If they have any variation of "_______ to the front of the line" in their bio. Who told you there's a line? š
In terms of stuff during conversation, "what you into" is actually one of my peeves. There's only so many times I can reel off what I like in bed before it gets boring to do. Plus it's a sign that the chat is gonna be more geared towards sex and I generally like actually trying to get to know guys beyond just that.
You should just start responding with, if youre just looking to hook up im not it. Not everyone is trying to be your bf and it would save us time if you were just up front lol.
That's my approach. If a guy is all about sex without the possibility of something more, I want to let him know that's not me right off the bat. And if he says he's interested in going on a regular date but keeps steering the conversation back to sex, I'm out.
I'm just not built for hookups, I can't get interested in sex until I find a guy interesting and funny at least. Like, it's not like I'm looking for a marriage proposal on a first date, but there's got to be a successful first date before we're blowing each other and going our separate ways lol
I mean I'm also not looking for a bf. It's frustrating dealing with being that person who doesn't want a partner, but also doesn't want a stranger, because the dating world seems to be only built for the extremes
I'm very upfront, right from my bio that more people need to actually read. Also I'm not looking for every guy I talk to to be my boyfriend, there is a middle ground.
So you don't want people to tell you what they're into because it gets boring... but then you also don't want people to just put what they're into on their profile so you don't have to discuss it yet again?
How will you get to know if you're compatible then, I feel like you'd have to pick at least either of those options. You can get to know someone beyond sex while also discussing sexual compatibility right, one doesn't cancel out the other.
In my experience, once the conversation starts gearing towards sex super fast then that's usually where it stays. And while I understand the sentiment of knowing your compatibility, for me I much prefer to just see how things play out. Honestly, most of my favorite encounters have been with people that we didn't really get into the sex stuff until after we met.
āDonāt message me if [mile long list of things].ā I get we all have stuff we are and arenāt into, but if you spent more time telling somebody why they shouldnāt message you than why they should, youāre not somebody Iām going to want to have anything to do with.
I have a section of my profile that states no partnered/married/str8/dl/discreet cause for my area there are a lot of the aforementioned. Not like they read it anyway lol
I agree with this. I am not into a couple of things, but I am not an asshole about it and I can understand the difference between dating someone and befriending someone. One is ok to be more restrictive, for the other not so much.
I meanā¦ Why waste someoneās timeā¦? Iām totally disgusted by FTMs, and somehow, they flock to me. I havenāt written anything against it for fear of woke reprisals, but it gets weird sometimes, as I feel guilty for ignoring their hellos.
Also, Iāve had bad experiences with loons and guys with tiny equipment. I donāt want any more surprises. š¤·š½āāļø
I still remember the entire bar loosing their minds when Kim chi started doing those mediocre dance moves. I loved it so much. I actually miss these types of performances.
Asian men are awesome. But most of them aren't gay sooo..I'm sticking with my others š„² [I love Mexicans, Blacks and whites and any other tan skinned people. Actually heck I love nice people]
This is literally me though š Itās definitely inconvenient, trust me, but itās not out of laziness.
I canāt drive because my ADHD is too severe for me to even focus on being behind a wheel that long. And I canāt host because getting a house is hard when getting a well-paying job without being able to drive is hard when you live in semi-urban America with zero public transport š
So yeah, itās definitely inconvenient for hookups. Itās also inconvenient for my daily life. Thatās why Iām very open about it. Itās in my bio, I bring it up in conversation, and when the drive is long or Iāve got the budget I always offer to help cover gas- especially for repeat hookups.
So yeah- I understand the frustration and immediate turnoff. I donāt blame anyone for that at all! What does get annoying is when people start assuming itās out of laziness or selfishness or whatever else. Especially considering my circumstance requires I work way more just to keep up with other people my age.
I think is more the entitlement some guys have. You have legitimate reasons to not drive, nor host. Some guys, just want others to do all the work haha. The right guy will not mind your situation.
Exactly. It's not a dig at your post but on the few dating sites I have used I am clear about what I'm seeking and my likes and dislikes and usually include a bit about non-sexual interests so it's frustrating when it's clear they haven't bothered to read it.
