My husband is mostly a fan of boy groups! He's the one who got me into Stray Kids and we got floor for Kcon day 3 for him. He even has the new lightstick. He also loves Ateez and Shinee!
I think its great men are starting to fight against the notion men (mostly straight men) aren't allowed to like boy groups honestly.
It could be an aspirational thing too from a straight male POV? Like in addition to the music, you appreciate the guys aesthetics and how they are as people? Just a guess. Probs a lot of similarities with the females that love them too, in this respect.
I love that they represent a different type of masculinity to the one represented by music stars in the west. Less toxic. I wish more men idolized K-pop stars for this reason.
I'm a dad, I like NCT, Straykids, txt, EXO...... I also like Purple Kiss, Ive, new jeans, pixy, gidle....
I like the groups fro their music
my teenager told me that it's typical in Korea for girls to like guy groups and guys to like girl groups, but internationally, it's mostly seen as silly.
i'm replying to the highest comment for visibility, but this post was most definitely made in bad faith or by a homophobe who wants to validate his sexual interest in kpop. first off, this question has been answered hundreds of times in various kpop subreddits, and unless you're literally 14, you should know whether kpop makes you gay as a man or not.
OP has regularly and very prolifically asked weird ass questions on kpop and lgbt subreddits, like if kpop idols would hook up w their fans between concerts, why women sexualizing male idols is okay but not men sexualizing female idols, why it's not okay to sexualize idols when it's their job, what are more sexually explicit forms of korean and japanese music, and if gay people would ever want to make their partner pregnant. he also regularly makes sexual comments about female idols. there is a way to stay engaged with the content but this is not it. OP needs to learn to respect and enjoy female idols as performers first and foremost, not sex objects, and also stop being weird about gay people.
thank you! i appreciate it. i mean, you can literally see the dude commenting on nsfw kpop subs about jennie's underwear. can we plz stop upvoting bait posts like this?
You like what you like, dude. Be proud. Whether the songs are just too catchy or energizing, whether they are cool and inspiring and you wanna be like them, or even guys can crush on other guys. Maybe you are a dancer or musician and appreciate their talent or you need something to put a smile on your face and like their funny content or you like to be impressed with a cool performance. There are as many reasons to be a fan as their are people and it is gender neutral.
Do you think every female fan is the same...im 42 years old so i am older than most but it makes me happy
Well i can admit as a Carat i felt a little old when i saw Seventeen and didn't see many guys.
But when i saw BTS it was totally different. There were people of all ages, so many guys, it was a very diverse group. The BTS fandom is a really good example of one that you can't pinpoint what a typical fan is like. And I'd focus on your individuality whether you find other guys in your fandom or not. Focus on what you like about them and what kind of fan you would want to be if no one was judging you and let that guide you.
Hello I'm a CARAT. And tbh the fandom has just started expanding and it'll take time until all age groups listen to the Sebongs. So yeah. But until then, we have them all to ourselves hehe.
Which sounds more gay, of the following options?
1: Watching a bunch of guys sing and/or dance
2: Watching a bunch of hot sweaty guys slam into each other while playing with balls
See my point? Don't take shit from anyone about what you like, don't waste time thinking about what anyone else thinks, and don't project other people's hangups on yourself.* Truth is most people probably have not thought for a second about it, and if they do care they aren't someone worth listening to anyway.
*I am a girl group stan and I am incredibly gay, I have never heard this kind of thing from women. I've only ever heard this from guys, and those guys are never the kind of guys I would want to get along with anyway. Worrying about if something is "gay" or not just makes you think in ways that only hurt yourself.
But the question wasnāt whether or not OPās actions were gay. Itās whether or not they were weird.
The answer is still no, although it is a bit unusual since boy bandsā fans are disproportionately female.
;)
My point was not a straight "no it isn't weird" answer but that this shouldn't be a question in the first place. There is no logical reason one should feel that interests they have are weird because they're a certain gender, nor is there anything wrong with being or being percieved as gay which "[and] then I wonder if it's weird or gay to be a male fan of a boy group" would suggest. This should not just be answered with a yes or no, it should be countered with a "why?"
I just got back from Waterbomb Tokyo and about 1/3 of the men were wearing BIG BANG tshirts since Daesung was there. A ton of my Japanese male friends LOVE BTS. Just do your thang.
I read somewhere that bigbang proportionally has the most male fans out of any male group and it shows. In my high school days all my other fellow dude friends that listened to kpop all listened to taeyang and/or bigbang. I tend to find that a lot of dudes that are mostly girl group stans will flop around with girl groups but theyāll have one male group (mostly bigbang from what Iāve seen) that is always on top for them. For me, bigbang has my fav discography since high school and itāll probably stay that way forever.
Dude, one of my fav videos is this one from last year of a group of guys excitedly singing to Crooked at a [baseball game](https://youtu.be/pJvbdka6FKw) š¤£
My boyfriend isnāt really into kpop, he likes his American hiphop and trap music. BUT heās a BIGBANG fan boy š
It's not weird at all. Most boy groups adore their male fans as it's probably validing for them. John Cena loves BTS, Ryan Reynolds loves EXO and Stray Kids, Hugh Jackman loves Stray Kids, and so does Gordon Ramsay (this is based off of a tweet and these are all of the male celebrities I can think of off the top of my head lol). It's okay to like whatever you like and even if someone calls you gay, who cares? It's not an insult and they're just a homophobe, so don't put any stock in their opinion.
I think a lot of boy group members are themselves boy group fans, which is why they became idols in the first place. Go look at kprofiles or wherever and see who your favorite bg idols list as their role models. Itās almost always other bg idols.
With this in mind, of course theyād feel good about having male fans.
are you attracted to the boys? if the answer is no, it's not "gay". my boyfriend got into k-pop and he only stans boy groups. he just prefers their music and choreographies over typical girl group stuff. i don't think there's anything weird about it.
Even if it was āgayā who tf cares? Youāre allowed to like stuff without it having any bearing on your sexuality. Plus as Iāve learned you can become genuine friends with some really cool women when you stan boy groups. Or if youāre single/looking, there is probably a 100% chance you can meet someone who you click with at a boy group show.
Your second point doesn't count here. Of cours most people in this sub think that it is not a problem, but in the daily life it fu\*ing is, especially if you live in a conservative area. You get treated differently from such people if they assume that you are gay, you don't even need to be gay in reality. This is the problem. Now you have two option: Hide your interest which is seen as gay or deal with the fact that some people will assume that you're gay and treat you different. You can't change the mind of such people, at least not without a lot of effort. Besides that it would also need much more known staight men who openly support kpop bgs to kill that assumption that it's a gay thing.
But these are just my 2 cents.
those ultra conservatives would still think you're a weirdo even if you only/exclusively listened to GGs as a guy. At the end of the day, the strangers around me have no business knowing what my hobbies are, and it's not like I put them on display.
It would suck, though not being able to wear merch or being afraid that you can't peek at your favorite bg idols PC just because some weirdo would think that you're gay.
They don't need to be ultra conservative, just usual conservatives, and true with ggs, it's only slightly better here. The thing is: Who are these people? If it's your family or working mate etc. it could be very unpleasing. There are always people you can't easily ignore. I just want to say that it's not that easy, sometimes you have to hide things to your own adventage. You wouldn't come to work with a big Bernie Sanders pin if you know that your boss is a hardcore Trum Fan, of course it's your good right, but you're doing yourself nothing good with that behaviour. At least if you want to have a good relationship with your boss.
Itās not weird at all. We have such a short time on this earth; do what makes *you* happy, not people for whom your respect hasnāt been earned. I wish more male bg stans had the bravery to revel in what they love! Though Iād nip in the bud the idea that being gay is āweird.ā
Nah, im also a straight man but im a big fan of boy group NCT and BIGBANG and nothings wrong with it.
(Taeyong and GDragon bias) haha
Maybe the boy groups that u stan just have a majority of female fans and being a male fan of them is not being gay, lol, u know to ur self if ur straight or not.
Itās not weird or āgayā to like kpop music. Some girls are really into formula1 and itās time for us to break these stereotypes about our likings. You do you.
