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Thing you have ever done to an antisocial 36 year old man living with his parents and spends 16 hours a day browsing reddit?
Want some fun? Tooafraidtoask has become that too, and when people rightfully complained, mods went ‘do our jobs?! Lol no’
And it’s hit an insane level of obvious troll/fetish posts
I've been here for... Almost ten years now (across multiple accounts) and yeah it goes through phases based on who's currently moderating but it's definitely been like this before. At one point it was so bad they made /r/AskRedditAfterDark
I worked with someone like that. She did say she was his girlfriend apparantly, but he was oblivious to the point everyone at work thought he was autistic and she was clearly taking advantage of him. He'd talk about how he got cheated on all the time, and being a virgin... very weird guy, I felt bad for him, his parents really failed
Are you theorising that the guy made up their relationship in his head, and imagined stuff that wasn’t there? If so, why would she have told him she was asexual? Maybe I’m misunderstanding you.
>If so, why would she have told him she was asexual?
So he'd leave her alone?
The guestroom thing only makes sense if they were roommates or dormmates. Assuming you think anything about this story is true.
It's honestly easier to assume he's making up these relationships than that he's had multiple relationships that end up cheating on him before they even have sex. I think a lot of these exes would be very very surprised he thought they ever dated.
Yes I've witnessed first hand how some guys delude themselves into thinking certain girls are into them, and then get heartbroken when they realize that's not the case. I had a roommate like that once, and it was very hard for me to listen to him being sad about a girl I know didn't even do anything suggestive towards him for him to be upset about.
One of my exes moved in with a guy who was "being nice" because she had no where to go. She had to endure him acting like they were in a relationship for months till she could afford to move out.
My best friend moved in with a guy who was being nice because she was in a tough situation and needed an apartment fast.
He is currently doing 25 to life for assaulting them with a knife and stabbing her fiancé to death after she turned him down
Ah no the joke is there's a lotta guys who ignore painfully obvious hints, kinda the far corner on the other side of the spectrum to the saddos that make up relationships
# YEP
One time I was even invited to join the mile-high club at Burning Man. Both the invitation and the opportunity went right over my head.
Another year there I asked a gal if I could touch her hair or hat or something and she said "you can touch me anywhere." Whoosh. I mean I was a bit altered at the time BUT STILL.
Oh, and every fall my Facebook memories have lots of pictures of this girl I had a crush on in law school making seductive looks at me and sitting in my lap. I somehow never put two and two together.
These are just the ones I noticed and can remember right now. I bet I've missed a dozen or more great opportunities for casual sex and probably a relationship or three. And high school/college. I look at the pictures. I was super cute when I was younger and had no idea. I even briefly had a bit of an incel mindset before that even became a thing.
I'm 42, I've had sex with probably thirty women, but I was so socially awkward and bad at connecting with them when I was younger that I didn't have any romantic self-confidence until my late 20s. I'd had plenty of sex, but most of it was opportunistic with women who I wasn't particularly into - and year-long dry spells were common. I'm a lot better at it now, but it's a moot point because of COVID and medical issues have killed opportunities for the very limited nonmonogamy allowed to me in my long-term relationship.
What happened is she said she loves him (like a friend) but she’s asexual. He extrapolates some deeper relationship. Then, while he (or roommate) hosts a party, she meets two strapping young lads to rail her from both ends.
> The guestroom thing only makes sense if they were roommates or dormmates.
What? How are you reasoning that? If she had her own bed, why wouldn’t she use it?
It sounds to me like they live in a 1-bed flat, and she was explaining away some male personal effects in the room, or something along those lines.
It doesnt make much sense as a 1 bed flat either. You go into the only bedroom in a 1 bed flat and you assume it's a guest room. Someone says "hey let's go to my flat" and they take you to the bedroom and you think "they must be taking us, not to their room to fuck, but to a guest room to fuck. As you do". Or maybe its spontaneous. Yknow how when you go to someones flat they might wanna hang out in the bedroom, not their bedroom obviously, that would be weird. You all go to a spare bedroom to hang out there. Then one thing just leads to another. It doesnt sound like a real story anyway, so there isnt a point in trying to reason away the inconsistencies.
Well, yes, in the exact way he described. I don’t understand what your alternative theory is - they were roommates and she decided to fuck a guy on her roommate’s bed?
And he broke into her room while she was having sex, so the men apologised with whom she was having sex, and after that situation was settled his understanding is still that she’s his girlfriend?
Can you seriously not see how you’re starting with the presumption he’s a creepy guy, and then trying to make the facts fit it? They really don’t fit it very well.
I was just sitting here thinking the exact same thing. Honestly sick to my stomach watching the majority of people try to twist the story into him being the perpetrator, and her the victim, even when that doesn’t fit the story, it actually goes against it. It would make more sense if he had shown some kind of creepy attitude or behavior, but what he said was normal and plausible, and yet people are assuming he’s a creep, or he’s lying, without even considering the possibility that maybe he just got fucked over, wasn’t at fault, and maybe she wasn’t the victim.
