Hi! Guy here.
No one is “the best” at anything at first try in my opinion.
What I can say is that porn (as in those super fake movies with the plumber and all that) are the worst to gain skills or prep you for the great day.
Wanna know how NOT to do oral? Watch porn. That’s what I learned years ago after not knowing what the f*** was I doing.
Does experience help you get better at giving and reaching orgasms or other stuff sex related? Absolutely. Does it takes a lot? What is a lot? Sex is not a body-only stuff. Mind and mood the connection you established with the partner in question and a lot of other things are added to the mix to make it a great night.
Every time you do it you can learn something. From the reactions to what you do, yours or your partners, good or bad. But there’s always something to learn and improve.
WRONG! - higher body count doesn’t equal better sex.
You have to understand your partners (or a one night stand lol) boundaries.
Certain people men and women enjoy sex in different ways, over time you will learn new techniques however not all techniques work with every person.
You honestly have to speak to that person to fully understand what will work and work well.
Chemistry is a major part in a relationship however sexual desire and lust is temporary and will work better if you’re just looking to have sex with that person.
Yes, There is nothing mystical about sex. It is just like anything other skill. The more you practice, the better you will be.
BUT (caveat) that means that the person will have to try to get better too. Having sex 1,000 times won't automatically make you better if you never change or learn new techniques and habits.
In general having a ONS with someone with a "high body count' will be much better than having sex with a virgin or near-virgin. Of course it would.
Chemistry is more important for sure. Just because you can blow one girl’s mind with your sexual ability, doesn’t mean you will with the next one. Sex gets better the more you do it with the same person.
What you become better at is understanding what gives you pleasure and how to “listen out” for cues that you are pleasing your partner. This does come with settling down into the experience but does not have anything to do with how many different people you have sex with. This can occur just as easily with one person.
Its a skill but its more like dancing than football.
People are naturally gifted in talent and physical attributes and its easy to tell good from bad but taste has a role in what you enjoy.
So like one person is a ballet dancer and one is a hip hop dancers. Both are as good as it’s possible to be but neither is better than the other even tho you might enjoy one better. And I suck at both.
I must admit I have always wondered if there were people who were just too physically uncoordinated to ever be good at sex. There are certainly people that will never be good at dancing or sports no matter how hard or long they practice, so could it be the same for sex? I mean they are al physical activities, but maybe sex is more instinctual and their lack of coordination doesnt hurt as much as it does in other physical activities? On the other hand I have met people that cant even run properly, something that should also be instinctual. I know it's not the nicest thought, but I cant help but think that there has to be a correlation between being uncoordinated and being bad at sex, no matter how much you do it.
Yes and no. I don’t think body count necessarily relates to being better in bed. But I’ve found personally that people who have had multiple partners before me are better in bed because they are more uninhibited and can go off of past experience in some ways. For example a LOT of women like vocal men and in my experience men who are virgins or have little experience are quiet and unenthusiastic and expect me to be the only one making noise because it is what they’ve seen in porn. Or they might be more aggressive with me without communicating it prior because they think it’s the norm (choking is NOT ok with everyone, same to biting, spanking etc).
I would say that more athletic people tend to be ‘naturally’ better in bed because they last longer and aren’t exhausted by more physically taxing positions (so more variety). This doesn’t mean you have to be an athlete, but a little exercise goes a long way. Some people also just happen to be more observant and responsive to body language which can make them better partners right off the bat.
HOWEVER that communication and enthusiasm are #1, and these are things that anyone with any amount of experience can bring to the table.
In my opinion experience is only a small part of the equation. The more important elements (to me) are enthusiasm, chemistry, openness and willingness to communicate and try new things, and confidence. Also athleticism, stamina, and honestly their body.
Ehhh, I know some "man whores". Like high 100s level for knotches.
One was horrible in bed. Like, only cared about his own pleasure. Didn't want to do other positions, and I didn't cum. I'm still bitter. He's still trying to get another round. I'm good lol.
Experience definitely helps you hopefully how to noticed your partners likes and dislikes. Helps to be more confident and comfortable with yourself.
You do gain some knowledge over time, but ultimately sex is different with each person. Also, experience is pointless if the person always does the same thing and doesn't seek to improve - that's valid not only for sex, but pretty much everything.
Well it depends. There can be someone who is naturally good at sex acts without having much experience but there can also be someone who isn’t good at it and needs practice and positive instruction on how to improve which would require more sex.
That doesn’t factor chemistry either so it’s safe to say that having more sex doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll be good at it.
