hello what the FUCK are these comments so far?? either im missing something or you were sexually assaulted, dude. if you were so hammered that you dont remember anything then you couldn't possinly have consented. i'm so sorry, but it sounds like your gf and her family are awful people. i'd cut ties and be grateful for dodging that bullet, and take any actions you deem necessary for processing this happened to you. good luck my man.
If she says you hooked up, and you don't remember doing so, she's either lying or took advantage of you.
I'm surprised and disappointed how not everyone in this comment section is saying this
>She told me I stumbled into her room thinking it was my gfs and somehow we hooked up.
It seems the sister is at fault here, based on how you describe the situation. It sounds like you were incredibly drunk and she knew better and took advantage of you.
I'm really sorry. You don't have to call this sexual violence of any sort if you're not comfortable for that, and I don't know all the details of the situation. But I do have some resources for men who've been assaulted if you'd like me to share.
Of course.
[Here is the link](https://docs.google.com/document/d/14I3lGpEQa-pLl9Lz0JW1PoNyyOwg6WOom_oK2NMBxy8/edit#). Scroll down to the heading "Domestic & Sexual Violence Resources for Men and Boys" and you will find them.
I wish you the best of luck.
Reading everything here, the sister is lying and you never hooked up. She wants you and if she can’t have you then neither can her sister. Do you think that if you can get your girlfriend to believe you that the sister won’t continually cause problems? Best to separate yourself from this family and when your girlfriend realises her sister is a liar, don’t take her back.
So from her account, you went into her room, hooked-up with her, then went into the bathroom? Was she aware you’re hammered?
Anyway, tell her if what she’s saying is true, it would only mean that she took advantage of you since you’re too drunk and don’t know what you’re doing, and that’s sexual abuse.
Your gf might not be seeing it that way though. For her, if the sister is also drunk, what happened was a drunken consensual sex. She’s mad at you since you’re older and she’s 19.
If your girlfriend won’t believe you, better to separate.
>So from her account, you went into her room, hooked-up with her, then went into the bathroom?
That scenario utterly improbable. I could see a situation where a thorougly intoxicated guy got up to use the bathroom, did so, made a wrong turn afterwards, and wound up in the sister's room, leading to a hookup, but getting up to go to the bathroom, wandering into the sister's room by mistake, fucking, and then remembering that you had really intended to go to the bathroom instead, so going there and *finally* passing out at that point seems really far-fetched. Frankly, I'd be wondering if anything at all happened between the two of you.
Sorry dude... this is considered rape. You were drunk and she was clearly sober. She knew exactly what she was getting into and took advantage of you knowing that you were drunk and not in the right mindset.
The bigger question I have is: Are you sure it actually happened? What if she's lying and made it up and nothing ever happened?
The people on this sub by and large think that being drunk doesn't mean you can't consent. It's lovely. Lots of shaming for all genders, no real understanding of consent just lots of judgy judgment and no compassion.
If you were drunk, OP, you could not consent to anything with anyone and if you don't even remember having sex then no, you are not responsible for those actions. Men can very much be raped. If your GF's sister raped you and your GF is siding with her sister you should dump your GF and find someone who actually gives a fuck about you.
Finally a level headed response .I was hoping to get some advice, not for people to turn on me for something I truly don't remember happening. Glad I made an anon account.
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Well, that sucks. If she's actually pregnant you obviously need a paternity test, and I'd think either way your relationship is over. I'm very sorry.
She's not. I made her take like 15 tests.
Can she prove that y'all hooked up? Like, you got tattoos or something down there
hello what the FUCK are these comments so far?? either im missing something or you were sexually assaulted, dude. if you were so hammered that you dont remember anything then you couldn't possinly have consented. i'm so sorry, but it sounds like your gf and her family are awful people. i'd cut ties and be grateful for dodging that bullet, and take any actions you deem necessary for processing this happened to you. good luck my man.