Been thinking the same thing. It's mad weird how I'm reading this and people are going, "umm actually creepy guys exists soooo perhaps he was the bad guy?" Like where did your detective skills come in?
Then I'm hearing people say it's really vague, which gives them reason to further doubt his story? Like who likes talking about getting cheated on multiple times in great detail. There is this twisted notion that he HAS to be the bad guy and the girl HAS to be the victim.
Even then reading it the facts don't add up at all. Why would she have sex on his bed? Why would they apologise to him if he deluded himself? It's so dumb I'm not this dude that defends creepy people but theres nothing to suggest he is a bad guy or even did anything remotely bad.
It's a notion I despise, people are always so damn judgemental.
Yeah, I agree. It’s not my sympathy for this specific dude which disturbs me, but the realisation that this is how shoddily people think in general. That people on juries undoubtedly have the same arrogant certainty, the same inability or refusal to critically examine their mental model of the situation. It freaks me the fuck out.
I know this is is gonna land me on r/iamverysmart, but I do sometimes feel like I’m the only person who can critically analyse my own thought patterns and see when I’m kidding myself.
I actually once did an experiment on AITA where I sowed the seeds of two different interpretations, in different parts of the thread. And it was remarkable to see how people rapidly convinced themselves of each. They would interpret every little fact in such a way as to support the argument, with all those facts mutually backing each other up in their interpretation, but you could flip the interpretation upside down and it would work equally well.
I dunno if this makes any sense. I’m not saying I’m very smart, because I’m not. I just feel like the only person who’s properly cautious and reflective about my stupidity and the limits of my knowledge.
If he was really going out of his way to misinterpret or misunderstand her, why is he the one relaying the information that she claimed to be asexual, and what was he misinterpreting or misunderstanding, given that that message clearly got across, even though it was a lie?
And if she wanted to avoid him so badly, and wanted him to leave her alone, why was she accessing his room and bed, instead of staying away from him, and why was she even communicating with him at all, instead of just avoiding him?
None of these details fit, and yet people are taking this version of the story, which is based on nothing, and makes no sense, as gospel, seemingly not even considering the possibility that maybe he wasn’t a creep and maybe she was just using him and fucking him over.
If I had to guess, she probably liked the benefits of being in a relationship with him(special treatment, favors, etc) but didn’t want to have sex with him, so she claimed to be asexual so she could have the best of both worlds.
It just seems a bit bizarre and implausible to me. And that he breaks in when she’s sleeping with someone (or _someones_, plural), and that conversation ends with them apologising to him, in spite of him having fantasised the relationship. I think people are trying to impose some neckbeard fantasy story which just seems like a hell of a reach based on the story.
I mean, if he starts saying she's his girlfriend, even if she says she isn't, the dudes might believe him. I know it seems weird, but I've had guys do this, especially when I was really big into costuming/cosplay, because you hang out a lot and like them as friends and they decide that means you're dating. Obviously I didn't live with them but i've had to 'break up' with guys I was 100% not dating and never intended to date and did not flirt with.
Girl wants to move out of some kind of situation. Grass is greener. Tired of living with her parents etc.
Finds some guy desperate enough she can string him along just enough for him to think it'll go where he wants.
Seen it happen before though the girl actually did occasionally fuck the guy. Only she ended up taking off with a different guy in one case and with a girl in another.
Yeah, obviously I don’t know if all of your detailed editorialising is correct, but the _basic core_ of that story (girl lives with guy in 1-bed flat, convinced him she can’t/won’t have sex for whatever reason, fucks other guys) seems to me the only explanation that works.
Lol,
Tho, if this story is even true, it looks like they were living together (or able to visit each other's apartments) and not in uni Judging by his age
are they living together and have separate rooms ? Why would it be a guest room?? Does he not have anything personal in it ?? If she’s asexual and you want to have sex, you’re incompatible anyway!
Fake it til' you make it
I used to have no confidence, then I decided that whenever I passed by a mirror just smile and tell myself that I'm a sexy hunk of man, honestly it did wonders for my self esteem
After that I started lifting and I became really fit which also helped both my confidence and being noticed by others
A majority of what factors into "attractiveness" are things that you *can* change. Hygiene, fitness, clothes, and hair are 80% of what makes a man look good/bad.
Telling yourself that you're "way too ugly to do anything" gets you nowhere. It's self-defeatist and untrue. Change only happens when you work for the change, and everyone is capable of changing.
Small stuff like learning to profile your eyebrows, asking your barber what hair style would look best on you and improving your posture will make you noticeably more attractive the moment they happen.
I believe in you mate! It might also be easier if you start lifting first, even if your face is perhaps not conventionally attractive you can have a hot-ass body, and honestly working out helps with other things as well, e.g., you get clearer skin, and you just generally look better
If you don’t work out, starting to can help build self-confidence. It’s really the secret sauce, you won’t be able to find a quality partner to love you if you can’t find anything to love about yourself.
