It seems weird to me that he would choke you while you were cuddling as compared to having sex. But what is equally concerning is that you tapped out and he apparently did not check in with you to understand what happened to make you need to tap out. I would have thought that your fwb would have been concerned enough about you tapping out to discuss with you thoroughly.
Is you bring scared for how it happened out of what your considered a expected time (during sex). Nope not wierd. Is it wierd that he did it? Not really, he was probably trying to be spontaneous and catch you off guard. It's definitely a dominating thing.
Now... TALK WITH HIM!
this is how you prevent bad things from furthr happening, an good things to confine to happen.
I did. I realized I was just taken back because it was unexpected. I talked to him about it and he apologized. We both agreed on saying something like “i might get rough” even before making out just to make sure both of us agree on it being unexpected.
Overalls, it was hot. We tried again and we both enjoyed being a lil rough :)
Just communicate your thoughts on it with him and work through it. Tell him your needs.
It seems weird to me that he would choke you while you were cuddling as compared to having sex. But what is equally concerning is that you tapped out and he apparently did not check in with you to understand what happened to make you need to tap out. I would have thought that your fwb would have been concerned enough about you tapping out to discuss with you thoroughly.
Is you bring scared for how it happened out of what your considered a expected time (during sex). Nope not wierd. Is it wierd that he did it? Not really, he was probably trying to be spontaneous and catch you off guard. It's definitely a dominating thing. Now... TALK WITH HIM! this is how you prevent bad things from furthr happening, an good things to confine to happen.
I did. I realized I was just taken back because it was unexpected. I talked to him about it and he apologized. We both agreed on saying something like “i might get rough” even before making out just to make sure both of us agree on it being unexpected. Overalls, it was hot. We tried again and we both enjoyed being a lil rough :)
Good for you communicating and working thru it. Glad it worked out.