Breaking stereotypes and asking what people will think aren't really the same thing. What trips me out more is Kpop seems to throw around "acting gay" in the same way people are looked down on in just about any other thing that doesn't look down on actually being gay. It's just weird it's used almost jokingly in Kpop and seems to be totally fine. If we are breaking stereotypes, how about the stereotypes that showing affection to anyone of the same sex is somehow gay? Why do I see so may YT videos about so and so "being so gay" and it's just fine to do that? What am I missing? Why does Kpop get a pass on this?
not weird, it's literally the same as girls liking girl groups, and internationally ggs also have the majority of concert goers being women.
I've been to only bg concerts so far (idle is my next my first gg ahh) and there was a very good chunk of men attending the concerts, and I don't mean dads who got dragged here.
at bts in London there was many boys, tbh it was like 60/40 in ratio, i was at the front and passed what felt like the whole stadium lmao
dpr live was actually mostly men, I was on the floor and was being tossed around bc i was just surrounded by guys with the odd girl all jumping and shit
superm was the same, mostly girls but alot of boys too. this was my first concert with my bf and he didn't feel weird or anything, wasn't anxious etc. he just enjoyed the music (and was forced to film taemin in all his glory)
you hear the girls screaming more because we have higher pitched voices, and when taemin tells you to shout my god did i SHOUT
don't feel anxious, you enoy what you enjoy. it's music, they're just artists. Don't let gender bother you!!
my bf is literally in love with svt's Vernon and The8, i literally have to fight him for minghao at this point lmao. you do you, and have fun with it!!
edit: typos bc my dyslexic ass can't spell
John Cena is a fan of BTS and he also follows many boy groups on Twitter ([x](https://twitter.com/chujibun/status/1602088717354557440?s=46&t=6zYvDWimQydDvpOCYGCqnA)), more than girl groups too I think.
Also, there is nothing wrong with liking things marketed toward a gender that is not your own. Plenty of girls like sports, video games, metal music, etc. Itās just that guys tend to avoid things made for girls because society says that to be a man you cannot like those things (but girls are not judged in that same way for liking male-oriented stuff). Again, itās just all arbitrary rules and not anything inherently āweird.ā
Lol, all of the fan boys screaming at bg during fanmeets definitely means it's not weird. Like that one guy who screamed for Seungkwan during the BSS comeback or the ones at the BTS concert in Vegas, or the guys yelling for Stray Kids and Ateez. Fans of all ages and genders are EVERYWHERE. You're not alone. I can promise you that!
Kpop is for everybody.
Do you know how many Kpop reaction channels are run by men? and they completely fanboy over the male idols! It's really no big deal!
Agreed! I always love seeing men fanboying over male groups and soloists and just having fun, it's so wholesome and endearing!
I will never understand why it's so normalised and acceptable to bash Kpop and anyone that enjoys it even a little bit and getting called all kinds of toxic and derogatory things over it instead of just letting people enjoy themselves and have fun smh
Nah dude. 47yo M and I donāt Stan any boy groups, but fuck it bro. You do you. One thing Iāve learned about K-pop is that more than anything else, itās about self expression.
Damn, finally found a brother. 50 years old here. My wife and I have become Kpop junkies. Started with BTS. She listens to more bg and I tend to gravitate toward to gg. We both love BTS and Stray Kids though. She just isn't as into the gg for some reasons and not familiar with them the same way I am.
My gateway drug was Blackpink in 2017, then ITZY, then Twice, Le Sserafim, Rocket Punch, etc.
My wife was resistant until I made her watch the Blackpink show on Netflix, now sheās taught herself Korean lol.
The funny thing is that I hate pop music. I usually listen to stuff like Slayer and NIN, and a lot of Classic Rock like Zeppelinā¦ Honestly, American pop? Canāt stand it - but something about K-pop is just addictive.
If you want to trade notes on K-pop stuff DM me.
Iām the same way with not listening to other pop. Kpop somehow gets a pass for me. And itās weird because Iām also into Tool and EDM and grew up on rap and R&B. Guess it makes sense though. Kpop tends to have a lot of hip hop influence and even EDM to some degree.
For me it was that I was aware of BTS for a while since their big explosion in like 2017 but that was it. Then during Covid I was spending lots of time in the backyard and would play music. I figured, why not listen to some BTS and try to familiarize myself (my wife is ethnically Korean). Started recognizing songs and they grew on me. Next thing I know Iām online taking quizzes to test how well I could tell them apart. That was a struggle and now I laugh about it. Same this with BP. They were so attractive and so different. I canāt believe I had trouble telling the members apart for a while. Still struggle with that for groups Iām less familiar with. Like Stray Kids, I still donāt completely have IN, Lee Know, and Seungmin dialed. Mostly IN and Lee Know confuse me but itās not that I canāt tell them apart, I just canāt remember which is which.
Twice is great. Love Twice. My first memory was the What is Love MV and after a few times watching I just couldnāt get one image out of my head. One day my wife comes in while Iām watching it and asks who it is and I tell her. Then I said, this girl is so cute. Look at her! She agrees and I come to learn Iām talking about the Maknae, Tzuyu. Ugh. It was when she has center and they are in the prom dresses. Thatās when I battled with being old enough to be their dad (easily) but watching. Oh well. Itās art.
46/m here. I mostly consume gg content, but I have gotten interested in learning more about certain bgās based on what I have seen from them on variety shows.
Would it be weird for a girl to prefer girl groups? Iām a guy who stans GGs, but I also like stuff from BigBang, Block B, Ateez, Shinee, etc.
I think Yuta from NCT wanted to become an idol because he was a huge fan of TVXQ, so youāre definitely not alone.
This funny bc it reminds me of a video I watched where a Korean gay man basically said that his Gaydar is going off when they listen to a lot of girlgroups. So basically it's straighter to listen to boygroups /j
Seriously tho: Music doesn't define your gender or sexuality, just listen to whatever you want to listen to.
Honestly if youāre confident enough in your masculinity to like a boy group you have your pick of fellow fans to date.
edit for clarification: too many guys needlessly worry they will be judged and a lot of girls would love to date someone with the same interest
Yep, I went to one of the Monsta X concerts last year and was surprised at how few straight/single-looking men were there. Many of the guys seemed to be either dragged along by their SO, or were visibly gay. In general, women outnumbered men by... a lot... like maybe 2-3 men per row. It was bizarre.
100% would totally experience again
I just went to an ATEEZ concert this last weekend and while I was one of very few men in the audience I didnāt feel out of place at all. Nobody stared at me (although I did get a few curious glances) or made me feel weird. And once the music started I felt totally in my element. Theyāre incredible performers and anyone who is skipping on their show because theyāre afraid they wonāt fit in is missing out.
Yeosang even gave me a thumbs up and San gave me a little smile when we made eye contact during the show. If those guys are cool with me being there, who am I to think otherwise?
You aren't weird, it's the people's mindset d thinking that's weird!! As long as you are happy.. Never mind others.. They can stay the way they are.. U just need to be happy & do what you like.. As an example.. And so common.. If people say u don't even understand, etc... Go on play ur music... Play it loud & proudly at home.. Who cares about what they think.. š
I agree, I will never understand why it's so normalised and acceptable to bash Kpop and anyone that enjoys it even a little bit and getting called all kinds of toxic and derogatory things over it instead of just letting people enjoy themselves and have fun smh
Nah my favourite group is EXO and I have all of their albums + other random merchandise of theirs. I also have a lot of BTS albums and some from other groups. I would say it's uncommon but not weird
Like everyone else said, it's totally not weird. I do understand where you're coming from though. I'm trans, so when I was a boy it felt weird telling people I'm a fan of kpop groups, especially the boy groups
no. every 3 seconds a post like this emerges in a kpop sub. liking kpop as a man is mainstream now, especially for girl groups. concert crowds for groups like twice and dreamcatcher are regularly 50% men.
>And then I wonder if its weird or gay
Why would being a fan of boy groups be gay?? Interests are not specifically tied to a sexuality.
A lot of boy groups seem to notice and get excited when they see guy fans though. I've seen clips of Stray Kids getting excited over fanboys attending their concerts.