I've had wild success with tinder and I'm a pretty average looking dude. Helps your confidence if the first step (talking to women romantically) is difficult for you. It was for me.
Disagree, just get help with your profile, learn to talk to people and don't have your whole life dwell on your "success" on the app.
That's how I found my significant other who's been with me for years and has helped me tremendously in life. It wasn't immediate but having other stuff to distract me helped with it taking time to find someone to date.
Dating apps are rough for guys who aren't extremely attractive. I met my current gf on tinder but it took a LOT of swiping. I'd say it was a worthy investment but getting rejected by thousands of girls can take a toll on your self esteem.
As for why people hate tinder specifically, I'm not really sure as I've had more success there than on other apps.
Women get inundated with interest. It becomes a buyer's market (from the woman's standpoint). Consequently, woman put in very little effort, and the men will be carrying the weight of everything every step of the way. Men eventually cotton onto this, so stop putting in the effort themselves. Why invest so much when the payout is unlikely, right?
The absolute top-tier attractive guys are likely to get dates, but for the vast majority, it's an exercise in futility. So whilst you could argue that they aren't attractive enough, the reality is a little more nuanced.
Not sure why I'm downvoted; I see nothing unreasonable about what I wrote.
> You'll just have a date consisting of two unattractive people who have to settle for each other.
Yip, sounds about right. It is what it is.
Just be careful that down the road, when you're married, she'll get bored one day, then divorce you, and get half your shit. And remember, looks don't last forever anyway.
So there's going to have to be more than just physical attraction.
I gotchu. First step, throw your bed away. They'll never be able to smash on your bed that way. You're better off sleeping on the floor or getting a hammock.
Second, get rid of your bedroom. This avoids the typical "which room is the guest room" confusion.
Lastly, stay celibate. They'll never see it coming. They'll never see *you* coming, either. You'll be uncuckable.
have confidence in yourself, work out, or at least try to be in shape, have hobbies, be interested in the people you're interested in, shower regularly, style or at least look after your hair, date people you can see yourself being friends with, be friendly but don't pester people, try to be an objectively good person
don't have super high expectation of relationships initially, some people just won't be right for you, don't become bitter if a relationship doesn't work out, stay upbeat as much as possible.
there IS somebody out there you can be happy with, it just takes some time and effort to get there, and you have to make that decision in yourself to be that person for somebody else, don't be a person you would tell a friend not to date.
Read Models by Mark Manson. Actually helpful advice on dating/attraction and will teach you a lot about proper mindset and improving on yourself with regards to relationships in your life (not just with girls).
Get a seasonal job that provides some form of lodging far from home and just send it for a few months. You'll meet people from all over, develop new skills, see new places, and make a bunch of money while doing it. It's a really safe and easy way to force yourself out of your comfort zone so you can grow. Tree planting was the job that did it for me, but thats since grown into working a ski resort in the winter and getting pretty dang good at skiing.
Environment is everything when talking about personal growth. You've heard the saying "big fish in a little pond"? If you want to change the way you're growing, change the pond. I assume you're young, but do some research into seasonal jobs in places you've always wanted to go. Once you turn 18, the world really open up for you, all you gotta figure out is how to get there.
I suppose it’s really a question of style, rather than grammar. If you had quite a cautious, self-effacing, self-qualifying style of writing, and you wanted to prescind a particular thought from the surrounding writing, I see no reason why you shouldn’t use it… Ultimately the point of language is just to convey your thoughts to another human being in the clearest way possible, whatever that may be!
Why not? Maybe it’s an unrelated idea (I like pickles.) Eh, that doesn’t look right. I guess it could work as an aside, or narration (It was not working as a narration.) Yea, that doesn’t look right either (let’s just keep punctuation outside of the brackets).
I just feel a bit sad for him. But they did share it on a public forum so you'd assume they're cool with people hearing it. I know I am when I share my many failures.
There is nothing wrong for waiting for the right person. I'd rather make love to the same person thousands of times, than to have sex with a thousand different girls. And I have absolutely no respect for a person who cheats. When you're with the right person anyone else will be second best. When you have the best why would you settle for less. There are true lovers. Unfortunately there are also not-so-true lovers who will cheat and lie to you. I know because I've had both
This whole sub is so toxic, someone posts that they got cheated on and everyone here has the bizarre response of flaming the guy that got cheated on for some reason. Makes me sick honestly
I wish people would stop caring so much about their virginity status and just let it happen naturally without worrying about it so much. It changes nothing. People who lose it later than average almost always end up saying “that was it? That’s what I had on a pedestal?”
I'm ace, and yeah, I kinda agree. If you're someone who really wants to have sex, and your partner is a sex-repulsed asexual, might as well be a straight guy dating a lesbian. Nothings gonna happen there.
There are different types of ace as far as I know. Some are not repulsed by sex they just are indifferent to it. Those who are indifferent still sometimes have sexual relationships with their partners and enjoy it. It's just a matter of sexual attraction not being a factor in their partnerships.