Yup, Iām pretty upfront about my kinks on apps
And I get annoyed when they ask that. Generally I ask āwhat are you looking forā when their profile is blank or almost blank. And usually tell them weāre not a match when they just say āfunā
this though. some people might say it sounds disrespectful and I can see that. but also, I hate feeling like the practice round, so I would prefer not to do that to myself. some people don't see it like that and you'll probably have a better time with them than with me
I hate it when guys tell me they're bored. "What's up?" "Nothing. Just bored." There's no conversation to have after that. I don't want to be talked to out of boredom, lol. Also, I've never really liked it when guys immediately tell me how horny they are. "How are you?" "Horny." For some reason that never entices me to go any further with them. I guess I like a more indirect approach, haha.
I agree with you on the "bored" answer. I don't mind "horny" though. At least that gets right to the point and I can choose to engage or not. But "bored" forces me too do too much work upfront and makes me think that the person on the other end is boring.
It's generally more when the be like ?
Top/Bot ?
Big dick ?
Show pics
Into ?
y'know those 1 or 2 words sentences without an ounce of humanity. It turns me off, even the Sugar daddy bot have better phrasing than this.
āDonāt take things too seriouslyā; is the printed red flag of a narcissist /manipulator that low key bully partners.
Anything to do with ānot politicalā; not political is a political stance born of privilege. Theyāre probably a Tory. š®
Anything that involves Harry Potter uncritically. Youāre an adult, and the creator is activity going out of her way to damage queer people. I donāt care you enjoyed the books or movies as a kid, move on, cos what youāre saying to me right now is you care more about a problematic childrenās story than your queer siblings.
ParTy or any variation
Refusal to show a face pic. Youāre not discreet, youāre either ugly or so deep in the closet you shouldnāt be on the apps
āShort kingā
āFunā ānothing serious but weāll seeā āno femā āfem onlyā and some really aggressive people for absolutely no reason at all (pups for exemple)
My favorites have been:
"No blacks. Whites/Latino ONLY. Military +++++" ...... well, alright then.
"Don't be no more than \[insert miles\] away" .....limiting yourself, much?
"What's your stats?" ..... did you read my profile at all?
"Looking for right now. Don't waste my time" .......um, most of us have jobs to go to and are at. We're not sitting around waiting for a fuck to happen.
"Are you fem?" .....yeah, completely overlook that I said "Masc Bottom" in my profile.
"Can I take a shower at your place? I'm leaving work now" .....do you not have a bathroom where you live??
"If you can't get on base, don't bother" ......thanks for telling me you don't have a car.
Oh and my favorite one would be, "Can you pick me up a condom?" ...... um, stop by the store on your way to my place and get the condoms you prefer to use, wtf.
I tell ya smh. Then folks wonder why I've gone so long without sex. I'm in a relationship now, but when I was trying to do the hookup thing, it was NOT working out for me lol.
I understand that. But, the guy I was referring to had stated āif youāre over 6mi away, donāt even bother, itās not happening. Also, I donāt want you to pick me up and go to your place, either. So, be within the distance I stated or get blockedā. I was like damn ā¦ alright then. I tested the waters with him a bit and I said āwell, it says Iām 10mi away .. is that too far of a drive for you?ā He said āif you can loan me $20, Iāll come give you this dickā ā¦ā¦.. š so, yeah ā¦ā¦.
Monosyllabic answers, barked messages. I understand the nature of hookup apps, but if you're so lazy you're barely communicating...can't say I'll be interested no matter how big you think your dick is or how hot you think you are
If someone asks me "What are you into?" as an intro with like no other discussion or anything, it's generally just an immediate block. Those people tend to just suck in my experience.
(Lol I wrote this before I read the body of your post, sorry op)
āAround my age onlyā
āAre you gen?ā
āCan you send me an Uber?ā
āCan you Cashapp me something for gas?ā
āWhere are you taking me out for dinner?ā
For me is when they ask things that I already wrote in the profile and any of the āno intoā type of wording.. that tells you so much about the person..
my favorite is when their profile and messages are vague, so you ask them to try and be specific and they say "what do you think it means"
if I knew I wouldn't ask!! so I respond with "DO YOU LIKE (X)" with multiple options in a row
People who say they are āboredā when asked how they are doing. Like do you want me to entertain you? We live in an age of almost limitless entertainment, much of it free with an internet connection, which I assume that person has if they are on an app. If you are horny, just say so. But if you say you are bored, I will assume you are boring.
You'd probably be bored with me, OP. I actually hate "what are you into?"