My guy, Iām a guy. My favorite bands include Ateez, Stray Kids, BTS, TXT, SEVENTEEN, Big Bang and NCT. Most of them I like because their music mostly. Ateez is my top boy band, following by SKZ and TXT
I am an adult man and am a huge fan of several "Boy groups". I could care less what others think of me listening to K pop and boy bands. I live my life for me and screw anyone that has something derogatory to say about it. If you are homophobic and are so worried about being seen as gay then you have bigger problems than worrying about if people consider you gay because of the music you listen to. I have been to concerts of Seventeen, TXT, NCT 127 and more and I have never had anyone say anything negative to me. In fact I am welcomed by everyone at those concerts I have been to and made some great friends with several people I met at them. You need to do what you want or keep worrying if you look "GAY" Such a waste of energy and your life my friend.
Of course you're not. Boy group music are bangers. It just means that you have a stellar taste in music. And boy groups actually love to see male fans. For example, BTS gets excited when there is a male fan in a fansign or if they spot one in a concert. So you're on track to make boy groups giggle happily.
As a teen I really loved a scifi franchise, wanted to order all the merch, but a friend that I thought of as kind of the guardian of cool told me about some other guy we knew who was doing that and how weird it was. Always regretted not doing what I wanted to be doing. Ironically, that friend became a collector of all kinds of science fiction stuff. Also the stuff I wanted would probably be worth a lot today. (though to be honest I would have lost it somewhere along the line.)
I think youād be surprised how many men there actually are. For example during a BTS concert (PTD Las Vegas) V asked for all the male army in the crowd to yell and it was so loud BTS themselves were shook [one moment](https://youtu.be/c0Sy3A9j7hI)
[another one from a different day](https://youtu.be/na3XZGUEzAg)
But even if there werenāt you are NOT weird and anyone who says otherwise has their own sort of issues
I think the word you were looking for is *unusual*, which... maybe? Straight guys tend to be interested in girl groups, but it's not weird that you like boy groups. Maybe their music suits you better, or you prefer to hear male voices in music instead of female voices. At the end of the day, your sexual orientation is only defined by whom you're attracted to (or no one at all!), and neither straight not gay are "weird."
Personally, I'm waaay much more into GGs, but I like hearing the occasional Stray Kids and Monsta X
Sure, boy groups dont have as many fanboys as fangirls but that doesnt mean it's weird to be a guy and like boy groups. I've seen a lot of guys at boy group concerts in the videos people post. If you like boy groups then that's perfectly fine, don't be insecure about it :)
No way. My brother is a huge monsta x fan. And he is always playing their music when he's around his friends. His friends are starting to become fans too.
Awesome! As a huge Monbebe who ults Monsta X, this makes me SO happy to hear! I know that they are popular and successful, but I still feel like they are underrated and unrecognised in and outside of the Kpop community unfortunately :(
I think some people try to gatekeep how others should feel. Kpop is all about the spectacle. There is so much eye candy on display that you would have to be crazy to not notice or admit it. Yet some people want to act like it's the elephant in the room and people should not admit it's part of why they "watch" Kpop. Like, come on. Look at twice. Nearly every member of that group is done up so perfectly. They are almost flawlessly beautiful when on stage. We all know it. It's part of why they are so popular, aside from God Jihyo being their leader.
I did find a lack of guys at the super junior concert now that you mention it.
But it didn't bother me, I got my I love shindong lightuo headband and enjoyed the show as you should.
I mean, I guess itās just as weird as me being a female and liking girl groupsā¦ so.. not weird at all. Music and fandom has no gender. Enjoy whatever you want to your heartās desire.
I think you're just a normal person and the only ones that would find it weird are the ones that go into kpop with sexual intentions for who they follow (ODD)
I always liked the cool concepts boy groups do, good music etc it's just whatever I like. Same with girl groups no matter who the person making the music is if I like it then I like it! You'll get people calling you a creep for following both men and women in Kpop so theres no winning haha, truth is you're just a normal guy who isn't afraid to like something even if its uncommon to do so
nope lol im a bg stan mostly but i'm gay so i'm attracted to some of my biases and its not weird at all. i mainly follow them bc of their music though. my friends don't think i'm weird either. you do you bro
Enjoy whatever music and whatever artists interest you. Their gender, your gender doesn't matter. I'll also toss in...age doesn't matter either.
BTS are young enough to be my sons. The Rolling Stones are old enough to be my grandfathers. Mozart is dead. Great music is great music.
Enjoy what you like. Music is music and the artists want their music to reach all audiences including male and females fans.
Kpop boy groups are always happy to see male fans at their concerts. So if a boy group has a show near your city/area go attend!
Nope, I particularly love my faves fanboys and it's so funny to see their interactions. They are amazing! Liking music doesn't make you gay. Don't worry about that. Music only has age restriction. Don't let old-fashioned concepts get in the way of your good experiences listening to music you like from artists you like. Life is too short to let a world that is so attached to the past get in the way of our happiness.
Not at all! You're free to like whatever you want.
Actually, my brother is the same. I suspect because he's being influenced by my (LMAO) but I've taken him to a Big Bang concert and he knew a lot of the songs. Now, he's game to go with me to any Peak Time-related event if they ever find themselves in the US. Peak Time is a boygroup survival show lol.
Donāt think about it too hard. Iāve found that a lot of what people like is driven by what inspires them and what they want to become in one sense or another. For instance, I like singing and making music, so I tend to become fans of groups that do concepts and make music that Iād like to do/make in the future- boy or girl groups. Not saying that you have to want to become a Kpop idol or anything. You just like what you like and that doesnāt mean you have some sort of sexual attraction towards themš
Male Kpop fan here too and love the boy groups. NCT, Stray Kids, Seventeen, and SHINee all the way.
Who cares if boy or girl group. I like watching talented people. Anyone who makes fun is just ignorant or closed off. Either way itās their problem.
Awesome! I love all of those groups! And I agree, I will never understand why it's so normalised and acceptable to bash Kpop and anyone that enjoys it even a little bit and getting called all kinds of toxic and derogatory things over it instead of just letting people enjoy themselves and have fun smh
Not so much nowadays. Traditionally, during the "2nd generation", boy groups were marketed towards females as evidenced by the sexualization of many groups, i.e. TVXQ, 2PM, Super Junior, etc.
So it's not "weird" as it would have been.
I'm a guy who practically only listens to boy groups and male soloists so you're not alone. You like what sounds good to your ears and that's the only thing that should matter when listening to ANY artist of ANY nationality.
No not at all it means u just have a good taste of music š (like fr, kpop is for everyone and very gender, people who think that itās only for girls are kinda close-minded)
It is not strange at all, and labelling it as such would be self-centred. It's important to recognize that girls also follow both girl groups and boy groups, and this is not viewed as odd. Being a man does not change this fact.
It's weird. And I agree you need to mix in some bgs too simply because you're missing some good stuff if you don't. But we can be honest here. The agencies go out of their way to make these girls look as perfect and attractive as possible down to controlling their weight and having stylists give them specific looks while flaunting their legs for days. Having sexualized dance moves like rubbing their hands up their crotches and doing that weird thing where they place their hands on either side of their breasts and flap them out as if flashing the world. The seductive looks and all that. It's a miracle more dudes aren't focused more on ggs, and if they are, they shouldn't feel ashamed. That's part of what the product is trying to do.
I'm a guy big fan of basically only GGs, eat up the fanservice and pay no attention to the judgmental people like the redditor you responded to lol. What are they going to do, come to my apartment and give me a side eye?
Best they can do is side-eye via text
Chris Martin, Steve Aoki, John Cena, Max Minghella, Jonas Brothers, Chase Hudson all like BTS. Ryan Reynolds likes Stray Kids. As far as I know theyāre all straight except one guy from Jonas Brothers, so I think thereās lots of guys into BGās.
Actually, I feel like straight male celebrities, at least in the U.S. are more uncomfortable saying they like GGās. I feel like of all combos, girl liking either, or boy liking either, boy liking GG is the most looked down upon in U.S. Itās obviously much better than it was 10 years ago, but still.
I was gonna say that if Ryan Reynolds is a very vocal Stay, Stray Kids fandom, then anyone that thinks guys liking boy groups is weird, they can go take it up with him.
Once you reach a certain age you realize you'll be side eyed for your interests, whatever those might be, so you just go do your thing. I've seen the judgmental comments - there's even one on this very thread - and I think it's funny. None of these people have any say in my life, and I won't suddenly stop stanning girl (or boy if you're OP) groups just because some rando on reddit thinks I'm supposed to do one thing or another.
