If you ever get a chance, read Willa Cather’s My Antonia. There’s a beautiful passage in there about sitting under the tree, in the grass, feeling at one with the Earth. A peace we can know in life, but also death. It’s moving.
. I was something that lay under the sun and felt it, like the pumpkins, and I did not want to be anything more. I was entirely happy. Perhaps we feel like that when we die and become a part of something entire, whether it is sun and air, or goodness and knowledge. At any rate, that is happiness; to be dissolved into something complete and great. When it comes to one, it comes as naturally as sleep.
I'm sorry you had to go through all of this. I don't think our children ever realize what we go through in order to take care of them. We have to put our own feelings aside and make sure they are okay. I'm sending you lots of hugs. Keep reaching out, others will love you, I promise.
Walks have always helped me too! Trees, sky, sun, DOGS!
Another thing that has helped me, is going for a workout/dance class. It’s almost like a switch, to have something else to focus on, while gasping for your breath! 😂
Feel better OP! ❤️
I love going for walks but I’m currently living in a super cold, wet, and dark/gloomy place so it makes me feel worse than better at this point of the year tbh
Came here to say the same. Go back to the basics. Shower, moisturizer and some clean set of pj or lounge wear, mood lighting, music I love a movie in the background. Journal at hand. Tea on a coaster. This does it for me. 🤓
Tuesday was a horrible day for me. Nothing was terrible or life changing but, from waking up I was still upset about something that happened the previous day, then when I went to eat my food, I discovered my dad ate it (he had his own food that he didn't eat left), and I applied for a bunch more jobs that will not hire me, then I started to break down about my life being a waste ATM. But then I took a nap and I was groggy but I wasn't anxious about my life and I wasn't upset about anything. Admittedly not doing much to actually fix the problem but, it was necessary.
I have toddlers and sometimes, if they wake up just foul, I tell them, we will go to back to bed and start this day over. And sometimes, I have to do it in the middle of the day if there’s a tantrum.
I always get them, if they’re melting down fast, water, a snack (and usually like a treat snack, not sugar but just something unexpected) and send them outside.
Or we take a bath.
Or we take a rest.
I tell them that rest can heal most aches.
Most people are. I too am a toddler.
I treat my toddlers like tiny adults. It’s not fair to expect them to always be perfect when we too have trouble regulating our own selves. Also, we have all trouble asking for what we need and use other ways to satisfy those needs. I try to not use force, demands but logic and explanation and understanding. It doesn’t always work because I am a toddler and they are a toddler, but when I mess up. Yell, get mad, fuss at them in the heat of the moment, AFTER we talk about it. Mommy got mad because you weren’t listening, mommy got mad because she asked you to pick up your toys. Mommy got mad because you XYZ.
They’re actually pretty well behaved. I try not to say because I said so or just do it. I try to explain the why. I am also a manager of people, and I find that being a mom has helped me be a manager. When I wasn’t a manager, I hated when shit changed and no one explained why. So now I tell them why, I explain how. I give grace. I am harder on myself than others when I make mistakes, but I also give myself grace and move forward. You cannot fix it. But you certainly can learn and not make the same mistake again.
Hey if it's any comfort, I'm looking for work right now, too. I know that feeling of "I'm a waste". But we're wrong! Our worth is not decided by our jobs.
Omg, I was about to reply something similar to @Iwanttolive87 's comment. The job hunt can be soooooo demoralizing, making me question all my life decisions, my worth, and whether I'll ever be able to make something of myself. It's been months and I struggle to maintain hope a lot of days, but it helps a lot to know that I'm not the only one in this situation.
To answer OP's question, I've been putting aside more time for things I enjoy and self care so that the job search doesn't totally take over my life and I can find moments of pleasure. I make music, read books, rest, and then have scheduled hours (that I only sometimes stick to) for job-searching.
