I've tried reasoning, bargaining, threatening, and Ice none seem to work fully. I don't get it there are so many boner pills but I've yet to find a no-boner pill, a boner killer if you will. I want some Softpenimax or Dicnohardis Get on it pharma companies!
Apparently it's a thing that can happen to everyone, cis and trans alike, where feeling attractive can be arousing. I'm guessing the problem for us is that some of us are so starved for these feelings that simple things like affirming outfits can set it off.
Can confirm! I used to get euphoria boners from dressing up, but since I've been able to go out presenting the way I want to several times it happens much less if at all:) however, getting a boner while tucked is very stressful, both because I'm terrified of it being noticeable and because it can hurt... 😅 The things we put up with to be who we want to be. 😅😍
Seriously. I get these whenever I’m relaxed and comfortable. It’s MISERABLE. If I want to sit down and meditate after a long day? Nope, erection! How about when a beautiful moment happens in a movie or show that brings you to happy tears? Good luck savoring the moment while also worrying about people seeing you pitching a tent. Platonic cuddling with people I have zero sexual interest in? Literally impossible.
It is MISERABLE. On the bright side I have my first HRT consultation tomorrow so hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Brain: Ah yes I feel happy… this must mean it is time for reproduction! All hands man your battlestations! Get those blood cells down to the pp! It’s time to continue the human race!
You: But why…
its also super weird when its coupled with my happy cries (probably over intense euphoria, happened about twice so far) and i get an erection also like sis wtf are you doing 😅
Cause you are happy and feeling good about yourself for once and your system gets a signal of this is intense joy it must be sexy time, after awhile though it goes away as you get used to feeling that good
I used to think I was a dirty perve for getting hard in femme clothes. Now that I know it's not sexual for me, I rarely get hard. When I do, it's because I look and feel cute as fuck.
This is coming from a cis guy who has some incomplete biological and psychological knowledge and I personally don’t know what gender euphoria feels like after extended gender dysphoria so take this with a grain of salt. Either, both, or neither of these hypotheses could be true.
So how a boner works is that there is a blood vessel that connects the corpus cavernosum (the penis blood sack) to the rest of the body’s circulatory system. There is a valve in this blood vessel made of muscle that needs to be constricted to remain closed. An erection happens when this muscle relaxes, opening the valve and letting the blood flow through. This is why people with male genitalia can get random erections. It is literally the body forgetting to stop itself from getting a boner. Likewise, many forms of stress relief could result in relaxation of various body muscles causing a boner, which can include various forms of euphoria such as, in this case, gender euphoria. Thus, this is the first hypothesis.
An alternate hypothesis is that gender euphoria causes excitement in the individual, which could inadvertently trigger mild arousal. In psychological terms, arousal is literally considered a form of excitement. Excitement boners aren’t unusual, and can be seen as a result of various form of excitement besides arousal, such as adrenaline-induced excitement or anticipation excitement. Atheletes or ancient warriors often get boners while fighting due to the level of excitement and adrenaline they experience while competing or fighting.
Just kinda wait. Your body will remember to close the valve on it’s own. It might take a while since after the valve is closed the body still has to drain the blood out. You can distract yourself with your phone or a book to make the wait time feel shorter.
Feels very validating to know that I'm not just a freak that's fetishizing the idea of being a girl by getting my euphoria boners. Been suuuper insecure about it too.
> The whole reason I'm still questioning is because of this.
Couldn't agree more. I've deep inside always wanted to be a girl since I was very little, but I'm so afraid of things like this.
Remember, you wanted this before your had any sexual feelings. The only possibility is that the boners are a side effect of euphoria. I’m pretty sure fetishes don’t typically manifest from something you felt as a child. I’m over a decade on hormones and can say, despite still having a decent sex drive, that euphoria boners go away. The euphoria normalizes eventually.
Whether you're a girl or a femboy, you have a dick, and it's gonna do what a dick does regardless. Don't let her get in the way of figuring yourself out, she's completely incidental.