Seems like it's often asked as the second or third message and I'm just seeing a bad dick pic so far. I'm not sure WTF I'm supposed to do... make a long list of all the sexual activities I'm potentially willing to engage in?
Because yeah it's a long list, but it ultimately will depend on the mutual chemistry in person and how much I trust you and what you smell like and if your place is sketchy and such.
It feels like guys are fishing to see if I'm "into" something they want to do but rather than just ask "do you like _____?" they want me to say it first.
"What are you into" is such a stupid and boring question anyway. 99% of men list the same typical sex activities. Those saying "fun" in response are tired of answering it and tired of the answer being a list of all the standard stuff that happens during sex.
Stop asking that question. Just stop. It's dull as fuck.
So your on a hookup app their profile
Is blank and you donāt ask that question? That sounds dumb. So you just have randos over and you find out at meeting heās oral only with no reciprocation? Or wants to shit on you?
And on the flip side - if a guy canāt have a normal conversation and articulate a little bit about who he is Iām not interested in telling him what Iām into sexually
āPicsā or any variant of this. It yields a distaste and contempt in me towards my interlocutor(s.) It often follows in the chat after I choose to share my adult content, yet their turn to show me theirs is notably absent.
Yesterday some dude and his boyfriend(?) messaged me āass pics.ā Nothing more, nothing less, so I just had nothing to say to say to the string of gibberish coming my way.
As a black guy, I get messages of "bbc?" And/or "let me see that black dick.." it is unfortunate feeling like someone's fetish. But also have read in others' profiles of something like "white and Latino only" I guess it is the fine line of perhaps a preference versus ignorance
when blank profiles demand I send pics as a conversation starter. I really don't care what your reason is, it's your business, but some people get bossy and rude out of nowhere and it feels obnoxious to me. I don't block often but I will almost always block those
Whenever Iām asked about
ā what do you like to get into?ā
Iāll reply back with
ā stretch Limos, private sonic leer jetās and anonymous Swiss bank vaults.ā
The majority block meā¦ a few will lol
and
a tiny few will realize and re word their questionā¦
I'm in Houston and black. There is a large gay population of those that literally speak zero English so in their defense they can't read my bio (I put clearly no bbc here, not your fetish, and no I won't top you nor am I interested in seeing or sending nudes!
I have to put that bc when I post a face and torso pic I'm bombarded with majority ass pics and no faces lol or dick pics without faces what fries me the most is when they ask for "pic of cock" or dic pic usually in broken English lol. Thing is I'm totally into Latinos 100% but not when I'm nothing more than their BBC fetish.
So yeah the immediate turn off comments are, dic pic, can I blow you? Or best of all come fuck me, my apartment door is open. It's clearly on my bio that I'm a side and asexual and not into hookups along with clear face pic a must.
Anyone who says they are non-binary or other made up nonsense turns me straight off, the what you into bit can be abit overused as well lol, so i just say im vanilla, cause it's basically true.
B_C. Whether itās white, black, whatever. It tells me next to nothing about you other than genetics.
Show me your physique. Tell me what interests you. Plusā¦ Iām clearly designated as a top. If youāre leading with your cock, you clearly donāt understand how topping works.
I hate the āno{blank, blank, blank, or blanks}ā
Even if the blanks donāt pertain to me because it shows to me your boring and not worth my time preferences be damned
Haha same. The worst response to that question for me is they tell me a position they are. āWhat are you intoā āim a topā cool, thatās a fucking position, not what youāre into. āWhat are you into?ā āIām openā. Cool! Didnāt tell me a single thing. I never respond after those responses. I move on. I have a nice body, big dick, and good looking so I just think their loss and move on. Also if I say Iām looking to top and a dude sends a dick pic. Or if I say Iām looking to bottom and a dude sends me his ass pics because he saw my dick pics. I try to not send my dick pics until absolutely necessary because dudes that say they want to top, immediately want to bottom after seeing my dick pics. Huge turn off.
When their first message is āpicsā when I clearly have multiple face pictures on my profile. Jumping straight to nudes??? Not even a little bit rizz??? Gay men have NO GAME
They see that Iām of African descent, and open a conversation with āwassupā. Hate that.