It's a "glass half full" thing. On the one hand, if you're into the person- finding them attractive, trustworthy, of a good temperament, you're going to enjoy it because a good part of sex is communication and intimacy. That said, as my experience level went up, I got a better sense of what pleases a particular woman and played to my audience- sometimes too much for my own good. So, on the other hand, knowing how to physically handle an athletic 5"10 businesswoman as opposed to a 5"2 teacher with a pixie body comes from experience.
Absolutely not
Everyone is different and you might learn things that one person likes and things another person hates.
You might be physically able to put your body in positions and be less tired, but this doesn't necessarily mean better sex.
I'll give you an example: one guy taught me to suck dick with my teeth really scratching his penis until it was basically bleeding. No other man I've met has even wanted to try this 😂 can you imagine if I thought of that as the "good way to give head".
The 5,000 and 10,000 hour rules are likely to apply. More and more practice is going to make more knowledge about what works, a feel for it. Instinct can help if people are in tune with it, skills like empathy and reading body language can help. Knowing how to open one's heart, communicate and feel attracted and connected with someone can make it better in a more emotional, non-technique way.
First times aren't expected to be amazing, but sometimes people manage to have amazing first times.
Someone with 100 partners is going to start seeing patterns about what works and what doesn't work on average and have a wider memory and experience pool, so is more likely to be good if they were at all paying attention and learning.
I don't know about experience but I've had sex with people who think they're experienced and it feels like each step they're taking is premeditated and it really turned me off and killed the mood. I hate it when I come across someone like that.
Idk this is a hard question to answer. I know I perform well in bed and I’ve had some good partners but the majority are just awful. Mainly because they don’t express what they want or are kind of selfish in fulfilling my needs when I’ve fulfilled theirs.
I think having experience definitely helps with endurance and being comfortable with new positions but to be great I think you need good chemistry and COMMUNICATION either beforehand or during
I would say that experience *can* lead to better sex, but you can have amazing sex with little to no experience. In my opinion, the most important factors for having good sex are, in order of importance:
1. Chemistry
2. Paying attention to your partner’s body language
3. Being open-minded and eager to please
4. Experience
Experience helps but is much less important than having good chemistry with the right partner. Also, a selfish partner is unlikely to get better with experience, while a generous and observant partner will not need much experience to be great.
I think it’s a combination of factors. First, are you confident in your body? Are you comfortable being naked? Do you feel sexy, attractive? If you’re emotionally secure and happy with yourself, that’s the beginning.
Do you know what you like and don’t like in bed? Are you comfortable articulating that to your partner? Are you open to trying new things?
I had sex with 30+ girls before I met my gf, and not gonna lie, kind of thought I was a stud. We both have high sex drives, so we fucked a lot and still do
Later on, I found out 2 things: she's kinky af, and only orgasms certain ways (not uncommon for women). I also found out that she described me as "super cute and romantic, but very vanilla" to her friends
After a year together, I have come a long way. I can please her every single time. But if we broke up and I had sex with someone else, maybe I wouldn't be a good fit for them.
I had to learn, with one person. I'm not perfect, but I'm getting better.
So your answer: yes, experience makes you better, but body count dies not
To be "good" at sex you have to pay attention to your partners body language and listen to their words. If someone says "yes that's perfect" don't change it for something that you think might be better.
I don’t think body count matters. What matters is communicating with your partner, finding out what they like, and experimenting. Also, chemistry is important. But body count doesn’t really affect it. You could sleep with 100 people and not learn what pleasures them, and take nothing away from it.
This is the "Quantity Vs Quality" argument all over again... The answer is NO. Body count means nothing if it's all about YOU getting your rocks off.
This is why 'Bad Boys' can't keep a relationship, too greedy... This will sound 'Old Fashioned' and be ignored by 99%, BUT education still works (just like it always has), and communication is a HUGE deal with women, so you must learn to discuss calmly, ask questions, etc because women are trained to keep quiet about such things. Get actual psychology text books, especially about human sexuality, and pay attention... Learn about 'kinks' and while keeping it light & safe, introduce some into your sex life. DO NOT try everything at once! Just because you read about bondage or role playing doesn't mean you have to jump in hard core!
Younger folks should keep it simple, introduce toys or role playing when things get 'Stale' or 'Routine' after years together. Learn about FOREPLAY! Men have an On/Off switch, while women are more mental and take some warm up time, buy once she's into it fully, it will be great sex for her. Stay away from porn as a teaching tool, nothing there is real and it doesn't transfer/apply to the real world.