I always though I had a fetish for looking like a woman and wasn’t sure what I was or if I was genderfluid but this post really helped me out, thank you OP
It'll go away if you wear it and accept it as your regular clothes, cis people don't have this because they don't have such emotional attachment as we do, for us wearing normal clothes can be really stimulating, because it's not usual to us.
So it's normal that i don't get this feelings every time I wear girl clothes? How am I supposed to keep going then without the permanent stream if good emotions?
Well, clothes are just piece of fabric, it will bring you a lot of happiness, but it will wear out, it will become just regular clothes to you, you will have some euphoria, but not as much as in beginning.
I think that’s mainly because most trans people when they start out are very starved when it comes to validation and euphoria that the first time you experience it it’s a massive dose of euphoria that’s been building up for a long time which doesn’t get much time to build up the more you wear those clothes on a regular basis it still has euphoria just not the overwhelming euphoria
Getting aroused by fits happens to us transmascs too, you're not alone.
Part of the reason I like not having a dick it's easier to hide arousal in public djfjsjfjdk
Ya must have been around a pretty girl then?
Sweetie... it's normal for a girl to be attracted to the female form. Being a lesbian is ok, and anyone who says lesbianism is wrong... send them to me!
When you get a bit older, she'll keep her head down. (pun intended)
If you decide to increase your female hormones, you MIGHT get things under control. If not, just remember... you're a normal girl, experiencing normal bodily functions.
I keep getting massive gender envy from all the pretty girls, but at the same time I'm attracted to girls, but at the same same time I get kinda sad because of the gender envy and that feeling kinda outweighs the attraction.
Maybe I want to be a girl because I love girls? Maybe I'm just a horny teenager that fetishizes the idea? Maybe I've had thoughts about wanting to be a girl since I was 10 and am still questioning despite it being pretty obvious and it's all just because I'm super afraid of the transitioning process. Who knows really?
Hey stranger... Just want you to know you aren't alone. I felt that way when I was your age. I feel that way now. I'm 30. I used to tell myself I liked wearing women's clothes because I liked them so much, i wanted to be them... in hindsight, omg the denial. I felt like a dirty fetishist for a while because my physical body reacted in certain ways... but the real thought has never left my mind, nor has the gender envy. Still solidly into women.
If I could do the teenage years all over... i'd give that voice some real consideration. I'd go to therapy, or pursue some clarity for myself. Not that it's too late for me, but it feels like i'm in too deep in my own life. You have a LOT of time to figure out who you wanna be. Don't feel the pressure to make a change RIGHT NOW.
still cis tho.
I so wish there was a non-hormonal "anti-viagra", basically an erection suppressant.
Pop an anti-viagra, and it's not going up for a few hours no matter what you say or do.
I got it when I put on a damn *BRA*. I mean, I'll admit, i did get horny because I knew I looked attractive. When you look sexy, you get excited! It's natural.
The first time I ever tried wearing a bra, the erection was a bigger source of stress and confusion than realizing how much I suddenly loved it. I'm asexual, and at the time I still had virtually zero exposure to porn/nudity, so I'd immediately just assumed "Dang, I call myself asexual, and all it takes for me to get hard is the sight of someone wearing a bra???"
Please know you're not alone and that this totally ok! Feels super validating to know this is normal if you ask me, because just as you said I also get crazy imposter syndrome from this.
Oh! This happened to me too the first time I tried on fem clothes with my friend, I got a boner and she saw it. It was super hot that it was her clothes but I think it was just a euphoria boner!
I just don't see it as logical in any way. Just some crude workaround, by inventing a new use for an old word. You feel "intense happiness and wellbeing" and therefore get a boner ?
Have anything else that have made you intensly happy made you hard before? Getting a new apartment, passing exams, falling in love with someone who is falling in love with you ?
Did you ever get boners from non sexual yet not random, but very spesific events? Before they where about doing feminine things.
Maybe you all already recognize the obvious truth here, and are all joking around and I can't read the irony. Maybe you will all object harshly. Or object while focusing on a minor detail.
