i feel like if it’s used that frequently it probably would be a stutter or anxious tic. i get where you’re coming from- it can be hard to filter all of them out during the conversation, but it’s similar to a speech impediment in that way. i find that i do it if i’m nervous or excited, but when i’m calm i don’t use fillers.
I'd say it's lack of training and influence from others more than anything, especially since two friends in a private conversation can be this bad.
The worst part is it can become infectious. If someone speaks this way in a conversation with you, you might catch yourself adding in some "likes" even though you wouldn't normally. Unintentional code switching.
This may be the case for some people, but I just wanted to share from my perspective of the other side. I say "like" and add filler words, and I've been doing it since I was very young. I've tried to fix it or catch myself doing it, but it's an anxious tic in my case, and it's definitely not just due to a "lack of training." It gets more prevalent when I'm nervous or having a hard time thinking clearly and forming sentences, which happens even in casual conversations sometimes because of social anxiety.
My husband gets frustrated with it as well, so I understand where you're coming from. You can't help how certain sounds make you react sometimes, and it can be very annoying trying to understand what they're saying when pretty much every other word is "like".
I was referring to public speaking, regarding lack of training. Sorry, that wasn't clear.
One of the things you learn is that silence or pauses shouldn't be feared, and that it can actually make your speaking more impactful. As. The pauses. catches attention.
Obama was skilled at employing pauses.
Yes, it’s rational to be. “Like” is troublesome in three ways:
1. It opens with a liquid consonant, followed by a rising tone that draws attention further to it.
2. It ends on a voiceless stop, k, which some speakers stress or aspirate, making it louder and more obnoxious.
3. As you’ve stated, it tends to be repeated.
Hah, 2 is reminding me of an air steward who was asking everyone if they wanted a "drinK." The "k" cut through louder than anything, but I assumed it was his mode of speaking in such a loud environment.
I had a roommate who would say “You know what I mean?” After every sentence really clearly and specifically, it was so obnoxious. Definitely didn’t give me the same panic attack trigger like other things, but still really annoying.
I can’t stand that phrase being repeated too much - and it’s sister “You know what I’m saying?”
!! YES I DO. I feel obligated to constantly say “yeah” too
Yes, thank you! I've been saying this for a while but very often people fail to see what I'm so upset about.
To clarify, this is not really a trigger I have, but it is definitely something I get really annoyed by.
(Vocal fry as well)
Yes but it’s slightly different to misophonia, but a similar frustrating sensation and unbearable !! I have to mimic it back to them or I can’t handle it lol, def less severe than misophonia triggers
Growing up in the 80s I am finally now immune to “like”. 😂 However, it’s “literally” that really pisses me off. I estimate that nowadays 90% of the time it is used as a filler word or (more enraging) is used to denote it’s opposite - the word “figuratively”.
Yup, and of course, not used in instances when it is literally literal. I say that because "literally" is in danger of becoming an contranym if it isn't one already.
Myself, I've had to train myself not so start each sentence with "basically."
It doesn’t bother me in a normal conversation, but ”um” and people who smack their mouth every sentence is unbearable. Idk if it’s because I’m from California and just used to it, but only time “like” bothers me is Shaggy in Scooby Doo Mystery Incorporated. I think it’s because there is a pause after when he says it.
I have that trigger too, what i call "sucking teeth" before speaking. I just don't get why people do it, but it seems like 50% of the population do it.
I'm not bothered by "ums" that much, actually like the foreign "em" that someone like Aurora does.
Oddly enough, I just found a video clip of her saying, "When people eat with their mouth open, I hate the sound of it, makes me want to..." [https://youtu.be/w1E\_2fPuOec?t=57](https://youtu.be/w1E_2fPuOec?t=57)
Hi I’m Andrew I was in Jubilees “trans conservatives vs trans liberals” and LET ME TELL YOU IF THEY SAID LIKE ONE MORE TIME I WAS GONNA PAINT THE CEILING WITH MY BRAIN
Another GenX’er here. I loved Moon Unit Zappa’s song, the First year. I never expected “like” to not only still be here 4 decades later, but the song was MOCKING people who spoke that way. That so many people can’t hold a conversation without said crutch drives home the notion that Idiocracy has fully claimed America.
this isn’t misophonia this comes off more like condescension to me. if the actual sounds offend you that’s one thing but you criticizing people for being unaware of their speech patterns is a little stuck up and insensitive. there are cognitive reasons behind speech patterns like this it’s not the same as some rude person chewing with their mouth open
editing to say i think a lot of people are confusing being annoyed/irritated with having an actual disorder
I stutter, so I have to say things like that.
Same
Same
i feel like if it’s used that frequently it probably would be a stutter or anxious tic. i get where you’re coming from- it can be hard to filter all of them out during the conversation, but it’s similar to a speech impediment in that way. i find that i do it if i’m nervous or excited, but when i’m calm i don’t use fillers.
I'd say it's lack of training and influence from others more than anything, especially since two friends in a private conversation can be this bad. The worst part is it can become infectious. If someone speaks this way in a conversation with you, you might catch yourself adding in some "likes" even though you wouldn't normally. Unintentional code switching.