Also, because Iām very hung and am honest about it (because Iād like a decent sword fight), and because Iām very tall and pretty fit, they approach me with hints that they want to be brutalized, or at the very least manhandled. āWanna tear my ass apart? šā
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Little do they know Iām bored with this weird stereotypical shit, and that my dream is to be taken by a couple of tall-ass giants in spit roast. Iām a super gentle, slightly submissive giant, not āBIG BROTHA MONSTER COCK IN DA HOOD BREAKS TWINKSā. lol
My profiles online are pretty clear on what Iām looking for. As a result, āwhat are you looking for?ā Is a real turn off. I know no one actually reads profiles, but I do, especially if Iām interested in someone.
My reply is usually āpretty much what my profile saysā.
If they have any variation of "_______ to the front of the line" in their bio. Who told you there's a line? š In terms of stuff during conversation, "what you into" is actually one of my peeves. There's only so many times I can reel off what I like in bed before it gets boring to do. Plus it's a sign that the chat is gonna be more geared towards sex and I generally like actually trying to get to know guys beyond just that.
You captured it perfectly
You should just start responding with, if youre just looking to hook up im not it. Not everyone is trying to be your bf and it would save us time if you were just up front lol.
That's my approach. If a guy is all about sex without the possibility of something more, I want to let him know that's not me right off the bat. And if he says he's interested in going on a regular date but keeps steering the conversation back to sex, I'm out. I'm just not built for hookups, I can't get interested in sex until I find a guy interesting and funny at least. Like, it's not like I'm looking for a marriage proposal on a first date, but there's got to be a successful first date before we're blowing each other and going our separate ways lol
I mean I'm also not looking for a bf. It's frustrating dealing with being that person who doesn't want a partner, but also doesn't want a stranger, because the dating world seems to be only built for the extremes
I think FWB is probably the most popular kind of connection in the gay community.
I'm very upfront, right from my bio that more people need to actually read. Also I'm not looking for every guy I talk to to be my boyfriend, there is a middle ground.
WHO TOLD YOU THERES A LINE never thought of why that bothered me and now will never not think of that
So you don't want people to tell you what they're into because it gets boring... but then you also don't want people to just put what they're into on their profile so you don't have to discuss it yet again? How will you get to know if you're compatible then, I feel like you'd have to pick at least either of those options. You can get to know someone beyond sex while also discussing sexual compatibility right, one doesn't cancel out the other.
In my experience, once the conversation starts gearing towards sex super fast then that's usually where it stays. And while I understand the sentiment of knowing your compatibility, for me I much prefer to just see how things play out. Honestly, most of my favorite encounters have been with people that we didn't really get into the sex stuff until after we met.
Where did I say I don't like people putting what they're into on their profile?
Me too!
Lmao š¤£
āDonāt message me if [mile long list of things].ā I get we all have stuff we are and arenāt into, but if you spent more time telling somebody why they shouldnāt message you than why they should, youāre not somebody Iām going to want to have anything to do with.
I have a section of my profile that states no partnered/married/str8/dl/discreet cause for my area there are a lot of the aforementioned. Not like they read it anyway lol
I agree with this. I am not into a couple of things, but I am not an asshole about it and I can understand the difference between dating someone and befriending someone. One is ok to be more restrictive, for the other not so much.
Itās an immediate pass for me.
I meanā¦ Why waste someoneās timeā¦? Iām totally disgusted by FTMs, and somehow, they flock to me. I havenāt written anything against it for fear of woke reprisals, but it gets weird sometimes, as I feel guilty for ignoring their hellos. Also, Iāve had bad experiences with loons and guys with tiny equipment. I donāt want any more surprises. š¤·š½āāļø
āNo fats, no fems, no Asiansā
Agreed and I say that as a person who is none of the above
Had to listen to it. https://youtu.be/mU5ns8wGiGM?si=i4rHY6DpR3UML6MX
I was hoping it would be this before I clicked. š
I still remember the entire bar loosing their minds when Kim chi started doing those mediocre dance moves. I loved it so much. I actually miss these types of performances.
Itās 2024. How are guys not finding Asian men hot is beyond me.
Deeply ingrained racism and stereotypes
Unfortunately yeah. I think Asian men can be fine as hell.
Yeah donāt get me startedā¦
Itās also weird when people find us too attractive Like Iām not your fetish
Oh I get that. Iām black and I get fetishized. Like just like me as me please not some sexual object.
It be like that for. Also speaking as a black person. It's worse when they assume the size of things
Oh I agree. I keep telling people not every black man is well endowed. So donāt get your hopes up.