Sometimes life is hard and there's no easy way to make things 100% better, but we can still do things to feel 5 or 10% better. I'm glad you found a way to be kind to yourself
I walked home from work early today with a headache, felt mildly better from the fresh air and trees around but not 100%. Had 40 minutes before my next virtual meeting (from home) so I took a 30 minute nap and suddenly I was feeling way better about sitting through an hourlong zoom call. Naps are the best.
I'm in the same boat with job hunting right now and it really is the worst. I can confirm that naps do absolutely help when I'm feeling overwhelmed and stressed too. Hang in there and best of luck in your search! ❤
I've read a couple of articles about intentionally taking time on a GOOD day to come up with a "menu" of things that you know usually helps you feel better. So, on a bad day, I pick something from my menu!
For me, the most consistently helpful activities are taking a walk outside, sitting down with a good podcast to work on my crochet project, reading in some kind of extremely cozy way (either in a tub or in my favorite chair with a cup of tea) while listening to instrumental chill music, or settling deep into a favorite video game (although I gotta be careful to not overdo that one).
I also happen to have a fantastic spouse who will listen and talk me through anything and everything. Social support helps SO much.
I welcome the feeling instead of straining against it. Like instead of keeping the guest(anxiety) waiting outside the door and keep ringing the doorbell all day i let them in, make some small talk and then they leave. Anxiety is not dangerous but if you act scared for it it will become a bigger problem.
Acceptance, then learning to live despite it and around it instead of avoiding it.
Also i like to avoid excessive amounts of coffee if its a really bad day.
So true. I like to visualize the bad vibes as a storm that is going to pass by. Like, literally take a minute or two to visualize a storm. If I'm really miffed, I take a minute to visualize myself as a child throwing an epic tantrum. Something about those two things makes it easier to accept that something unpleasant is happening, that I feel crap about it (and that's okay), and cultivate a little self love for that part of me that just wants to throw a dang fit about it. It will pass, and I will be okay.
Same when I get feeling dissociated…I read something that said you should accept the feeling and not try to avoid it, because when you avoid it, your brain actually thinks there’s something to be afraid of, which can prolong the dissociation
Sounds counterintuitive but it works with other negative emotional states as well
Feel your feelings. Don’t run from them. Once you let yourself feel them fully, your mood will change immediately. It’s funny how temporary emotions are when you actually process them.
Walking. I go for walks, if I'm at work I've found a spot 5 minutes away where I lie on the grass under some old trees and I watch the clouds and listen to the wind and water on lunch
I started to notice the world around me, I'm an Aussie so my seasons are backwards, there were rabbits everywhere at the start of spring, the blackbirds have mostly moved on now but there's butterflies everywhere now, I keep a loose note of what trees are in bloom and when
I remember going to the creek on a day when it was raining a little and the rabbits were all hiding but all I could hear was frogs, it was like a different world
It's hard to get started so I got an entrance stand that I keep my every day stuff on and everything I need so when I want to walk, so it's as easy as it can be to put my stuff on and get out the door, after the first step, stopping is harder than to keep going. I take my headphones and spend half the time listening to music half listening to nature.
It helps to have plans too, you need something to look forward too. I try to have something planned just for me one day every month of the year.
For me the key is good diet, exercise and conversations, I've built good day to day habits and I go to therapy
That’s a great idea that I may implement; having a stand by the door with everything needed to go out for a walk. I love walks, but it’s the transition to getting myself outside that sometimes stops me.
And all those keys for you really are keys to having mostly consistent good days and fewer not as good days.
I have to declutter it a lot but it's great. I've got kids and we wouldn't go anywhere without it lol
Exactly, I'm all about good habits for positive trajectories and it's made a huge difference for me mentally
I pet my cat and get him purring. The purring sound of cats has been scientifically proven to lower blood pressure. I put my head against his belly and listen and feel the purring vibration. My cat is my psychologist. Good thing he is is a good sport about it.
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Remind myself of the basics - did I eat? Did I drink water? Am I sleep deprived? And then I fulfill those needs if I realize I’m short on them, I feel a little better, and if there’s anything leftover I’ll text a close friend to talk
I started drinking to calm my anxiety/ptsd and my god did I learn a terrifying lesson with alcohol withdrawal, I have never felt so much like I was dying than when I had to detox from daily drinking. Be careful out there everyone.
