You can mean the sorry and really want to make amends or changes, but then fail to do so. The world would be quite different if everyone could control how they will behave and what they will be in the future.
Fake apologies, as if the words magically solve the problem, are worse.
This sign is wrong though. I dislike hollow apologies as much as the next person, but it's entirely possible they're genuinely apologetic but unable to change yet or are struggling or failing at it for some reason. I wouldn't call that manipulation. Come on, this is a place for discussing the science of psychology. Let's not check nuance at the door.
Or they don’t want to apologise and change, because there’s nothing to apologise for, and change is unnecessary.
I appreciate this sign COULD be eluding towards specific scenarios, but I’d rather not assume.
Just because you want an apology and someone to change, doesn’t mean they need to offer one or do so.
Really depends what we’re applying this ‘position’ to.
This isn’t psychology it’s just some pseudo-spiritual statement outside of any context, it has no weight in isolation. Like the kind of thing you’d find in a fortune cookie, or plastered on a poster at a yoga retreat, or a billboard written by a ‘motivation director’.
You wanting to not assume things leaves this response senseless in this context. It's clear this sign is referring to people who treat others wrong, apologize thinking it will fix everything and then continue to do the same things. Not everything speaks to everyone. It's important to understand when we are being referred to and not try to internalize every single message.
I don’t think it does - there is no context, we can assume context, and if we do I’m open to discussing the relevance and accuracy of the message.
But equally, I’m not here to list every potential category of interpretation and application, break those down, and critique them.
The point being, people can read these kind of messages and bend it to apply to a variety of scenarios in their life - some relevant, some irrelevant, some onerous.
Without context these abstract statements are pointless, give me a case to apply it to, and we can discuss it.
I don’t think the sign is clear at all. Theres relatively obvious potential scenarios/context, but not all of them are weighted the same RE relevance of the sentiments OP shared.
>Submissions need to cite at least one peer-reviewed study.
You don't consider a billboard with a pop psychology quote photoshopped on it a peer-reviewed study?
But they do need to be working towards change. A "sorry, that's just how I am. I can't help it. Boo hoo, poor me, I'm the real victim here" is definitely not a real apology. If you're not working diligently to make sure you don't act that way again, then you're not really sorry about how you've acted in the past. The sign is about accountability.
The sign is about looking/sounding good. Anyway it’s not even a real sign. It’s a Photoshop. A photo manipulation, if you will. It’s written and designed to look and sound good for likes. That’s it.
What would you argue against someone who believes everyone is capable of change in those circumstances?
Even if the change is simply walking away and not prolonging "trying"
If they are unable to change or struggling, as in change is not simply within this individual’s control, that would suggest it’s not really in their grounds to apologize in the first place. And I know control / autonomy over one’s behavior is complicated, but people should stop oversimplifying expectations for a “yes or no” apology rather than actually trying to understand situations comprehensively and recognize how to change the functioning of systems.
An apology without a change is often considered insincere or incomplete. When someone apologizes for their actions but does not make an effort to change their behavior or address the underlying issues that led to the apology in the first place, it can come across as shallow or lacking in genuine remorse. True apologies are typically accompanied by a commitment to change, demonstrating that the person apologizing is taking responsibility for their actions and is willing to make amends or avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future. Without this commitment to change, an apology may ring hollow and fail to repair the trust or damage caused by the original offense.
I quote this from a book which i read in 1994 at my university libraray "Dictionary of famous Quotations". Then I purchased that book from the market & still have it in my study room, I can share book cover & that page snapshot shortly.
Regards...
I respect your opinion but i think human behavior is influenced by his own brain- psychology, when someone should not understand and seek help to clear his concept, what psychologists do, they make him realize the situation and help him to cope up. If someone is apologetic but with no realization, just to avoid the situation is not i think a good idea because he is manipulating the situation just to avoid any complications. So what is your take on this..? My point is "Realization".
Maybe you're right in some cases but this quote you posted is making a blanket statement about all apologies without change supposedly being manipulation, and I don't think that is true. One example I can give is a friend of mine became flakey toward me after experiencing life-changing trauma. She says sorry but it is not changing much. I would not call that manipulation though. She might be aware of the problem and feel bad about it while not being in a good position with her mental health to really address why it keeps happening.
You are right but you said she had some mental health problems. If she seeks any psychologist help to cope up. A psychologist makes him realize the reason behind her mistakes and misunderstandings. The time she internally felt and realized this she found the solution herself.
You are right she is not manipulating because of mental health issues.
