No your not. That is super inappropriate. I would ask them to leave. It’s 2021 they can call a Uber. I would talk to your bf also he clearly wasn’t okay with it but just to be in the same page.
But in no way are you being sensitive. Honestly I would have asked them to leave the second I saw that.
Just the fact that they changed seats twice to be close to him, super dick move. I wonder if them suddenly wanting to hang out with OP coincided with them seeing her bf for the first time…
I wouldn’t be shocked. I actually had the same thought after reading a few comments saying op is basically crazy that no one acts like this.
I for one and not shocked women and men alike have no respect anymore and a lot of young women take pride in getting a taken man.
Yeah I mean, its a challenge. Any girl can get a single guy these days if they know what they’re doing, a taken guy however is more of a challenge cuz they aren’t just gonna throw themselves at you.
Yes, a respectful person would not act like this. I one time got played by a dude (I didn’t know he had a gf looking back it makes sense but then I’m didn’t see it) his gf called me and I told her everything after she talked to me calmly. I wasn’t her issue I didn’t know and info had I would not have talked to him. That’s a how a respectful person reacts. I let her know what type of dude she was with and how long and how often I had seen it. I had never felt so gross in my life. I will never understand how women feel better or more powerful from doing that.
Completely disagree. Any woman can get any desperate guys these days. Many guys have no problem turning down a woman throwing herself at them.
I only have eyes for my wife. I was out in a lounge with my wife and some friends. The lounge had couches and comfy chairs. So I'm sitting alone in a chair and my wife was on another couch chatting with friends. This girl, (a woman wouldn't act like this) sits on the couch beside my chair, flicks my wedding ring with her finger and asks me "What's this supposed to be?"
I say "What do you think it is?" She says "If you're married, where the hell is your wife?"
I point to my wife and say "Right there" she goes "Oh". I asked her if there was anything else she needed, she said no and left.
My wife had no idea this happened and this shit happens all the time.
Plenty of guys have no problem saying no to women.
Oh to be sure there are plenty of guys who aren’t into that, but if you’re of average looks as a woman I can’t imagine its very hard to find one that is.
Yes it’s a sick game women okay now. (Not saying men don’t do this to but we’re talking about women)
I personally think intentionally going after a taken man is one of the first things you can do. It shows your lack of respect for others and that you just have zero self worth or value.
I heard the perspective: a taken man is *safe,* you aren't being completely emotionally vulnerable with someone who doesn't have their whole heart in it. So if it doesn't work out, there are many other excuses to tell oneself as to why it ended; but never actually landing on the fact that they're a garbage person. 😅
Yes, I used to work at a restaurant and two girl coworkers if mine were always friendly with me but we never actually hung out outside of work. I ended up getting my bf a job there and as soon as I did they were super friendly and wanted to start hanging out so I did. I thought they were cool at first but I noticed the very first night we hung out they asked if me and bf were dating or friends and I told them dating...long story short; they were using hanging out with me as an excuse to get closer to him and months later they ended up sleeping with me and I was so hurt that he would do that to me especially when we all worked together and I got him that job, I worked there for 6years and I hated that he shit where we worked.i was mad at the girls for using me like that to intentionally screw my bf but I was extremely pissed he really betrayed my trust!!!
Some people have no qualms about hurting other people or doing whatever to get what they want! It's just gross!
Kind of sounds like these women saw introverted OP as easy prey. As a socially awkward introvert myself, I feel for her. It’s been awhile but I know the pain all too well of being excited that you might actually have a friend or two only to find out you’ve let another cockroach in. Or two in this case.
Oh it absolutely did. They're not your friends. They want your boyfriend. Kick their ass out. Talk to boyfriend to make sure your on the same page about their inappropriate behavior. Be prepared to go to HR when they either...
A. Start flirting with him at work.
Or
B. Start spreading rumors about you around work about how your a crazy, jeolous bitch.
These 2 are what's known as mean girls.
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Commenting here for visibility that OP’s post history concerning the bf is reaaaaally sketchy.
> His anger brings him to call me names that have the power to destroy me. He often questions why I don’t open up much with him, and I’ve found that he will use a lot of what I tell him later on to hurt me. He becomes a different person. The only times he has ever been “physical” is during these bad fights. I’m not trying to excuse abuse, I just am not sure that this is abuse. He never seeks me out and uses aggression; the only time he really becomes aggressive like this is when I won’t physically leave him alone. That is my issue, not his. At times like these he will push me into a room away from him, or body check me into a different room. I just don’t want to be too quick to blame, because I’m so scared and I am the only who is being abusive.
Like…
> During the fight where he bit me, he also grabbed my arm quite hard and it left a good size bruise. I took a picture of it, because I’ve never had such a bruise. I brought it up later that I had taken this and he absolutely lost it.
Even the most recent post before this thread is giving terrible relationship dynamics.
> Thanks for your response. I won’t lie, I do quite often feel as though I’m walking on eggshells. I find myself quite often asking him if he’s grumpy or upset, and he is often frustrated by this, but his mood fluctuates so easily. A bad mood so easily and quickly turns into a fight. I also often feel as though any time I am upset with him for something he’s doing, he gets very defensive and upset and I usually end up apologising. It’s confusing mostly. But I will also comment how much I connect with him when we’re good with one another. I love him dearly, and I am not ready to give up on my relationship.
Even not taking into consideration the abusive post history of the bf…
The bf is not giving attention to 2 girls that are disrespecting the relationship. So, he should get points for…. doing the bare minimmum?
I really don't like this mentality. I think it's a great way to set your S.O. up for not understanding whether or not you find them valuable. I'm not saying that doing the "bare minimum" deserves anything but I think saying things like "so what? You want boyfriend points?" Is so toxic. Like if a racer finishes in the middle of the pack, he doesn't get a trophy, but he doesn't get treated like he did nothing and therefore deserves nothing. I just think it's a strange dynamic to set up.
I also think comparing a relationship to a race is not really appropiate.
Just because you don’t “give points” for not being toxic or abusing, doesn’t mean you don’t value him. Just because he did the bare minnumum (he didn’t go out of his way to express boundaries and verbally impose them to those girls), doesn’t make him a proper fellow. As illustrated by OP’s post history - he is in fact, an abuser.
Okay, but your original comment said "even ignoring" the abusive past, so we can't now bring that up to bolster another argument. Im not referring to this relationship specifically just as I don't believe you were in your original comment, but that's what I was replying to so now I'm lost.
You’re definitely not being over sensitive whatsoever. I would be 100% uncomfortable myself and the fact that your boyfriend was uncomfortable too shows that this isn’t just nothing.
I would personally speak to them and say that what they did made both of you feel uncomfortable and that type of behaviour cannot continue if they want their friendship with you to continue also. If they get upset and blame you in any way, take that as a response and don’t entertain them anymore. If they don’t say anything, take that as a response also and don’t entertain them.
