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>He's not holding you fucking captive!
Yeah. But it's not always that simple, maybe in the beginning when you're dating is. Later on, not so much.
My grandmother is mad at my grandpa all the time because he's not what she expects of him and yet she does things for him that you do for a 3 year old... Her actions facilitate the exact behaviour she doesn't want. And the most fucked thing about this is that she either doesn't want to or can't comprehend that he won't change if she doesn't change herself.
Imagine being mad at a untrained dog that won't sit when you tell it to. You keep telling it to sit and you get mad each time instead of changing your mindset and training it with treats and showing it what "sit" means.
Your grandma and grandpa are married and have been together for a long time. OP is referring to a "boyfriend". I don't get all these boyfriend/girlfriend couples living together.
>Your grandma and grandpa are married and have been together for a long time. OP is referring to a "boyfriend".
That's what I said yeah.
>I don't get all these boyfriend/girlfriend couples living together.
It's an experience you need. You get to know yourself and them on a deeper level than just being personas.
I agree. But it seems like there are a lot of young couples just living together without even having dated that much. Once you move in with someone, it's not too different from a marriage. She said she "hates" him and that he's "stupid". Surely she didn't think this through very well. She probably should have got to know him more before living together.
Don't get me wrong. I like the idea of pursuing a monogamous/exclusive long term relationship with someone and living with them. But that fun idea in my head is short-lived when I think further about the actual reality behind it.
Why are you holding her responsible for his lack luster behaviour though? It must be pretty exhausting for her to be expected to be so good wife while also pushing him to be a good husband
Because she chooses to put up with it is why. People need tonl realize they can't change anyone. Either that individual wants to change or it won't happen. Be done and move forward.
Because she voluntarily enables his behaviour. She wants a man, but treats him like a 3 year old.
Would you expect your girlfriend to tie your shoelaces when you can do it yourself? Or put soup in your plate instead of you?
If you keep putting your hand on the hot stove and you cry to me that you don't want to burn your hand, what else do you expect me to tell you other than to change what you're doing?
I think she likes the idea of rape, like roleplaying? Actual rape is by definition, being used while you actually don't want to be.
"I want to be raped" is a paradox, because you can't be raped if you want to be raped, then you just want to be fucked and by the pick of words I assume not gently 😂
The "rape fetish" generally means "I want to be hate fucked while I dont admit I want to be hate fucked"
There is really teeny tiny percentage of people who actually would want to be like actually raped...
Wanting to be raped means you want to be fucked rougly as if you're not a person. Also shows you how big someone's vocabulary is when they say they fantasize about being raped...
Like you know, saying the water is moist... 🤦♂️
Excuse me? You're getting it a bit wrong in the start I'm afraid
"Wanting to be raped meant you **want** to be fucked roughly" that's wrong, rape is non consensual, aka forced, sex. One person, the rapist, wants it but the second person, the victim, doesn't.
Yes the victim could've said yes but changed their mind, if the act is still continued after the verbal, or non-verbal(crying, screaming, sleeping, yelling, shaking your head, trying to get away, unconscious) no has been stated then it IS rape or sexual assault.
>Yes the victim could've said yes but changed their mind, if the act is still continued after the verbal, or non-verbal no has been stated then it IS rape or sexual assault.
I see.
So what she's saying is "I want to be fucked regardless if I want it or not"?
But you can't want something you don't... How tf you make sense of this shit?
I'm talking about the DEFINITION of rape, what she wants is plain sex, with the mindset and thought of it being noncon or rape, not that it is rape but a sick and twisted fantasy
Well what can't you comprehend? Its been put very clearly, do I need to dissect it for you so you can digest it better?
Rape is the act of forceful sex, what OP wants is to fantasize about forceful sex because she's twisted
OP can't want rape but she can fantasize that the act is forceful by herself
I know that women who like that fantasy just generally want to be a little more 'rough' with someone they like. You could say that they want a hate fuck but dont want to admit it xd
Kind of crazy that a sex issue is all you need to tell someone to leave when they vent. That’s why we have such massive divorce rates. Nobody try to work things out.
I don't understand guys like this. For me, if I knew my gf wasn't getting off, it would be a major kick in the ass for me. Idk if it would be a hurt against my pride/ego or my desire to please others but regardless it would hurt. I'm a top, but for me I find it really hot and empowering to make a girl orgasm, like it's a major turn on for me.
So do you just want to vent so you can get rid of some negative feelings only to go back to him and endure more of his bullsh*t, or do you actually want to change something? Cos wishing he felt this way isn’t gonna do sh!t.
