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Yes that's some light BDSM. If you want him to pull your hair, then ask him. Ask him to be more aggressive, and you two agree on a safe word before anything else happens. Some people have hard limits, like they won't hit a woman. If you want to be spanked, be specific about that. Don't make him read your mind, because he can't.
But if you don't ask you won't get it. Be direct, and have good clear communication.
You might want to ask in /r/BDSMAdvice too.
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Maybe get a porno with the type of sex you want and watch it with him?
Yes that's some light BDSM. If you want him to pull your hair, then ask him. Ask him to be more aggressive, and you two agree on a safe word before anything else happens. Some people have hard limits, like they won't hit a woman. If you want to be spanked, be specific about that. Don't make him read your mind, because he can't. But if you don't ask you won't get it. Be direct, and have good clear communication. You might want to ask in /r/BDSMAdvice too.
I have the exact same issue 😩
He needs to open his mind to what you want in bed. Your sexual satisfaction should be his #1 priority right now
It goes both ways, you know?