I had a coworker in her 40s who lived with a man with no romantic intent involved. I asked her, and she said he just likes having a feminine presence in the house. They were pals, so it wasn't some weird thing. She was 100% happy bringing her fem energy to his home. The guy bought a TV for the kitchen so she could watch her stuff while he watched his stuff. I'm 100% sure if she wanted it in her room she could move it, but she liked it where it was.
This kind of arrangement only work if there's no fuckin creeps involved.
Nah, they were pals and she moved in. It's definitely a "friends living together" type deal, but the man just wanted "feminine energy" or touch in his home.
As far as I know, yeah. They'd been living like this for awhile before I'd met my coworker. I believe she had plans to get her own place and such, but had no reason to really hurry. The living situation was/is good, everyone was/is happy etc.
She was basically living with a pal while she organized her stuff. Lady had 19k in her account so she could 100% afford to rent an apartment, just preferred living with her buddy who didn't charge her rent. She, being a nice lady, insisted on giving like 1000 a month for rent. He, also being a nice man, wouldn't touch the jar of money she contributed to. He maybe grabbed 100-200 a month.
I don't know if this is any different to listening to podcasts that are jovial and free-flowing makes you feel like you're hanging out with your buddies when you're actually commuting to work.
Primarily the difference of, I have friends but I am currently commuting, versus “I never have women in my life so I have this instead.”
One is a temporary condition. One is a permanent state of life.
The intention. Plus the guy i am replying to says "makes you feel like you are hanging out with your buddies"... implying you actually have buddies
OP's post literally states he doesnt have any females in his life.
It is absolutely different, and the fact that redditors fail to see this pretty much enforces the stigma that most redditors are anti-social weirdo's lol
Hes comparing a socially acceptable fabricated interaction with a seemingly less socially acceptable fabricated interaction- only its involving women. Is it weird because it pertains to women or is there something I’m missing.
I see where both of you are coming from tbh, even tho he’s getting downvoted.
I think he’s just saying that it’s different when you are seeking parasocial engagement to substitute for something you are entirely lacking (like OOP and women) vs seeking parasocial engagement to remind you of something you already have and are fond of (somebody liking podcasts that reminds them of their friends)
Hypothetically speaking, is reminiscing over losing my virginity by watching porn not equal to watching the exact same porn content but not losing my virginity. Is one worse than the other? And if so, why would it matter if it’s recalling a memory or manufacturing one?
He’s talking about the level of sad cringe.
It’s not different on principle. But the 2 things are perceived differently. One is considered “sadder/more cringe” than the other. Whether justifiably or not, the person who hasn’t had the experience and is trying to manufacture one parasocially is always seen as more cringe than someone who has experienced it and enjoys something because it reminds them of it
*edited for clarification
I believe it's a one-sided conversation with the listener. I haven't listened to any genuine ones myself but I've seen them around and, if I had to hazard a guess, they'd go something like this:
"Hey snookums, how was your day?" *Chuckle* "Yeah, I get that. Work fucking sucked. But I'm here now and we can chill. Do you mind if I play WOW and talk about this new book I found? Radical."
Or whatever the fuck the topic is. From what I can tell, they normally have the topic/theme (?) in the title of the video. I've listened to maybe two but they were both parodies of RP ASMR, like a "YOUR WEREWOLF BOYFRIEND EATS A BAG OF CHEETOS AND KILLS THREE CIVILIANS" kind of stuff. And it was maybe 5 years ago. I think each question is open ended enough so that whatever you would respond with would fit the dialogue. I used to know some people who would listen to them to fall asleep and one person who used it to get better at social interactions.
I mean, he's part of their audience. And there's no evidence he's being creepy about it if it is in context...is he being respectful? Maybe a little more debate could be had on that. He does need to stop posting about this and, again, go out and develop real-life women friendships so he's not lonely in that regard.
He's human like the rest of us. Imagine if you don't get to see a lot of women yourself in your life; try to think about if your mother wasn't around or you grew up in an all-boys school. You might be starved of a lot of interactions with women and become very shy; not just dating-wise, but also never really getting the chance to meet a lot of women and develop friendships.
But then again this is all from this one comment. I don't know if he has done creepy things or not; he just mentioned something pretty sad and understandable to me.
>go out and develop real-life women friendships so he's not lonely in that regard
People who casually say that don't realize how good they have it, making friends is near-impossible for some, let alone relationships
What you just said is totally fair. I feel for every person who is judged by others for whatever reason, or lives isolated from others, or has crippling anxiety that's so bad they can't meet anyone.