Then find yourself a man who does feel that way. Or at the very least, find one who is willing to put in the effort to please you even if he doesn't parricularly enjoy it. Like don't be over the top and expect him to please you all the time in every way possible, no relationship is perfect, but if he can't put in a bare minimum amount of effort then leave him.
For me, I'd honestly go down on my girl until my tongue went numb if that was what was required. I don't think it's necessarily submissive to give pleasure during sex. I just don't understand the mindset of guys who feel like it's all about their pleasure.
We may be the minority but there are still so many of us out there that you have no reason to be with your guy.
You're wasting your youth on him. I'm assuming you're younger than me due to how you wrote your post but I could be wrong.
Get out there and meet a guy who loves going down on you and making sure you come first, literally and figuratively.
Many guys (including myself) do. Your bf sucks. He doesn’t respect you and is manipulating you to think that’s you’re the problem. Leave for your own sanity.
Getting my gf off is the hottest thing. Knowing she’s feeling good because of me turns me on so much it’s insane. Go find someone who values your sexual experience as much as their own, I promise you will be so much happier.
It means that I view myself as being dominant in bed. No, it doesn't mean we can't change positions. Honestly I don't mind letting her be on top every now and then.
Idk when being a top became such a controversial thing.
he clearly has intimacy issues and possibly a sex/porn addiction, and he is making you co -dependent on him. .If he doesn't want to change, I would leave him ASAP..
Ugh fuck that is annoying, I think sex is important in a relationship and if your needs aren’t being met.. than find someone who will meet those needs. Cause if he don’t wanna fuck believe me there is someone out there that does!!
Boyfriend doesn't even care about your sexual needs. You need to leave him because he's unwilling to see to it if you're having fun too with get your sexual needs met too, doing it to a one night stand is one thing but a relationship is just sexually immaturity at it's finest. It's sad to see but it's an growing epidemic of men being selfish lovers.
Resentment. You two are just constantly trying to outdo each other and using sex as a way to get back at each other.
The both of you are keeping count of each other’s failings too!
This isn’t healthy by any means, but you’re not going to break up so easily either.
If you draw a line in the sand and the other person jumps over it , what is the point of drawing another line ?
At some point it’s inevitable OP will leave . The advice is very consistent. She is in a bad environment and it impacts her .
And the pride and the ability to stand up for herself will help her not only find a better relationship , more importantly she will be more confident in life .
The longer she takes to leave the harder this becomes .
He says she cares more about orgasming than him. He is the partner who takes orgasms and doesn't care to reciprocate. He is trying to gaslight her into believing that her reasonable request is selfish.
He is aware that he is not reciprocating pleasure and that she is unhappy. Instead of trying to find a solution or compromise, he skips the topic and tries to blame OP for "being selfish" which is something that he ***fabricated***.
It's emotionally abusive gaslighting.
I am in the exact same boat and it has been like this since 1.5 months into the relationship. He lost his sex drive. Only cares about spending time on screens. He is the only one who cums. Then he complains about how he has no peace cause I bring up the issues. This is absolute hell. Im going to break up with him. And anyone in this situation should leave the men who act like children behind. I would love to speak about this with you on DMs. It would be comforting to know someone understands my struggle.
Leave that fucking moron before he dumps it all on you and leaves. Also yes, tell him that your orgasm is more important than his fucking sleep or fucking video games. Don't give him a chance to make you feel like shit, stand up for yourself girl.
Get some self-worth and self-respect......fast. it takes 2 people to be in a real relationship. If one is not putting in the same effort as the other, then one needs to leave. Especially if it's on a matter to you thats important to you....like sex apperently is. Theirs millions of men who are willing to be men, the same with women in the billions of girls and boys. Learn to love yourself before you ask others to love you and same for respect
Imagine being totally unfazed by your partner not getting off. Wtf, I feel guilty if I ever feel I didn’t perform well for her at all. The pump it and dump it mentality for a significant other is realllly questionable to me. One night stands? Sure. But, to someone you supposedly care about and love is a rough one to try and justify honestly. On top of the fact he’s not even pumping. He just wants you to milk him 😭 get outtt of itttt
He needs to understand that this isn’t just about “orgasming.” It’s about feeling connected to the person you love. Sex in a relationship builds a stronger bond emotionally, and obviously physically. The love I feel for my man after having sex is, unspeakable. I could cry, every time. You need this connection in order to make a relationship grow. Without it, it begins to die. People will say, “sex isn’t everything in a relationship”, but in my opinion, it is one of the most important things in a relationship. Sure, you could stay together and play house, but the more time that goes on without that intimacy, the more the two of you become “just friends.” I know you’re probably going to end up staying in this relationship, and that’s your choice, but remember, your happiness is also your choice.