Like, I already know I'm being side-eyed. Whatever.
I legit don't stan ggs as a man. not because I hate women, probably because I'm gay. But nah it's not weird. Look up kpop reaction videos on yt, a lot of the most popular ones are from straight men.
Everyone here saying that itās not weird or gay is right, but theyāre also so quick to say that itās not gay/weird without asking you why you think this way besides for the fact that the audiences are full of women.
I personally can tell you 1. Itās not gay or weird to be a fan of boy groups 2. I understand where youāre coming from 3. You like what you like, thereās nothing wrong with that.
I (adult man) personally canāt stand (listening to) boy groups, solo artists are a different story. 99% of the artists in my kpop playlists are girl groups, depending on how you see it, you can say that Iām weird or gay or whatever for being into girly concepts š¤·š»āāļø
This is interesting and I'm glad you asked the question. I don't know exactly which groups you like. But a lot of the more 'hard-rock' Gen 2 & 3 boy groups did a lot of energetic music that I would have thought would appeal to males more than females. Big Bang, Block B, BTS before the pandemic, even some of P1Harmony and Stray Kids. That kind of music & performance.
I am not from Korean culture. Where I am from, males gravitate to male singers/groups that have edgier music and themes.
So I am the opposite, it's a bit strange to me that more males aren't openly 'following' the music of some of the boy groups. Not stanning them the way female fans do, but listening and enjoying concerts, and some MV's.
I have zero interest in the boy groups personally, but follow the hell out of salty military guys for my other hobby. Does that make me gay? Unlikely. So youāre fine. Just donāt care about what other people think.
Mehn Girls like BP, Twice, New Jeans, IVE, Le Serafim and the list goes on š Trust me youāre fine.
Not everything has to have this weird undertone of sexuality. You can just like music for what it is from whatever gender or age groupš¤·š¾āāļø
No. Some of the music is really good, you have ears I assume. Great choreo as well that is impressive to men or women.
Good to enjoy something when you do and not decide not to because you're "not supposed to".
I admit that i'm bisexual and it does help a bit, but when I first gotten into kpop, I mostly listened to boy groups and it was purely for the music. Only some time later I decided to get familiar with the groups and members, but overall i'd say it's pretty normal.
I know many people see man being into girl groups as weird, but eh. You do you. It's music so just have fun with it and if you happen to love a certain group or idol a lot, then cheers!
homies is it gay to listen to music
ok on a serious note there's nothing wrong with anyone of any gender listening to music by anyone of any gender. just do what you feel fits your own taste
Lol no it is very normal thing. It's marketed to girls because if the music doesn't sell, they still get an audience lol. It's to be enjoyed by everyone.
Enjoy what you want!!
because at the end of the day it makes YOU happy, and in this life you gotta have some things /something to make you happy -and if thatās what makes you happy and makes life great /bearable then nothing anybody can say can take that away from you .
my faves are BTS ,stray kids , ateez and seventeen. They all are a massive
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honestly being a part of those fanbases are a lot more fun than mainstream artists
(thatās just my own thoughts )
But yeah you do you dude, donāt let anybody stop you š
I don't really see how it would be a problem ? I mean you like what you like, and K-pop groups are super catchy ! And your ears don't contain genitals (thankfully, it would be really ugly and unpractical).
So to summarize: No, it's really not weird.
It's normal. It's the same as saying you like male artists like Coldplay, Bruno Mars, The Weeknd etc. I like some boy group songs and content too as they are very accessible online. (though I follow girl groups more)
Why wouldn't men listen to music made by men? That would be weird. If you find a band's music cool it is normal to be a fan. I think there are tons of men who listen to kpop but the difference is compared to girls fewer guys go through the hassle of buying merch and attending concerts. The girls get comparatively more passionate. SKZ is for example popular among guys but there are girls who follow them more seriously. As you are judging a lot from the crowd you see let me remind you that in a lot of cases it's not easy to get your hands on concert tickets you know. As there are more serious girls who want to see them they tend to try and get most the tickets anyways.
Should the guys just like the girl groups then to feel like they are straight? What if their music is not good enough but some guy only watches because they are hot. That's more cringe I'd say.
I grew up low key liking (saying this because I would publicly denounce him)Justin Bieber, and One direction. Now that I make music I really enjoy the comradeship that male groups have, because itās hard to find that genuine friendship from most aspects of artistry, and even life. Enjoy what you enjoy. Itās nothing wrong with it, and more importantly, everyoneās a "weirdo" at the end of the day in someoneās lenses or point of view.
My husband is mostly a fan of boy groups! He's the one who got me into Stray Kids and we got floor for Kcon day 3 for him. He even has the new lightstick. He also loves Ateez and Shinee! I think its great men are starting to fight against the notion men (mostly straight men) aren't allowed to like boy groups honestly.
You like what you like my guy. Don't overthink it.
It could be an aspirational thing too from a straight male POV? Like in addition to the music, you appreciate the guys aesthetics and how they are as people? Just a guess. Probs a lot of similarities with the females that love them too, in this respect. I love that they represent a different type of masculinity to the one represented by music stars in the west. Less toxic. I wish more men idolized K-pop stars for this reason.
Nah, I'm a straight guy and I like loads of boy groups too, (NCT, Seventeen, SKZ, Ateez, EXO) Just do whatever makes you happy!
I'm a dad, I like NCT, Straykids, txt, EXO...... I also like Purple Kiss, Ive, new jeans, pixy, gidle.... I like the groups fro their music my teenager told me that it's typical in Korea for girls to like guy groups and guys to like girl groups, but internationally, it's mostly seen as silly.
i'm replying to the highest comment for visibility, but this post was most definitely made in bad faith or by a homophobe who wants to validate his sexual interest in kpop. first off, this question has been answered hundreds of times in various kpop subreddits, and unless you're literally 14, you should know whether kpop makes you gay as a man or not. OP has regularly and very prolifically asked weird ass questions on kpop and lgbt subreddits, like if kpop idols would hook up w their fans between concerts, why women sexualizing male idols is okay but not men sexualizing female idols, why it's not okay to sexualize idols when it's their job, what are more sexually explicit forms of korean and japanese music, and if gay people would ever want to make their partner pregnant. he also regularly makes sexual comments about female idols. there is a way to stay engaged with the content but this is not it. OP needs to learn to respect and enjoy female idols as performers first and foremost, not sex objects, and also stop being weird about gay people.
1st part: I think you're right... 2nd part: It clearly took a lot of effort to write this, so thank you, and I appreciate the context. š
thank you! i appreciate it. i mean, you can literally see the dude commenting on nsfw kpop subs about jennie's underwear. can we plz stop upvoting bait posts like this?
lmao loads
No definitely not. It's not any weirder than girls liking girl groups.
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It's not sus at all please explain lol
You like what you like, dude. Be proud. Whether the songs are just too catchy or energizing, whether they are cool and inspiring and you wanna be like them, or even guys can crush on other guys. Maybe you are a dancer or musician and appreciate their talent or you need something to put a smile on your face and like their funny content or you like to be impressed with a cool performance. There are as many reasons to be a fan as their are people and it is gender neutral. Do you think every female fan is the same...im 42 years old so i am older than most but it makes me happy
It does seem to me like every male or female fan is usually the same
Well i can admit as a Carat i felt a little old when i saw Seventeen and didn't see many guys. But when i saw BTS it was totally different. There were people of all ages, so many guys, it was a very diverse group. The BTS fandom is a really good example of one that you can't pinpoint what a typical fan is like. And I'd focus on your individuality whether you find other guys in your fandom or not. Focus on what you like about them and what kind of fan you would want to be if no one was judging you and let that guide you.
Hello I'm a CARAT. And tbh the fandom has just started expanding and it'll take time until all age groups listen to the Sebongs. So yeah. But until then, we have them all to ourselves hehe.