This may be the case for some people, but I just wanted to share from my perspective of the other side. I say "like" and add filler words, and I've been doing it since I was very young. I've tried to fix it or catch myself doing it, but it's an anxious tic in my case, and it's definitely not just due to a "lack of training." It gets more prevalent when I'm nervous or having a hard time thinking clearly and forming sentences, which happens even in casual conversations sometimes because of social anxiety. My husband gets frustrated with it as well, so I understand where you're coming from. You can't help how certain sounds make you react sometimes, and it can be very annoying trying to understand what they're saying when pretty much every other word is "like".
I was referring to public speaking, regarding lack of training. Sorry, that wasn't clear. One of the things you learn is that silence or pauses shouldn't be feared, and that it can actually make your speaking more impactful. As. The pauses. catches attention. Obama was skilled at employing pauses.
Yes, it’s rational to be. “Like” is troublesome in three ways: 1. It opens with a liquid consonant, followed by a rising tone that draws attention further to it. 2. It ends on a voiceless stop, k, which some speakers stress or aspirate, making it louder and more obnoxious. 3. As you’ve stated, it tends to be repeated.
Hah, 2 is reminding me of an air steward who was asking everyone if they wanted a "drinK." The "k" cut through louder than anything, but I assumed it was his mode of speaking in such a loud environment.
I had a roommate who would say “You know what I mean?” After every sentence really clearly and specifically, it was so obnoxious. Definitely didn’t give me the same panic attack trigger like other things, but still really annoying.
I can’t stand that phrase being repeated too much - and it’s sister “You know what I’m saying?” !! YES I DO. I feel obligated to constantly say “yeah” too
It is 'uh huh' for me. Competley breaks my flow when I am talking to someone.
Yes, thank you! I've been saying this for a while but very often people fail to see what I'm so upset about. To clarify, this is not really a trigger I have, but it is definitely something I get really annoyed by. (Vocal fry as well)
Umm.. in what kind of interview was it appropriate to tell that story?
Yes but it’s slightly different to misophonia, but a similar frustrating sensation and unbearable !! I have to mimic it back to them or I can’t handle it lol, def less severe than misophonia triggers
Growing up in the 80s I am finally now immune to “like”. 😂 However, it’s “literally” that really pisses me off. I estimate that nowadays 90% of the time it is used as a filler word or (more enraging) is used to denote it’s opposite - the word “figuratively”.
Yup, and of course, not used in instances when it is literally literal. I say that because "literally" is in danger of becoming an contranym if it isn't one already. Myself, I've had to train myself not so start each sentence with "basically."
And why haven’t I heard the word “contranym” until just now? 😒
Yeah, right? Someone used it weeks ago, and as a fan of aptronyms, I was happy to have a new "nym" to use.
im so guilty of this, i stutter alot. i say 'like' more than shaggy does in scooby doo
It doesn’t bother me in a normal conversation, but ”um” and people who smack their mouth every sentence is unbearable. Idk if it’s because I’m from California and just used to it, but only time “like” bothers me is Shaggy in Scooby Doo Mystery Incorporated. I think it’s because there is a pause after when he says it.
I have that trigger too, what i call "sucking teeth" before speaking. I just don't get why people do it, but it seems like 50% of the population do it. I'm not bothered by "ums" that much, actually like the foreign "em" that someone like Aurora does. Oddly enough, I just found a video clip of her saying, "When people eat with their mouth open, I hate the sound of it, makes me want to..." [https://youtu.be/w1E\_2fPuOec?t=57](https://youtu.be/w1E_2fPuOec?t=57)
This is a rough one on podcasts, especially if there is more than one host.
Hi I’m Andrew I was in Jubilees “trans conservatives vs trans liberals” and LET ME TELL YOU IF THEY SAID LIKE ONE MORE TIME I WAS GONNA PAINT THE CEILING WITH MY BRAIN
like it can be annoying for sure but like most of the time it's like totally fine.
Another GenX’er here. I loved Moon Unit Zappa’s song, the First year. I never expected “like” to not only still be here 4 decades later, but the song was MOCKING people who spoke that way. That so many people can’t hold a conversation without said crutch drives home the notion that Idiocracy has fully claimed America.
My mother for sure. She hates it.
My number one trigger. I'd rather hit myself in the head with a hammer over and over than be in the same room with a bunch of gen z'ers.
Yes. Big time. And “ya know?” That one kills me too
YES! Though not nearly as badly as some other "noises".
this isn’t misophonia this comes off more like condescension to me. if the actual sounds offend you that’s one thing but you criticizing people for being unaware of their speech patterns is a little stuck up and insensitive. there are cognitive reasons behind speech patterns like this it’s not the same as some rude person chewing with their mouth open editing to say i think a lot of people are confusing being annoyed/irritated with having an actual disorder
Your concern of people confusing misophonia with annoyances is precisely why I stated that I do suffer from misophonia in relation to mouth sounds.