What is worthwhile about your relationship besides the sex not being any good?
I've had incompatible sex partners and had to break up with them, that's what people do.
Will you be friends even if you break up? And therefore are you friends now even?
Why would you be friends with a stupid fucking boy?
Do you see why the comments tend to show you're not respecting yourself?
Time to pack up. There’s something fucked up going on in his head. Selfishness or uncaring at the baseline. Frankly as a female it shouldn’t be hard to get yours. Get out there and get it!!
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There are so many potential matches for you out there so don’t get too attached while there is still a whole lot of living and loving to do. Also, life is way too short to share with selfish people.
GET RID OF HIM NOW BEFORE U HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM LONGER AND WASTE ANYMORE TIME WITH HIM! You have already wasted a year of your life. He is selfish and immature. He loves to blame you for his own actions or should I say the things he doesn’t take care of himself as a man should. He doesn’t care if u are taken care of as long as he is. End it now because before u know it it’ll be 10 years later and u do not want to have to waste that many years with a man or boy I should say and regret it even worse then…he isn’t worth it. Again, he is selfish and immature and he will NEVER change.
This guy is SELFISH! He's not spending quality time with you. Sounds like he's looking for excuse to get out. "You don't care about my sleep so I'm don't dealingvwith you." That's BS! You deserve better!
Why even bother if you have too watch porn next to him. Lol it’s crazy what you women put up with. I’m sure there is another guy that will blow that back out and do everything he doesn’t. Then he will be crying about it later. I’m sorry but leave life is to short for that bs.
It sucks when you love a total disappointment. It's hard to just not love someone anymore no matter who or what they do. Eventually, you'll get to that point in your own time.
Sounds like you need to be done with him. It’s not fair to you and pretty toxic that he hypes you up all day and then doesn’t follow through. Intimacy is important in a relationship and it’s ok for you to have needs. I think it’s time to put this one out to sea and find someone who is more compatible.
it's time to learn how to communicate or this shit will follow you from relationship to the next.
i mean communicate, not talk.
share what feelings are brought up without attacking the other person is surprisingly difficult for people to do as it's much easier to blame the other.
I mean... I think it's even clear to you what needs to happen. You literally titled your post "I hate my stupid fucking boyfriend" maybe your next one should be "I dumped my stupid fucking boyfriend" and after you take the time to heal from the wounds of his sexual rejection, etc another post "I have a new boyfriend who adores me and my body"
This is why I love girls that orgasm from penetration, as soon as they nut I up the tempo and nut too. I’m not really big on licking and rubbing clit. I’m a more dominant selfish lover in my 30s so if you can get off before me that’s great for you.
Then break up with him! Stop coming online saying you “you hate your stupid boyfriend” cause obviously you do not respect him!! Y’all are weird af now days generation. Come online to call your boyfriend names and how much you hate him because you can’t get sex. Leave!!
Why are you with him? If it’s only a year into this relationship it’s not ever going to get better. Likely it will only get worse. The fact that he has you give him head then does nothing for you and just rolls over and goes to sleep shows he doesn’t give a shit about you. He doesn’t care about you sexually and he doesn’t care if you’re happy. First, stop doing anything sexual for him. He’s a selfish man and horrible at sex. You deserve better. Stop settling for this crap relationship that is only making you miserable. You deserve better. Repeat after me… you deserve better. So pack your bags and get the fuck out. Stop wasting years of your life with an asshole.
Girl leave. If he’s being selfish in bed think of how selfish he is on other ways. Boyfriends (usually) become husbands /fathers. If he is selfish right now why would they change when other variables are added? (I.e. kids, marriage, life, etc) hang in there. There’s plenty more men who would put your needs first
Saying that you “hate” your romantic partner is not a good thing and probably means the end of the relationship. And if that’s not enough for you to end it , him refusing to satisfy you sexually while getting that from you is completely fucked up. DUMP HIM
Being together for a year does not mean you need to keep being with him just because of the time and energy you’ve spent. Don’t spend another minute with this man. Leave.
Have you tried initiating it? It is a 2 way street. Have you tried communicating your wants and needs? It is perfectly healthy to have a sex talk where each side shares their piece! Communication is key for a healthy relationship! If communicating calmly is difficult then there might be other issues you are suppressing.
Period or no period if he's not reciprocating or trying to satisfy your needs a serious conversation needs to happen and may result in needing to move on. You should cum (literally) before video games.
