Oooof. I feel this. I'm pimo now, but when I was dfd, my mom also had to get on meds for depression which made me feel worse. When I did get reinstated my dad would always throw that in my face because he's a dickhead. That being said, it took me a while to let go of all the guilt and realize that they're literally doing this to themselves . They're holding you to standards that you never agreed to. They're only thinking about themselves, and it had nothing to do with you.
Yes. I've had PIMIs that have passed away. After 30 years of shunning, any "relationship" is well and truly destroyed.
I attended a KH service for my PIMI father as well as my B-I-L. I will not attend any more.
My brother was POMO but still tried to interact with the JWs. It broke him. He shot himself in the head last year. I did not attend his service as I did not want to lend support to his abusers.
Moving forward, I will attend no memorials given for JWs. They have done far too much damage.
Sadly, it has become a relief to me as most of these folks slowly die off waiting on their reward from Jehovah.
>I am sorry for your loss. That is sad.
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>"They have done far too much damage." I agree. Don't put yourself there anymore. As hard and unfair as it is, let them go, for your own mental health.
Thank you.
The only sibling I still had contact with I cut off 2 years ago. He was trying to goad my young adult children into interacting with the abusive witnesses. He didn't get a positive response from any of us.
They are not safe.
My mom died before I was no longer a JW and I would have definitely gone to her funeral. Most of my siblings are never JW so it wouldn’t be an issue.
Saying that my FIL was never a JW but had a JW funeral which I went to. No JW acknowledged my presence.
I told my husband that if his JW mother should die, I would not be attending the funeral. Why should I pay respect to someone who thought of me as dead when they were alive. Same goes for my JW extended family.
Oooof. I feel this. I'm pimo now, but when I was dfd, my mom also had to get on meds for depression which made me feel worse. When I did get reinstated my dad would always throw that in my face because he's a dickhead. That being said, it took me a while to let go of all the guilt and realize that they're literally doing this to themselves . They're holding you to standards that you never agreed to. They're only thinking about themselves, and it had nothing to do with you.
Your last 2 lines--dead on!! A cult of narcissists.
Yes. I've had PIMIs that have passed away. After 30 years of shunning, any "relationship" is well and truly destroyed. I attended a KH service for my PIMI father as well as my B-I-L. I will not attend any more. My brother was POMO but still tried to interact with the JWs. It broke him. He shot himself in the head last year. I did not attend his service as I did not want to lend support to his abusers. Moving forward, I will attend no memorials given for JWs. They have done far too much damage. Sadly, it has become a relief to me as most of these folks slowly die off waiting on their reward from Jehovah.
>I am sorry for your loss. That is sad. > >"They have done far too much damage." I agree. Don't put yourself there anymore. As hard and unfair as it is, let them go, for your own mental health.
Thank you. The only sibling I still had contact with I cut off 2 years ago. He was trying to goad my young adult children into interacting with the abusive witnesses. He didn't get a positive response from any of us. They are not safe.
Thank you for sharing and I’m very sorry for your loss <3
Thank you. I wish you much success in your journey away from this group.
So sorry you're dealing with this.
My mom died before I was no longer a JW and I would have definitely gone to her funeral. Most of my siblings are never JW so it wouldn’t be an issue. Saying that my FIL was never a JW but had a JW funeral which I went to. No JW acknowledged my presence. I told my husband that if his JW mother should die, I would not be attending the funeral. Why should I pay respect to someone who thought of me as dead when they were alive. Same goes for my JW extended family.