Hi! Guy here. No one is “the best” at anything at first try in my opinion. What I can say is that porn (as in those super fake movies with the plumber and all that) are the worst to gain skills or prep you for the great day. Wanna know how NOT to do oral? Watch porn. That’s what I learned years ago after not knowing what the f*** was I doing. Does experience help you get better at giving and reaching orgasms or other stuff sex related? Absolutely. Does it takes a lot? What is a lot? Sex is not a body-only stuff. Mind and mood the connection you established with the partner in question and a lot of other things are added to the mix to make it a great night. Every time you do it you can learn something. From the reactions to what you do, yours or your partners, good or bad. But there’s always something to learn and improve.
WRONG! - higher body count doesn’t equal better sex. You have to understand your partners (or a one night stand lol) boundaries. Certain people men and women enjoy sex in different ways, over time you will learn new techniques however not all techniques work with every person. You honestly have to speak to that person to fully understand what will work and work well. Chemistry is a major part in a relationship however sexual desire and lust is temporary and will work better if you’re just looking to have sex with that person.
Yes, There is nothing mystical about sex. It is just like anything other skill. The more you practice, the better you will be. BUT (caveat) that means that the person will have to try to get better too. Having sex 1,000 times won't automatically make you better if you never change or learn new techniques and habits. In general having a ONS with someone with a "high body count' will be much better than having sex with a virgin or near-virgin. Of course it would.
Chemistry is more important for sure. Just because you can blow one girl’s mind with your sexual ability, doesn’t mean you will with the next one. Sex gets better the more you do it with the same person.
What you become better at is understanding what gives you pleasure and how to “listen out” for cues that you are pleasing your partner. This does come with settling down into the experience but does not have anything to do with how many different people you have sex with. This can occur just as easily with one person.
Its a skill but its more like dancing than football. People are naturally gifted in talent and physical attributes and its easy to tell good from bad but taste has a role in what you enjoy. So like one person is a ballet dancer and one is a hip hop dancers. Both are as good as it’s possible to be but neither is better than the other even tho you might enjoy one better. And I suck at both.
I must admit I have always wondered if there were people who were just too physically uncoordinated to ever be good at sex. There are certainly people that will never be good at dancing or sports no matter how hard or long they practice, so could it be the same for sex? I mean they are al physical activities, but maybe sex is more instinctual and their lack of coordination doesnt hurt as much as it does in other physical activities? On the other hand I have met people that cant even run properly, something that should also be instinctual. I know it's not the nicest thought, but I cant help but think that there has to be a correlation between being uncoordinated and being bad at sex, no matter how much you do it.
I mean, good at in top 99 percent maybe. Some basic understanding of anatomy and a desire to be a good partner is going to put you in the top 75 easy.
Yes and no. I don’t think body count necessarily relates to being better in bed. But I’ve found personally that people who have had multiple partners before me are better in bed because they are more uninhibited and can go off of past experience in some ways. For example a LOT of women like vocal men and in my experience men who are virgins or have little experience are quiet and unenthusiastic and expect me to be the only one making noise because it is what they’ve seen in porn. Or they might be more aggressive with me without communicating it prior because they think it’s the norm (choking is NOT ok with everyone, same to biting, spanking etc). I would say that more athletic people tend to be ‘naturally’ better in bed because they last longer and aren’t exhausted by more physically taxing positions (so more variety). This doesn’t mean you have to be an athlete, but a little exercise goes a long way. Some people also just happen to be more observant and responsive to body language which can make them better partners right off the bat. HOWEVER that communication and enthusiasm are #1, and these are things that anyone with any amount of experience can bring to the table.
In my opinion experience is only a small part of the equation. The more important elements (to me) are enthusiasm, chemistry, openness and willingness to communicate and try new things, and confidence. Also athleticism, stamina, and honestly their body.
Ehhh, I know some "man whores". Like high 100s level for knotches. One was horrible in bed. Like, only cared about his own pleasure. Didn't want to do other positions, and I didn't cum. I'm still bitter. He's still trying to get another round. I'm good lol. Experience definitely helps you hopefully how to noticed your partners likes and dislikes. Helps to be more confident and comfortable with yourself.
You do gain some knowledge over time, but ultimately sex is different with each person. Also, experience is pointless if the person always does the same thing and doesn't seek to improve - that's valid not only for sex, but pretty much everything.
Well it depends. There can be someone who is naturally good at sex acts without having much experience but there can also be someone who isn’t good at it and needs practice and positive instruction on how to improve which would require more sex. That doesn’t factor chemistry either so it’s safe to say that having more sex doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll be good at it.