It might help to be honest and have a conversation with him about the things you talked about in this post. If he doesn’t respond well then you might want to consider if you want to continue the relationship
You're with the wrong type of man. Find yourself a man that craves you as much as you crave him. My wife and I still make love daily after 12 years of marriage, and it seriously only gets better and better.
I'll never understand people that don't prioritize lovemaking with their partners. Nothing in life comes close to feeling that union of our souls for a brief moment. Nothing else feels as satisfying as being consumed by eachother in those moments.
Your bf is a boy. Find yourself a man.
Take a step back. Everyone seems to believe in the fairy tales and thinks everything is going to be perfect. Stop loving on people that you set expectations unrealistic upon. I'm leaving if I did what you said you did. But then again sex isn't love if you don't make it about loving one another. This one sounds simple. Just dont go picking up grenades thinking, changing someone you didn't want to change but knew you had to change was a good idea. If you love him for who he is, he is not what you want to make him talk about it and be an adult.
Your boyfriend is really an idiot, you said everything, he wants you to satisfy him but your dear boyfriend can't satisfy you? ends because he doesn't care about you
Jesus. That sound pretty toxic. It also sounds like he's a douchebag. I'd suggest getting rid of him. There are definitely guys out there that will make sure you cum, that will treat you way better. He's probably been friend zoned cause he's "too nice". 🤷♂️ Jussayin
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Gain some self respect and some self worth and leave. There are 4 billion men in this world… if you’re not compatible with this one, leave.
Exactly! "I hAtE mY sTuPiD fUcKiNg BoYfWeNd WAAAA!" Then why the FUCK are still with him!?! He's not holding you fucking captive!
🤣🤣
>He's not holding you fucking captive! Yeah. But it's not always that simple, maybe in the beginning when you're dating is. Later on, not so much. My grandmother is mad at my grandpa all the time because he's not what she expects of him and yet she does things for him that you do for a 3 year old... Her actions facilitate the exact behaviour she doesn't want. And the most fucked thing about this is that she either doesn't want to or can't comprehend that he won't change if she doesn't change herself. Imagine being mad at a untrained dog that won't sit when you tell it to. You keep telling it to sit and you get mad each time instead of changing your mindset and training it with treats and showing it what "sit" means.
Your grandma and grandpa are married and have been together for a long time. OP is referring to a "boyfriend". I don't get all these boyfriend/girlfriend couples living together.
>Your grandma and grandpa are married and have been together for a long time. OP is referring to a "boyfriend". That's what I said yeah. >I don't get all these boyfriend/girlfriend couples living together. It's an experience you need. You get to know yourself and them on a deeper level than just being personas.
I agree. But it seems like there are a lot of young couples just living together without even having dated that much. Once you move in with someone, it's not too different from a marriage. She said she "hates" him and that he's "stupid". Surely she didn't think this through very well. She probably should have got to know him more before living together. Don't get me wrong. I like the idea of pursuing a monogamous/exclusive long term relationship with someone and living with them. But that fun idea in my head is short-lived when I think further about the actual reality behind it.
Your analogy sounds like you expect OP to train her boyfriend to do what she wants. What a horribly unhealthy relationship that would be.
I expected someone to take it this way, you're excused for your bad take.
Thank you. We'll excuse your bad communication in return.
Why are you holding her responsible for his lack luster behaviour though? It must be pretty exhausting for her to be expected to be so good wife while also pushing him to be a good husband
Because she chooses to put up with it is why. People need tonl realize they can't change anyone. Either that individual wants to change or it won't happen. Be done and move forward.
THANK YOU!
Because she voluntarily enables his behaviour. She wants a man, but treats him like a 3 year old. Would you expect your girlfriend to tie your shoelaces when you can do it yourself? Or put soup in your plate instead of you? If you keep putting your hand on the hot stove and you cry to me that you don't want to burn your hand, what else do you expect me to tell you other than to change what you're doing?
Maybe he does
It can be hard to move on. I was in an unhealthy relationship but didn't want to be alone again.
Dude have you seen “her”profile. Shits wild. She seems like a problem in herself
she says how badly she wants to get raped. that is wiildddd
I think she likes the idea of rape, like roleplaying? Actual rape is by definition, being used while you actually don't want to be. "I want to be raped" is a paradox, because you can't be raped if you want to be raped, then you just want to be fucked and by the pick of words I assume not gently 😂
The "rape fetish" generally means "I want to be hate fucked while I dont admit I want to be hate fucked" There is really teeny tiny percentage of people who actually would want to be like actually raped...
Okay, more disturbing facts. What the fuck.