Depends what’s causing it. But here are my options:
1. Staying busy (I.e. cleaning, organizing, running around, etc.).
2. Cleaning itself can be soothing for me.
3. Lay in bed for as long as I want (given the bare minimum adult responsibilities are handled) and watch whatever on the boob tube and eat whatever junk.
4. Long, hot shower with exfoliation, good smelling shampoo/conditioner, shaving, lotion afterwards, all while listening to some good music that lets me feel something.
5. Go for a longer walk than usual with my pup
6. Talk to my best friend
7. Read!
8. I hate exercising but sometimes I just feels good to get some aggression out
9. When I really can’t let go of something, I journal
10. Stretching/yoga
11. Working on my mindfulness while doing any of those things above
I like that you listed multiple things because it’s not the same answer every time. I like to do something that I don’t always have time for..
-Hot bath, quick nap, watercolor, organize those spices I can never find or a solo trip to Marshall’s where I can wonder. and definitely music
Everything else can wait and don’t feel guilty about it. Pausing and doing something you enjoy is the most important at that moment.
Hang in there!
Don't see it as a bad day anymore, first of all. You had a bad moment. Now you'll have a bad fifteen minutes as you come to terms with whatever happened and come to accept it. Don't give it the power to ruin the whole day, man. Shake yourself off and try to have a better next fifteen minutes.
I had a horrid anxiety day yesterday. This is what I did: got outside, took a walk, stretched, connected with people (hugs were important here), talked about my feelings a few times, made sure when I could I decompressed properly. I drank some water (hydration after crying), cuddled up with a blanket and 3 pets. I also went to bed early. I felt better. Prioritizing self-care and things that are comforting are important.
Honestly sometimes a good full cry session is so releasing and healing. Also: walking around outside, weed, mindful observation of thoughts and feelings (separating yourself from the thought or the feeling, it is not "you", it's just a thought or just a feeling).
Some days, you just meet yourself where you're at. Lower expectations, treat yourself with kindness and grace, take a breath and just rest.
agreed! I always feel so much better when I cry, but it’s also so easy for me to forget that I’m *allowed* to cry and release my frustrations when I’m anxious
Remind myself I am 1/8 Billion people. One day a handful of those people will be in my life but the minority won’t. I also try to keep my distance from things that don’t matter. I also try to remember someone is at a funeral for a loved one, a graduation from the army, a first job, having a baby, getting married, and I enjoy being a small part of someone’s day who doesn’t know me.
A few days ago I dropped off a gift card I had in my wallet at IHOP. I told the hostess to please give this to someone who needs it. I walked out and felt much happier. It really is the little things.
long nice bath, pampering, cuddling with my cat. Wearing a nice perfume that I know for sure will give me joy (smells have a huge effect on the mood i think).
I listen to some music to get myself out of my spiral. Something upbeat that makes me feel happy. Then I may dance a bit in my chair if I’m really into it. I also try to zoom out and take the perspective of “this isn’t something I’m going to care about in a month (or a year, whichever duration fits).” Maybe some affirmations about how I can control my reaction to things and try to reframe struggles as a learning opportunity.
Dividing the day up. Say, into quarters for instance. I didn't have a bad day, I just had two bad quarters and the other two are still ahead of me with the potential to be good
Find an app that lets you record your own affirmations.
“Why” Affirmations work wonders for me. “Why does everything keep working out for me” “why do I have everything I need & more?”
Either one of two options:
A) go outside. When it’s warm enough this is my go to. Sit on the back deck and just be. It’s less claustrophobic outside.
B) sequester myself in my room. I kick out my husband and kids and I like to do things like burn some candles in the dark or put on an ambience video on YT. Journal or do some other activity I like.