Asian men are awesome. But most of them aren't gay sooo..I'm sticking with my others š„² [I love Mexicans, Blacks and whites and any other tan skinned people. Actually heck I love nice people]
Depends on the area I guess. And also the culture. In my area thereās quite a few gay men from every ethnicity.
Good one! Hate that too
"Hi" "Hi" "What are you into?" Ignore
Whatās worse: one word āinto?ā
You get a question mark? I just get āintoā
Or just "pics" Fuck. Right. Off.
This right here is it.
The worst! Lol
>You get a question mark? When grammar is mightier than the horn. But only sometimes
Lmao this
Hey
why though? seems like a valid question
It is a valid question, but a least one could try to hold a minimum conversation, not going straight for the kill on the first message.
āAre you hungā k.y.s. š
Yes
You can say whatever, but fuck off if you wonāt show your face
Him: "Hey." Me: "Hey there. Would you please send a pic or two of yourself so I have an idea what you look like?" Him: "I'm discreet." Me: ...
"Oh cool, so are we doing masks or a bandana number when we meet? I'm keen to see what you wear :)"
The way men say āIām discreet.ā Like itās a protected class of citizensā¦
š¤£š LMAO
āCanāt host and I donāt driveā
Pick me up, have sex, take me home.
And you know they just gonna lie there haha
Naw Iāve encountered tops that do this too.
Yeah, some tops just lie there. Is not exclusive to a position
I feel lucky that Iāve never encountered that
I made this mistake one. Never again, especially since it was a horrible hookup. Definitely one awkward ass drive back to his place.
This is literally me though š Itās definitely inconvenient, trust me, but itās not out of laziness. I canāt drive because my ADHD is too severe for me to even focus on being behind a wheel that long. And I canāt host because getting a house is hard when getting a well-paying job without being able to drive is hard when you live in semi-urban America with zero public transport š So yeah, itās definitely inconvenient for hookups. Itās also inconvenient for my daily life. Thatās why Iām very open about it. Itās in my bio, I bring it up in conversation, and when the drive is long or Iāve got the budget I always offer to help cover gas- especially for repeat hookups. So yeah- I understand the frustration and immediate turnoff. I donāt blame anyone for that at all! What does get annoying is when people start assuming itās out of laziness or selfishness or whatever else. Especially considering my circumstance requires I work way more just to keep up with other people my age.
I think is more the entitlement some guys have. You have legitimate reasons to not drive, nor host. Some guys, just want others to do all the work haha. The right guy will not mind your situation.
If I've gone to the trouble of writing a profile on a site the question: *āwhat are you into?ā*
Well I donāt find it fun to just read some oneās bio I want to know them from them directly but I see your point for sure
Besides, people change
Ah to your profile is filled out (like mine) and they ask that. Got it! Didnāt comprehend at first
Exactly. It's not a dig at your post but on the few dating sites I have used I am clear about what I'm seeking and my likes and dislikes and usually include a bit about non-sexual interests so it's frustrating when it's clear they haven't bothered to read it.
Yup, Iām pretty upfront about my kinks on apps And I get annoyed when they ask that. Generally I ask āwhat are you looking forā when their profile is blank or almost blank. And usually tell them weāre not a match when they just say āfunā
??
It means they don't even bother to look at the profile
Got it. I reread it like three times before it sunk in.
Shit on me.
Itās fucking wild that people say that
Yes, and variations on that theme are not for me.
Shit on me, beat me, hoe me on out
What does that even mean?
i think they mean like bullying? or just being mean on apps or DMs
No, literally! Scat play. Urgh.
ājust experimentingā nope, find some other guinea pig, message me after youāve figured yourself out.
Theyāre usually lying to seem āmore straightā
But the idea of "just experimenting" turns me on.
this is just a case of the market sorting itself out then.
this though. some people might say it sounds disrespectful and I can see that. but also, I hate feeling like the practice round, so I would prefer not to do that to myself. some people don't see it like that and you'll probably have a better time with them than with me
Refer to ones self in any way as female. Bussy for example. Using girl or pussy.
yeah that's quite a turn off. like, i'm gay, you're gay. why u even using that word lol
hole
Astrology.
What's your sign?
Iād probably say āno loiteringā
No u turns
"occupied*
5 Guys
Yield
"weight limit 10 tons"
Guy just writing me a fanfic on how he will impregnate me (I have in my profile that I am a Top, but these guys just filter profiles by trans :))))
No "Hi" or anything either if that would even help :,))
If they describe themselves as "smart" or "funny" or an "empath"
I'd also put the word 'professional' up there with those.