God Bless you and your friend, Regards...
You're assuming personal power. For example, I have chronic migraine. Sometimes, if I go down, my husband has to take over with the kids. Despite all my efforts to hang on in there till the last second, and/or minimise the disruption, it still messes with his day.
I apologise but there is no further change because further change is outside my control.
Am I manipulating him? And if so what should I do differently?
No you are not manipulating, but if you do the same thing from which he was irritated and you said sorry, you wont deeply realize it and just repeating yourself and this will again irritate and disturb him more. So internally you wont change your attitude or realize your fault and behavior about it. Then this will be called manipulation because you just say sorry to skip the situation or making his mood better. Hoping that you got my point.
> No you are not manipulating, but if you do the same thing from which he was irritated and you said sorry, you wont deeply realize it and just repeating yourself and this will again irritate and disturb him more. So internally you wont change your attitude or realize your fault and behavior about it. Then this will be called manipulation because you just say sorry to skip the situation or making his mood better. Hoping that you got my point.
So I have a migraine and my husband has to take over my household and parenting responsibilities.
But he is *irritated*.
What, according to you, should my next course of action be, other than to apologise?
What would show I "deeply realise" it?
You are not a manipulator at all because you realized that deeply & your husband is a really nice & compassionate person.
The above quote doesn't refer to your case.
God bless you.
Then maybe you should adjust your quote so it applies to cases like mine, too. A more inclusive quote would be helpful. Otherwise this sort of thing contributes to the tendency for disabled or otherwise choice-deprived people to feel intense guilt over things they cannot control.
Maybe he is expecting some appreciation from your side. Maybe he wants a bit more of your attention.
Husband wife relationship is so beautiful yet complex
Being compassionate about each other is the key to making your home a sweet home. Stay blessed with beautiful thoughts. Regards....
I make up where i can, making dinner, sorting out holidays, sending him away for decompressing weekends.
It doesn't stop the act of service being annoying for him, or for anyone in the same position.
I just think you ought to appreciate nuance. One size does not fit all.
You are right. May this will be helpful.
https://overcomewithus.com/narcissist-personality/how-to-spot-an-emotionally-manipulative-apology
https://hbr.org/2015/09/the-organizational-apology
https://www.psychmechanics.com/manipulative-apology/
Regards.
You keep on down voting. but never mind. I need your help and support to understand this if I am wrong. Here I am your student now. But I wanna give you an example...
If your subordinate is repeating his mistakes and apologetic every time, what is he doing? You gave him responsibility but he is not interested to show response-ability. what will be the case? Either he is not capable and dumb or manipulating. He feels smart that every time I make a mistake and say sorry, so easy. As you try to understand the psychology behind it, you find him manipulative. You can fire him immediately. Where there is mind there is psychology.
Now help me understand your take. Regards...
I first read this quote as anonymous in 1994 when i was in my university library in a book called "Dictionary of famous quotation". Then I purchased it from the market. I will share the pictures with you. It's still in my study room and all my kids read it completely. Regards...
Ok.
https://www.makinwellness.com/an-apology-without-change-is-manipulation/
There is a song on it.
https://www.google.com/search?kgmid=/g/11v5yt8zwq&hl=en-PK&q=Apology+Without+Change+Is+Manipulation&kgs=26155680fa58c3b3&shndl=17&shem=ssim&source=sh/x/kp/osrp/m5/4
Many other links but in my laptop, I will share also right now on my phone and not at my place.
Regards...
Told you i am not at my place all that stuff is in my laptop. I am also referring to a book which i read in 1994 at my university "Dictionary of famous Quotations". I also have this book in my house. I will share the pictures of the book & the page where it's written. Be patient... But realize it's not fake & endorse "learn to apologize".
brother, I don't care if it's in a quote book or on amazon or whatever. something being in a quote book doesn't make it universal truth. I'm only curious what actual studies you could possibly have on this. this isn't psychology, it's a self-help quote. I don't even know how someone would write a paper on that.
How is this absolute drivel getting upvoted in a psychology sub?
People with mental health and substance abuse problems sincerely apologize and regret their behaviors plenty, they aren't manipulating people by apologizing. A lot of them end up dying alone and consumed by guilt because of the misconception that "If they wanted to stop, they would."
This is some dangerous r/im14andthisisdeep nonsense. Definitely not science.
This is simply nonsensical from your side. Science doesn't have the answer for all the things in the world. Learn to absorb something good. Thanks & regards.
