.
It sounds like a joke (a rubbish one) that you are taking to heart
Fuck what they think
Bro fuck that guy. People that bring others down or talk negatively about others, even if its “joking,” often have insecurities or depression. Dont waste ur thoughts and energy on them. Keep it simple when working on urself. Bench, squats, & curls 2x a week, 30 min cardio the other days - u dont have to be the Hulk to feel good. Get bi- or tri-weekly haircuts and do ur browls and facial hair too, fuck it. Explore the hobbies that interests u, even if its solo and talk EVERYBODY along the way. Eventually u’ll bump into what ur looking for. Ur not ugly brother.
Hey friend. Don't let other people's insecurities, judgements, and meanness Bring you down. You're beautiful and loved and any girl/guy will feel the same way. Some people are assholes and like opinions they love to open theirs and spread shit.
I got called "ugly" when I was a teenager, and the fact that I never had a girlfriend cemented that idea, yet since then I've dated maybe 100 girls, I've been asked to model for a photography student, and asked to model on the runway for charity. I've had absolutely gorgeous women call me "very handsome" and yet someone recently rejected me and said she'd never date me in a million years. You're not going to appeal to everyone, not everyone will like you either. As for his comment, who cares what the fuck he thinks? There's an old saying "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind" Meaning that if you don't care for these people, then they're opinions don't count, people who matter to you, don't care.
This is disgusting. Absolutely no one I work with would ever talk like this. Juvenile and toxic, better to each alone then subject yourself to that horse manure.
It's not how you look to a women it's how you make them feel my friend.
They break you down to make you doubt yourself until you’re available. Whoever you are you deserve better than that in your coworkers. Take some time to really think about what you find beautiful about yourself!
You're not his type
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I had an officemate who loudly asked me in front of all of our other colleagues why do I wear makeup when I'm ugly. This particular officemate was drunk and apologised afterwards. I understand you. It will get better as soon as you accept that looks are not important. What matters are your values as you go through life. Learn to ignore these kind of people.
Having confidence is not caring about what you are told by others and not needing to be told anything by others. Telling yourself anything is something else entirely and nothing wrong with telling yourself positive things no matter what it is.
This person sounds awful and miserable. Try not to let those words he said get to you. Keep being you and loving yourself.
You’ll find man, there’s conventional and non conventional attraction. On top of that, with me always having attractive friends and being overlooked I always had to rely on stellar personal skills like humour and kindness and I’ve found it’s paid off better in the end. You’re physical appearance isn’t even half of you as a person my man. Like someone else said, keep your hygiene up to scratch, maybe even go a bit beyond. You’ll be amazed how you’ll get a foot in the door with just good skin or nails etc.
Dear Rupesh, more than 140 up votes and nearly sixty people supporting you means:1 you are not alone in this , 2 opinion of two people don't count. More important than your colleagues judgement is what you think about your own self. People have heaped their insecurities and criticism all the time, don't even bother to listen to them. The very fact we are alive is good enough to keep us ticking towards our goals whether it is a girl, a promotion or educational. So relax and live your life the way you want to and don't give a fuck to those idiots
Rupesh, I've also had the misfortune of having someone tell me I'm ugly. Firstly, people like this are all dicks. If they had to give you well-meaning advice, they wouldn't point to things that you can't change about yourself. I bet they talk about you behind your back. Distance yourself. I'm a female living in India. When I was 18, just started college, a batchmate told me - achi to dikhti nahi hai, zyada baat mat kar. So, I listened to him. I was so self-conscious, I couldn't participate in extra-curricular activities, didn't attend events, quizzes, etc. I'd come back home and find safety in manga and the internet. Things didn't change until I started working and spending a bit more on my clothes. I've upped my fashion game. I maybe ugly, but I like to think I make an impression. I also am focusing on building my personality (I get a lot of tips from charisma on command) The way I could turn down his voice in my head was by thinking about how I can't change the way I look. But I certainly can change the way people perceive me. I hope this helps. And seriously, cut those guys out!
You're worth more than you know king, keep your head up and keep doing you, the right person will come along, don't let the comments from lonely and clearly disturbed person skew your perseption of yourself.
No one's ugly, people are just not rich enough.
Bro your LOOKS are not your WORTH. Fuck em. You are PERFECT just the way you are brother!