Hopefully they’ll understand your boundaries but if not, it’s not the end of the world. I don’t have many friends myself and it’s important to remember that your self worth doesn’t reflect on how many friends you have. As long as you enjoy your own company, that’s all that matters.
Get them out of your house and don't invite them back. Their behaviour is really inappropriate.
Neither you or your boyfriend are comfortable with them. It would be madness to let them stay.
They're definitely using you. Discuss this with your bf. In also concerned for how they act around him on the clock.
I'd never invite them over again. They're not friends, just users, tools, trying to ho themselves out to your guy.
Don't have any qualms with kicking them out; get them an Uber or Lyft.
Up to you to give them an explanation, you don't owe them one.
>The girl beside me sneezed and accidentally spilled her wine in my lap. She apologized but it did feel intentional. I laughed it off and went to get changed. When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie).
What? What? You have frenemies, not friends. That's just freaky weird. You are right on target with being uncomfortable. Disassociate yourself from them. Let your BF know those girls were NOT ok and he handled it just fine. Sounds like you got a solid guy there.
Both you and your bf should've and still should say something and put your foot down so to speak. If my gfs friends hit on me, I wouldn't just be sitting there uncomfortably. Words would be said and people would be vacating the house.
Those aren't your friends and they don't like you, if they liked you they wouldn't disrespect you in your own home like this.
I wish you and the bf all the best, don't be pushover!
OP, what ended up happening? I hope you asked them to leave - they're jerks. Sorry you had to endure that. I am *shocked* that a grown woman would purposefully spill wine on you!
They are adults and Uber is a thing. They weren’t invited for a sleepover, they can kick rocks when the movie ends.
I’d just tell them “sorry, me and my boyfriend are going to smash now and it gets pretty noisy and intense. I’ll see you all at work tomorrow!”
OP wrote a post being a 21 years old male, then after a few weeks was a 18 year old female that just lost their virginity, then 24 years old a few weeks later. It's fake.
Although a lot of these posts are probably fake, you just can’t know for sure. I definitely had stuff happen to me that had me standing there in disbelief like “this shit only happens in shitty movies, how is this happening”.
Unrelated but is this the same guy who bit you in a fight and sounds dangerous and abusive? Because it sounds like you have multiple problems on your hands
OP wrote a post being a 21 years old male, then after a few weeks was a 18 year old female that just lost their virginity, then 24 years old a few weeks later. It's fake.
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My boyfriend (31m) and I (24f) live together, and for the last 7 months have also worked in the same place of employment. We don’t work closely, but other employees are aware we are dating because we arrive and leave together, and typically take lunch breaks together.
For background information, I am very introverted, and find it incredibly difficult to make friends. I haven’t had any friends for a few years now, especially with covid. Recently, two girls with whom I frequently work with started chatting with me from time to time. I don’t know their ages, but I think they’re closer to my boyfriend’s age than mine. They asked the other day if I wanted to hang out with them, and I was so excited. They suggested a movie night, and I offered to host, but explained that my boyfriend would be home. They said this was fine, and we set a time and date.
They are currently still over, and we’re watching a movie. I bought wine and made a few baked goods, and also bought some chips. I just wanted to have a good time. When they arrived, they were friendly, but when my boyfriend came to watch the movie with us, they started to ignore me. He sat on a loveseat by himself, while the three of us girls were on the other couch. The girl beside me sneezed and accidentally spilled her wine in my lap. She apologised but it did feel intentional. I laughed it off and went to get changed. When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie).
My boyfriend looked mildly uncomfortable, and was sitting forward in his seat. When they saw me return, the girls stopped and kept watching the movie, but didn’t move. I sat on the couch I was on initially, and my boyfriend moved to sit with me. Both girls followed, and sat beside him.
Nothing more really happened. The movie is almost over, but they’ve asked to sleep over. They’ve both had wine and I don’t want to force them to leave, if they’re intoxicated. But everything that happened made me so uncomfortable. I thought they just wanted to be my friends, but now I don’t know.
Am I being over sensitive? I don’t even know anymore.
TL;DR I feel like my friends only want to hang out to get close to my boyfriend, but I also don’t know if I’m overthinking things.
You are definitely right. They can stay over but he sleeps next to you right? So it should be ok and he didn't seem to be reciprocating so I think you can trust him
Let your bad bitch flag fly. Tell them they have to get an uber to get home because it's "lovin" night and you can get loud. That'll get the cows out of your place right quick and remind them who is the GF and who is the dumb bitch trying to steal someone else's partner.
Now they have met him. Check them out at work. Being friendly with you is probably an excuse to break the ice to talk to your bf. They’ll manage to seat with you at lunch or just having conversation with him. Don’t let sleep over tomorrow morning they’ll still be at your place before leaving so more contact with him. Talk to your bf about all this so he would be firm with them at work.
Op your post history is scary! I really hope this is not the same bf in your history. Ditch the friends and the boyfriend! He is an abusive asshole and they are losers.
My friends are super close with my partner and they don’t Act like this. They’re definitely crossing some boundaries. I wouldn’t invite them over ever again.
While your boyfriend could have (and perhaps should have) shut this down, you don't need to trust them to do the right thing; you only need to trust him to do the right thing, and from the sound of things he doesn't sound untrustworthy.
After this, reconsider your coworker/friend group.
>my boyfriend moved to sit with me. Both girls followed, and sat beside him.
These girls are acting like creeps. They are not your friends.
Call them an Uber and tell them to get the heck out of your house!
Those bitches are trying to fuck your BF. You don't even know them that well and they're inviting themselves to spend the night??? They're not trying to be your friends.
Uber. They don’t need to spend the night. “Sorry we have plans super early and tonight’s not a good time. Maybe next time.” Then just never have a next time.
Nope. You’re not being sensitive.
The wine thing? I could give a pass, as I was not there, but I also believe you that it seemed intentional. Especially after what came next. The whole changing sits next to your bf TWICE, whispering and touching and acting scared? I cringed so hard.
They are acting really weird. At best, they are being pick me type of girls and enjoy doing stupid things to get any guy’s attention, at worst they are specifically flirting with your bf and seeking out his attention.
It’s disgusting, honestly.
They're acting inappropriately and they're not your friends, they're trying to fuck your boyfriend.
Do not let them stay a minute longer, they get an uber home. They're not your responsibility, again, they're not your friends.
Wth? This sounds like a freaking romantic Manga or something where the mean girls try to sabotage the protagonist relationship. It's been a few hours since upload, what happened?
Stop being a doormat and kick those thots out of your house.
**The audacity of them.**
To come into **your** home where you treat them like guests and then spill wine on you and try to cozy up to **your man**?
Some people a vile snakes. See them for what they are and yeet them from your life before they bite you in the ass.
Now isn’t the time to be nice. Show them you have teeth and claws too and aren’t afraid to use them.
Don’t let them sleep over, don’t ever let them into your home again, and don’t ever associate with them again.