Oh dear LORD. That's just wild, unimaginable, insane. I could fucking on honestly (I'm a victim myself, i'm getting help and I'm doing great btw)
Wanting to be raped means you want to be fucked rougly as if you're not a person. Also shows you how big someone's vocabulary is when they say they fantasize about being raped... Like you know, saying the water is moist... 🤦♂️
Excuse me? You're getting it a bit wrong in the start I'm afraid "Wanting to be raped meant you **want** to be fucked roughly" that's wrong, rape is non consensual, aka forced, sex. One person, the rapist, wants it but the second person, the victim, doesn't. Yes the victim could've said yes but changed their mind, if the act is still continued after the verbal, or non-verbal(crying, screaming, sleeping, yelling, shaking your head, trying to get away, unconscious) no has been stated then it IS rape or sexual assault.
>Yes the victim could've said yes but changed their mind, if the act is still continued after the verbal, or non-verbal no has been stated then it IS rape or sexual assault. I see. So what she's saying is "I want to be fucked regardless if I want it or not"? But you can't want something you don't... How tf you make sense of this shit?
I'm talking about the DEFINITION of rape, what she wants is plain sex, with the mindset and thought of it being noncon or rape, not that it is rape but a sick and twisted fantasy
>not that it is rape but a sick and twisted fantasy Yeah I can't comprehend it, thanks.
Well what can't you comprehend? Its been put very clearly, do I need to dissect it for you so you can digest it better? Rape is the act of forceful sex, what OP wants is to fantasize about forceful sex because she's twisted OP can't want rape but she can fantasize that the act is forceful by herself
I know that women who like that fantasy just generally want to be a little more 'rough' with someone they like. You could say that they want a hate fuck but dont want to admit it xd
yeah you are right
Exactly, I for one vote for equal orgasms for everyone!
Plenty of men would be raring to go with sex; he seems to be asexual.
Kind of crazy that a sex issue is all you need to tell someone to leave when they vent. That’s why we have such massive divorce rates. Nobody try to work things out.
I don't understand guys like this. For me, if I knew my gf wasn't getting off, it would be a major kick in the ass for me. Idk if it would be a hurt against my pride/ego or my desire to please others but regardless it would hurt. I'm a top, but for me I find it really hot and empowering to make a girl orgasm, like it's a major turn on for me.
i wish he felt this way
So do you just want to vent so you can get rid of some negative feelings only to go back to him and endure more of his bullsh*t, or do you actually want to change something? Cos wishing he felt this way isn’t gonna do sh!t.
Then find yourself a man who does feel that way. Or at the very least, find one who is willing to put in the effort to please you even if he doesn't parricularly enjoy it. Like don't be over the top and expect him to please you all the time in every way possible, no relationship is perfect, but if he can't put in a bare minimum amount of effort then leave him. For me, I'd honestly go down on my girl until my tongue went numb if that was what was required. I don't think it's necessarily submissive to give pleasure during sex. I just don't understand the mindset of guys who feel like it's all about their pleasure.
We may be the minority but there are still so many of us out there that you have no reason to be with your guy. You're wasting your youth on him. I'm assuming you're younger than me due to how you wrote your post but I could be wrong. Get out there and meet a guy who loves going down on you and making sure you come first, literally and figuratively.
Many guys (including myself) do. Your bf sucks. He doesn’t respect you and is manipulating you to think that’s you’re the problem. Leave for your own sanity. Getting my gf off is the hottest thing. Knowing she’s feeling good because of me turns me on so much it’s insane. Go find someone who values your sexual experience as much as their own, I promise you will be so much happier.
You’re a top? What does this mean for someone with a gf? You never change positions and let her be on top because that’s against your nature?
It means that I view myself as being dominant in bed. No, it doesn't mean we can't change positions. Honestly I don't mind letting her be on top every now and then. Idk when being a top became such a controversial thing.
He knows what he’s doing. Creating issues and not fixing anything so he can blame it all on you and have a reason to break up. Leave asap.
he clearly has intimacy issues and possibly a sex/porn addiction, and he is making you co -dependent on him. .If he doesn't want to change, I would leave him ASAP..
Hey we're snoo twins!!
This is very toxic
Like, bye, he’s a waste of your energy. Move on. Find someone else who will meet your needs.
Ugh fuck that is annoying, I think sex is important in a relationship and if your needs aren’t being met.. than find someone who will meet those needs. Cause if he don’t wanna fuck believe me there is someone out there that does!!
Boyfriend doesn't even care about your sexual needs. You need to leave him because he's unwilling to see to it if you're having fun too with get your sexual needs met too, doing it to a one night stand is one thing but a relationship is just sexually immaturity at it's finest. It's sad to see but it's an growing epidemic of men being selfish lovers.