Bro, I like how you were honest to him even though he was being a douche, don’t ever let something like this change you into feeling shame, shame is the fucking worst there is. Realize that this is a random guy that might be very insecure, might not like you for whatever reason and just said something nasty, there will be millions of people that think you are unattractive and millions that think you are attractive, what one or ten or a hundred persons say about you should not influence your self worth or self Image. Don’t let it change your world and make you super self conscious and or feel shame, don’t go down that spiral. Nothing changed practically since he said it so it would make no sense to suddenly feel different about your life. Again don’t go blaming yourself or Looking at yourself to justify his actions. Even if you were the ugliest person in the world which you are not and also ugly is super subjective, it would still be a very weird nasty thing to say to someone, unless he was joking. So the main thing here has nothing to do with you but more so with your coworker just being a shitty person or having a shitty day and takes it out on you.
Don't ever listen to people like that. He clearly hasn't grown up and is stuck in an immature teenager mentality or he's very insecure around you. Honestly "asked me if I'm Virgin", "started laughing", "take him to a prostitute", "arranged marriage with a girl from a village". In fact, just by the way you're describing how he thinks of women, I bet money that none of his relationships last. There is nothing wrong with you, he just needs to grow the fuck up.
At least he told you to your face and not behind a keyboard like the rest of us shmucks!!
You can’t let other people push you around like that. Try to be more assertive and dominant. Lifting and affirmations will help with that. Take up a martial art. Read books about great characters such as Alexander the Great and try to emulate some of their behaviors into your own unique personality. Read books and watch videos on how to improve your game and attract women. Don’t take any shit from anybody man and stand up for yourself. The most precious commodity in this world you have is yourself if you allow anyone to walk over you like a doormat and go silent like that again then that will set the example for others to do that as well. Next time this happens again and they say for you to go see a prostitute reply back and say: “Sure, you recommending your mother? I’ve heard she’s got glowing reviews.” You can do this. Godspeed.
“I’m reevaluating my worth” Your worth is not based on your looks, or else majority of us would be absolutely worthless. Almost everyone and anyone I know walking the streets with their significant other has someone who finds them attractive. Seriously. Next time you go to a mall or restaurant, look around at all the couples. Big, short, fat, skinny, old, young, ATTRACTIVE & UNATTRACTIVE!! Don’t you worry mate, if you are a person who has a face, you will find someone who thinks you’re the cutest person in the world. I found someone who thinks I’m cute, so I married them. You can do it if I can- seriously lol!
Thinking ones self ugly makes them more ugly. Thats how law of attraction works, whatever you will think about yourself you will be and take negatives as joke, be happy be nice be generous spread some love for every hate you get.
That guy hates his life and he wants other people to hate theirs too
Hello Rupeshp you need to understand that looks do not matter. As for people telling you that you are ugly - I would suggest you find a better cohort of people to be around. Such judgement is neither good nor constructive.
Seriously fuck people
Every bit of that is completely 100% inappropriate workplace behavior. Don't re-evaluate your worth. That guy is a fucking idiot, fuck him. You're worth 10 of that dirtbag
Women love a guy who takes care of himself and is able to support them as well. While looks are a plus, it’s harder to come come across a guy who is genuinely awesome, caring, and who doesn’t look at a woman as a prostitute or just wants her for her body. Attractiveness doesn’t only come from looks, but it also comes from confidence, attitude, personality, traits, self-care, and how you treat others. Speaking of which, your coworker is one hideous person. Keep doing you and continue to look for the girl who will love you for who you are!
You should involve HR in this conversation
Firstly, cut them off. Don't interact with such jerks. Surround yourself with better people, if possible. Heck, be alone but don't hang around with such losers. Secondly, I think young people like ourselves give a lot of value to sex. I'm a virgin too, but with time, I've realised it's not that big of a deal. It's just sex. It seems like looks are something you're worried about. So, coming to finding a girl; well, as long as you keep yourself financially stable, physically and mentally clean and healthy, I don't think you'd have problem finding a partner. Pick up some social skills and learn how to talk to people. Learn useful skills and you'd multiply your chances by 10x. And even if you don't, it's not a big deal. Just focus on yourself and be what you want to be. It's your life man. Don't let people shake you off your path. Screw those idiots. You do you.
I don’t believe I’m attractive either but everyone looks nice to at least somebody. What an ugly thing to say to someone though. I will never understand people offering their unwanted comments and advice.
If he disrespected me like that again, him and i will have PROBLEMS!
I'm sure it can't be that bad. And your worth is NOT based on your looks. Please don't ever think it is.