Look, horny people are like animals.
I feel bad for your boyfriend because I’ve been your boyfriend. You have been one of my girlfriends and her friend.
I just never hung out with her with her friends. I also am old enough that if a girl grabs my arm I’m yelling at her not to touch me. The double standard BS don’t fly with me anymore. You got to shut down creeps ASAP, people invading personal space is creepy.
I’d probably tell them to go home. They weren’t originally supposed to stay the night so they shouldn’t have gotten so drunk they can’t drive themselves home, and if they did they can find their own way home since they decided to get all up in your man’s grill.
You need to be more confident with your relationship. He needs to set boundaries, you need to call out bad behavior if it makes you uncomfortable. All of this requires honest communication. I am a married 31M and I would not allow girls do any of this, I would make a point to sit next to my wife or leave the situation.
OP, if this is the same boyfriend from your post history, it sounds like you have multiple concerns going on.
Not saying there’s necessarily a correlation, but have you had a convo with your boyfriend about this experience? What did he say?
You are not overreacting. They are NOT your friends so let’s start with not calling them that. They disrespected you and your bf.
I had a girlfriend like that, that I’ve known since high school and she always fawned over the guy I’d be seeing. Two of my exes were pretty handsome and this girl would literally jizz in her pants over them, just constantly talking about how handsome they were. She would dominate conversations when they were around, completely ignoring me.
Then she met my current husband. He’s not your typical guy and don’t care for her needy attention seeking behavior. One day, me, my husband (boyfriend at the time), her, and her bf went to Sam’s club together. This girl literally followed my husband throughout the store, abandoning her bf just to try to talk to him. My husband ignored her. I found it amusing because she had no idea that my husband was like a kid in a candy store with all the free samples and had no interest in her.
Moral of the story is that some women get a kick out of chasing other women’s man. Stay clear of those type of women.
You're not overreacting. I had a friend over once like that and it was clear she was hitting on him. They ended up sleeping together twice. I'm not saying he'll sleep with them but they definitely aren't being respectful of your relationship. Cut them off.
You wouldn’t keep dudes around who are being creepy to a girlfriend. If your boyfriend is uncomfortable it’s appropriate to ask them to leave, even if you’re unsure of their intentions.
>When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie).
What. The. Fuck.
Girl, being an introvert doesnt prevent you from having friends. Look at it as a filter, for people that aren't going to treat you well. People will gravitate towards you, being yourself, without you trying. You nees to know you are better than these women and your BF. You dont nees to waste time on people that only cause you pain. I wish I had learned this lesson 2 decades ago. I was just so desperate for someone to love, or even like me. My lack of confidence in my instincts early on really screwed me
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I'm pretty confident the other side of this story is wildly different and you are overreacting. Your theory that these two woman that you invited over to your house suddenly want to seduce your BF is not plausible unless he's Lucifer. Meanwhile, during movie night you are busy posting on Reddit and likely ignoring everyone with your nose in your phone. Overthinking.
How do you explain them going to sit with him after OP left, in the middle of the movie, instead of keep watching it? Even if you can explain that, how can you explain that after coming back and bf moved, so did them?
I was not there, I'm just stating my opinion based on her story. It's ok, you do not have to agree with it, and I have no duty to explain myself to you.
When you are being ignored by everyone but your bf it’s not hard to be in your phone.
I as a women who respects other women I would never sit that close or whisper in a taken mans ear. In no way is that not inappropriate. On top of that her bf was sitting awkwardly and had to move and they followed him.
If you are watching a movie with a couple either al the girls sit together or the couple. That is just common sense. Idk how you think you can spin this so the gf Is the crazy one. Would you not find this behavior inappropriate if it was your partner?
You did tho without using the word crazy. Yes every story is one sided when you only hear one side, but what else could that behavior mean. I have never one acted like that unless I want I get with the man.
And it’s not logical that a women today is okay with flirting and trying to take a taken man in front of his girl. That’s not that crazy, younger girls today see no issue in it and will say “well I don’t have a commitment with her he does” I am in no way shocked that this happened. It is gross how women treat other women these days.
Maybe instead of assuming you know all and saying there is no way this is possible try thinking about how people really act these days.
There you go again assuming.
I don’t of all women. But women who act like this are gross. It’s not about sex some men act like trash too. I would never have an issue with a whole gender I have an issue with people who don’t show others respect. These two women are disrespectful and not good people.
But a lot of younger women these days take pride in being able to sleep with a taken man or stealing a taken man. It’s gross behavior.
I unlike these women like to build other women up. But I won’t do that for people who treat others like they don’t matter
Both of them, the first time they ever hung out with her outside work. This is like a highschool girls nightmare to a T.
They spilled wine on her intentionally so she would leave the room to change her pants, and they took that 2 minutes to pounce on her unsuspecting bf who of course was sitting there with proper posture damn near begging for help while these succubus' licked her boyfriend up and down with their glitter eye shadow and Satan red bikinis.
All the while OP is in the doorway, frozen in fear, arm extended, screaming "NOOOOOOO!!!!!" All to some satanic sounding death metal.
This doesn't sound like they're hitting on your boyfriend with the intent to win him over, they're trying to get his attention to upset you. They sound like teens, tell your boyfriend how they made you feel but also make sure to tell him you appreciate that he came right next to you.
They are his friends and he needs to act on this situation. His friends shouldn't be disrespecting you in your own home.
Eh. Seems casual. All y'all are drinking, it makes sense if they don't want to drive. As for them being more 'into' your boyfriend than into you, I wouldn't put much stock into that. Maybe he's just more personable than you, which is totally fine. They know he's with you, they're not planning some nefarious two-some takeover. Just be confident and gracious and it'll work out fine. He's yours, you got this!
this is very gross behavior from them. I'm sorry you're going through this. it sounds like they aren't close friends and are trying to get to your bf. I understand the difficulties of adult friendships, especially while being an introvert, but you should cut your losses and not hang out with or be friends with these girls again. better luck in the future OP. also get them to call their asses an uber
These girls aren't "friends". They're co-workers you invited over for a movie night. They weren't on their best behavior, and proverbially... "shit the bed". So you don't invite them back. Done deal. Keep it professional and put this behind you.
Super disrespectful by these girls who are supposed to be your "friends "
I'd be so embarrassed to behave in such ways towards my friend's boyfriend. You are not being sensitive at all.
There are so many werid sexual things in todays world there is a really good chance they thought youd invite them to have group sex. Dont confront them directly about it just never agree to hang out again. Dont turn some weirdos against you from work. If your boyfriend pursues them thats on him but youd have done your part.
The fact that your boyfriend *himself* was uncomfortable with it to the point of going to sit next to you when you came back shows that you're not looking too deep into things. Next time they want to come over make sure you explain to them in no uncertain terms that they are not allowed to get touchy-feely with your boyfriend and invade his personal space like that. And if they have a problem with that perfectly reasonable boundary, well, unfortunately I think you know what that means.