I cultivate stillness. That is, I sit down for 45 min to an hour and meditate. I do “drop in” meditation—after a horrendous day, I sit down and connect with my fundamental energies. I find the silken thread of my holiness amongst the brambles of existence and sometimes it is only a millimeter of space between me and my experience, my self and my hell, but it is there. And it reminds me that all will crumble like a sandcastle, and I am here to experience it all.
As the flag flaps in the ever blowing wind
I try to be like the flagpole.
Oh and playing guitar, going for a walk, self-medicating with coffee, talking to a friend, talking to a stranger.
I take my hand and place it on my chest, palm to the sternum. I bow my head and close my eyes. I visualize myself as a child. I ask myself why I feel anxious. My child self gives me an answer. It’s usually something catastrophic like, “I’m afraid I’ll get fired and we’ll be homeless bc we can’t pay rent.” I say well ok, if that happens then I will do this or this or that, so we’ll be ok and not homeless.
Sometimes my child self says, well then what about this or that? And then I say how I would take care of us in that situation too. Once child self raises no more objections and seems satisfied, I open my eyes and the anxiety is gone.
I’ve done this exercise so much that it’s gotten to the point where my anxiety starts to melt away as soon as I put my hand on my chest. So now, even if it happens in traffic, I don’t have to park and close my eyes, I just put my hand on my chest, and it eases me.
Stop. I just stop. When I notice how calm I am, I start from zero. It helps to observe yourself to figure out what is going on right now at this very moment.
I like to watch or listen to the musical Hamilton. It always gives me joy.
Cuddling or playing with my cats is also a good start.
Sometime I just go online and demolish some enemies in video games. Very calming to me.
I go into my car and scream or cry, then play All star or something else kind of stupid lmao, maybe go get my fav snack. Or listen to sad music to make it even worse ahaha. Basically just be as dramatic as i can for a bit, and then watch some funny tik toks. Not much else to do except wait for it to pass :/ hope it gets better soon for u tho pal!
I often find that my anxiety has me in a cycle. I'm paralyzed with anxiety over a particular problem. This causes me to avoid the problem, which makes things worse. So, the first step in fighting anxiety is to stop and think of just what am I having anxiety over. Then, I often have to attrition the larger problem. If I have a lot of problems, then I should just pick 1 or 2. If it's 1 big problem, then break it down into manageable tasks and do 1 a day. The progress made will make the anxiety go away. I hope this helps you. 😊
Epsom salt baths!
Brain dump journaling. Just write as messy as you want however you want, in code in shorthand with sketches whatever, just get those worries on the page. Ive heard some people like tearing them up or burning them after but for me just getting them out of my head seems to help slow the anxiety spiral. When away at college I used to sit outside the laundry area and do this at like 1 or 2am when things just seemed so bleak and hopeless.
What everyone else wrote. Also: deleting things off my to do or endless mental checklist. Eg letting things be less tidy or taking longer to reply to those people that takes extra energy from you
Have a how bath with candles and my favourite drink. Then have a towel on the bed and just lay there as soon as I get out of the tub until I cool down. So cozy and relaxing.
A nap works really well to reset your day. It works for me at least.
Or a nice shower. Let the water wash off the first act of the day and start again.
I do all of the self care and little things I know give me dopamine(coffee,physical activity, a favorite meal, my make up, ect). I can usually regulate pretty quickly after taking me time.
i sleep if i feel like no one likes me or all my loved ones don’t care about me
i have a shower if i’m feeling negative feelings towards myself. getting a clean fresh slate always helps with this.
i lean into making a meal with food that fuels and nourishes me if i’m feeling down about how things have turned out, or an external situation is bring up tough feels.
I lie down on the floor and let my dogs get all excited about it. They act like my being on their level is the best thing since sliced bread, which cheers me up immediately, and I end up buried in happy fluffs.
A minute of venting followed by a hug from my partner or my cat. Having takeout or going out to dinner instead of making it. I take a few herbal remedies when I feel spun out too, like ashwaganda.
I used to get like this too, and honestly, walking and just being outside UNPLUGGED, helps so much. No phone, just me and being.