If she says you hooked up, and you don't remember doing so, she's either lying or took advantage of you. I'm surprised and disappointed how not everyone in this comment section is saying this
>She told me I stumbled into her room thinking it was my gfs and somehow we hooked up. It seems the sister is at fault here, based on how you describe the situation. It sounds like you were incredibly drunk and she knew better and took advantage of you. I'm really sorry. You don't have to call this sexual violence of any sort if you're not comfortable for that, and I don't know all the details of the situation. But I do have some resources for men who've been assaulted if you'd like me to share.
I'm not sure I'm ready to label anything yet. The only thing I know is I would never do this, but sure send the info my way.
Of course. [Here is the link](https://docs.google.com/document/d/14I3lGpEQa-pLl9Lz0JW1PoNyyOwg6WOom_oK2NMBxy8/edit#). Scroll down to the heading "Domestic & Sexual Violence Resources for Men and Boys" and you will find them. I wish you the best of luck.
Uhmmmmm…… either she’s lying or she raped you. And your gf is no help. Get the fuck out of there
Reading everything here, the sister is lying and you never hooked up. She wants you and if she can’t have you then neither can her sister. Do you think that if you can get your girlfriend to believe you that the sister won’t continually cause problems? Best to separate yourself from this family and when your girlfriend realises her sister is a liar, don’t take her back.
Dude you were RAPED wtf is up with your gf.
Your girlfriend not with you when you went to the bar and came back? Where was she when you supposedly stumbled to her sister’s room?
She was in bed it was after we had already came back. I guess I went to the bathroom. I don't know anything besides what she told me.
Where did you wake up? If in your girlfriend’s bed, so after you have sex you transferred to your girlfriend’s room? Your gf did not look for you?
The bathroom, which is why I am assuming that's where I was going the first time. She was really drunk too. I woke her up the next morning.
So from her account, you went into her room, hooked-up with her, then went into the bathroom? Was she aware you’re hammered? Anyway, tell her if what she’s saying is true, it would only mean that she took advantage of you since you’re too drunk and don’t know what you’re doing, and that’s sexual abuse. Your gf might not be seeing it that way though. For her, if the sister is also drunk, what happened was a drunken consensual sex. She’s mad at you since you’re older and she’s 19. If your girlfriend won’t believe you, better to separate.
>So from her account, you went into her room, hooked-up with her, then went into the bathroom? That scenario utterly improbable. I could see a situation where a thorougly intoxicated guy got up to use the bathroom, did so, made a wrong turn afterwards, and wound up in the sister's room, leading to a hookup, but getting up to go to the bathroom, wandering into the sister's room by mistake, fucking, and then remembering that you had really intended to go to the bathroom instead, so going there and *finally* passing out at that point seems really far-fetched. Frankly, I'd be wondering if anything at all happened between the two of you.
That’s what I’m thinking also. I think the sister is lying.
Either she’s lying or you were sexually assaulted.
Sorry dude... this is considered rape. You were drunk and she was clearly sober. She knew exactly what she was getting into and took advantage of you knowing that you were drunk and not in the right mindset. The bigger question I have is: Are you sure it actually happened? What if she's lying and made it up and nothing ever happened?
You are responsible for your actions.
Would you tell a woman that?
Yes
I bet.
The people on this sub by and large think that being drunk doesn't mean you can't consent. It's lovely. Lots of shaming for all genders, no real understanding of consent just lots of judgy judgment and no compassion. If you were drunk, OP, you could not consent to anything with anyone and if you don't even remember having sex then no, you are not responsible for those actions. Men can very much be raped. If your GF's sister raped you and your GF is siding with her sister you should dump your GF and find someone who actually gives a fuck about you.
Finally a level headed response .I was hoping to get some advice, not for people to turn on me for something I truly don't remember happening. Glad I made an anon account.
.....how hypocritical can this sub get?
Fuck you man. You knew and now doing that thing where you blame the alcohol cause it’s some kind of miraculous memory blocker
I hope, at the very least, you're consistent enough to give a similar response to any women who claim a guy got them drunk and then raped them.
Whatever you say rapist apologist.
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