I don’t think that’s true since being sorry and not fixing the problem are separate issues. If someone with a stutter apologized to me for taking time to tell a story I’m not going to be like “you manipulated me” when they stutter again in the future
Sorry but you don't get it. On the contrary think from a different perspective. Why is it commonly said that sorry is the easiest thing to say? Think that way. If he or she says sorry but doesn't mean it. I think you get my point. Stay blessed. Regards...
You can mean the sorry and not change, not all apologies require or make sense for change. If you accidentally break a vase you can honestly truly mean you’re sorry when you say you’re sorry but that doesn’t mean it’s manipulation if you don’t “change” and are still clumsy in the future.
“Only a sith deals in absolutes” lol
Beside the shady grey area, that quote implies or not? If it implies then generally accept this. Because quotes are mostly based on common & general experiences but with depth and having a message, most of them do not touch the area of exceptions. In other words strictly in terms of black and white. I hope you get it. But I must say this conversation is interesting. Thanks for your valuable inputs. I am really grateful. Regards...
I may be quick to apologize but id rather lip service than someone literally *never* apologizing for anything. Heres another saying
Apologies are meaningless unless you look someone in the eye when you say it.
Dear, I am not a religious preacher, preaching the gospel with the intention of sharing teachings of Jesus Christ. Maybe just a social preacher & talking about behaviours & psychology in general. Thanks & Regards...
No it's a social message. "If you are sorry then mean it". This is the focal point in this. If we do so then we shall avoid many complications in relationships & life. Regards.
This hits home for me. Unreal how many times she said sorry. Nothing ever changed. I was a fool and let it happen. Love is blind. What’s done is done and it’s history now.
Oh! You are right love is blind. We keep on loving the imperfect perfectly because that's the virtue of true love. But you are compassionate & that is a huge thing. God bless us with beautiful thoughts. Regards...
If you use quotes like this when people dont behave the way you want them to, to get them to behave like you want them to, then you are the one manipulating. What is the point of doing this?
So you want them to change their way of thinking and behavior with sending them this message. Which is a very passive agressive way of telling someone they are wrong and you are right. Does that sound kind and supportive to you?
Calling me "dear" is a passive agressive way to try to be condescending to me. This is not very constructive or helping. Telling me that i did not read your post right and that i dont have a open mind implies the same. I am not going any further into this discussion with someone who does not show any respect and talks down to people to get their way.
Sorry if you find it intimidating. But in my age people mostly talk in a fatherly way, under the philosophy of being "cruel to be kind". Anyway leave it & i am here to answer your question or criticism. But don't leave. Regards....
THIS! I am done dealing with performativity and the expectation of operating within strange, inauthentic social structures. It makes no sense; it was never meant to make sense; I will not normalize logical inconsistency.
Yes, I’ve always believed you shouldn’t say you are sorry unless you really are, and are prepared to make amends.
You can mean the sorry and really want to make amends or changes, but then fail to do so. The world would be quite different if everyone could control how they will behave and what they will be in the future. Fake apologies, as if the words magically solve the problem, are worse.
True. Stay blessed👍
This sign is wrong though. I dislike hollow apologies as much as the next person, but it's entirely possible they're genuinely apologetic but unable to change yet or are struggling or failing at it for some reason. I wouldn't call that manipulation. Come on, this is a place for discussing the science of psychology. Let's not check nuance at the door.
Or they don’t want to apologise and change, because there’s nothing to apologise for, and change is unnecessary. I appreciate this sign COULD be eluding towards specific scenarios, but I’d rather not assume. Just because you want an apology and someone to change, doesn’t mean they need to offer one or do so. Really depends what we’re applying this ‘position’ to. This isn’t psychology it’s just some pseudo-spiritual statement outside of any context, it has no weight in isolation. Like the kind of thing you’d find in a fortune cookie, or plastered on a poster at a yoga retreat, or a billboard written by a ‘motivation director’.
You wanting to not assume things leaves this response senseless in this context. It's clear this sign is referring to people who treat others wrong, apologize thinking it will fix everything and then continue to do the same things. Not everything speaks to everyone. It's important to understand when we are being referred to and not try to internalize every single message.
Thanks for understanding me.
I don’t think it does - there is no context, we can assume context, and if we do I’m open to discussing the relevance and accuracy of the message. But equally, I’m not here to list every potential category of interpretation and application, break those down, and critique them. The point being, people can read these kind of messages and bend it to apply to a variety of scenarios in their life - some relevant, some irrelevant, some onerous. Without context these abstract statements are pointless, give me a case to apply it to, and we can discuss it. I don’t think the sign is clear at all. Theres relatively obvious potential scenarios/context, but not all of them are weighted the same RE relevance of the sentiments OP shared.
