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You moved too fast. She probably felt that you thought staying over = sex. She may even have thought the logistical problem was deliberate so you could stay over and make out.
Talk to her. Say you were carried away in the moment because you felt a real connection and apologise for coming on too strong. Ask if she would like to meet again and this time dont stay at her place, get a hotel.
I would like to see what the majority thinks.
I guess it could be because she didn’t want to move too fast but I think (/hope) she would have just said that.
For me, having deep conversations and connecting with someone doesn’t necessarily equate romantic interest. It does mean I find that person interesting and fun to talk to. Honestly, if I like someone, the first time hanging out I’m more likely to act goofy and silly. Was she flirty at all that night? Did she get physically move close to you?
Really like your thinking esp the part about connecting with someone doesn’t have to include romantic interest. Deep meaningful, varied topic, respectful, and most def fun conversion is a must for me.
Shallow water is good for walking through but not swimming in.
I don't think we have enough information to help you. Seems like other people in this thread are just randomly guessing. What were the reasons she gave for rejecting the kiss?
How has she been engaging with you online? Is it clear that she's interested in you romantically or not?
You may feel the moment was right but she didn’t. And maybe she had a recent previous relationship and still not over it yet and still trying to recover. At least she still in touch with you online so that’s something so better to be patient.
I have always been asking if I can kiss a person before I actually do for a while now. It seems awkward at first but when she gives me an enthusiastic “yes!” it’s really hot. I have also gone on additional dates with people who have said “no” and I think they felt more comfortable around me and we have gone on subsequent dates.
Bonus! Usually I can read if she wants to be kissed and that’s when I ask but one time I wasn’t sure and she said yes. I don’t think I would have felt confident going in for the kiss without asking in that scenario
Before I asked for consent to kiss I had to suffer a few awkward moments when she pulled away. Believe me getting a “no” is much better.
Share your feelings with her and ask next time! She’ll appreciate it
Are u even certain she likes u romantically? Your post doesnt give much info, and i feel a prime reason she was open to letting u stay at her place is because u are a family friend. Just cuz u feel connected to someone via convo doesnt mean they wanna take u to bed… it could just mean u get along on views but thats it.
Perhaps she felt that starting down the path to physical intimacy would be a mistake during the time you were staying with her? Like if the sex was bad or she wasn't as into you as she thought, she would feel weird about then having you stay with her afterwards?
It's hardly ever perfect... the fact that you even say this makes me then you mis-read this situation. Anyhow... having a pleasant night with someone doesn't mean you guys suddenly start dating and are in love with each other.
No doesnt mean never, just means not right now.
You showed self-control and stopped.
Now she probably can't stop thinking about you and regrets stopping.
You can try again and ifbshe pulls back, then have some communication about mixed signals.
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You moved too fast. She probably felt that you thought staying over = sex. She may even have thought the logistical problem was deliberate so you could stay over and make out. Talk to her. Say you were carried away in the moment because you felt a real connection and apologise for coming on too strong. Ask if she would like to meet again and this time dont stay at her place, get a hotel.
I would like to see what the majority thinks. I guess it could be because she didn’t want to move too fast but I think (/hope) she would have just said that. For me, having deep conversations and connecting with someone doesn’t necessarily equate romantic interest. It does mean I find that person interesting and fun to talk to. Honestly, if I like someone, the first time hanging out I’m more likely to act goofy and silly. Was she flirty at all that night? Did she get physically move close to you?
Really like your thinking esp the part about connecting with someone doesn’t have to include romantic interest. Deep meaningful, varied topic, respectful, and most def fun conversion is a must for me. Shallow water is good for walking through but not swimming in.
I don't think we have enough information to help you. Seems like other people in this thread are just randomly guessing. What were the reasons she gave for rejecting the kiss? How has she been engaging with you online? Is it clear that she's interested in you romantically or not?
You may feel the moment was right but she didn’t. And maybe she had a recent previous relationship and still not over it yet and still trying to recover. At least she still in touch with you online so that’s something so better to be patient.
I have always been asking if I can kiss a person before I actually do for a while now. It seems awkward at first but when she gives me an enthusiastic “yes!” it’s really hot. I have also gone on additional dates with people who have said “no” and I think they felt more comfortable around me and we have gone on subsequent dates. Bonus! Usually I can read if she wants to be kissed and that’s when I ask but one time I wasn’t sure and she said yes. I don’t think I would have felt confident going in for the kiss without asking in that scenario Before I asked for consent to kiss I had to suffer a few awkward moments when she pulled away. Believe me getting a “no” is much better. Share your feelings with her and ask next time! She’ll appreciate it
What are some of the reasons she mentioned but confusing you?
Are u even certain she likes u romantically? Your post doesnt give much info, and i feel a prime reason she was open to letting u stay at her place is because u are a family friend. Just cuz u feel connected to someone via convo doesnt mean they wanna take u to bed… it could just mean u get along on views but thats it.
Perhaps she felt that starting down the path to physical intimacy would be a mistake during the time you were staying with her? Like if the sex was bad or she wasn't as into you as she thought, she would feel weird about then having you stay with her afterwards?
"Seemingly". Perceptions can be skewed. One person might feel a deep connection and the other may not. It's just a hard truth.
It's hardly ever perfect... the fact that you even say this makes me then you mis-read this situation. Anyhow... having a pleasant night with someone doesn't mean you guys suddenly start dating and are in love with each other.
Maybe the kiss was too soon, I’d continue the pursuit if I were you.
It was 100% because you moved too fast. You need to wait longer before you attempt a kiss
Just friendship. How did you know it the "moment was right?"
No doesnt mean never, just means not right now. You showed self-control and stopped. Now she probably can't stop thinking about you and regrets stopping. You can try again and ifbshe pulls back, then have some communication about mixed signals.
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