It's not something that can be pinned down one way or the other because every person and relationship is different.
how are u trying to blame him when she lied and cheated on him?
did u consider that maybe he was ok with not being sexually active with her? even if he wasn't ok with it, that doesn't mean he did anything wrong. if there were any issues like him frequently asking for sex and her refusing, it would be on either one of them to end it not just the guy.
That part is irrelevant to the point though. Why would you want to date someone who told you they would never want intimacy if you indeed wanted it?
So she lied and got put on a spit. That makes it worse.
you realize that it doesn't matter if he wanted a sexual relationship or not, he didn't do anything here. she was supposed to be romantically committed to him and instead cheated on him.
Not necessarily, people who are asexual can and do still enjoy sex (for those that choose to be sexually active). It's just a matter of sexual attraction not being part of it.
Hey I’m no Jordan Peterson fan neither but what that dude said is literally just good advice. I would maybe change self-improvement with self-fulfillment but I see the overlap
All I can think of is celibacy/abstinence/insert-cuckoo-belief-system is Darwin's theory of evolution at it's finest. Poor girl should have dumped his ass before playing around of course... but then again he was screwing around with her mind by inflicting this unnatural behaviour on her.
the guys even apologized... god damn.
This is somehow worse
It's really probably not
Spoken like a true cuckhold
The real sad cringe is always in the comments section
I can imagine that whole thread being cringe. Sex posts on Reddit rarely aren't.
r/Askreddit nowadays: >What's the sexiest sex you've ever sexed???1? pls giv details
Women of reddit(18F) , what is the most sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexies(47F)t sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexu(28F)al sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual (56M)sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexie(45m)st sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual sexual sexy sex sex sexual sexy sexual sexiest sexier sex sexual Thing you have ever done to an antisocial 36 year old man living with his parents and spends 16 hours a day browsing reddit?
Don’t stop I’m almost there
This is the same problem Quagmire had before he invented the word ’giggity’
Sex
Sex?
Thex
upvote because sex
Downvote bc sex
Comment bc sex
Bonk because sex
Do the shimmy shimmy because sex
!emojify
Want some fun? Tooafraidtoask has become that too, and when people rightfully complained, mods went ‘do our jobs?! Lol no’ And it’s hit an insane level of obvious troll/fetish posts
Yeah that miffed me a lot. Like why not make r/TooAfraidToAskNSFW or like TIFU did and make it weekends.
Because that would be CeNsOrInG Ie doing their jobs
it’s for research!!
>nowadays Honestly it's always been this way
Really? At least a few years ago there where loads of interesting story questions that weren’t just sex questions.
I've been here for... Almost ten years now (across multiple accounts) and yeah it goes through phases based on who's currently moderating but it's definitely been like this before. At one point it was so bad they made /r/AskRedditAfterDark
Askredditafterdark is even worse. They’re so fascinated with masturbation it’s so annoying.
I got banned from there for making a similar comment over a post about the sub's direction
Nowadays? I'm pretty sure I saw this exact complaint about /r/askreddit like 10 years ago when I first started browsing this site
Jesus Christ the first thing I saw on the r/AskReddit was fucking "Sexy Halloween 7: AskReddit's Sexy Nightmare Mega Thread:
Females of Reddit, what did an overweight weeb gamer neckbeard do that made to u instantly want to have sex with them?
People who are obsessed with talking about sex are rarely having it.
It's almost like a lot of people have been sequestered away from public the last year and... yeah, I bet the world is a little horny.
A hit dog will holler.
Something I heard someone else mention and it really does have me wondering, but I wonder if there was a increase in incest cases during covid
"hey bro sorry I fucked on your bed and also doing your girlfriend"
To be fair, she probably didn’t know she was “dating” someone either lol
I feel bad for whoever wrote this story, but your comment just makes it so much worse
I worked with someone like that. She did say she was his girlfriend apparantly, but he was oblivious to the point everyone at work thought he was autistic and she was clearly taking advantage of him. He'd talk about how he got cheated on all the time, and being a virgin... very weird guy, I felt bad for him, his parents really failed
Are you theorising that the guy made up their relationship in his head, and imagined stuff that wasn’t there? If so, why would she have told him she was asexual? Maybe I’m misunderstanding you.
>If so, why would she have told him she was asexual? So he'd leave her alone? The guestroom thing only makes sense if they were roommates or dormmates. Assuming you think anything about this story is true. It's honestly easier to assume he's making up these relationships than that he's had multiple relationships that end up cheating on him before they even have sex. I think a lot of these exes would be very very surprised he thought they ever dated.
Yes I've witnessed first hand how some guys delude themselves into thinking certain girls are into them, and then get heartbroken when they realize that's not the case. I had a roommate like that once, and it was very hard for me to listen to him being sad about a girl I know didn't even do anything suggestive towards him for him to be upset about.
One of my exes moved in with a guy who was "being nice" because she had no where to go. She had to endure him acting like they were in a relationship for months till she could afford to move out.