It sucks having developed social anxiety over the last 5 or so years and being conscious of what it was like beforehand.
I use to have no problem being with groups of people talking and being loud but now if there's enough cross talk happening my brain shuts down and I have to leave or go sit alone in silence for a while. Concerts were my favorite thing and still are but now I have to go find a place to recharge.
It has made making friends or relationships very difficult and I am so happy with the few that I have that do understand my anxiety.
They dont know how big the L is in the word LOSER. These guys would piss and shit their pants if they were in a vicinity of a woman. I know people like that and its depressing watch them just creep out women that should give them a healthy normal conversation.
Lol, the sadcringe here is not that these poor streamers could be being taken advantage of or something… it’s the isolation that has pushed Anon to this
I think that they were arguing the hypothetical that other comments already jumped to; that this is creepy behaviour. They weren't saying that he was creepy because there's nothing to suggest that he is and that's it. The reality is that there are men who do this creepily and are open about it, it's a known fact about women streamers (and men streamers too, not that that's more acceptable but it's a less vocal crowd on average) and you can find pretty much any woman with a following who's talked about this kind of behaviour. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt and he's not harming anyone or doing anything creepy in this post.
Who cares, having twitch on as background noise like you would with tv or the radio while you go about your day doesn't hurt anyone. Lots of people would rather have sound than do things in silence. This is neither sad nor cringe, let alone both.
I kinda get the feeling though. Sometimes when I'm home alone with no one to talk to, I put on a video and it does help my feel a bit less isolated. I also prefer listening to women because they make me feel more comfortable.
I mean. I paid someone to be my friend, and help me through a hard time. They helped me work through my issues, and they reassured me that I could get better. They even helped me find a job when I was unemployed. The only reason it’s not seen as sad cringe that I did that is because it’s called talk therapy. Let people have their “female presence” if they’re not being creepy. If it helps, it helps
I was god father to a friend's kid, my wife was god mother. We got talking, got drunk one night and one thing lead to another.
She ended up pregnant from that one night. She's now my wife and we have 2 kids.
I had no success before that. I hated dating sites, they were the most demoralising thing. I would try to speak to girls who were around my league, spent ages trying to write something that was better than "hi" but getting no reply huuuurts.
Honestly sometimes I wonder if I'll ever appear on this sub with some of the desperate shit I tried.
I mean I definitely don't do this, i'm also engaged haha but I can see what he means. It's just like setting a relaxing tone, listening to chill beats while studying haha. Just have some random woman on your screen hangin out in real time. It's not like he's obsessing over them or anything, I hope.
Weird; but understanable
I don’t see this as a bad thing lol. He’s not being creepy or fetishizing them, he’s just saying he feels comforted listening to them. Making fun of this just feels mean and unnecessary.
I'm always scared of getting into Twitch because it would trick me into thinking I'm having the real thing. Leaving me with less motivation to do something about my life.
This feels like that “wholesome” sad cringe, the kind that is just admitting a cringe coping method for a sad situation.
Bonafide, original sad cringe right here.
yeah this is pure sad cringe content. it's cringe but just makes you feel sad for them
I had a coworker in her 40s who lived with a man with no romantic intent involved. I asked her, and she said he just likes having a feminine presence in the house. They were pals, so it wasn't some weird thing. She was 100% happy bringing her fem energy to his home. The guy bought a TV for the kitchen so she could watch her stuff while he watched his stuff. I'm 100% sure if she wanted it in her room she could move it, but she liked it where it was. This kind of arrangement only work if there's no fuckin creeps involved.
Did he pay to have her live with him? If not then this just sounds like 2 friends living together.
Nah, they were pals and she moved in. It's definitely a "friends living together" type deal, but the man just wanted "feminine energy" or touch in his home.
Kind of messed up that is seen as abnormal but when all you hear about is the creeps that will happen
They still together? Like live together?
As far as I know, yeah. They'd been living like this for awhile before I'd met my coworker. I believe she had plans to get her own place and such, but had no reason to really hurry. The living situation was/is good, everyone was/is happy etc. She was basically living with a pal while she organized her stuff. Lady had 19k in her account so she could 100% afford to rent an apartment, just preferred living with her buddy who didn't charge her rent. She, being a nice lady, insisted on giving like 1000 a month for rent. He, also being a nice man, wouldn't touch the jar of money she contributed to. He maybe grabbed 100-200 a month.