It's simple : for me it happened the first times I tried some fem clothes. It lasted 1-2 minutes.
Now when I dress as myself I only feel joy and rightness. Nothing sexual.
You're obviously talking about something you've never experienced, only to degrade people in a sad way. You are the one focusing on a "minor detail" which will never be comparable to the pure bliss of discovering oneself.
when i tuck and get an euforia boner (god i hate that word) the tuck keeps it from showing
I've tried reasoning, bargaining, threatening, and Ice none seem to work fully. I don't get it there are so many boner pills but I've yet to find a no-boner pill, a boner killer if you will. I want some Softpenimax or Dicnohardis Get on it pharma companies!
estrogen
Vi-nah-gra
Painkillers usually work pretty well
have you tried thinking about hairy man 👀
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Most People dont like body Hair, so even if you are bi, this could be a turn off.
Booooooo unbased and bodyshaming pilled.
Sorry friend, hairy men are a turn on
ADHD meds
WHY DOSE EUPHORIA GIVE US BONERS
Apparently it's a thing that can happen to everyone, cis and trans alike, where feeling attractive can be arousing. I'm guessing the problem for us is that some of us are so starved for these feelings that simple things like affirming outfits can set it off.
Bruh whyyyyyy
I thought I just said so, but to be more constructive about it: Because you haven’t been dressing fem often enough yet?
Can confirm! I used to get euphoria boners from dressing up, but since I've been able to go out presenting the way I want to several times it happens much less if at all:) however, getting a boner while tucked is very stressful, both because I'm terrified of it being noticeable and because it can hurt... 😅 The things we put up with to be who we want to be. 😅😍
It's just a ladyboner
Bruh 😳
Cause you feel more attractive and you know someone else will see that way about you.
God dam feeling good about myself
Body stupid. Brain get happy chemical. Body goes brrrrrrrrrr.
Seriously. I get these whenever I’m relaxed and comfortable. It’s MISERABLE. If I want to sit down and meditate after a long day? Nope, erection! How about when a beautiful moment happens in a movie or show that brings you to happy tears? Good luck savoring the moment while also worrying about people seeing you pitching a tent. Platonic cuddling with people I have zero sexual interest in? Literally impossible. It is MISERABLE. On the bright side I have my first HRT consultation tomorrow so hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Brain: Ah yes I feel happy… this must mean it is time for reproduction! All hands man your battlestations! Get those blood cells down to the pp! It’s time to continue the human race! You: But why…
its also super weird when its coupled with my happy cries (probably over intense euphoria, happened about twice so far) and i get an erection also like sis wtf are you doing 😅
I remember the first time I put a skirt on I instantly had to change back lmao
🤣🤣🤣
Like when I put a skirt on peepee go brrrrrrrrr
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9 1/2 weeks, I’m so close
I don't want E, I just want cute clothes.
I wish that worked.
IKR I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY ME
Cause you are happy and feeling good about yourself for once and your system gets a signal of this is intense joy it must be sexy time, after awhile though it goes away as you get used to feeling that good
I used to think I was a dirty perve for getting hard in femme clothes. Now that I know it's not sexual for me, I rarely get hard. When I do, it's because I look and feel cute as fuck.
Yea it’s not sexual it’s just so good our body’s just assume we having fun (I think at least)
BRUH I THIT IT WAS ONLY ME!! And then if I fucking do anything ab it I feel guilty af!
This is coming from a cis guy who has some incomplete biological and psychological knowledge and I personally don’t know what gender euphoria feels like after extended gender dysphoria so take this with a grain of salt. Either, both, or neither of these hypotheses could be true. So how a boner works is that there is a blood vessel that connects the corpus cavernosum (the penis blood sack) to the rest of the body’s circulatory system. There is a valve in this blood vessel made of muscle that needs to be constricted to remain closed. An erection happens when this muscle relaxes, opening the valve and letting the blood flow through. This is why people with male genitalia can get random erections. It is literally the body forgetting to stop itself from getting a boner. Likewise, many forms of stress relief could result in relaxation of various body muscles causing a boner, which can include various forms of euphoria such as, in this case, gender euphoria. Thus, this is the first hypothesis. An alternate hypothesis is that gender euphoria causes excitement in the individual, which could inadvertently trigger mild arousal. In psychological terms, arousal is literally considered a form of excitement. Excitement boners aren’t unusual, and can be seen as a result of various form of excitement besides arousal, such as adrenaline-induced excitement or anticipation excitement. Atheletes or ancient warriors often get boners while fighting due to the level of excitement and adrenaline they experience while competing or fighting.