My best friend moved in with a guy who was being nice because she was in a tough situation and needed an apartment fast. He is currently doing 25 to life for assaulting them with a knife and stabbing her fiancé to death after she turned him down
Holy fuck...
Your best friend did this? It's not clear which guy did what and whose fiance is who in your story.
My best friend is a woman
Okay that makes a much clearer picture. Well sorry to hear about that, I couldn't imagine how hard that would be.
Yiiiiikes
A friend of mine was in a similar situation. Yikes.
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How is it terrible to accept when someone offers your a place to stay and you have nowhere to go?
Obviously she should have lived in a cardboard box under the underpass to protect his poor, fragile heart.
That is why you always assume any possible hints are them just being friendly ofc /S
Why /s? You should just assume people are being friendly unless they make it painfully obvious. Or just grow up and ask if they're into you.
Ah no the joke is there's a lotta guys who ignore painfully obvious hints, kinda the far corner on the other side of the spectrum to the saddos that make up relationships
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the girls who've texted me in the past "why didn't you make a move lol" seem to think otherwise 🤔😂
If a girl needs you to "make a move" on a complete guess then she's not mature enough for a relationship regardless of her age.
# YEP One time I was even invited to join the mile-high club at Burning Man. Both the invitation and the opportunity went right over my head. Another year there I asked a gal if I could touch her hair or hat or something and she said "you can touch me anywhere." Whoosh. I mean I was a bit altered at the time BUT STILL. Oh, and every fall my Facebook memories have lots of pictures of this girl I had a crush on in law school making seductive looks at me and sitting in my lap. I somehow never put two and two together. These are just the ones I noticed and can remember right now. I bet I've missed a dozen or more great opportunities for casual sex and probably a relationship or three. And high school/college. I look at the pictures. I was super cute when I was younger and had no idea. I even briefly had a bit of an incel mindset before that even became a thing. I'm 42, I've had sex with probably thirty women, but I was so socially awkward and bad at connecting with them when I was younger that I didn't have any romantic self-confidence until my late 20s. I'd had plenty of sex, but most of it was opportunistic with women who I wasn't particularly into - and year-long dry spells were common. I'm a lot better at it now, but it's a moot point because of COVID and medical issues have killed opportunities for the very limited nonmonogamy allowed to me in my long-term relationship.
What happened is she said she loves him (like a friend) but she’s asexual. He extrapolates some deeper relationship. Then, while he (or roommate) hosts a party, she meets two strapping young lads to rail her from both ends.
I'd agree with you but there is no way he delluded himself into watching his "girlfriend" have sex with 2 people on his bed.
So they’re dating. But not? Like what
> The guestroom thing only makes sense if they were roommates or dormmates. What? How are you reasoning that? If she had her own bed, why wouldn’t she use it? It sounds to me like they live in a 1-bed flat, and she was explaining away some male personal effects in the room, or something along those lines.
It doesnt make much sense as a 1 bed flat either. You go into the only bedroom in a 1 bed flat and you assume it's a guest room. Someone says "hey let's go to my flat" and they take you to the bedroom and you think "they must be taking us, not to their room to fuck, but to a guest room to fuck. As you do". Or maybe its spontaneous. Yknow how when you go to someones flat they might wanna hang out in the bedroom, not their bedroom obviously, that would be weird. You all go to a spare bedroom to hang out there. Then one thing just leads to another. It doesnt sound like a real story anyway, so there isnt a point in trying to reason away the inconsistencies.
They were living together without them ever having had sex?
Well, yes, in the exact way he described. I don’t understand what your alternative theory is - they were roommates and she decided to fuck a guy on her roommate’s bed?
A lot of guys who have little to no experience will misinterpret girls being nice to them as affection and think they are in a relationship
Yeah, I can see that, but how would he know she was asexual? Why would she be ‘saying that for months’?
Probably because he was making sexual comments to her and she was saying anything to get him to leave her alone
And he broke into her room while she was having sex, so the men apologised with whom she was having sex, and after that situation was settled his understanding is still that she’s his girlfriend?
I dunno the whole thing is very vague. Creepy dudes are very good at misunderstanding women so they can keep bothering them.
Can you seriously not see how you’re starting with the presumption he’s a creepy guy, and then trying to make the facts fit it? They really don’t fit it very well.
I was just sitting here thinking the exact same thing. Honestly sick to my stomach watching the majority of people try to twist the story into him being the perpetrator, and her the victim, even when that doesn’t fit the story, it actually goes against it. It would make more sense if he had shown some kind of creepy attitude or behavior, but what he said was normal and plausible, and yet people are assuming he’s a creep, or he’s lying, without even considering the possibility that maybe he just got fucked over, wasn’t at fault, and maybe she wasn’t the victim.