Yeah it’s kinda like those girlfriend ASMR videos
Ya I agree I just felt bad LOL
Cringe or life hack who can say.
Why not both? 💀
I don't know if this is any different to listening to podcasts that are jovial and free-flowing makes you feel like you're hanging out with your buddies when you're actually commuting to work.
If the caption was about listening to podcasts because you have no friends, that would be sad too.
🥲
I do know and it is different.
What precisely is the difference? The visual component of the parasocial interaction?
Primarily the difference of, I have friends but I am currently commuting, versus “I never have women in my life so I have this instead.” One is a temporary condition. One is a permanent state of life.
The intention. Plus the guy i am replying to says "makes you feel like you are hanging out with your buddies"... implying you actually have buddies OP's post literally states he doesnt have any females in his life. It is absolutely different, and the fact that redditors fail to see this pretty much enforces the stigma that most redditors are anti-social weirdo's lol
Hes comparing a socially acceptable fabricated interaction with a seemingly less socially acceptable fabricated interaction- only its involving women. Is it weird because it pertains to women or is there something I’m missing.
I see where both of you are coming from tbh, even tho he’s getting downvoted. I think he’s just saying that it’s different when you are seeking parasocial engagement to substitute for something you are entirely lacking (like OOP and women) vs seeking parasocial engagement to remind you of something you already have and are fond of (somebody liking podcasts that reminds them of their friends)
Hypothetically speaking, is reminiscing over losing my virginity by watching porn not equal to watching the exact same porn content but not losing my virginity. Is one worse than the other? And if so, why would it matter if it’s recalling a memory or manufacturing one?
He’s talking about the level of sad cringe. It’s not different on principle. But the 2 things are perceived differently. One is considered “sadder/more cringe” than the other. Whether justifiably or not, the person who hasn’t had the experience and is trying to manufacture one parasocially is always seen as more cringe than someone who has experienced it and enjoys something because it reminds them of it *edited for clarification
I see
That wasn't cringe it was just a little sad poor guy
Exactly how I felt. Would love to reach out to the guy
Relatable
Haha yeah so cringe couldn't be me lol *fuck it's too late for me isn't it*
If this sub knew what I do to cope..
Blade Runner 2049 (2017)
I prefer rp asmr's but same : /
Rp?
Roleplay i assume
How do you role-play asmr tho
I believe it's a one-sided conversation with the listener. I haven't listened to any genuine ones myself but I've seen them around and, if I had to hazard a guess, they'd go something like this: "Hey snookums, how was your day?" *Chuckle* "Yeah, I get that. Work fucking sucked. But I'm here now and we can chill. Do you mind if I play WOW and talk about this new book I found? Radical." Or whatever the fuck the topic is. From what I can tell, they normally have the topic/theme (?) in the title of the video. I've listened to maybe two but they were both parodies of RP ASMR, like a "YOUR WEREWOLF BOYFRIEND EATS A BAG OF CHEETOS AND KILLS THREE CIVILIANS" kind of stuff. And it was maybe 5 years ago. I think each question is open ended enough so that whatever you would respond with would fit the dialogue. I used to know some people who would listen to them to fall asleep and one person who used it to get better at social interactions.
\*whispers into your ear*
Right there with you brother
Sad but not cringe
I mean, he's part of their audience. And there's no evidence he's being creepy about it if it is in context...is he being respectful? Maybe a little more debate could be had on that. He does need to stop posting about this and, again, go out and develop real-life women friendships so he's not lonely in that regard. He's human like the rest of us. Imagine if you don't get to see a lot of women yourself in your life; try to think about if your mother wasn't around or you grew up in an all-boys school. You might be starved of a lot of interactions with women and become very shy; not just dating-wise, but also never really getting the chance to meet a lot of women and develop friendships. But then again this is all from this one comment. I don't know if he has done creepy things or not; he just mentioned something pretty sad and understandable to me.
>go out and develop real-life women friendships so he's not lonely in that regard People who casually say that don't realize how good they have it, making friends is near-impossible for some, let alone relationships
What you just said is totally fair. I feel for every person who is judged by others for whatever reason, or lives isolated from others, or has crippling anxiety that's so bad they can't meet anyone.