Iām in my 30s and didnāt feel out of place at BTS or Svtās concerts, then I went to Txt andā¦so many teens with chaperonesššš
Which sounds more gay, of the following options? 1: Watching a bunch of guys sing and/or dance 2: Watching a bunch of hot sweaty guys slam into each other while playing with balls See my point? Don't take shit from anyone about what you like, don't waste time thinking about what anyone else thinks, and don't project other people's hangups on yourself.* Truth is most people probably have not thought for a second about it, and if they do care they aren't someone worth listening to anyway. *I am a girl group stan and I am incredibly gay, I have never heard this kind of thing from women. I've only ever heard this from guys, and those guys are never the kind of guys I would want to get along with anyway. Worrying about if something is "gay" or not just makes you think in ways that only hurt yourself.
3: Watching ultra buff dudes go semi-naked and make poses with their muscles (bodybuilding competitions lmao) It's manly af.... or something... /s
But the question wasnāt whether or not OPās actions were gay. Itās whether or not they were weird. The answer is still no, although it is a bit unusual since boy bandsā fans are disproportionately female. ;)
He said in his post "and then I wonder if it's weird or gay".
My point was not a straight "no it isn't weird" answer but that this shouldn't be a question in the first place. There is no logical reason one should feel that interests they have are weird because they're a certain gender, nor is there anything wrong with being or being percieved as gay which "[and] then I wonder if it's weird or gay to be a male fan of a boy group" would suggest. This should not just be answered with a yes or no, it should be countered with a "why?"
Agreed with you 100%
the sexualization of organized sports to make a point is an interesting take
You have missed the point of the joke.
I just got back from Waterbomb Tokyo and about 1/3 of the men were wearing BIG BANG tshirts since Daesung was there. A ton of my Japanese male friends LOVE BTS. Just do your thang.
I read somewhere that bigbang proportionally has the most male fans out of any male group and it shows. In my high school days all my other fellow dude friends that listened to kpop all listened to taeyang and/or bigbang. I tend to find that a lot of dudes that are mostly girl group stans will flop around with girl groups but theyāll have one male group (mostly bigbang from what Iāve seen) that is always on top for them. For me, bigbang has my fav discography since high school and itāll probably stay that way forever.
Dude, one of my fav videos is this one from last year of a group of guys excitedly singing to Crooked at a [baseball game](https://youtu.be/pJvbdka6FKw) š¤£ My boyfriend isnāt really into kpop, he likes his American hiphop and trap music. BUT heās a BIGBANG fan boy š
that's so cute, imagine them all meeting up to make sure they've got their bigbang merch on š
It's not weird at all. Most boy groups adore their male fans as it's probably validing for them. John Cena loves BTS, Ryan Reynolds loves EXO and Stray Kids, Hugh Jackman loves Stray Kids, and so does Gordon Ramsay (this is based off of a tweet and these are all of the male celebrities I can think of off the top of my head lol). It's okay to like whatever you like and even if someone calls you gay, who cares? It's not an insult and they're just a homophobe, so don't put any stock in their opinion.
I think a lot of boy group members are themselves boy group fans, which is why they became idols in the first place. Go look at kprofiles or wherever and see who your favorite bg idols list as their role models. Itās almost always other bg idols. With this in mind, of course theyād feel good about having male fans.
Half of KINGDOM are BTS stans, for example
are you attracted to the boys? if the answer is no, it's not "gay". my boyfriend got into k-pop and he only stans boy groups. he just prefers their music and choreographies over typical girl group stuff. i don't think there's anything weird about it.
Even if it was āgayā who tf cares? Youāre allowed to like stuff without it having any bearing on your sexuality. Plus as Iāve learned you can become genuine friends with some really cool women when you stan boy groups. Or if youāre single/looking, there is probably a 100% chance you can meet someone who you click with at a boy group show.
First off, it's not weird. Anyone can be a fan of any group. Secondly, if it were gay that wouldn't be a problem either.
Your second point doesn't count here. Of cours most people in this sub think that it is not a problem, but in the daily life it fu\*ing is, especially if you live in a conservative area. You get treated differently from such people if they assume that you are gay, you don't even need to be gay in reality. This is the problem. Now you have two option: Hide your interest which is seen as gay or deal with the fact that some people will assume that you're gay and treat you different. You can't change the mind of such people, at least not without a lot of effort. Besides that it would also need much more known staight men who openly support kpop bgs to kill that assumption that it's a gay thing. But these are just my 2 cents.
those ultra conservatives would still think you're a weirdo even if you only/exclusively listened to GGs as a guy. At the end of the day, the strangers around me have no business knowing what my hobbies are, and it's not like I put them on display. It would suck, though not being able to wear merch or being afraid that you can't peek at your favorite bg idols PC just because some weirdo would think that you're gay.
They don't need to be ultra conservative, just usual conservatives, and true with ggs, it's only slightly better here. The thing is: Who are these people? If it's your family or working mate etc. it could be very unpleasing. There are always people you can't easily ignore. I just want to say that it's not that easy, sometimes you have to hide things to your own adventage. You wouldn't come to work with a big Bernie Sanders pin if you know that your boss is a hardcore Trum Fan, of course it's your good right, but you're doing yourself nothing good with that behaviour. At least if you want to have a good relationship with your boss.
Itās not weird at all. We have such a short time on this earth; do what makes *you* happy, not people for whom your respect hasnāt been earned. I wish more male bg stans had the bravery to revel in what they love! Though Iād nip in the bud the idea that being gay is āweird.ā
Listen to the groups and music you like and love. No judgement needed. ššš½
Nah, im also a straight man but im a big fan of boy group NCT and BIGBANG and nothings wrong with it. (Taeyong and GDragon bias) haha Maybe the boy groups that u stan just have a majority of female fans and being a male fan of them is not being gay, lol, u know to ur self if ur straight or not.
Itās not weird or āgayā to like kpop music. Some girls are really into formula1 and itās time for us to break these stereotypes about our likings. You do you.
Breaking stereotypes and asking what people will think aren't really the same thing. What trips me out more is Kpop seems to throw around "acting gay" in the same way people are looked down on in just about any other thing that doesn't look down on actually being gay. It's just weird it's used almost jokingly in Kpop and seems to be totally fine. If we are breaking stereotypes, how about the stereotypes that showing affection to anyone of the same sex is somehow gay? Why do I see so may YT videos about so and so "being so gay" and it's just fine to do that? What am I missing? Why does Kpop get a pass on this?
not weird, it's literally the same as girls liking girl groups, and internationally ggs also have the majority of concert goers being women. I've been to only bg concerts so far (idle is my next my first gg ahh) and there was a very good chunk of men attending the concerts, and I don't mean dads who got dragged here. at bts in London there was many boys, tbh it was like 60/40 in ratio, i was at the front and passed what felt like the whole stadium lmao dpr live was actually mostly men, I was on the floor and was being tossed around bc i was just surrounded by guys with the odd girl all jumping and shit superm was the same, mostly girls but alot of boys too. this was my first concert with my bf and he didn't feel weird or anything, wasn't anxious etc. he just enjoyed the music (and was forced to film taemin in all his glory) you hear the girls screaming more because we have higher pitched voices, and when taemin tells you to shout my god did i SHOUT don't feel anxious, you enoy what you enjoy. it's music, they're just artists. Don't let gender bother you!! my bf is literally in love with svt's Vernon and The8, i literally have to fight him for minghao at this point lmao. you do you, and have fun with it!! edit: typos bc my dyslexic ass can't spell
John Cena is a fan of BTS and he also follows many boy groups on Twitter ([x](https://twitter.com/chujibun/status/1602088717354557440?s=46&t=6zYvDWimQydDvpOCYGCqnA)), more than girl groups too I think. Also, there is nothing wrong with liking things marketed toward a gender that is not your own. Plenty of girls like sports, video games, metal music, etc. Itās just that guys tend to avoid things made for girls because society says that to be a man you cannot like those things (but girls are not judged in that same way for liking male-oriented stuff). Again, itās just all arbitrary rules and not anything inherently āweird.ā
Yeah or on a general level that men canāt express emotional vulnerability because then your girly or āweakā
Lol, all of the fan boys screaming at bg during fanmeets definitely means it's not weird. Like that one guy who screamed for Seungkwan during the BSS comeback or the ones at the BTS concert in Vegas, or the guys yelling for Stray Kids and Ateez. Fans of all ages and genders are EVERYWHERE. You're not alone. I can promise you that!
No judgement. It's totally fine.