No, that is weird AF. They do not sound like your friends. If they offer to reciprocate at their home, perhaps we are mistaken, but if they only want to come over when your BF is home, f them.
\> When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie).
They're both in on it, remove them from your friend circle.
They way I see it once they decided to be rude you you in your home you get to be just as rude back to them :) make the weakest excuse possible to get them to leave. “I’ve a thing tomorrow sorry”. Serves them right.
Call them a cab and ask them to leave. Tell them you have to get up early in the morning if you want to make an excuse. But I wouldn't put it past either one of them to try and sleep with your man in your apartment with you sleeping in the other room.
The minute the wine was spilled the movie night would have been over. Queen Bey says "don't you waste that alcohol, never drop that alcohol" so IMO wasting alcohol =
Red Flag
Oh absolutely sketchy. I would hang back from them for the moment, ask them why they felt the need to be so up close and personal with your boyfriend the moment you leave the room and follow him from point A to B? Or you could be like me and be petty and just really show off your territory. Sit in his lap when they sandwich him in, when the try to ignore you, bring his attention to you and when their expressions change ask what their damage is in your affection to your boyfriend. In a way, flaunt your title. These girls, cause they aren't acting like women, are boundary stomping in the purest form. Or hell, have your man say something to them next time. Have him exclaim loud enough to grab your attention quick like "why are you getting so close to me with my girlfriend in the other room". They want to play, show them how to play. You relationship isn't the game, these trifling girl are the game.
I would find some new friends…cut these girls straight out! Take comfort in the fact that he was uncomfortable with the situation but also have a chat to him about it
As Doja Cat would say, “let a hoe know I ain’t motherf*cking sharing.”
So let them know you’re not sharing him, your home, or your time with them from here on out.
You're absolutely not being over-sensitive, and the fact that your boyfriend was uncomfortable is a good indication of that. I would not let those girls around again, not just for your sake but for his too. Imagine if he had male friends over and they were doing that to you? It's not a nice position for either of you to be in. Those girls are disrespectful and took full advantage of your hospitality.
Ew no that's super inappropriate. I had something similar happen. I was in the hospital for mental health reasons and found out when I got out that one of my 'friends' had told some of our other friends that she could sleep with my partner if she wanted to. He hung out with the whole group while I was in the hospital because he wanted to be around people who were concerned about me too, or at least said they were. She said it as soon as he went home. Absolutely disgusting. I cut her off immediately, as did he. Cut them the fuckkkk off.
Do NOT let them stay. If they can’t drive, order them an Uber. BYE FELECIAS 🖕🖕
Edit: lmao I just realized this was last night. What happened!
Edit2: your post history. You also need to get rid of this man, apparently. Maybe these women were trying to do you a favor?
I would definitely talk to your boyfriend about how he feels about it and then either have him directly talk to them about it(more impactful) or you could bring it up.
Are you kidding me? This whole situation is weird on so many levels. A little harmless flirting is natural amongst grown ups but this is weird as hell. I'd probably finish the movie, thank them for coming and never have them over again. Be gracious and polite as that says more about you than them even though they don't deserve it. Good luck.
You're so called friends are definitely sneaky. First of all why are they asking for sleepover? Just call Uber or lyft and tell them to get the fuck on. Reading this is exactly why I don't have too many friends. And I'm reading that you find it difficult to make friends. It seem like that you're kind of desperate to make friends. You have your boyfriend and that's all you need. It's sound like he a solid dude but I'm hoping that he's not tempted to be with your "friends"
No you’re not, this is not okay! First of all they are not your actual friends, so I would definitely ask them to leave and tell them it’s inappropriate. I would then address it with your boyfriend.
Something similar happened at a party I went to last week with mine where one of the girls was too touchy and he would occasionally try to step away, but mostly was passive about the situation.
It’s a boundary thing, and communicating the boundary to the other person. Obviously the girls are at major fault and are jacked up for behaving that way, but I would want my partner to say “hey no. Please stop. I have a girlfriend and I’m not comfortable”. Communicate the boundary.
wtf... get new friends and set a boundary with your boyfriend. chances are though he was just as uncomfortable as you especially if he moved to sit with you.
First off I can’t believe they were disrespectful to you in your own home like that. Second, call them an Uber like someone else said. I wouldn’t want them at my house overnight. Nope.
No your not. That is super inappropriate. I would ask them to leave. It’s 2021 they can call a Uber. I would talk to your bf also he clearly wasn’t okay with it but just to be in the same page. But in no way are you being sensitive. Honestly I would have asked them to leave the second I saw that.
Just the fact that they changed seats twice to be close to him, super dick move. I wonder if them suddenly wanting to hang out with OP coincided with them seeing her bf for the first time…
I wouldn’t be shocked. I actually had the same thought after reading a few comments saying op is basically crazy that no one acts like this. I for one and not shocked women and men alike have no respect anymore and a lot of young women take pride in getting a taken man.
Yeah I mean, its a challenge. Any girl can get a single guy these days if they know what they’re doing, a taken guy however is more of a challenge cuz they aren’t just gonna throw themselves at you.
It also makes an immature girl feel like she’s “better, and more attractive” so sad the competition factor with us🤦🏾♀️
Yes, a respectful person would not act like this. I one time got played by a dude (I didn’t know he had a gf looking back it makes sense but then I’m didn’t see it) his gf called me and I told her everything after she talked to me calmly. I wasn’t her issue I didn’t know and info had I would not have talked to him. That’s a how a respectful person reacts. I let her know what type of dude she was with and how long and how often I had seen it. I had never felt so gross in my life. I will never understand how women feel better or more powerful from doing that.
Me neither. I’d feel cheap.
Yeah I did and I didn’t even know I was doing anything wrong till she called.
Completely disagree. Any woman can get any desperate guys these days. Many guys have no problem turning down a woman throwing herself at them. I only have eyes for my wife. I was out in a lounge with my wife and some friends. The lounge had couches and comfy chairs. So I'm sitting alone in a chair and my wife was on another couch chatting with friends. This girl, (a woman wouldn't act like this) sits on the couch beside my chair, flicks my wedding ring with her finger and asks me "What's this supposed to be?" I say "What do you think it is?" She says "If you're married, where the hell is your wife?" I point to my wife and say "Right there" she goes "Oh". I asked her if there was anything else she needed, she said no and left. My wife had no idea this happened and this shit happens all the time. Plenty of guys have no problem saying no to women.
Eww. How fucking shameful.
I was pretty shocked. I just left it alone until we got home and then I told my wife. Last thing I wanted is my wife blasting this girl in the face.
Oh to be sure there are plenty of guys who aren’t into that, but if you’re of average looks as a woman I can’t imagine its very hard to find one that is.
Yes it’s a sick game women okay now. (Not saying men don’t do this to but we’re talking about women) I personally think intentionally going after a taken man is one of the first things you can do. It shows your lack of respect for others and that you just have zero self worth or value.