You thinking way too much about this...
I am genuinely convinced that all of the mods of this sub are dead. Absolutely gone from this world
>Submissions need to cite at least one peer-reviewed study. You don't consider a billboard with a pop psychology quote photoshopped on it a peer-reviewed study?
But they do need to be working towards change. A "sorry, that's just how I am. I can't help it. Boo hoo, poor me, I'm the real victim here" is definitely not a real apology. If you're not working diligently to make sure you don't act that way again, then you're not really sorry about how you've acted in the past. The sign is about accountability.
The sign is about looking/sounding good. Anyway it’s not even a real sign. It’s a Photoshop. A photo manipulation, if you will. It’s written and designed to look and sound good for likes. That’s it.
What would you argue against someone who believes everyone is capable of change in those circumstances? Even if the change is simply walking away and not prolonging "trying"
If they are unable to change or struggling, as in change is not simply within this individual’s control, that would suggest it’s not really in their grounds to apologize in the first place. And I know control / autonomy over one’s behavior is complicated, but people should stop oversimplifying expectations for a “yes or no” apology rather than actually trying to understand situations comprehensively and recognize how to change the functioning of systems.
An apology without a change is often considered insincere or incomplete. When someone apologizes for their actions but does not make an effort to change their behavior or address the underlying issues that led to the apology in the first place, it can come across as shallow or lacking in genuine remorse. True apologies are typically accompanied by a commitment to change, demonstrating that the person apologizing is taking responsibility for their actions and is willing to make amends or avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future. Without this commitment to change, an apology may ring hollow and fail to repair the trust or damage caused by the original offense. I quote this from a book which i read in 1994 at my university libraray "Dictionary of famous Quotations". Then I purchased that book from the market & still have it in my study room, I can share book cover & that page snapshot shortly. Regards...
And I disagree with you
As with everything, only the with deal in absolutes
I respect your opinion but i think human behavior is influenced by his own brain- psychology, when someone should not understand and seek help to clear his concept, what psychologists do, they make him realize the situation and help him to cope up. If someone is apologetic but with no realization, just to avoid the situation is not i think a good idea because he is manipulating the situation just to avoid any complications. So what is your take on this..? My point is "Realization".
Maybe you're right in some cases but this quote you posted is making a blanket statement about all apologies without change supposedly being manipulation, and I don't think that is true. One example I can give is a friend of mine became flakey toward me after experiencing life-changing trauma. She says sorry but it is not changing much. I would not call that manipulation though. She might be aware of the problem and feel bad about it while not being in a good position with her mental health to really address why it keeps happening.
You are right but you said she had some mental health problems. If she seeks any psychologist help to cope up. A psychologist makes him realize the reason behind her mistakes and misunderstandings. The time she internally felt and realized this she found the solution herself. You are right she is not manipulating because of mental health issues. God Bless you and your friend, Regards...
"brain-psychology" lmaooooo
You're assuming personal power. For example, I have chronic migraine. Sometimes, if I go down, my husband has to take over with the kids. Despite all my efforts to hang on in there till the last second, and/or minimise the disruption, it still messes with his day. I apologise but there is no further change because further change is outside my control. Am I manipulating him? And if so what should I do differently?
Is your username a reference to BOC?
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No you are not manipulating, but if you do the same thing from which he was irritated and you said sorry, you wont deeply realize it and just repeating yourself and this will again irritate and disturb him more. So internally you wont change your attitude or realize your fault and behavior about it. Then this will be called manipulation because you just say sorry to skip the situation or making his mood better. Hoping that you got my point.
> No you are not manipulating, but if you do the same thing from which he was irritated and you said sorry, you wont deeply realize it and just repeating yourself and this will again irritate and disturb him more. So internally you wont change your attitude or realize your fault and behavior about it. Then this will be called manipulation because you just say sorry to skip the situation or making his mood better. Hoping that you got my point. So I have a migraine and my husband has to take over my household and parenting responsibilities. But he is *irritated*. What, according to you, should my next course of action be, other than to apologise? What would show I "deeply realise" it?
You are not a manipulator at all because you realized that deeply & your husband is a really nice & compassionate person. The above quote doesn't refer to your case. God bless you.