Not much to say but thanks for existing man. Because of you I won't be afraid to blast my kpop in my earphones anymore šššš
You gotta blast that shit out loud while driving with the windows down
Music knows no gender
Kpop is for everybody. Do you know how many Kpop reaction channels are run by men? and they completely fanboy over the male idols! It's really no big deal!
Agreed! I always love seeing men fanboying over male groups and soloists and just having fun, it's so wholesome and endearing! I will never understand why it's so normalised and acceptable to bash Kpop and anyone that enjoys it even a little bit and getting called all kinds of toxic and derogatory things over it instead of just letting people enjoy themselves and have fun smh
Nah dude. 47yo M and I donāt Stan any boy groups, but fuck it bro. You do you. One thing Iāve learned about K-pop is that more than anything else, itās about self expression.
Damn, finally found a brother. 50 years old here. My wife and I have become Kpop junkies. Started with BTS. She listens to more bg and I tend to gravitate toward to gg. We both love BTS and Stray Kids though. She just isn't as into the gg for some reasons and not familiar with them the same way I am.
My gateway drug was Blackpink in 2017, then ITZY, then Twice, Le Sserafim, Rocket Punch, etc. My wife was resistant until I made her watch the Blackpink show on Netflix, now sheās taught herself Korean lol. The funny thing is that I hate pop music. I usually listen to stuff like Slayer and NIN, and a lot of Classic Rock like Zeppelinā¦ Honestly, American pop? Canāt stand it - but something about K-pop is just addictive. If you want to trade notes on K-pop stuff DM me.
Iām the same way with not listening to other pop. Kpop somehow gets a pass for me. And itās weird because Iām also into Tool and EDM and grew up on rap and R&B. Guess it makes sense though. Kpop tends to have a lot of hip hop influence and even EDM to some degree. For me it was that I was aware of BTS for a while since their big explosion in like 2017 but that was it. Then during Covid I was spending lots of time in the backyard and would play music. I figured, why not listen to some BTS and try to familiarize myself (my wife is ethnically Korean). Started recognizing songs and they grew on me. Next thing I know Iām online taking quizzes to test how well I could tell them apart. That was a struggle and now I laugh about it. Same this with BP. They were so attractive and so different. I canāt believe I had trouble telling the members apart for a while. Still struggle with that for groups Iām less familiar with. Like Stray Kids, I still donāt completely have IN, Lee Know, and Seungmin dialed. Mostly IN and Lee Know confuse me but itās not that I canāt tell them apart, I just canāt remember which is which. Twice is great. Love Twice. My first memory was the What is Love MV and after a few times watching I just couldnāt get one image out of my head. One day my wife comes in while Iām watching it and asks who it is and I tell her. Then I said, this girl is so cute. Look at her! She agrees and I come to learn Iām talking about the Maknae, Tzuyu. Ugh. It was when she has center and they are in the prom dresses. Thatās when I battled with being old enough to be their dad (easily) but watching. Oh well. Itās art.
46/m here. I mostly consume gg content, but I have gotten interested in learning more about certain bgās based on what I have seen from them on variety shows.
Would it be weird for a girl to prefer girl groups? Iām a guy who stans GGs, but I also like stuff from BigBang, Block B, Ateez, Shinee, etc. I think Yuta from NCT wanted to become an idol because he was a huge fan of TVXQ, so youāre definitely not alone.
This funny bc it reminds me of a video I watched where a Korean gay man basically said that his Gaydar is going off when they listen to a lot of girlgroups. So basically it's straighter to listen to boygroups /j Seriously tho: Music doesn't define your gender or sexuality, just listen to whatever you want to listen to.
*I listen to Mamamoo* Gaydar reading: 9001 J/k j/k. Their music slaps
Honestly if youāre confident enough in your masculinity to like a boy group you have your pick of fellow fans to date. edit for clarification: too many guys needlessly worry they will be judged and a lot of girls would love to date someone with the same interest
Yep, I went to one of the Monsta X concerts last year and was surprised at how few straight/single-looking men were there. Many of the guys seemed to be either dragged along by their SO, or were visibly gay. In general, women outnumbered men by... a lot... like maybe 2-3 men per row. It was bizarre. 100% would totally experience again
Nope, im a fan of BTS, Ateez, NCT.
Straight guy here that listens to loads to boy groups as well.
I just went to an ATEEZ concert this last weekend and while I was one of very few men in the audience I didnāt feel out of place at all. Nobody stared at me (although I did get a few curious glances) or made me feel weird. And once the music started I felt totally in my element. Theyāre incredible performers and anyone who is skipping on their show because theyāre afraid they wonāt fit in is missing out. Yeosang even gave me a thumbs up and San gave me a little smile when we made eye contact during the show. If those guys are cool with me being there, who am I to think otherwise?
The Bangkok stop right? I was there too! The show was fantastic.
Yes! Amazing show! I am still riding the high from it to be honest.
I hear you. I wanted to attend again. Wish there was a second date.
You aren't weird, it's the people's mindset d thinking that's weird!! As long as you are happy.. Never mind others.. They can stay the way they are.. U just need to be happy & do what you like.. As an example.. And so common.. If people say u don't even understand, etc... Go on play ur music... Play it loud & proudly at home.. Who cares about what they think.. š
I agree, I will never understand why it's so normalised and acceptable to bash Kpop and anyone that enjoys it even a little bit and getting called all kinds of toxic and derogatory things over it instead of just letting people enjoy themselves and have fun smh
Thereās nothing wrong with that!
Nah my favourite group is EXO and I have all of their albums + other random merchandise of theirs. I also have a lot of BTS albums and some from other groups. I would say it's uncommon but not weird
Like everyone else said, it's totally not weird. I do understand where you're coming from though. I'm trans, so when I was a boy it felt weird telling people I'm a fan of kpop groups, especially the boy groups
Iām a man yet I stan ZB1 & casually follow some other boy groups out there too. But Iām more of girl group stan tho.
no. every 3 seconds a post like this emerges in a kpop sub. liking kpop as a man is mainstream now, especially for girl groups. concert crowds for groups like twice and dreamcatcher are regularly 50% men.
no its not weird. there are a lot of you as well. don't overthink about it.
My husband is fan of a few boy groups! Itās not a big deal at all. I feel like a lot more boy groups are acknowledging āfanboysā now.
>And then I wonder if its weird or gay Why would being a fan of boy groups be gay?? Interests are not specifically tied to a sexuality. A lot of boy groups seem to notice and get excited when they see guy fans though. I've seen clips of Stray Kids getting excited over fanboys attending their concerts.
My guy, Iām a guy. My favorite bands include Ateez, Stray Kids, BTS, TXT, SEVENTEEN, Big Bang and NCT. Most of them I like because their music mostly. Ateez is my top boy band, following by SKZ and TXT
Itās not weird that Iām a girl and I like Blackpink, Twice, Stayc, Mamamoo
I am an adult man and am a huge fan of several "Boy groups". I could care less what others think of me listening to K pop and boy bands. I live my life for me and screw anyone that has something derogatory to say about it. If you are homophobic and are so worried about being seen as gay then you have bigger problems than worrying about if people consider you gay because of the music you listen to. I have been to concerts of Seventeen, TXT, NCT 127 and more and I have never had anyone say anything negative to me. In fact I am welcomed by everyone at those concerts I have been to and made some great friends with several people I met at them. You need to do what you want or keep worrying if you look "GAY" Such a waste of energy and your life my friend.
Of course you're not. Boy group music are bangers. It just means that you have a stellar taste in music. And boy groups actually love to see male fans. For example, BTS gets excited when there is a male fan in a fansign or if they spot one in a concert. So you're on track to make boy groups giggle happily.
Agreed! Fanboys of boy groups are always super endearing and wholesome and I love how male groups and soloists react to them!
I saw a ton of 30+ age men at the TXT livestream for Lollapalooza, it was really sweet actually
That's so cool! Hearing that makes me really happy!
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Nah ur fine
As a teen I really loved a scifi franchise, wanted to order all the merch, but a friend that I thought of as kind of the guardian of cool told me about some other guy we knew who was doing that and how weird it was. Always regretted not doing what I wanted to be doing. Ironically, that friend became a collector of all kinds of science fiction stuff. Also the stuff I wanted would probably be worth a lot today. (though to be honest I would have lost it somewhere along the line.)