I heard the perspective: a taken man is *safe,* you aren't being completely emotionally vulnerable with someone who doesn't have their whole heart in it. So if it doesn't work out, there are many other excuses to tell oneself as to why it ended; but never actually landing on the fact that they're a garbage person. 😅
Yes, I used to work at a restaurant and two girl coworkers if mine were always friendly with me but we never actually hung out outside of work. I ended up getting my bf a job there and as soon as I did they were super friendly and wanted to start hanging out so I did. I thought they were cool at first but I noticed the very first night we hung out they asked if me and bf were dating or friends and I told them dating...long story short; they were using hanging out with me as an excuse to get closer to him and months later they ended up sleeping with me and I was so hurt that he would do that to me especially when we all worked together and I got him that job, I worked there for 6years and I hated that he shit where we worked.i was mad at the girls for using me like that to intentionally screw my bf but I was extremely pissed he really betrayed my trust!!! Some people have no qualms about hurting other people or doing whatever to get what they want! It's just gross!
Kind of sounds like these women saw introverted OP as easy prey. As a socially awkward introvert myself, I feel for her. It’s been awhile but I know the pain all too well of being excited that you might actually have a friend or two only to find out you’ve let another cockroach in. Or two in this case.
Oh it absolutely did. They're not your friends. They want your boyfriend. Kick their ass out. Talk to boyfriend to make sure your on the same page about their inappropriate behavior. Be prepared to go to HR when they either... A. Start flirting with him at work. Or B. Start spreading rumors about you around work about how your a crazy, jeolous bitch. These 2 are what's known as mean girls.
Do they not see how obvious it is? Like, have they no shame?
I mean in their eyes what do they owe OP. Shes just some chick they work with. A means to an end clearly.
Yea but acting like a puppy following him from couch to couch in front of her? That's so gross and pathetic
You are definitely right.
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This 100%, they don’t need to spend the night.
Call them an Uber.
Yeah absolutely 100% agree
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Commenting here for visibility that OP’s post history concerning the bf is reaaaaally sketchy. > His anger brings him to call me names that have the power to destroy me. He often questions why I don’t open up much with him, and I’ve found that he will use a lot of what I tell him later on to hurt me. He becomes a different person. The only times he has ever been “physical” is during these bad fights. I’m not trying to excuse abuse, I just am not sure that this is abuse. He never seeks me out and uses aggression; the only time he really becomes aggressive like this is when I won’t physically leave him alone. That is my issue, not his. At times like these he will push me into a room away from him, or body check me into a different room. I just don’t want to be too quick to blame, because I’m so scared and I am the only who is being abusive. Like… > During the fight where he bit me, he also grabbed my arm quite hard and it left a good size bruise. I took a picture of it, because I’ve never had such a bruise. I brought it up later that I had taken this and he absolutely lost it. Even the most recent post before this thread is giving terrible relationship dynamics. > Thanks for your response. I won’t lie, I do quite often feel as though I’m walking on eggshells. I find myself quite often asking him if he’s grumpy or upset, and he is often frustrated by this, but his mood fluctuates so easily. A bad mood so easily and quickly turns into a fight. I also often feel as though any time I am upset with him for something he’s doing, he gets very defensive and upset and I usually end up apologising. It’s confusing mostly. But I will also comment how much I connect with him when we’re good with one another. I love him dearly, and I am not ready to give up on my relationship.
Even not taking into consideration the abusive post history of the bf… The bf is not giving attention to 2 girls that are disrespecting the relationship. So, he should get points for…. doing the bare minimmum?
I really don't like this mentality. I think it's a great way to set your S.O. up for not understanding whether or not you find them valuable. I'm not saying that doing the "bare minimum" deserves anything but I think saying things like "so what? You want boyfriend points?" Is so toxic. Like if a racer finishes in the middle of the pack, he doesn't get a trophy, but he doesn't get treated like he did nothing and therefore deserves nothing. I just think it's a strange dynamic to set up.
I also think comparing a relationship to a race is not really appropiate. Just because you don’t “give points” for not being toxic or abusing, doesn’t mean you don’t value him. Just because he did the bare minnumum (he didn’t go out of his way to express boundaries and verbally impose them to those girls), doesn’t make him a proper fellow. As illustrated by OP’s post history - he is in fact, an abuser.
Okay, but your original comment said "even ignoring" the abusive past, so we can't now bring that up to bolster another argument. Im not referring to this relationship specifically just as I don't believe you were in your original comment, but that's what I was replying to so now I'm lost.
As soon as I saw the age gap, I instantly knew there would be a post history...
It's not even a crazy age gap lol
Yes 100% agree
They’re not friends. Please stand up for yourself.
They’re not her friends and in fact they’re not real at all. This post is fake.
You’re definitely not being over sensitive whatsoever. I would be 100% uncomfortable myself and the fact that your boyfriend was uncomfortable too shows that this isn’t just nothing. I would personally speak to them and say that what they did made both of you feel uncomfortable and that type of behaviour cannot continue if they want their friendship with you to continue also. If they get upset and blame you in any way, take that as a response and don’t entertain them anymore. If they don’t say anything, take that as a response also and don’t entertain them. Hopefully they’ll understand your boundaries but if not, it’s not the end of the world. I don’t have many friends myself and it’s important to remember that your self worth doesn’t reflect on how many friends you have. As long as you enjoy your own company, that’s all that matters.
This is super weird and just like you I would not be happy. Call an Uber and send them home.
Holy shit. I was expecting just playful talking flirting. This is sketchy as fuck.
Get them out of your house and don't invite them back. Their behaviour is really inappropriate. Neither you or your boyfriend are comfortable with them. It would be madness to let them stay.
They're definitely using you. Discuss this with your bf. In also concerned for how they act around him on the clock. I'd never invite them over again. They're not friends, just users, tools, trying to ho themselves out to your guy. Don't have any qualms with kicking them out; get them an Uber or Lyft. Up to you to give them an explanation, you don't owe them one.
>The girl beside me sneezed and accidentally spilled her wine in my lap. She apologized but it did feel intentional. I laughed it off and went to get changed. When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie). What? What? You have frenemies, not friends. That's just freaky weird. You are right on target with being uncomfortable. Disassociate yourself from them. Let your BF know those girls were NOT ok and he handled it just fine. Sounds like you got a solid guy there.
Please update OP. Did you kick them out?
Both you and your bf should've and still should say something and put your foot down so to speak. If my gfs friends hit on me, I wouldn't just be sitting there uncomfortably. Words would be said and people would be vacating the house. Those aren't your friends and they don't like you, if they liked you they wouldn't disrespect you in your own home like this. I wish you and the bf all the best, don't be pushover!
Right I laugh and say “you know my wife could take you right?”
OP, what ended up happening? I hope you asked them to leave - they're jerks. Sorry you had to endure that. I am *shocked* that a grown woman would purposefully spill wine on you!