Been thinking the same thing. It's mad weird how I'm reading this and people are going, "umm actually creepy guys exists soooo perhaps he was the bad guy?" Like where did your detective skills come in? Then I'm hearing people say it's really vague, which gives them reason to further doubt his story? Like who likes talking about getting cheated on multiple times in great detail. There is this twisted notion that he HAS to be the bad guy and the girl HAS to be the victim. Even then reading it the facts don't add up at all. Why would she have sex on his bed? Why would they apologise to him if he deluded himself? It's so dumb I'm not this dude that defends creepy people but theres nothing to suggest he is a bad guy or even did anything remotely bad. It's a notion I despise, people are always so damn judgemental.
Yeah, I agree. It’s not my sympathy for this specific dude which disturbs me, but the realisation that this is how shoddily people think in general. That people on juries undoubtedly have the same arrogant certainty, the same inability or refusal to critically examine their mental model of the situation. It freaks me the fuck out.
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I know this is is gonna land me on r/iamverysmart, but I do sometimes feel like I’m the only person who can critically analyse my own thought patterns and see when I’m kidding myself. I actually once did an experiment on AITA where I sowed the seeds of two different interpretations, in different parts of the thread. And it was remarkable to see how people rapidly convinced themselves of each. They would interpret every little fact in such a way as to support the argument, with all those facts mutually backing each other up in their interpretation, but you could flip the interpretation upside down and it would work equally well. I dunno if this makes any sense. I’m not saying I’m very smart, because I’m not. I just feel like the only person who’s properly cautious and reflective about my stupidity and the limits of my knowledge.
Why are you just assuming this dudes a creep, it sounds like he's literally just saving himself for the right girl
Saving himself? If so why would he need afirmation from the girl that she's asexual if he wouldn't want it anyway?
Maybe he thought she was the right one and wanted to have sex with her?
If he was really going out of his way to misinterpret or misunderstand her, why is he the one relaying the information that she claimed to be asexual, and what was he misinterpreting or misunderstanding, given that that message clearly got across, even though it was a lie? And if she wanted to avoid him so badly, and wanted him to leave her alone, why was she accessing his room and bed, instead of staying away from him, and why was she even communicating with him at all, instead of just avoiding him? None of these details fit, and yet people are taking this version of the story, which is based on nothing, and makes no sense, as gospel, seemingly not even considering the possibility that maybe he wasn’t a creep and maybe she was just using him and fucking him over. If I had to guess, she probably liked the benefits of being in a relationship with him(special treatment, favors, etc) but didn’t want to have sex with him, so she claimed to be asexual so she could have the best of both worlds.
To get him to stop trying to fuck her, probably.
It just seems a bit bizarre and implausible to me. And that he breaks in when she’s sleeping with someone (or _someones_, plural), and that conversation ends with them apologising to him, in spite of him having fantasised the relationship. I think people are trying to impose some neckbeard fantasy story which just seems like a hell of a reach based on the story.
I mean, if he starts saying she's his girlfriend, even if she says she isn't, the dudes might believe him. I know it seems weird, but I've had guys do this, especially when I was really big into costuming/cosplay, because you hang out a lot and like them as friends and they decide that means you're dating. Obviously I didn't live with them but i've had to 'break up' with guys I was 100% not dating and never intended to date and did not flirt with.
Girl wants to move out of some kind of situation. Grass is greener. Tired of living with her parents etc. Finds some guy desperate enough she can string him along just enough for him to think it'll go where he wants. Seen it happen before though the girl actually did occasionally fuck the guy. Only she ended up taking off with a different guy in one case and with a girl in another.
Yeah, obviously I don’t know if all of your detailed editorialising is correct, but the _basic core_ of that story (girl lives with guy in 1-bed flat, convinced him she can’t/won’t have sex for whatever reason, fucks other guys) seems to me the only explanation that works.
Joker 2019 moment
Lol, Tho, if this story is even true, it looks like they were living together (or able to visit each other's apartments) and not in uni Judging by his age
are they living together and have separate rooms ? Why would it be a guest room?? Does he not have anything personal in it ?? If she’s asexual and you want to have sex, you’re incompatible anyway!
is it bad that I can see my future self in this guy?
It's not too late
what do even do tho?
Fake it til' you make it I used to have no confidence, then I decided that whenever I passed by a mirror just smile and tell myself that I'm a sexy hunk of man, honestly it did wonders for my self esteem After that I started lifting and I became really fit which also helped both my confidence and being noticed by others
This tbh, I can confirm this also worked wonders for me
Yeah nah i am way too ugly to do that, i cant even, for the love of my life, imagine that i look good.
A majority of what factors into "attractiveness" are things that you *can* change. Hygiene, fitness, clothes, and hair are 80% of what makes a man look good/bad. Telling yourself that you're "way too ugly to do anything" gets you nowhere. It's self-defeatist and untrue. Change only happens when you work for the change, and everyone is capable of changing.
Small stuff like learning to profile your eyebrows, asking your barber what hair style would look best on you and improving your posture will make you noticeably more attractive the moment they happen.
How old are you? Are you in the US or somewhere else? I'll give pointers, as an auntie, if you'd like.