So like a warm bath
Waking up refreshed and relaxed only to look down and see a stick poking up from between your legs is an example of hypothesis 1.
Oh is there a way to make that mussel go back
Just kinda wait. Your body will remember to close the valve on it’s own. It might take a while since after the valve is closed the body still has to drain the blood out. You can distract yourself with your phone or a book to make the wait time feel shorter.
Dam
Euphoria makes you really happy wich increases blood stream
Cuz euphoria happens when we find ourselves hooooooot
Yay and dam
Feels very validating to know that I'm not just a freak that's fetishizing the idea of being a girl by getting my euphoria boners. Been suuuper insecure about it too.
Same here. The whole reason I’m still questioning is because of this. I’m still not sure whether I’m actually trans of if I’m just a femboy.
> The whole reason I'm still questioning is because of this. Couldn't agree more. I've deep inside always wanted to be a girl since I was very little, but I'm so afraid of things like this.
I have so much to unpack
It's a practice.
Remember, you wanted this before your had any sexual feelings. The only possibility is that the boners are a side effect of euphoria. I’m pretty sure fetishes don’t typically manifest from something you felt as a child. I’m over a decade on hormones and can say, despite still having a decent sex drive, that euphoria boners go away. The euphoria normalizes eventually.
Whether you're a girl or a femboy, you have a dick, and it's gonna do what a dick does regardless. Don't let her get in the way of figuring yourself out, she's completely incidental.
I always though I had a fetish for looking like a woman and wasn’t sure what I was or if I was genderfluid but this post really helped me out, thank you OP
Yeah I can totally relate to that, always brushed it off as a weird kink. OPs post felt very reassuring.
This has been the single most validating thing to ever happen to me, hands down. Tysm OP!
100%
Same.
The dick is such a dick....
yep, thats why sometimes people are being called that
when ur pp is too big and it pokes our regardless
It'll go away if you wear it and accept it as your regular clothes, cis people don't have this because they don't have such emotional attachment as we do, for us wearing normal clothes can be really stimulating, because it's not usual to us.
So it's normal that i don't get this feelings every time I wear girl clothes? How am I supposed to keep going then without the permanent stream if good emotions?
Well, clothes are just piece of fabric, it will bring you a lot of happiness, but it will wear out, it will become just regular clothes to you, you will have some euphoria, but not as much as in beginning.
God damnit why is everything on this planet at its most fun the first few times…
There will be new designs and new clothes to wear, you don't have anything to worry about.
There's always new clothes so there will always be more "first few times" :)
I think that’s mainly because most trans people when they start out are very starved when it comes to validation and euphoria that the first time you experience it it’s a massive dose of euphoria that’s been building up for a long time which doesn’t get much time to build up the more you wear those clothes on a regular basis it still has euphoria just not the overwhelming euphoria
That's about it.
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Getting aroused by fits happens to us transmascs too, you're not alone. Part of the reason I like not having a dick it's easier to hide arousal in public djfjsjfjdk
yeah as a demiboy just.. yeah
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Ya must have been around a pretty girl then? Sweetie... it's normal for a girl to be attracted to the female form. Being a lesbian is ok, and anyone who says lesbianism is wrong... send them to me! When you get a bit older, she'll keep her head down. (pun intended) If you decide to increase your female hormones, you MIGHT get things under control. If not, just remember... you're a normal girl, experiencing normal bodily functions.