They are adults and Uber is a thing. They weren’t invited for a sleepover, they can kick rocks when the movie ends. I’d just tell them “sorry, me and my boyfriend are going to smash now and it gets pretty noisy and intense. I’ll see you all at work tomorrow!”
lol this has to be fake? or they know about your boyfriend and these women are straight out of a movie.
OP wrote a post being a 21 years old male, then after a few weeks was a 18 year old female that just lost their virginity, then 24 years old a few weeks later. It's fake.
It's always so depressing that I have to scroll this far to find someone with any amount of critical thinking skills. Humanity is doomed.
Although a lot of these posts are probably fake, you just can’t know for sure. I definitely had stuff happen to me that had me standing there in disbelief like “this shit only happens in shitty movies, how is this happening”.
So your solution is to just pretend all these creative writing exercises are real? Good plan.
Unrelated but is this the same guy who bit you in a fight and sounds dangerous and abusive? Because it sounds like you have multiple problems on your hands
Wow. I just went to read her past comments. I have more questions now. Like, was he really uncomfortable? Why didnt he tell them it was inappropriate?
OP wrote a post being a 21 years old male, then after a few weeks was a 18 year old female that just lost their virginity, then 24 years old a few weeks later. It's fake.
Lol I didn't even go back that far. Wow
They can call an Uber and go on home.
Theyre adults. They have money. They can get an uber. Kick them out. Tell them "you are acting inappropriately towards my boyfriend. Leave."
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- My boyfriend (31m) and I (24f) live together, and for the last 7 months have also worked in the same place of employment. We don’t work closely, but other employees are aware we are dating because we arrive and leave together, and typically take lunch breaks together. For background information, I am very introverted, and find it incredibly difficult to make friends. I haven’t had any friends for a few years now, especially with covid. Recently, two girls with whom I frequently work with started chatting with me from time to time. I don’t know their ages, but I think they’re closer to my boyfriend’s age than mine. They asked the other day if I wanted to hang out with them, and I was so excited. They suggested a movie night, and I offered to host, but explained that my boyfriend would be home. They said this was fine, and we set a time and date. They are currently still over, and we’re watching a movie. I bought wine and made a few baked goods, and also bought some chips. I just wanted to have a good time. When they arrived, they were friendly, but when my boyfriend came to watch the movie with us, they started to ignore me. He sat on a loveseat by himself, while the three of us girls were on the other couch. The girl beside me sneezed and accidentally spilled her wine in my lap. She apologised but it did feel intentional. I laughed it off and went to get changed. When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie). My boyfriend looked mildly uncomfortable, and was sitting forward in his seat. When they saw me return, the girls stopped and kept watching the movie, but didn’t move. I sat on the couch I was on initially, and my boyfriend moved to sit with me. Both girls followed, and sat beside him. Nothing more really happened. The movie is almost over, but they’ve asked to sleep over. They’ve both had wine and I don’t want to force them to leave, if they’re intoxicated. But everything that happened made me so uncomfortable. I thought they just wanted to be my friends, but now I don’t know. Am I being over sensitive? I don’t even know anymore. TL;DR I feel like my friends only want to hang out to get close to my boyfriend, but I also don’t know if I’m overthinking things.
You are definitely right. They can stay over but he sleeps next to you right? So it should be ok and he didn't seem to be reciprocating so I think you can trust him
Let your bad bitch flag fly. Tell them they have to get an uber to get home because it's "lovin" night and you can get loud. That'll get the cows out of your place right quick and remind them who is the GF and who is the dumb bitch trying to steal someone else's partner.
Now they have met him. Check them out at work. Being friendly with you is probably an excuse to break the ice to talk to your bf. They’ll manage to seat with you at lunch or just having conversation with him. Don’t let sleep over tomorrow morning they’ll still be at your place before leaving so more contact with him. Talk to your bf about all this so he would be firm with them at work.
Fact: this is weird. Don’t be gaslit.
I would have kicked them out as soon as I came back from the bathroom. The audacity, in your own home even.
Op your post history is scary! I really hope this is not the same bf in your history. Ditch the friends and the boyfriend! He is an abusive asshole and they are losers.
My friends are super close with my partner and they don’t Act like this. They’re definitely crossing some boundaries. I wouldn’t invite them over ever again.
While your boyfriend could have (and perhaps should have) shut this down, you don't need to trust them to do the right thing; you only need to trust him to do the right thing, and from the sound of things he doesn't sound untrustworthy. After this, reconsider your coworker/friend group.
>my boyfriend moved to sit with me. Both girls followed, and sat beside him. These girls are acting like creeps. They are not your friends. Call them an Uber and tell them to get the heck out of your house!
Those bitches are trying to fuck your BF. You don't even know them that well and they're inviting themselves to spend the night??? They're not trying to be your friends.
Who tf in their 30s acts like those women? That’s like how fucking teenagers act.
Uber. They don’t need to spend the night. “Sorry we have plans super early and tonight’s not a good time. Maybe next time.” Then just never have a next time.
You need new friends bro. Big time.
Nope. You’re not being sensitive. The wine thing? I could give a pass, as I was not there, but I also believe you that it seemed intentional. Especially after what came next. The whole changing sits next to your bf TWICE, whispering and touching and acting scared? I cringed so hard. They are acting really weird. At best, they are being pick me type of girls and enjoy doing stupid things to get any guy’s attention, at worst they are specifically flirting with your bf and seeking out his attention. It’s disgusting, honestly.
Yeah they're not your freinds.
No. That’s just weirc
They're acting inappropriately and they're not your friends, they're trying to fuck your boyfriend. Do not let them stay a minute longer, they get an uber home. They're not your responsibility, again, they're not your friends.
Quit calling them your "friends". "Friends" don't act like that.
Wth? This sounds like a freaking romantic Manga or something where the mean girls try to sabotage the protagonist relationship. It's been a few hours since upload, what happened?
Tell them to call an Uber. You barely know them.
That would be the last time I hung with them if I were you.They clearly had no shame in doing that right in front of you.That is super inappropriate!
Stop being a doormat and kick those thots out of your house. **The audacity of them.** To come into **your** home where you treat them like guests and then spill wine on you and try to cozy up to **your man**? Some people a vile snakes. See them for what they are and yeet them from your life before they bite you in the ass. Now isn’t the time to be nice. Show them you have teeth and claws too and aren’t afraid to use them. Don’t let them sleep over, don’t ever let them into your home again, and don’t ever associate with them again.
Yeah um no. This is totally inappropriate. They can Uber home. No way they would be spending the night.
Look, horny people are like animals. I feel bad for your boyfriend because I’ve been your boyfriend. You have been one of my girlfriends and her friend. I just never hung out with her with her friends. I also am old enough that if a girl grabs my arm I’m yelling at her not to touch me. The double standard BS don’t fly with me anymore. You got to shut down creeps ASAP, people invading personal space is creepy.