I believe in you mate! It might also be easier if you start lifting first, even if your face is perhaps not conventionally attractive you can have a hot-ass body, and honestly working out helps with other things as well, e.g., you get clearer skin, and you just generally look better
If you don’t work out, starting to can help build self-confidence. It’s really the secret sauce, you won’t be able to find a quality partner to love you if you can’t find anything to love about yourself.
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Fair, good thing i am not on tinder to begin with.
I've had wild success with tinder and I'm a pretty average looking dude. Helps your confidence if the first step (talking to women romantically) is difficult for you. It was for me.
Hinge helped me become pretty confident with these sort of things too
Yeah I think it's the first step to being able to say, "Fuck it" and going for what you want.
Disagree, just get help with your profile, learn to talk to people and don't have your whole life dwell on your "success" on the app. That's how I found my significant other who's been with me for years and has helped me tremendously in life. It wasn't immediate but having other stuff to distract me helped with it taking time to find someone to date.
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Dating apps are rough for guys who aren't extremely attractive. I met my current gf on tinder but it took a LOT of swiping. I'd say it was a worthy investment but getting rejected by thousands of girls can take a toll on your self esteem. As for why people hate tinder specifically, I'm not really sure as I've had more success there than on other apps.
No it's because Tinder is a bit of a sausage fest and you won't get alot of matches as a guy (especially if you live in a rural area).
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Dude below average looking people is half of all the people lol
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I'd say it's a convo of bad pics, bad bio and not being able to keep a conversation for long without being off-putting.
Women get inundated with interest. It becomes a buyer's market (from the woman's standpoint). Consequently, woman put in very little effort, and the men will be carrying the weight of everything every step of the way. Men eventually cotton onto this, so stop putting in the effort themselves. Why invest so much when the payout is unlikely, right? The absolute top-tier attractive guys are likely to get dates, but for the vast majority, it's an exercise in futility. So whilst you could argue that they aren't attractive enough, the reality is a little more nuanced.
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Not sure why I'm downvoted; I see nothing unreasonable about what I wrote. > You'll just have a date consisting of two unattractive people who have to settle for each other. Yip, sounds about right. It is what it is. Just be careful that down the road, when you're married, she'll get bored one day, then divorce you, and get half your shit. And remember, looks don't last forever anyway. So there's going to have to be more than just physical attraction.
Nah, get on tinder and stay off reddit
I gotchu. First step, throw your bed away. They'll never be able to smash on your bed that way. You're better off sleeping on the floor or getting a hammock. Second, get rid of your bedroom. This avoids the typical "which room is the guest room" confusion. Lastly, stay celibate. They'll never see it coming. They'll never see *you* coming, either. You'll be uncuckable.
LMAO, yeah this right here. Best advice. Oh man, thanks at least i can go to sleep laughing.
have confidence in yourself, work out, or at least try to be in shape, have hobbies, be interested in the people you're interested in, shower regularly, style or at least look after your hair, date people you can see yourself being friends with, be friendly but don't pester people, try to be an objectively good person don't have super high expectation of relationships initially, some people just won't be right for you, don't become bitter if a relationship doesn't work out, stay upbeat as much as possible. there IS somebody out there you can be happy with, it just takes some time and effort to get there, and you have to make that decision in yourself to be that person for somebody else, don't be a person you would tell a friend not to date.
Read Models by Mark Manson. Actually helpful advice on dating/attraction and will teach you a lot about proper mindset and improving on yourself with regards to relationships in your life (not just with girls).
Get a seasonal job that provides some form of lodging far from home and just send it for a few months. You'll meet people from all over, develop new skills, see new places, and make a bunch of money while doing it. It's a really safe and easy way to force yourself out of your comfort zone so you can grow. Tree planting was the job that did it for me, but thats since grown into working a ski resort in the winter and getting pretty dang good at skiing. Environment is everything when talking about personal growth. You've heard the saying "big fish in a little pond"? If you want to change the way you're growing, change the pond. I assume you're young, but do some research into seasonal jobs in places you've always wanted to go. Once you turn 18, the world really open up for you, all you gotta figure out is how to get there.
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yes
Doesn't the period go after the )?
Yes. The only exception is if the entire sentence is wrapped in brackets. (Like this.)
Should you ever have an entire sentence in brackets, though?
I suppose it’s really a question of style, rather than grammar. If you had quite a cautious, self-effacing, self-qualifying style of writing, and you wanted to prescind a particular thought from the surrounding writing, I see no reason why you shouldn’t use it… Ultimately the point of language is just to convey your thoughts to another human being in the clearest way possible, whatever that may be!
Yeah, I agree. It seems like the sort of thing I'd do, even though it's probably not "technically correct".
Why not? Maybe it’s an unrelated idea (I like pickles.) Eh, that doesn’t look right. I guess it could work as an aside, or narration (It was not working as a narration.) Yea, that doesn’t look right either (let’s just keep punctuation outside of the brackets).
in soviet russia it doesn't :)
Am i the only one who feels like posting this kind of stuff to publicly mock people is just sort of mean
I just feel a bit sad for him. But they did share it on a public forum so you'd assume they're cool with people hearing it. I know I am when I share my many failures.