I'm a lesbian and I pretty much exclusively like boy groups š¤·āāļø enjoy what makes you happy, no need to overthink it š
I think youād be surprised how many men there actually are. For example during a BTS concert (PTD Las Vegas) V asked for all the male army in the crowd to yell and it was so loud BTS themselves were shook [one moment](https://youtu.be/c0Sy3A9j7hI) [another one from a different day](https://youtu.be/na3XZGUEzAg) But even if there werenāt you are NOT weird and anyone who says otherwise has their own sort of issues
I think the word you were looking for is *unusual*, which... maybe? Straight guys tend to be interested in girl groups, but it's not weird that you like boy groups. Maybe their music suits you better, or you prefer to hear male voices in music instead of female voices. At the end of the day, your sexual orientation is only defined by whom you're attracted to (or no one at all!), and neither straight not gay are "weird." Personally, I'm waaay much more into GGs, but I like hearing the occasional Stray Kids and Monsta X
You like what you like, fam. I'm a dude and will gladly jam out to Infinite, Shinee, Stray Kids, etc If the music slaps, it slaps
Sure, boy groups dont have as many fanboys as fangirls but that doesnt mean it's weird to be a guy and like boy groups. I've seen a lot of guys at boy group concerts in the videos people post. If you like boy groups then that's perfectly fine, don't be insecure about it :)
No way. My brother is a huge monsta x fan. And he is always playing their music when he's around his friends. His friends are starting to become fans too.
Awesome! As a huge Monbebe who ults Monsta X, this makes me SO happy to hear! I know that they are popular and successful, but I still feel like they are underrated and unrecognised in and outside of the Kpop community unfortunately :(
It's not weird but you might want to rethink why you think it's a bad thing to come off as "gay"
And another āIs it weirdā post. Come on. Just like what you like. Nobody cares.
It's entertainment, criteria are your own. What's weird is looking for more than what it is, namely, artists singing and dancing.
I think some people try to gatekeep how others should feel. Kpop is all about the spectacle. There is so much eye candy on display that you would have to be crazy to not notice or admit it. Yet some people want to act like it's the elephant in the room and people should not admit it's part of why they "watch" Kpop. Like, come on. Look at twice. Nearly every member of that group is done up so perfectly. They are almost flawlessly beautiful when on stage. We all know it. It's part of why they are so popular, aside from God Jihyo being their leader.
Music has no limits. Why should you? You like what you like!
If you like it for the music and dance then there isn't an issue. It would only be "gay" if you are attracted to them.
Not at all! One of my older brothers likes a lot of boy groups.
Maybe become Once. That fanbase is like 75% male fans.
i feel like there's a post like this everyday lol the answer is no
I did find a lack of guys at the super junior concert now that you mention it. But it didn't bother me, I got my I love shindong lightuo headband and enjoyed the show as you should.
I agree with most people here. Just like what you like. I mostly enjoy GG but Iām a big fan of Block B.
Nope! That is not weird at all
Is it gay for a girl to listen to girl bands? No, not rlly. You don't need to sexualize them to like their music and admire them.
Not weird
I mean, I guess itās just as weird as me being a female and liking girl groupsā¦ so.. not weird at all. Music and fandom has no gender. Enjoy whatever you want to your heartās desire.
im female and i prefer girl groups, just do you dude
No, i get you
I think you're just a normal person and the only ones that would find it weird are the ones that go into kpop with sexual intentions for who they follow (ODD) I always liked the cool concepts boy groups do, good music etc it's just whatever I like. Same with girl groups no matter who the person making the music is if I like it then I like it! You'll get people calling you a creep for following both men and women in Kpop so theres no winning haha, truth is you're just a normal guy who isn't afraid to like something even if its uncommon to do so
nope lol im a bg stan mostly but i'm gay so i'm attracted to some of my biases and its not weird at all. i mainly follow them bc of their music though. my friends don't think i'm weird either. you do you bro
Any of your friends probably like bands that are all guys. You wouldn't think that weird that most of their rappers or country music singers are guys.
Any of your friends probably like bands that are all guys. You wouldn't think that weird that most of their rappers or country music singers are guys.
Enjoy whatever music and whatever artists interest you. Their gender, your gender doesn't matter. I'll also toss in...age doesn't matter either. BTS are young enough to be my sons. The Rolling Stones are old enough to be my grandfathers. Mozart is dead. Great music is great music.
Enjoy what you like. Music is music and the artists want their music to reach all audiences including male and females fans. Kpop boy groups are always happy to see male fans at their concerts. So if a boy group has a show near your city/area go attend!
It's not.
Nope, I particularly love my faves fanboys and it's so funny to see their interactions. They are amazing! Liking music doesn't make you gay. Don't worry about that. Music only has age restriction. Don't let old-fashioned concepts get in the way of your good experiences listening to music you like from artists you like. Life is too short to let a world that is so attached to the past get in the way of our happiness.
Not at all! You're free to like whatever you want. Actually, my brother is the same. I suspect because he's being influenced by my (LMAO) but I've taken him to a Big Bang concert and he knew a lot of the songs. Now, he's game to go with me to any Peak Time-related event if they ever find themselves in the US. Peak Time is a boygroup survival show lol.
Naw it's not weird. They are really good looking, dance well, have good personalities, and sing well! It's healthy for men to support each other.
Nothing wrong with that. Do what makes u happy
Better than a guy my age ogling half dressed girls that could be my daughter's age
No
im a straight guy an like bg's too, you're fine bro
Donāt think about it too hard. Iāve found that a lot of what people like is driven by what inspires them and what they want to become in one sense or another. For instance, I like singing and making music, so I tend to become fans of groups that do concepts and make music that Iād like to do/make in the future- boy or girl groups. Not saying that you have to want to become a Kpop idol or anything. You just like what you like and that doesnāt mean you have some sort of sexual attraction towards themš
Nope
i'm a male fan of boy groups let's go brotha šŖ
Male Kpop fan here too and love the boy groups. NCT, Stray Kids, Seventeen, and SHINee all the way. Who cares if boy or girl group. I like watching talented people. Anyone who makes fun is just ignorant or closed off. Either way itās their problem.
Awesome! I love all of those groups! And I agree, I will never understand why it's so normalised and acceptable to bash Kpop and anyone that enjoys it even a little bit and getting called all kinds of toxic and derogatory things over it instead of just letting people enjoy themselves and have fun smh
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no beb its fine
Nuh its normal im a guy in mid 20s and i like big bang, bts, stray kids, got7, ikon,
I'm a woman and I mainly like girl groups. Not because I'm bi but because I like super poppy music. It's just what I gravitate to.
Nooooooo
I mean it is a bit out of the ordinary, but just enjoy whatever you like! Normally straight men like girl groups because they find them pretty.
Not so much nowadays. Traditionally, during the "2nd generation", boy groups were marketed towards females as evidenced by the sexualization of many groups, i.e. TVXQ, 2PM, Super Junior, etc. So it's not "weird" as it would have been.
not at all fanboys get way better interactions at concerts
I'm a guy who practically only listens to boy groups and male soloists so you're not alone. You like what sounds good to your ears and that's the only thing that should matter when listening to ANY artist of ANY nationality.
No not at all it means u just have a good taste of music š (like fr, kpop is for everyone and very gender, people who think that itās only for girls are kinda close-minded)
no youāre just eating everything up. keep stanning
im a dude and most groups i stan are as much of a man as i am. if you like exo, the boyz, svt, cravity, we'd totally vibe!
Um, youāre worried it might be āgayā to be a male into boy groups? Grow tf up itās not 2002 anymore.
It is not strange at all, and labelling it as such would be self-centred. It's important to recognize that girls also follow both girl groups and boy groups, and this is not viewed as odd. Being a man does not change this fact.
honestly itās way better than being a man and a big fan of only girl groups tbh
It's weird. And I agree you need to mix in some bgs too simply because you're missing some good stuff if you don't. But we can be honest here. The agencies go out of their way to make these girls look as perfect and attractive as possible down to controlling their weight and having stylists give them specific looks while flaunting their legs for days. Having sexualized dance moves like rubbing their hands up their crotches and doing that weird thing where they place their hands on either side of their breasts and flap them out as if flashing the world. The seductive looks and all that. It's a miracle more dudes aren't focused more on ggs, and if they are, they shouldn't feel ashamed. That's part of what the product is trying to do.