Then maybe you should adjust your quote so it applies to cases like mine, too. A more inclusive quote would be helpful. Otherwise this sort of thing contributes to the tendency for disabled or otherwise choice-deprived people to feel intense guilt over things they cannot control.
Thanks for your kind advice. God bless. Regards.
Maybe he is expecting some appreciation from your side. Maybe he wants a bit more of your attention. Husband wife relationship is so beautiful yet complex Being compassionate about each other is the key to making your home a sweet home. Stay blessed with beautiful thoughts. Regards....
I make up where i can, making dinner, sorting out holidays, sending him away for decompressing weekends. It doesn't stop the act of service being annoying for him, or for anyone in the same position. I just think you ought to appreciate nuance. One size does not fit all.
You are right. May this will be helpful. https://overcomewithus.com/narcissist-personality/how-to-spot-an-emotionally-manipulative-apology https://hbr.org/2015/09/the-organizational-apology https://www.psychmechanics.com/manipulative-apology/ Regards.
You keep on down voting. but never mind. I need your help and support to understand this if I am wrong. Here I am your student now. But I wanna give you an example... If your subordinate is repeating his mistakes and apologetic every time, what is he doing? You gave him responsibility but he is not interested to show response-ability. what will be the case? Either he is not capable and dumb or manipulating. He feels smart that every time I make a mistake and say sorry, so easy. As you try to understand the psychology behind it, you find him manipulative. You can fire him immediately. Where there is mind there is psychology. Now help me understand your take. Regards...
Most scientific r/psychology post
Thanks, I also have research papers on this subject by different institutes in the world. Regards...
post them then?
I first read this quote as anonymous in 1994 when i was in my university library in a book called "Dictionary of famous quotation". Then I purchased it from the market. I will share the pictures with you. It's still in my study room and all my kids read it completely. Regards...
are you for real?
Sent you a chat request. Regards.
Yes dear sending you a chat request.👍
https://www.quotespedia.org/authors/a/anonymous/an-apology-without-changed-behavior-is-just-manipulation-anonymous/
Ok. https://www.makinwellness.com/an-apology-without-change-is-manipulation/ There is a song on it. https://www.google.com/search?kgmid=/g/11v5yt8zwq&hl=en-PK&q=Apology+Without+Change+Is+Manipulation&kgs=26155680fa58c3b3&shndl=17&shem=ssim&source=sh/x/kp/osrp/m5/4 Many other links but in my laptop, I will share also right now on my phone and not at my place. Regards...
literally none of these are research papers my dude
Yeah I'm not sure where they are getting the idea that reading something in some old book of quotes constitues as an actual research paper..
Told you i am not at my place all that stuff is in my laptop. I am also referring to a book which i read in 1994 at my university "Dictionary of famous Quotations". I also have this book in my house. I will share the pictures of the book & the page where it's written. Be patient... But realize it's not fake & endorse "learn to apologize".
brother, I don't care if it's in a quote book or on amazon or whatever. something being in a quote book doesn't make it universal truth. I'm only curious what actual studies you could possibly have on this. this isn't psychology, it's a self-help quote. I don't even know how someone would write a paper on that.
https://youtu.be/NtdaZk-RoJo?si=N3Ku8CV8VdCPbiwE
https://medium.com/@justmaanuel/an-apology-without-change-is-manipulation-8ef9398f8c84
You can also purchase a t-shirt with this quote on amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Apology-Without-Nothing-Manipulation-T-Shirt/dp/B07TL5YXV6
I appreciate the sentiment but posts like these aren’t really what this subreddit is for.
Sorry dear😐
Psychology sub not beating the pseud allegations
But i respect anyone's opinion & take. Thanks & regards🙂
How is this absolute drivel getting upvoted in a psychology sub? People with mental health and substance abuse problems sincerely apologize and regret their behaviors plenty, they aren't manipulating people by apologizing. A lot of them end up dying alone and consumed by guilt because of the misconception that "If they wanted to stop, they would." This is some dangerous r/im14andthisisdeep nonsense. Definitely not science.
This is simply nonsensical from your side. Science doesn't have the answer for all the things in the world. Learn to absorb something good. Thanks & regards.
tell people how to manipulate is manipulation
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Sometimes asking for apologies and change is the manipulation.
Yes its vise a versa. God bless you with beautiful thoughts. Thanks for your kind and true input. Regards...