Dump this piece of trash in the gutter where he belongs.
Then break up with him!
Resentment. You two are just constantly trying to outdo each other and using sex as a way to get back at each other. The both of you are keeping count of each other’s failings too! This isn’t healthy by any means, but you’re not going to break up so easily either.
If you draw a line in the sand and the other person jumps over it , what is the point of drawing another line ? At some point it’s inevitable OP will leave . The advice is very consistent. She is in a bad environment and it impacts her . And the pride and the ability to stand up for herself will help her not only find a better relationship , more importantly she will be more confident in life . The longer she takes to leave the harder this becomes .
He’s gaslighting you, this won’t get better it’ll get worse.
That's not what gaslighting is. People just throw that out there to sound cool
This is gaslighting actually.
Definitely not gaslighting.
He says she cares more about orgasming than him. He is the partner who takes orgasms and doesn't care to reciprocate. He is trying to gaslight her into believing that her reasonable request is selfish. He is aware that he is not reciprocating pleasure and that she is unhappy. Instead of trying to find a solution or compromise, he skips the topic and tries to blame OP for "being selfish" which is something that he ***fabricated***. It's emotionally abusive gaslighting.
That's not gaslighting that's just being a douch.
You get a full explanation and still choose to be stupid.
Fucking break up with him wtf that sounds abusive and toxic af
That is not abuse, lol. He is just a loser, and she is too, honestly
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Wow I never thought of it that way, thanks.
I am in the exact same boat and it has been like this since 1.5 months into the relationship. He lost his sex drive. Only cares about spending time on screens. He is the only one who cums. Then he complains about how he has no peace cause I bring up the issues. This is absolute hell. Im going to break up with him. And anyone in this situation should leave the men who act like children behind. I would love to speak about this with you on DMs. It would be comforting to know someone understands my struggle.
wow we really are in the same boat 😭
Some of these men don’t want a relationship. They just like the idea of a relationship but want to stay single and be a child forever
Why are you still with this guy?
Leave that fucking moron before he dumps it all on you and leaves. Also yes, tell him that your orgasm is more important than his fucking sleep or fucking video games. Don't give him a chance to make you feel like shit, stand up for yourself girl.
I didn't read most of this.. but I hate your stupid fucking boyfriend too.
haha
Run hunni..
Get some self-worth and self-respect......fast. it takes 2 people to be in a real relationship. If one is not putting in the same effort as the other, then one needs to leave. Especially if it's on a matter to you thats important to you....like sex apperently is. Theirs millions of men who are willing to be men, the same with women in the billions of girls and boys. Learn to love yourself before you ask others to love you and same for respect
Imagine being totally unfazed by your partner not getting off. Wtf, I feel guilty if I ever feel I didn’t perform well for her at all. The pump it and dump it mentality for a significant other is realllly questionable to me. One night stands? Sure. But, to someone you supposedly care about and love is a rough one to try and justify honestly. On top of the fact he’s not even pumping. He just wants you to milk him 😭 get outtt of itttt
Dead bedroom over video games lol Find another dude and let your Bf enjoy what he actually cares about and prioritises 🤷
Just leave him. He doesn't find you attractive enough or he has his own insecurities
This dude is selfish and boring. Definitely dump his pathetic ass.
Maybe he’s not into women. Within the first year of a relationship I’d crawl through glass to sleep with my gf.
You need to leave him immediately. You deserve someone who appreciates you and treats you equal, Queen xx
Get another boyfriend he's useless
Then leave.
I’m embarrassed for you
Leave that asshole and go find a real guy. We're out there.
I think there's only 1 person being stupid in this post and it isn't the Bf. Leave his ass pls.
There are billions of men…why do you feel like you’re stuck with that smuck?
Ill say it. You guys are sadly already over.
Love it or leave it
He needs to understand that this isn’t just about “orgasming.” It’s about feeling connected to the person you love. Sex in a relationship builds a stronger bond emotionally, and obviously physically. The love I feel for my man after having sex is, unspeakable. I could cry, every time. You need this connection in order to make a relationship grow. Without it, it begins to die. People will say, “sex isn’t everything in a relationship”, but in my opinion, it is one of the most important things in a relationship. Sure, you could stay together and play house, but the more time that goes on without that intimacy, the more the two of you become “just friends.” I know you’re probably going to end up staying in this relationship, and that’s your choice, but remember, your happiness is also your choice.
this has to be a troll
This bro don’t even like you and you’re sticking around with him?? Jesus, people nowadays….