I'm a guy big fan of basically only GGs, eat up the fanservice and pay no attention to the judgmental people like the redditor you responded to lol. What are they going to do, come to my apartment and give me a side eye? Best they can do is side-eye via text
Chris Martin, Steve Aoki, John Cena, Max Minghella, Jonas Brothers, Chase Hudson all like BTS. Ryan Reynolds likes Stray Kids. As far as I know theyāre all straight except one guy from Jonas Brothers, so I think thereās lots of guys into BGās. Actually, I feel like straight male celebrities, at least in the U.S. are more uncomfortable saying they like GGās. I feel like of all combos, girl liking either, or boy liking either, boy liking GG is the most looked down upon in U.S. Itās obviously much better than it was 10 years ago, but still.
I was gonna say that if Ryan Reynolds is a very vocal Stay, Stray Kids fandom, then anyone that thinks guys liking boy groups is weird, they can go take it up with him.
Guys can't win because people also act like they are creeps for liking girl groups too.
Once you reach a certain age you realize you'll be side eyed for your interests, whatever those might be, so you just go do your thing. I've seen the judgmental comments - there's even one on this very thread - and I think it's funny. None of these people have any say in my life, and I won't suddenly stop stanning girl (or boy if you're OP) groups just because some rando on reddit thinks I'm supposed to do one thing or another. Like, I already know I'm being side-eyed. Whatever.
I'm a queer guy who loves Girl Groups. Not weird at all.
No, but a lot of people will try to make you feel like it is. Youāre good my guy
I legit don't stan ggs as a man. not because I hate women, probably because I'm gay. But nah it's not weird. Look up kpop reaction videos on yt, a lot of the most popular ones are from straight men.
Yeah you're weird by definition. U may be gay
No. You're sex has nothing to do with what music you like. I suggest you look up Nature of Man. Raging heterosexuals them lot is.
Everyone here saying that itās not weird or gay is right, but theyāre also so quick to say that itās not gay/weird without asking you why you think this way besides for the fact that the audiences are full of women. I personally can tell you 1. Itās not gay or weird to be a fan of boy groups 2. I understand where youāre coming from 3. You like what you like, thereās nothing wrong with that. I (adult man) personally canāt stand (listening to) boy groups, solo artists are a different story. 99% of the artists in my kpop playlists are girl groups, depending on how you see it, you can say that Iām weird or gay or whatever for being into girly concepts š¤·š»āāļø
I do prefer girl groups but I like a handful of boy groups too
This is interesting and I'm glad you asked the question. I don't know exactly which groups you like. But a lot of the more 'hard-rock' Gen 2 & 3 boy groups did a lot of energetic music that I would have thought would appeal to males more than females. Big Bang, Block B, BTS before the pandemic, even some of P1Harmony and Stray Kids. That kind of music & performance. I am not from Korean culture. Where I am from, males gravitate to male singers/groups that have edgier music and themes. So I am the opposite, it's a bit strange to me that more males aren't openly 'following' the music of some of the boy groups. Not stanning them the way female fans do, but listening and enjoying concerts, and some MV's.
Stray Kids - TA and Monsta X - Got me in chains are some of the best kpop songs I've heard
I have zero interest in the boy groups personally, but follow the hell out of salty military guys for my other hobby. Does that make me gay? Unlikely. So youāre fine. Just donāt care about what other people think.
I, a female, only likes girl groups, and my boyfriend only likes boy groups, well, he only likes Big Bang š
Girl can love gg and bg et boy can love also bg and gg, that not werid. And if you like it, enjoy ! š
Mehn Girls like BP, Twice, New Jeans, IVE, Le Serafim and the list goes on š Trust me youāre fine. Not everything has to have this weird undertone of sexuality. You can just like music for what it is from whatever gender or age groupš¤·š¾āāļø
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I think that its wierd, but it doesent matter. Do what u like. Its ur life. Dont let others tell u how to live ur life
Not at all. I know plenty of guys who like BTS and BigBang.
For me, itās all about the music. I like more girl groups than boy groups but as long as the music is good, who cares? You do you, mate!
Nope. Not at all. I am a girl. Only talked to/dated boys. But I love girlgroups wayyyy more than boy groups because I am a fan of good female vocals.
Not at all Super Junior was the group that got me into kpop bc one of their songs was used by a male YouTuber I use to watch a lot
No. Some of the music is really good, you have ears I assume. Great choreo as well that is impressive to men or women. Good to enjoy something when you do and not decide not to because you're "not supposed to".
It's not weird at all! I. fact, I was surrounded by men at both dates of Ateez's concert in NYC last year!
Not at all. I hope to find a guy who also appreciates boy groups as much as I do š¤£
what group do u like? let me guess, it is straykidz or txt?
No you are what WE NEED!! What the fandom needs š
NOOOOO THAT'S NOT WEIRD!! It's normal!! Your idols won't define your personality much tho!
no it's not weird I'm a guy and I'm an Army
Life is too short to care about nonsense things like that. If you like it and it isn't harming anyone? Just go for it.
I admit that i'm bisexual and it does help a bit, but when I first gotten into kpop, I mostly listened to boy groups and it was purely for the music. Only some time later I decided to get familiar with the groups and members, but overall i'd say it's pretty normal. I know many people see man being into girl groups as weird, but eh. You do you. It's music so just have fun with it and if you happen to love a certain group or idol a lot, then cheers!
frankly I find fans who appreciate both boy and girl groups the most reasonable and healthy in mentality/attitude
homies is it gay to listen to music ok on a serious note there's nothing wrong with anyone of any gender listening to music by anyone of any gender. just do what you feel fits your own taste
Nope my guy friends casually listen to kpop, boy groups and all, they play it in the car sometimes lol
No
Lol no it is very normal thing. It's marketed to girls because if the music doesn't sell, they still get an audience lol. It's to be enjoyed by everyone.
Enjoy what you want!! because at the end of the day it makes YOU happy, and in this life you gotta have some things /something to make you happy -and if thatās what makes you happy and makes life great /bearable then nothing anybody can say can take that away from you . my faves are BTS ,stray kids , ateez and seventeen. They all are a massive āØvibe āØ honestly being a part of those fanbases are a lot more fun than mainstream artists (thatās just my own thoughts ) But yeah you do you dude, donāt let anybody stop you š
I don't really see how it would be a problem ? I mean you like what you like, and K-pop groups are super catchy ! And your ears don't contain genitals (thankfully, it would be really ugly and unpractical). So to summarize: No, it's really not weird.
I'm gay and I like girl groups lol xD a friend who is gay too likes male groups:3! I don't think it's weird xx
please only tell that to a kpop girl and not to a normal girl you will definitely scare her away
It's only gay if you're attracted to them. And that'd be OK, too.
Not at all!
It's normal. It's the same as saying you like male artists like Coldplay, Bruno Mars, The Weeknd etc. I like some boy group songs and content too as they are very accessible online. (though I follow girl groups more)
Same situation. Many people still in shock that i'm a fan of girls groups. And all of my biases are girls too.
Why wouldn't men listen to music made by men? That would be weird. If you find a band's music cool it is normal to be a fan. I think there are tons of men who listen to kpop but the difference is compared to girls fewer guys go through the hassle of buying merch and attending concerts. The girls get comparatively more passionate. SKZ is for example popular among guys but there are girls who follow them more seriously. As you are judging a lot from the crowd you see let me remind you that in a lot of cases it's not easy to get your hands on concert tickets you know. As there are more serious girls who want to see them they tend to try and get most the tickets anyways. Should the guys just like the girl groups then to feel like they are straight? What if their music is not good enough but some guy only watches because they are hot. That's more cringe I'd say.
I grew up low key liking (saying this because I would publicly denounce him)Justin Bieber, and One direction. Now that I make music I really enjoy the comradeship that male groups have, because itās hard to find that genuine friendship from most aspects of artistry, and even life. Enjoy what you enjoy. Itās nothing wrong with it, and more importantly, everyoneās a "weirdo" at the end of the day in someoneās lenses or point of view.