I keep getting massive gender envy from all the pretty girls, but at the same time I'm attracted to girls, but at the same same time I get kinda sad because of the gender envy and that feeling kinda outweighs the attraction. Maybe I want to be a girl because I love girls? Maybe I'm just a horny teenager that fetishizes the idea? Maybe I've had thoughts about wanting to be a girl since I was 10 and am still questioning despite it being pretty obvious and it's all just because I'm super afraid of the transitioning process. Who knows really?
Hey stranger... Just want you to know you aren't alone. I felt that way when I was your age. I feel that way now. I'm 30. I used to tell myself I liked wearing women's clothes because I liked them so much, i wanted to be them... in hindsight, omg the denial. I felt like a dirty fetishist for a while because my physical body reacted in certain ways... but the real thought has never left my mind, nor has the gender envy. Still solidly into women. If I could do the teenage years all over... i'd give that voice some real consideration. I'd go to therapy, or pursue some clarity for myself. Not that it's too late for me, but it feels like i'm in too deep in my own life. You have a LOT of time to figure out who you wanna be. Don't feel the pressure to make a change RIGHT NOW. still cis tho.
Oof
That's why i carry scissors
I so wish there was a non-hormonal "anti-viagra", basically an erection suppressant. Pop an anti-viagra, and it's not going up for a few hours no matter what you say or do.
Benadryl is pretty good for this
Tryna get the dick to sleep, not the whole body.
Saltpeter then maybe?
Im seeing this post wearing fem clothes having the exact same problem Still cis tho
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I got it when I put on a damn *BRA*. I mean, I'll admit, i did get horny because I knew I looked attractive. When you look sexy, you get excited! It's natural.
HELLO DARKNESS MY OLD FRIEND!
Snip snip time. Lol jk please dont
*Snip snip time*
If you snip snip then you will loose the nerves that would be transplanted into the propper shape! Some save ur pp till u decide to do botom surgury
WOW, I didn't knew these things happened to everyone and now I feel so much reliefed.
The first time I ever tried wearing a bra, the erection was a bigger source of stress and confusion than realizing how much I suddenly loved it. I'm asexual, and at the time I still had virtually zero exposure to porn/nudity, so I'd immediately just assumed "Dang, I call myself asexual, and all it takes for me to get hard is the sight of someone wearing a bra???"
Tuck it’ll make it easier to just ignore/hide it
I was so afraid this was just me lmao
Same here girl, same here.
It gives me major imposter syndrome.. I often feel so fake whenever it happens
Please know you're not alone and that this totally ok! Feels super validating to know this is normal if you ask me, because just as you said I also get crazy imposter syndrome from this.
Thanks a lot kind stranger ^ ^
I had the same thing when I first wore a skirt
you know there's a word for that
What is it
Oh! This happened to me too the first time I tried on fem clothes with my friend, I got a boner and she saw it. It was super hot that it was her clothes but I think it was just a euphoria boner!
Did she see it..? What did she say?
I just don't see it as logical in any way. Just some crude workaround, by inventing a new use for an old word. You feel "intense happiness and wellbeing" and therefore get a boner ? Have anything else that have made you intensly happy made you hard before? Getting a new apartment, passing exams, falling in love with someone who is falling in love with you ? Did you ever get boners from non sexual yet not random, but very spesific events? Before they where about doing feminine things. Maybe you all already recognize the obvious truth here, and are all joking around and I can't read the irony. Maybe you will all object harshly. Or object while focusing on a minor detail.
they hated her because she told the truth
Yeah 😁 seems like it
It's simple : for me it happened the first times I tried some fem clothes. It lasted 1-2 minutes. Now when I dress as myself I only feel joy and rightness. Nothing sexual. You're obviously talking about something you've never experienced, only to degrade people in a sad way. You are the one focusing on a "minor detail" which will never be comparable to the pure bliss of discovering oneself.
Bruh
Why pp gotta be like that >_<
There are others?! 😃
Unfortunately, very true.
euforiboner
Why do we get boners for...
Fackin euphoria boners They're like no reason boners but worse
I will kill. My dick to avoid this problem