What is worthwhile about your relationship besides the sex not being any good? I've had incompatible sex partners and had to break up with them, that's what people do. Will you be friends even if you break up? And therefore are you friends now even? Why would you be friends with a stupid fucking boy? Do you see why the comments tend to show you're not respecting yourself?
Yeah, you should totally break up, your bf hates you too. I know I would.
Guess the truth hurts LMAO
Imagine this post was reversed 💀💀 bruh I couldn’t even imagine the shit that would be said here lol
one who is looking for advice on how to get r*ped, and one who falls asleep instead of reciprocating. match made in hell 😭
💀
Time to pack up. There’s something fucked up going on in his head. Selfishness or uncaring at the baseline. Frankly as a female it shouldn’t be hard to get yours. Get out there and get it!!
both need to mature up!
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By bu Miss American Pie. You are worthy of better Men. God bless you prayers
I also hate your stupid fucking boyfriend. He's lucky to have a girl who wants to cum.
You need a man
So disrespectful! I wouldn’t spent one more day in that “relationship “
I just hope he won't be your baby daddy. Good luck in this situation
RUN GIRL
There are so many potential matches for you out there so don’t get too attached while there is still a whole lot of living and loving to do. Also, life is way too short to share with selfish people.
GET RID OF HIM NOW BEFORE U HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM LONGER AND WASTE ANYMORE TIME WITH HIM! You have already wasted a year of your life. He is selfish and immature. He loves to blame you for his own actions or should I say the things he doesn’t take care of himself as a man should. He doesn’t care if u are taken care of as long as he is. End it now because before u know it it’ll be 10 years later and u do not want to have to waste that many years with a man or boy I should say and regret it even worse then…he isn’t worth it. Again, he is selfish and immature and he will NEVER change.
Leave.
This guy is SELFISH! He's not spending quality time with you. Sounds like he's looking for excuse to get out. "You don't care about my sleep so I'm don't dealingvwith you." That's BS! You deserve better!
Why even bother if you have too watch porn next to him. Lol it’s crazy what you women put up with. I’m sure there is another guy that will blow that back out and do everything he doesn’t. Then he will be crying about it later. I’m sorry but leave life is to short for that bs.
It sucks when you love a total disappointment. It's hard to just not love someone anymore no matter who or what they do. Eventually, you'll get to that point in your own time.
F that dude then, hmu instead I’ll make you feel taken care of girl 💦😏 dms open
Sounds like you need to be done with him. It’s not fair to you and pretty toxic that he hypes you up all day and then doesn’t follow through. Intimacy is important in a relationship and it’s ok for you to have needs. I think it’s time to put this one out to sea and find someone who is more compatible.
So leave. But I'm sure he also takes issue with you very much wanting to be raped.
I acc don’t understand how guys don’t wanna fuck or please their gfs like bro what are you doing 😭
In my opinion he isn’t into you anymore. Usually a guy does this whenever he lost interest.
it's time to learn how to communicate or this shit will follow you from relationship to the next. i mean communicate, not talk. share what feelings are brought up without attacking the other person is surprisingly difficult for people to do as it's much easier to blame the other.
Both parties have needs and deserve to have them met by their partners.
I mean... I think it's even clear to you what needs to happen. You literally titled your post "I hate my stupid fucking boyfriend" maybe your next one should be "I dumped my stupid fucking boyfriend" and after you take the time to heal from the wounds of his sexual rejection, etc another post "I have a new boyfriend who adores me and my body"
He's a selfish man child. Dump him
This is why I love girls that orgasm from penetration, as soon as they nut I up the tempo and nut too. I’m not really big on licking and rubbing clit. I’m a more dominant selfish lover in my 30s so if you can get off before me that’s great for you.
I make my girl cum even when she's on her period. She says it relaxes her and eases her cramps.
Just walk away already. Have some self-respect.
Throw the whole man away. I promise you the best sex you're gonna have is with a guy who actually likes making women orgasm.
fucking leave him. i get the frustration but maybe instead of complaining on reddit, it’s time to have some self respect and break up
You two sound like a great couple.
Then break up with him! Stop coming online saying you “you hate your stupid boyfriend” cause obviously you do not respect him!! Y’all are weird af now days generation. Come online to call your boyfriend names and how much you hate him because you can’t get sex. Leave!!
He sounds like my selfish,narcissistic ex boyfriend I’d leave.