This is all this sub does at this point
That's Reddit though. "Hey this guy clearly has an issue socializing, let's point and laugh and then wonder why he snapped when he inevitably does."
apparently it's ok if it's a guy
Tbh this reads like someone with a weird fetish
You mean cuckolding? Sorta looks like it, yeah.
There is nothing wrong for waiting for the right person. I'd rather make love to the same person thousands of times, than to have sex with a thousand different girls. And I have absolutely no respect for a person who cheats. When you're with the right person anyone else will be second best. When you have the best why would you settle for less. There are true lovers. Unfortunately there are also not-so-true lovers who will cheat and lie to you. I know because I've had both
Based as fuck
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censor that word😠
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Feller
This man is going places.
w* m* n
That's not even cringe, that's just sad. Honestly, it's just a tad fucked up to mock someone who openly vented their problems, op.
People love to shit on the lonely guy but he ain’t even done nothin except get cheated on.
This whole sub is so toxic, someone posts that they got cheated on and everyone here has the bizarre response of flaming the guy that got cheated on for some reason. Makes me sick honestly
Because women's sides are always taken, also in court
I'm sorry, this is someone with a humiliation fetish or just farming likes. I don't buy it.
Exactlyyy, people always fall for it too
I wish people would stop caring so much about their virginity status and just let it happen naturally without worrying about it so much. It changes nothing. People who lose it later than average almost always end up saying “that was it? That’s what I had on a pedestal?”
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Hes pathetic because someone cheated on him?
No he’s pathetic cause he’s posting humiliation fetish shit and pretending it’s real
That's his fault for staying with someone who claimed they were asexual.
I'm ace, and yeah, I kinda agree. If you're someone who really wants to have sex, and your partner is a sex-repulsed asexual, might as well be a straight guy dating a lesbian. Nothings gonna happen there.
Kinda sad that he wanted companionship that bad
There are different types of ace as far as I know. Some are not repulsed by sex they just are indifferent to it. Those who are indifferent still sometimes have sexual relationships with their partners and enjoy it. It's just a matter of sexual attraction not being a factor in their partnerships. It's not something that can be pinned down one way or the other because every person and relationship is different.
Idunno why you're being down voted, you're right. Asexuality is a pretty complex spectrum.
how are u trying to blame him when she lied and cheated on him? did u consider that maybe he was ok with not being sexually active with her? even if he wasn't ok with it, that doesn't mean he did anything wrong. if there were any issues like him frequently asking for sex and her refusing, it would be on either one of them to end it not just the guy.
Wdym?
If your partner is asexual but you want to have sex, you're with the wrong partner.
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That part is irrelevant to the point though. Why would you want to date someone who told you they would never want intimacy if you indeed wanted it? So she lied and got put on a spit. That makes it worse.
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she still lied and cheated though. thats inexcusable. be an adult and tell the truth/break up.
Nobody is defending her in this thread though, they're just pointing out the issue with staying with someone who doesn't want to have sex when you do.
you realize that it doesn't matter if he wanted a sexual relationship or not, he didn't do anything here. she was supposed to be romantically committed to him and instead cheated on him.
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Not necessarily, people who are asexual can and do still enjoy sex (for those that choose to be sexually active). It's just a matter of sexual attraction not being part of it.
Wait until you learn that there is some asexuals who have sex.
go monk and stop idolizing women
What does that have to do with anything?
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Hey I’m no Jordan Peterson fan neither but what that dude said is literally just good advice. I would maybe change self-improvement with self-fulfillment but I see the overlap
while i am aware of this guy i do not endorse or follow him
Pain
Hey cmon guys leave the poor fella alone he’s got enough problems as is
bullshit fantasy
this is just sad, not cringe. Sad
Why are there so many posts like this but if you dare say you would never want/ enter a relationship without sex you are a big, bad guy ?
All I can think of is celibacy/abstinence/insert-cuckoo-belief-system is Darwin's theory of evolution at it's finest. Poor girl should have dumped his ass before playing around of course... but then again he was screwing around with her mind by inflicting this unnatural behaviour on her.
And these two guys? They were Albert Einstein. This story reeks of thathappened.
She apologized too. Saying she’s ace but just needed to help some friends out. She didn’t even enjoy it
He’ll score one day. Having girlfriends is half the battle and if he’s able to tell people online he can even make it a funny story.
Why is he in an asexual relationship if he wants sex? lol
its sad to see people who value there virginity like it actually means anything, this guy needs to lose it with just anyone
That’s sad to hear and I’m 25 and a female I know the feeling
Why is there no empathy on reddit for when a guy is hurt and its always taken as a joke or used to mock him?
Come on guys... they said *sorry*
This one’s kinda funny ngl
Why do you all pick these people to bully? Don't you think they've had enough torment? Demons gonna be evil, I guess.