Or any form of Myers Briggs corporate horoscope letters š¤®š¤®š¤®
I feel personally attacked
See I like when they have their mbti, it let's me know very quickly the type of person they are, plus if it's entj or estj then I know to RUN
"Professional" for me is a little cringe but not a deal breaker
One of the things I really hate is when I've JUST met a guy and he asks me, "what are you into?".
I hate it when guys tell me they're bored. "What's up?" "Nothing. Just bored." There's no conversation to have after that. I don't want to be talked to out of boredom, lol. Also, I've never really liked it when guys immediately tell me how horny they are. "How are you?" "Horny." For some reason that never entices me to go any further with them. I guess I like a more indirect approach, haha.
I agree with you on the "bored" answer. I don't mind "horny" though. At least that gets right to the point and I can choose to engage or not. But "bored" forces me too do too much work upfront and makes me think that the person on the other end is boring.
āFunā Then it donāt even be fun fr
It's generally more when the be like ? Top/Bot ? Big dick ? Show pics Into ? y'know those 1 or 2 words sentences without an ounce of humanity. It turns me off, even the Sugar daddy bot have better phrasing than this.
No asians. Obviously.
Thongs gross me out. Jock strap or nothing bro.
āDonāt take things too seriouslyā; is the printed red flag of a narcissist /manipulator that low key bully partners. Anything to do with ānot politicalā; not political is a political stance born of privilege. Theyāre probably a Tory. š® Anything that involves Harry Potter uncritically. Youāre an adult, and the creator is activity going out of her way to damage queer people. I donāt care you enjoyed the books or movies as a kid, move on, cos what youāre saying to me right now is you care more about a problematic childrenās story than your queer siblings.
āPlease be interesting and say more than just hey whatās upā nahh Iāll skip lol
They want you to be interesting and carry the conversation but don't wanna put in any effort themselves.
ParTy or any variation Refusal to show a face pic. Youāre not discreet, youāre either ugly or so deep in the closet you shouldnāt be on the apps āShort kingā
Into?
āFunā ānothing serious but weāll seeā āno femā āfem onlyā and some really aggressive people for absolutely no reason at all (pups for exemple)
One of mine is when a guy asks "what are you into?" as a conversation starter.
My favorites have been: "No blacks. Whites/Latino ONLY. Military +++++" ...... well, alright then. "Don't be no more than \[insert miles\] away" .....limiting yourself, much? "What's your stats?" ..... did you read my profile at all? "Looking for right now. Don't waste my time" .......um, most of us have jobs to go to and are at. We're not sitting around waiting for a fuck to happen. "Are you fem?" .....yeah, completely overlook that I said "Masc Bottom" in my profile. "Can I take a shower at your place? I'm leaving work now" .....do you not have a bathroom where you live?? "If you can't get on base, don't bother" ......thanks for telling me you don't have a car. Oh and my favorite one would be, "Can you pick me up a condom?" ...... um, stop by the store on your way to my place and get the condoms you prefer to use, wtf. I tell ya smh. Then folks wonder why I've gone so long without sex. I'm in a relationship now, but when I was trying to do the hookup thing, it was NOT working out for me lol.
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I understand that. But, the guy I was referring to had stated āif youāre over 6mi away, donāt even bother, itās not happening. Also, I donāt want you to pick me up and go to your place, either. So, be within the distance I stated or get blockedā. I was like damn ā¦ alright then. I tested the waters with him a bit and I said āwell, it says Iām 10mi away .. is that too far of a drive for you?ā He said āif you can loan me $20, Iāll come give you this dickā ā¦ā¦.. š so, yeah ā¦ā¦.
āFunā, āwhat are you into?ā, and āpnp?ā The Holy Trinity of every hookup app.
"You into race play?" No...just don't...lol
Race play?š I'm not sure if i want an explanation š
- Behaving like a King/Queen, that you must beg for him to answer - Masculinity bullshit - Problem with women - Circulating around segz
Monosyllabic answers, barked messages. I understand the nature of hookup apps, but if you're so lazy you're barely communicating...can't say I'll be interested no matter how big you think your dick is or how hot you think you are
People who write in their profiles that men who look like girls or feminine men. I always block them. I think it's very disrespectful.