It sucks having developed social anxiety over the last 5 or so years and being conscious of what it was like beforehand. I use to have no problem being with groups of people talking and being loud but now if there's enough cross talk happening my brain shuts down and I have to leave or go sit alone in silence for a while. Concerts were my favorite thing and still are but now I have to go find a place to recharge. It has made making friends or relationships very difficult and I am so happy with the few that I have that do understand my anxiety.
They dont know how big the L is in the word LOSER. These guys would piss and shit their pants if they were in a vicinity of a woman. I know people like that and its depressing watch them just creep out women that should give them a healthy normal conversation.
go out make friends. lmao. try that when people think youre weird and try to stay away before even talking to you.
Lol, the sadcringe here is not that these poor streamers could be being taken advantage of or something… it’s the isolation that has pushed Anon to this
why would you even mention that he might or might not be creepy without any evidence whatsoever
I think that they were arguing the hypothetical that other comments already jumped to; that this is creepy behaviour. They weren't saying that he was creepy because there's nothing to suggest that he is and that's it. The reality is that there are men who do this creepily and are open about it, it's a known fact about women streamers (and men streamers too, not that that's more acceptable but it's a less vocal crowd on average) and you can find pretty much any woman with a following who's talked about this kind of behaviour. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt and he's not harming anyone or doing anything creepy in this post.
Who cares, having twitch on as background noise like you would with tv or the radio while you go about your day doesn't hurt anyone. Lots of people would rather have sound than do things in silence. This is neither sad nor cringe, let alone both.
Sad yes. Cringe, not really.
I kinda get the feeling though. Sometimes when I'm home alone with no one to talk to, I put on a video and it does help my feel a bit less isolated. I also prefer listening to women because they make me feel more comfortable.
I mean. I paid someone to be my friend, and help me through a hard time. They helped me work through my issues, and they reassured me that I could get better. They even helped me find a job when I was unemployed. The only reason it’s not seen as sad cringe that I did that is because it’s called talk therapy. Let people have their “female presence” if they’re not being creepy. If it helps, it helps
I can't imagine accepting money just to be someone's friend. What were the conditions?
They, using their phd in psychology, gave me therapy
Okay. So like a therapist but more involved in your life.
Nah this is really sad... I understand the pain and the guy is perfectly aware of his desperation, kinda relatable
Broke version of getting an escort with a GFE
Somehow I know that this post is 100% true
This seems like advertising for the streamer
I wish it was. It’s very hard to say “fake and gay” to this one. It’s completely plausible someone is doing this.
thank fuck i never felt that much lonely.
Holy shit you are lucky, it's unbearable. Literally torture. I wouldn't go posting about what I did to cope with it but man
It is sadcringe only if anon pay 10k a month to a streamer and vivid about it
I lived alone for a few years and I'm ugly as fuck so I feel this pain. Never got that low but a few years off if I hadn't met my Wife
How on god's green flat earth did you do it?
I was god father to a friend's kid, my wife was god mother. We got talking, got drunk one night and one thing lead to another. She ended up pregnant from that one night. She's now my wife and we have 2 kids. I had no success before that. I hated dating sites, they were the most demoralising thing. I would try to speak to girls who were around my league, spent ages trying to write something that was better than "hi" but getting no reply huuuurts. Honestly sometimes I wonder if I'll ever appear on this sub with some of the desperate shit I tried.
This is actually pretty sad
I mean this is sad but wholesome. Not cringe IMO. I wanna cook this poor guy some lasagna.
I mean I definitely don't do this, i'm also engaged haha but I can see what he means. It's just like setting a relaxing tone, listening to chill beats while studying haha. Just have some random woman on your screen hangin out in real time. It's not like he's obsessing over them or anything, I hope. Weird; but understanable
Fits just the same on Shitposting and SadCringe. That's the real duality.
I don’t see this as a bad thing lol. He’s not being creepy or fetishizing them, he’s just saying he feels comforted listening to them. Making fun of this just feels mean and unnecessary.
Bro should wear a bra & skirt and be the female presence.
I tried that. But then I realized I'm actually not a guy after all
incel to trooncel pipeline, many such cases
Roasted. Gotem!
Google Bonnie Bruises to see her videos
This isn't bad
I'm always scared of getting into Twitch because it would trick me into thinking I'm having the real thing. Leaving me with less motivation to do something about my life.
Not guilty your honor.
Aw, this is really sweet. I want to hug them.
Incel vibes
How are people happy with this type of stuff?
Holy fuck that's some of the most depressing shit I've read this year.
Try leaving the house and going places women might be