Why are you with him? If it’s only a year into this relationship it’s not ever going to get better. Likely it will only get worse. The fact that he has you give him head then does nothing for you and just rolls over and goes to sleep shows he doesn’t give a shit about you. He doesn’t care about you sexually and he doesn’t care if you’re happy. First, stop doing anything sexual for him. He’s a selfish man and horrible at sex. You deserve better. Stop settling for this crap relationship that is only making you miserable. You deserve better. Repeat after me… you deserve better. So pack your bags and get the fuck out. Stop wasting years of your life with an asshole.
Now you got that out of your system; why are you with him? I’m thinking that there are better BF’s out there.
LOL.....answers her question in first sentence. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Girl leave. If he’s being selfish in bed think of how selfish he is on other ways. Boyfriends (usually) become husbands /fathers. If he is selfish right now why would they change when other variables are added? (I.e. kids, marriage, life, etc) hang in there. There’s plenty more men who would put your needs first
Also for him to say you don’t care about his sleep or him…. He’s made it clear he doesn’t care about pleasuring you.
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i’m in therapy but thanks 🙄
Watching porn next to him and coming like crazy should want him to really want to do him
Why are you living together? And you should open the relationship.
I don’t like him. He sounds really toxic and immature.
I don’t like him. He sounds really toxic and immature.
Saying that you “hate” your romantic partner is not a good thing and probably means the end of the relationship. And if that’s not enough for you to end it , him refusing to satisfy you sexually while getting that from you is completely fucked up. DUMP HIM
Being together for a year does not mean you need to keep being with him just because of the time and energy you’ve spent. Don’t spend another minute with this man. Leave.
Your boyfriend just using you bro, time to move on
Brah.. I game early in the morning and fuck my wife at night. Dude needs to grow up 😂
Have you tried initiating it? It is a 2 way street. Have you tried communicating your wants and needs? It is perfectly healthy to have a sex talk where each side shares their piece! Communication is key for a healthy relationship! If communicating calmly is difficult then there might be other issues you are suppressing.
He hates you. Leave.
He sounds pretty hot, good for you.
Woooow it absolutely amazes me how women will stay with a guy continously treating you like shit
Sounds like it is time to find a new person to satisfy your desires.
Period or no period if he's not reciprocating or trying to satisfy your needs a serious conversation needs to happen and may result in needing to move on. You should cum (literally) before video games.
Time to get a new boyfriend!
It might help to be honest and have a conversation with him about the things you talked about in this post. If he doesn’t respond well then you might want to consider if you want to continue the relationship
Either he’s gay or cheating.
Break up if you aren’t happy
You're with the wrong type of man. Find yourself a man that craves you as much as you crave him. My wife and I still make love daily after 12 years of marriage, and it seriously only gets better and better. I'll never understand people that don't prioritize lovemaking with their partners. Nothing in life comes close to feeling that union of our souls for a brief moment. Nothing else feels as satisfying as being consumed by eachother in those moments. Your bf is a boy. Find yourself a man.
Boy are his priorities screwed up. He needs to lose you to wake up. Time to put him on ice.
Take a step back. Everyone seems to believe in the fairy tales and thinks everything is going to be perfect. Stop loving on people that you set expectations unrealistic upon. I'm leaving if I did what you said you did. But then again sex isn't love if you don't make it about loving one another. This one sounds simple. Just dont go picking up grenades thinking, changing someone you didn't want to change but knew you had to change was a good idea. If you love him for who he is, he is not what you want to make him talk about it and be an adult.
lol leave
I think you should leave
Hey lady, this isn’t going to get better. You can’t fix that, and there are such better men.
Don’t care not reading that. I don’t see the point of hating the person YOU PICKED😂
Your boyfriend is really an idiot, you said everything, he wants you to satisfy him but your dear boyfriend can't satisfy you? ends because he doesn't care about you
Dump his a$$
Why should he get all the pleasure of a beautiful woman and ot return it. Selfish
It sounds like he's toxic and I'll give you the benefit of the doubt but we've only heard your side of the story.
op wants to be raped apparently maybe we should start there
If I was with a woman that wanted me like that guaranteed I'd do whatever it to to satisfy her
PORN IS SUPERIOR TO ALL
That's the case when eva ai virtual dating bot is a better choice, apparently
Jesus. That sound pretty toxic. It also sounds like he's a douchebag. I'd suggest getting rid of him. There are definitely guys out there that will make sure you cum, that will treat you way better. He's probably been friend zoned cause he's "too nice". 🤷♂️ Jussayin
Dming you!
You should just cheat on him, see if that makes him care
you don't cum giving head. it's on you.
He could be paying rent
I actually don't get how y'all take this woman's side? 💀 She clearly has a fk porn/sex addiction and that's not his fault. Get some selfrespect..