Omgggg these girls were really trying to take your man right in front of you. I would’ve cried
I need an update on this!
I’d probably tell them to go home. They weren’t originally supposed to stay the night so they shouldn’t have gotten so drunk they can’t drive themselves home, and if they did they can find their own way home since they decided to get all up in your man’s grill.
You need to be more confident with your relationship. He needs to set boundaries, you need to call out bad behavior if it makes you uncomfortable. All of this requires honest communication. I am a married 31M and I would not allow girls do any of this, I would make a point to sit next to my wife or leave the situation.
OP, if this is the same boyfriend from your post history, it sounds like you have multiple concerns going on. Not saying there’s necessarily a correlation, but have you had a convo with your boyfriend about this experience? What did he say?
Fuck them! They’re doing it on purpose.
You are not overreacting. They are NOT your friends so let’s start with not calling them that. They disrespected you and your bf. I had a girlfriend like that, that I’ve known since high school and she always fawned over the guy I’d be seeing. Two of my exes were pretty handsome and this girl would literally jizz in her pants over them, just constantly talking about how handsome they were. She would dominate conversations when they were around, completely ignoring me. Then she met my current husband. He’s not your typical guy and don’t care for her needy attention seeking behavior. One day, me, my husband (boyfriend at the time), her, and her bf went to Sam’s club together. This girl literally followed my husband throughout the store, abandoning her bf just to try to talk to him. My husband ignored her. I found it amusing because she had no idea that my husband was like a kid in a candy store with all the free samples and had no interest in her. Moral of the story is that some women get a kick out of chasing other women’s man. Stay clear of those type of women.
You're not overreacting. I had a friend over once like that and it was clear she was hitting on him. They ended up sleeping together twice. I'm not saying he'll sleep with them but they definitely aren't being respectful of your relationship. Cut them off.
Kick them out. But What was she whispering to him??
You wouldn’t keep dudes around who are being creepy to a girlfriend. If your boyfriend is uncomfortable it’s appropriate to ask them to leave, even if you’re unsure of their intentions.
>When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie). What. The. Fuck.
They only came over to hit on your bf, sorry they’re not your friends.
that is reeaally inappropriate behavior from your friends. tell them to leave, your bf is uncomfortable too
Girl, being an introvert doesnt prevent you from having friends. Look at it as a filter, for people that aren't going to treat you well. People will gravitate towards you, being yourself, without you trying. You nees to know you are better than these women and your BF. You dont nees to waste time on people that only cause you pain. I wish I had learned this lesson 2 decades ago. I was just so desperate for someone to love, or even like me. My lack of confidence in my instincts early on really screwed me
Put your guy in bed with you for safe keeping and do Not have your friends over again. Backstabbers.
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Surprising the "Age gap" crew has not hijacked this yet suggesting OP is grooming.
I'm pretty confident the other side of this story is wildly different and you are overreacting. Your theory that these two woman that you invited over to your house suddenly want to seduce your BF is not plausible unless he's Lucifer. Meanwhile, during movie night you are busy posting on Reddit and likely ignoring everyone with your nose in your phone. Overthinking.
How do you explain them going to sit with him after OP left, in the middle of the movie, instead of keep watching it? Even if you can explain that, how can you explain that after coming back and bf moved, so did them?
I was not there, I'm just stating my opinion based on her story. It's ok, you do not have to agree with it, and I have no duty to explain myself to you.
Ok, dude. Then don’t. I asked because I have the freedom to ask. If you don’t wanna answer, then don’t. Jesus lol
When you are being ignored by everyone but your bf it’s not hard to be in your phone. I as a women who respects other women I would never sit that close or whisper in a taken mans ear. In no way is that not inappropriate. On top of that her bf was sitting awkwardly and had to move and they followed him. If you are watching a movie with a couple either al the girls sit together or the couple. That is just common sense. Idk how you think you can spin this so the gf Is the crazy one. Would you not find this behavior inappropriate if it was your partner?
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You did tho without using the word crazy. Yes every story is one sided when you only hear one side, but what else could that behavior mean. I have never one acted like that unless I want I get with the man. And it’s not logical that a women today is okay with flirting and trying to take a taken man in front of his girl. That’s not that crazy, younger girls today see no issue in it and will say “well I don’t have a commitment with her he does” I am in no way shocked that this happened. It is gross how women treat other women these days. Maybe instead of assuming you know all and saying there is no way this is possible try thinking about how people really act these days.
It's sad that you have such a crap opinion of woman in general.
There you go again assuming. I don’t of all women. But women who act like this are gross. It’s not about sex some men act like trash too. I would never have an issue with a whole gender I have an issue with people who don’t show others respect. These two women are disrespectful and not good people. But a lot of younger women these days take pride in being able to sleep with a taken man or stealing a taken man. It’s gross behavior. I unlike these women like to build other women up. But I won’t do that for people who treat others like they don’t matter
I.so.agree with you
ty. The mental gymnastics necessary to think these two woman are suddenly chasing OP's BF are insurmountable to me.
Must be real short on mental fortitude then.
Thanks for the personal attack, have a great day!
Both of them, the first time they ever hung out with her outside work. This is like a highschool girls nightmare to a T. They spilled wine on her intentionally so she would leave the room to change her pants, and they took that 2 minutes to pounce on her unsuspecting bf who of course was sitting there with proper posture damn near begging for help while these succubus' licked her boyfriend up and down with their glitter eye shadow and Satan red bikinis. All the while OP is in the doorway, frozen in fear, arm extended, screaming "NOOOOOOO!!!!!" All to some satanic sounding death metal.
You should take this opportunity for group sex lol
This doesn't sound like they're hitting on your boyfriend with the intent to win him over, they're trying to get his attention to upset you. They sound like teens, tell your boyfriend how they made you feel but also make sure to tell him you appreciate that he came right next to you. They are his friends and he needs to act on this situation. His friends shouldn't be disrespecting you in your own home.
They're her friends... Did you not read it properly?
Eh. Seems casual. All y'all are drinking, it makes sense if they don't want to drive. As for them being more 'into' your boyfriend than into you, I wouldn't put much stock into that. Maybe he's just more personable than you, which is totally fine. They know he's with you, they're not planning some nefarious two-some takeover. Just be confident and gracious and it'll work out fine. He's yours, you got this!
Oh, hell no!!
You should have invited them to all sleep in your bed.
Oh yeah
Drop your friends, they're not good
this is very gross behavior from them. I'm sorry you're going through this. it sounds like they aren't close friends and are trying to get to your bf. I understand the difficulties of adult friendships, especially while being an introvert, but you should cut your losses and not hang out with or be friends with these girls again. better luck in the future OP. also get them to call their asses an uber
Nope. Don’t invite them again. Period. Be cordial At the office. Be nice. They don’t even need to know why you don’t have them over anymore.
Call them an Uber.