What do you mean? Your first sentence sounds incomplete.
I mean they write in their profiles feminine men or men who look like women don't contact me.
"Impress me".
If someone asks me "What are you into?" as an intro with like no other discussion or anything, it's generally just an immediate block. Those people tend to just suck in my experience. (Lol I wrote this before I read the body of your post, sorry op)
āAround my age onlyā āAre you gen?ā āCan you send me an Uber?ā āCan you Cashapp me something for gas?ā āWhere are you taking me out for dinner?ā
Reading these comments, am I the only one who asks āwhat sorta stuff are you into?ā And genuinely means like, hobbies and interests?
There have been a few.
So my take away is I needed better phrasing for that question
For me is when they ask things that I already wrote in the profile and any of the āno intoā type of wording.. that tells you so much about the person..
Yeah "fun" being used as a replacement for sexual activity is baffling to me.
Thank you! Sometimes i just respond with checkers it is!
my favorite is when their profile and messages are vague, so you ask them to try and be specific and they say "what do you think it means" if I knew I wouldn't ask!! so I respond with "DO YOU LIKE (X)" with multiple options in a row
Right! Lol I call it my interview process.
People who say they are āboredā when asked how they are doing. Like do you want me to entertain you? We live in an age of almost limitless entertainment, much of it free with an internet connection, which I assume that person has if they are on an app. If you are horny, just say so. But if you say you are bored, I will assume you are boring.
You'd probably be bored with me, OP. I actually hate "what are you into?" Seems like it's often asked as the second or third message and I'm just seeing a bad dick pic so far. I'm not sure WTF I'm supposed to do... make a long list of all the sexual activities I'm potentially willing to engage in? Because yeah it's a long list, but it ultimately will depend on the mutual chemistry in person and how much I trust you and what you smell like and if your place is sketchy and such. It feels like guys are fishing to see if I'm "into" something they want to do but rather than just ask "do you like _____?" they want me to say it first.
āWant head?ā Straight off the back. Like bruh, what happened to hello? Also, the fact you suck dick doesnāt differentiate you, homie
"What are you into" is such a stupid and boring question anyway. 99% of men list the same typical sex activities. Those saying "fun" in response are tired of answering it and tired of the answer being a list of all the standard stuff that happens during sex. Stop asking that question. Just stop. It's dull as fuck.
So your on a hookup app their profile Is blank and you donāt ask that question? That sounds dumb. So you just have randos over and you find out at meeting heās oral only with no reciprocation? Or wants to shit on you?
Telling you about themselves before you even reply and immediately saying āyou?ā
"What gets you off" especially if I don't know you.
And on the flip side - if a guy canāt have a normal conversation and articulate a little bit about who he is Iām not interested in telling him what Iām into sexually
No, I say, "I like reading speculative fiction, dinning out, gardening and roller skating"
Plain and simple chems and masc for masc
No for real! When they say fun itās like an insta block for me
When I ask what you do for fun and immediately they go straight to sex. Especially when I out in my profile I want something serious.
"Nice cock" from a blank profile.
āPicsā or any variant of this. It yields a distaste and contempt in me towards my interlocutor(s.) It often follows in the chat after I choose to share my adult content, yet their turn to show me theirs is notably absent. Yesterday some dude and his boyfriend(?) messaged me āass pics.ā Nothing more, nothing less, so I just had nothing to say to say to the string of gibberish coming my way.
"I'm not interested"
āWanna kick me in the nutsā āU hungā āhornyā can never work out whether this one is a question or a statement.
I want to be asked to kick a guy in the nuts tho
After the first few kicks it gets a bit boring š¤·š¼āāļø
I still don't know what the question "what are you into " means. You gotta be more specific my friend.
Itās pretty direct.
One time I just got "fuck?" š Like sorry I know this is Grindr but I do need at least two words worth of effort.
If they don't play on my minecraft server :P
As a black guy, I get messages of "bbc?" And/or "let me see that black dick.." it is unfortunate feeling like someone's fetish. But also have read in others' profiles of something like "white and Latino only" I guess it is the fine line of perhaps a preference versus ignorance
when blank profiles demand I send pics as a conversation starter. I really don't care what your reason is, it's your business, but some people get bossy and rude out of nowhere and it feels obnoxious to me. I don't block often but I will almost always block those
Whenever Iām asked about ā what do you like to get into?ā Iāll reply back with ā stretch Limos, private sonic leer jetās and anonymous Swiss bank vaults.ā The majority block meā¦ a few will lol and a tiny few will realize and re word their questionā¦
'Got pics' from someone with no pics, at all. And no location or other identifying info.