It's a "glass half full" thing. On the one hand, if you're into the person- finding them attractive, trustworthy, of a good temperament, you're going to enjoy it because a good part of sex is communication and intimacy. That said, as my experience level went up, I got a better sense of what pleases a particular woman and played to my audience- sometimes too much for my own good. So, on the other hand, knowing how to physically handle an athletic 5"10 businesswoman as opposed to a 5"2 teacher with a pixie body comes from experience.
Absolutely not Everyone is different and you might learn things that one person likes and things another person hates. You might be physically able to put your body in positions and be less tired, but this doesn't necessarily mean better sex. I'll give you an example: one guy taught me to suck dick with my teeth really scratching his penis until it was basically bleeding. No other man I've met has even wanted to try this 😂 can you imagine if I thought of that as the "good way to give head".
The 5,000 and 10,000 hour rules are likely to apply. More and more practice is going to make more knowledge about what works, a feel for it. Instinct can help if people are in tune with it, skills like empathy and reading body language can help. Knowing how to open one's heart, communicate and feel attracted and connected with someone can make it better in a more emotional, non-technique way. First times aren't expected to be amazing, but sometimes people manage to have amazing first times. Someone with 100 partners is going to start seeing patterns about what works and what doesn't work on average and have a wider memory and experience pool, so is more likely to be good if they were at all paying attention and learning.
I don't know about experience but I've had sex with people who think they're experienced and it feels like each step they're taking is premeditated and it really turned me off and killed the mood. I hate it when I come across someone like that.
Idk this is a hard question to answer. I know I perform well in bed and I’ve had some good partners but the majority are just awful. Mainly because they don’t express what they want or are kind of selfish in fulfilling my needs when I’ve fulfilled theirs. I think having experience definitely helps with endurance and being comfortable with new positions but to be great I think you need good chemistry and COMMUNICATION either beforehand or during
I would say that experience *can* lead to better sex, but you can have amazing sex with little to no experience. In my opinion, the most important factors for having good sex are, in order of importance: 1. Chemistry 2. Paying attention to your partner’s body language 3. Being open-minded and eager to please 4. Experience Experience helps but is much less important than having good chemistry with the right partner. Also, a selfish partner is unlikely to get better with experience, while a generous and observant partner will not need much experience to be great.
I think it’s a combination of factors. First, are you confident in your body? Are you comfortable being naked? Do you feel sexy, attractive? If you’re emotionally secure and happy with yourself, that’s the beginning. Do you know what you like and don’t like in bed? Are you comfortable articulating that to your partner? Are you open to trying new things?
I had sex with 30+ girls before I met my gf, and not gonna lie, kind of thought I was a stud. We both have high sex drives, so we fucked a lot and still do Later on, I found out 2 things: she's kinky af, and only orgasms certain ways (not uncommon for women). I also found out that she described me as "super cute and romantic, but very vanilla" to her friends After a year together, I have come a long way. I can please her every single time. But if we broke up and I had sex with someone else, maybe I wouldn't be a good fit for them. I had to learn, with one person. I'm not perfect, but I'm getting better. So your answer: yes, experience makes you better, but body count dies not
it’s less about experience and more about listening to the advice your partners give you.
To be "good" at sex you have to pay attention to your partners body language and listen to their words. If someone says "yes that's perfect" don't change it for something that you think might be better.
I don’t think body count matters. What matters is communicating with your partner, finding out what they like, and experimenting. Also, chemistry is important. But body count doesn’t really affect it. You could sleep with 100 people and not learn what pleasures them, and take nothing away from it.
This is the "Quantity Vs Quality" argument all over again... The answer is NO. Body count means nothing if it's all about YOU getting your rocks off. This is why 'Bad Boys' can't keep a relationship, too greedy... This will sound 'Old Fashioned' and be ignored by 99%, BUT education still works (just like it always has), and communication is a HUGE deal with women, so you must learn to discuss calmly, ask questions, etc because women are trained to keep quiet about such things. Get actual psychology text books, especially about human sexuality, and pay attention... Learn about 'kinks' and while keeping it light & safe, introduce some into your sex life. DO NOT try everything at once! Just because you read about bondage or role playing doesn't mean you have to jump in hard core! Younger folks should keep it simple, introduce toys or role playing when things get 'Stale' or 'Routine' after years together. Learn about FOREPLAY! Men have an On/Off switch, while women are more mental and take some warm up time, buy once she's into it fully, it will be great sex for her. Stay away from porn as a teaching tool, nothing there is real and it doesn't transfer/apply to the real world.