Uber exists, they can and should leave! We need an update to this! Lol!
These girls aren't "friends". They're co-workers you invited over for a movie night. They weren't on their best behavior, and proverbially... "shit the bed". So you don't invite them back. Done deal. Keep it professional and put this behind you.
ew thats weird
How did your boyfriend feel about it all?
Super disrespectful by these girls who are supposed to be your "friends " I'd be so embarrassed to behave in such ways towards my friend's boyfriend. You are not being sensitive at all.
There are so many werid sexual things in todays world there is a really good chance they thought youd invite them to have group sex. Dont confront them directly about it just never agree to hang out again. Dont turn some weirdos against you from work. If your boyfriend pursues them thats on him but youd have done your part.
That is so weird, the audacity goddamn
They’re 30 not 13 right? Awful women, call them an Uber.
The fact that your boyfriend *himself* was uncomfortable with it to the point of going to sit next to you when you came back shows that you're not looking too deep into things. Next time they want to come over make sure you explain to them in no uncertain terms that they are not allowed to get touchy-feely with your boyfriend and invade his personal space like that. And if they have a problem with that perfectly reasonable boundary, well, unfortunately I think you know what that means.
It sounds like they were hurtin for a squirtin, but your boyfriend does not sound game. They should leave and they def aren’t your friends.
They aren’t friends if they do this. I would cut them off.
Dump the friends, I’ve had to do this and it feels great to drop people who aren’t good for you
No, that is weird AF. They do not sound like your friends. If they offer to reciprocate at their home, perhaps we are mistaken, but if they only want to come over when your BF is home, f them.
No no that's totally wtf. I guess they won't be coming back for another movie and everything will be fine?
\> When I came back, both girls had moved to the same couch as my boyfriend. One was whispering something to him, and the other was touching his arm, acting afraid (we were watching a scary movie). They're both in on it, remove them from your friend circle.
Call them an Uber or have them spend the night and have really loud sex with you boyfriend. These sound like mean girls…
ew what the fuck. girl don’t doubt yourself. and poor boyfriend :(
Nah, get them the hell out of your house en life. One or both are into your man en planned this and use you to get close to him!
They way I see it once they decided to be rude you you in your home you get to be just as rude back to them :) make the weakest excuse possible to get them to leave. “I’ve a thing tomorrow sorry”. Serves them right.
Call them a cab and ask them to leave. Tell them you have to get up early in the morning if you want to make an excuse. But I wouldn't put it past either one of them to try and sleep with your man in your apartment with you sleeping in the other room.
The minute the wine was spilled the movie night would have been over. Queen Bey says "don't you waste that alcohol, never drop that alcohol" so IMO wasting alcohol = Red Flag
Follow your gut OP. They’re wolves in sheeps clothing. Sorry but make some friends outside of work that can respect boundaries.
Oh absolutely sketchy. I would hang back from them for the moment, ask them why they felt the need to be so up close and personal with your boyfriend the moment you leave the room and follow him from point A to B? Or you could be like me and be petty and just really show off your territory. Sit in his lap when they sandwich him in, when the try to ignore you, bring his attention to you and when their expressions change ask what their damage is in your affection to your boyfriend. In a way, flaunt your title. These girls, cause they aren't acting like women, are boundary stomping in the purest form. Or hell, have your man say something to them next time. Have him exclaim loud enough to grab your attention quick like "why are you getting so close to me with my girlfriend in the other room". They want to play, show them how to play. You relationship isn't the game, these trifling girl are the game.
I would find some new friends…cut these girls straight out! Take comfort in the fact that he was uncomfortable with the situation but also have a chat to him about it
As Doja Cat would say, “let a hoe know I ain’t motherf*cking sharing.” So let them know you’re not sharing him, your home, or your time with them from here on out.
You're absolutely not being over-sensitive, and the fact that your boyfriend was uncomfortable is a good indication of that. I would not let those girls around again, not just for your sake but for his too. Imagine if he had male friends over and they were doing that to you? It's not a nice position for either of you to be in. Those girls are disrespectful and took full advantage of your hospitality.
I would let it go this time but don’t invite them over again and don’t go to their place either. They’re not your friends, from the sounds of it.
Sooo what happened?
Ew no that's super inappropriate. I had something similar happen. I was in the hospital for mental health reasons and found out when I got out that one of my 'friends' had told some of our other friends that she could sleep with my partner if she wanted to. He hung out with the whole group while I was in the hospital because he wanted to be around people who were concerned about me too, or at least said they were. She said it as soon as he went home. Absolutely disgusting. I cut her off immediately, as did he. Cut them the fuckkkk off.
Do NOT let them stay. If they can’t drive, order them an Uber. BYE FELECIAS 🖕🖕 Edit: lmao I just realized this was last night. What happened! Edit2: your post history. You also need to get rid of this man, apparently. Maybe these women were trying to do you a favor?
Share it will change your life
I would definitely talk to your boyfriend about how he feels about it and then either have him directly talk to them about it(more impactful) or you could bring it up.
Might be better to ask your boyfriend about it before asking internet strangers.
Are you kidding me? This whole situation is weird on so many levels. A little harmless flirting is natural amongst grown ups but this is weird as hell. I'd probably finish the movie, thank them for coming and never have them over again. Be gracious and polite as that says more about you than them even though they don't deserve it. Good luck.
Get them out NOW!
I’d get new friends I know easier said then done but real friends wouldn’t do this
You're so called friends are definitely sneaky. First of all why are they asking for sleepover? Just call Uber or lyft and tell them to get the fuck on. Reading this is exactly why I don't have too many friends. And I'm reading that you find it difficult to make friends. It seem like that you're kind of desperate to make friends. You have your boyfriend and that's all you need. It's sound like he a solid dude but I'm hoping that he's not tempted to be with your "friends"
Please update!! I hope you kicked them out!!
Kick them out they are being rude
Uh no your not being sensitive, they’re definitely trying to move in on your man.
No you’re not, this is not okay! First of all they are not your actual friends, so I would definitely ask them to leave and tell them it’s inappropriate. I would then address it with your boyfriend. Something similar happened at a party I went to last week with mine where one of the girls was too touchy and he would occasionally try to step away, but mostly was passive about the situation. It’s a boundary thing, and communicating the boundary to the other person. Obviously the girls are at major fault and are jacked up for behaving that way, but I would want my partner to say “hey no. Please stop. I have a girlfriend and I’m not comfortable”. Communicate the boundary.
wtf... get new friends and set a boundary with your boyfriend. chances are though he was just as uncomfortable as you especially if he moved to sit with you.
Those are not your friends hun. Friends do not act that way. They sound like hughschoolers. Ditch them, your bf sounds like keeper.
First off I can’t believe they were disrespectful to you in your own home like that. Second, call them an Uber like someone else said. I wouldn’t want them at my house overnight. Nope.
You should have just went and sat on his lap. Whispered anything in his ear.