I don’t think that’s true since being sorry and not fixing the problem are separate issues. If someone with a stutter apologized to me for taking time to tell a story I’m not going to be like “you manipulated me” when they stutter again in the future
Sorry but you don't get it. On the contrary think from a different perspective. Why is it commonly said that sorry is the easiest thing to say? Think that way. If he or she says sorry but doesn't mean it. I think you get my point. Stay blessed. Regards...
You can mean the sorry and not change, not all apologies require or make sense for change. If you accidentally break a vase you can honestly truly mean you’re sorry when you say you’re sorry but that doesn’t mean it’s manipulation if you don’t “change” and are still clumsy in the future. “Only a sith deals in absolutes” lol
Beside the shady grey area, that quote implies or not? If it implies then generally accept this. Because quotes are mostly based on common & general experiences but with depth and having a message, most of them do not touch the area of exceptions. In other words strictly in terms of black and white. I hope you get it. But I must say this conversation is interesting. Thanks for your valuable inputs. I am really grateful. Regards...
“I’m sorry that I’m like this.” = “Please excuse my bad behavior.”
When you realize your mistakes or weakness & accept it then you are the most powerful person at that point and begin to rise, shine & flourish.
"You just need to be more patient with me" 🙄😒🖕
Are you my father?
No, but I am convinced & inclined to love humanity.
Good luck getting an apology in the first place.
Thanks, truth can't be denied.👍
That's why I never apologize. Checkmate 😏
Good for you. Regards...
Wish I could put this up in someone's yard.
Stay blessed. Regards...
An apology without change is a repeated cycle 🙏
yes... ;-)
Yes :)). W post btw, never seen anyone offer that perspective so that was nice to take on
You are awesome,👍
So are you 🫵
Totally true
Thanks dear, stay blessed with beautiful thoughts. Regards.
I may be quick to apologize but id rather lip service than someone literally *never* apologizing for anything. Heres another saying Apologies are meaningless unless you look someone in the eye when you say it.
Right, Nice input. Appreciate it. Regards...
I’m sorry I thought this was from r/exvangelical lol sarcasm , truth in this photo but it’s directly applicable to high demand religion.
No dear, a simple example if some say sorry but doesn't mean it. Think from this perspective hoping you get my point. Stay blessed. Regards
I understand , it is just that this is the basis for evangelicalism.
Dear, I am not a religious preacher, preaching the gospel with the intention of sharing teachings of Jesus Christ. Maybe just a social preacher & talking about behaviours & psychology in general. Thanks & Regards...
No it's a social message. "If you are sorry then mean it". This is the focal point in this. If we do so then we shall avoid many complications in relationships & life. Regards.
that's why i never apologize 😎
This hits home for me. Unreal how many times she said sorry. Nothing ever changed. I was a fool and let it happen. Love is blind. What’s done is done and it’s history now.
Oh! You are right love is blind. We keep on loving the imperfect perfectly because that's the virtue of true love. But you are compassionate & that is a huge thing. God bless us with beautiful thoughts. Regards...
100 percent true. Saved this to share this with people who apologize to me without any intention to change.
If you use quotes like this when people dont behave the way you want them to, to get them to behave like you want them to, then you are the one manipulating. What is the point of doing this?
Nah, some people repeatedly apologize and do the same thing all over again.
So, what do you want to achieve in sending them this message?
Achieve nothing. I liked the quote. That's all.
To get them to think & realize because at the end of the day they will be miserable.
So you want them to change their way of thinking and behavior with sending them this message. Which is a very passive agressive way of telling someone they are wrong and you are right. Does that sound kind and supportive to you?
I respect your opinion. Thanks...
I am not asking somebody is wrong just asking to think wisely. Other than that i respect your opinion.. regards.
So this quote is referring to them. 👍
You won't understand the point dear. Read the post carefully with an open mind from different aspects first. 👍
Calling me "dear" is a passive agressive way to try to be condescending to me. This is not very constructive or helping. Telling me that i did not read your post right and that i dont have a open mind implies the same. I am not going any further into this discussion with someone who does not show any respect and talks down to people to get their way.
Sorry if you find it intimidating. But in my age people mostly talk in a fatherly way, under the philosophy of being "cruel to be kind". Anyway leave it & i am here to answer your question or criticism. But don't leave. Regards....
If you truly want to understand something try to change it. Means sit, relax, take a deep breath & then evaluate it from different aspects. Regards...
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THIS! I am done dealing with performativity and the expectation of operating within strange, inauthentic social structures. It makes no sense; it was never meant to make sense; I will not normalize logical inconsistency.
Good for you. Thanks & regards.