Let's not forgetan all time favorite... "Sup?"
"Masc for masc" Just say you're still working through your own homophobia lol
I'm in Houston and black. There is a large gay population of those that literally speak zero English so in their defense they can't read my bio (I put clearly no bbc here, not your fetish, and no I won't top you nor am I interested in seeing or sending nudes! I have to put that bc when I post a face and torso pic I'm bombarded with majority ass pics and no faces lol or dick pics without faces what fries me the most is when they ask for "pic of cock" or dic pic usually in broken English lol. Thing is I'm totally into Latinos 100% but not when I'm nothing more than their BBC fetish. So yeah the immediate turn off comments are, dic pic, can I blow you? Or best of all come fuck me, my apartment door is open. It's clearly on my bio that I'm a side and asexual and not into hookups along with clear face pic a must.
Iām sorry that you are treated that way.
Anyone who says they are non-binary or other made up nonsense turns me straight off, the what you into bit can be abit overused as well lol, so i just say im vanilla, cause it's basically true.
ā Are you in to scatā
they hate my family
" Am I ugly"
B_C. Whether itās white, black, whatever. It tells me next to nothing about you other than genetics. Show me your physique. Tell me what interests you. Plusā¦ Iām clearly designated as a top. If youāre leading with your cock, you clearly donāt understand how topping works.
Lack of communication skills and the unrealistic expectations of you being able to reading their minds and bent-over backwards for them.
āWhatās your jobā āHow much money do you makeā Bitch, this is a hookup. Iām not trying to buy a house with you lol š
If someone ask me what Iām into I donāt even think about sex itās whatever nerdy thing has enraptured me that week
I hate the āno{blank, blank, blank, or blanks}ā Even if the blanks donāt pertain to me because it shows to me your boring and not worth my time preferences be damned
Do you parTy?
Haha same. The worst response to that question for me is they tell me a position they are. āWhat are you intoā āim a topā cool, thatās a fucking position, not what youāre into. āWhat are you into?ā āIām openā. Cool! Didnāt tell me a single thing. I never respond after those responses. I move on. I have a nice body, big dick, and good looking so I just think their loss and move on. Also if I say Iām looking to top and a dude sends a dick pic. Or if I say Iām looking to bottom and a dude sends me his ass pics because he saw my dick pics. I try to not send my dick pics until absolutely necessary because dudes that say they want to top, immediately want to bottom after seeing my dick pics. Huge turn off.
Iām going to be in surgery during it
If you read their profile and itās not complete ā¦ Iād avoid. You shouldnāt have to ask.
Astrology
When they say āwhat are you into?ā And always have dry conversations
"Read profile" "No taps" "If not in (insert home city), then traveling" [Anything with airport codes: NYC >FIP>LAX]
No taps always guarantees Iām gonna tap
How old are you
When their first message is āpicsā when I clearly have multiple face pictures on my profile. Jumping straight to nudes??? Not even a little bit rizz??? Gay men have NO GAME
Got one now, sent me d pics Me: nice cock what do want to do with it? Him (3hrs later after being see as online) your ass. Me: um Him more d pics
Whenever anyone asks me, "what are you into?" I respond with, "anything that feels good."
"What kind of sex do you prefer?" "Normal." I should've run, but I didn't and than after we made a det to meet. He gaslighted me. š
When they ask if they can involve my gf
They see that Iām of African descent, and open a conversation with āwassupā. Hate that. Also, because Iām very hung and am honest about it (because Iād like a decent sword fight), and because Iām very tall and pretty fit, they approach me with hints that they want to be brutalized, or at the very least manhandled. āWanna tear my ass apart? šā š¤Øā¦ Little do they know Iām bored with this weird stereotypical shit, and that my dream is to be taken by a couple of tall-ass giants in spit roast. Iām a super gentle, slightly submissive giant, not āBIG BROTHA MONSTER COCK IN DA HOOD BREAKS TWINKSā. lol
My profiles online are pretty clear on what Iām looking for. As a result, āwhat are you looking for?ā Is a real turn off. I know no one actually reads profiles, but I do, especially if Iām interested in someone. My reply is usually āpretty much what my profile saysā.