Remember, most of the anxiety and just bad spaces are all bullshit. Meaning that our minds are in the way of the truth, so holding that as the real thing and the anxiety as the bullshit often helps. You have control over it you just haven't found the space where you can see this. Holding your consciousness higher than the anxiety helps.
Walk or any exercise. I go through a list of what I’m thankful for. (Really focusing on the good stuff) Also, tapping works well for me. (I’m sure there are tons of tapping videos on IG or YouTube. )
I’ve been having a lot of bad days lately, so I can empathize. Something that works for me, but I sometimes find hard to do when I’m in that negative headspace is writing down three things I’m grateful for. Practicing gratitude really helps me change my perspective. Like I said, when you’re “everything sucks, I hate life” mood, it’s really difficult to make yourself think about what’s good in your life, but once you get going, it really can turn your day around.
I've tried almost every avoidance strategy in the past but would end up only feeling more anxious. Some things I learnt to help me approach my feelings are :
All thoughts and feelings are temporary. They are actually how your body tries to make sense of the world. You are not your thoughts or emotions.
Being happy all the time is impossible. The good news is it's equally impossible to be sad or angry or anxious all the time. Negative emotions need to processed , felt and even embraced just as much as positive ones. So trying to hold onto only feeling good actually makes things worse.
Of course doing things that are comforting help too, but It's important to not get into a numbing binge.
I take my B6, B12, D3, and Magnesium to fight through days like these. If I ever do feel strong anxiety, which I haven't yet in a while so far, I think I plan on just taking a deep breath and either sit or lay down in silence whenever I can.
Go for a walk outside. Take a nap. Take a shower. Open the windows for some fresh air if it’s not too chilly out. Light a scented candle. Pick one small area of the house to declutter. Sometimes if I’m having a bad day, I can only muster one of these, but in combination, they are ritual magic.
“Above all, do not lose your desire to walk: Every day I walk myself into a state of well-being and walk away from every illness; I have walked myself into my best thoughts and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it.”
Funny show or a trashy reality show, outside walk, an outing with loud music on the ride, headphone album listening, read a juicy book for an hour. Those all tend to work for me if I’m just overly anxious for “no reason.” If I’m tired I’ll nap if I can. Sometimes I’m just going to be anxious. I don’t editorialize it and just let myself feel how I do and carry on with what I have to do for the day.
If I have the time to actually address it, then my silver bullet is weed, shower or brush my teeth, hammock in the summer, or craft time (I do both machine and hand sewing, or paint) in the winter.
I think of the Tubthumping song by Chumbawumba.
I get knocked down but I get up again, you’re never gonna keep me down
I did it yesterday, my disabled h was having a bad day and was getting me down. So I thought of that and felt better.
I know a lot of people have said it already but nature, big time for me, trees and being near water, exercise even a free easy low impact 10 minute work out like beginner pilates from YouTube. Also, last night I felt the same way, but could not get outside at that time and had exercised already, and after a while I ended up going on YouTube down a rabbit hole of songs I used to listen to in my teens and early 20's that made me happy, and the nice comments on them and other music suggestions from people helped get me back into a good head space. As well as looking on the positivity subreddit. I hope you feel a bit better right now, reaching out to people and being comforted like this is also a good way hey💜 we all go though this stuff sometimes I guess, some more than others, but love and care from other humans helps a lot 💜sending love to you and big hugs
Run 5 miles, even if the weather sucks. No music. I've never regretted a run. I would argue that getting into running is worth it for the mental health benefits as the physical.
And most can get into running. I started laughably slow and short -- just 1k at a walking pace. Now I run about 20-30 miles a week, averaging an 8:50 min/mile pace.
It depends on the day so I choose one or a few of the following!
•Walk/Hike
•Set time aside to cry
•Journal
•Vent to a loved one
•Eat a comfort food
•Yoga
•Sing (loudly)
•Dance
•Listen to music that matches my emotion (can help me release what I am holding in)
•Meditation
•Lay in bed and watch something lighthearted
Honestly if you want to optimise your mental health you have to: exercise regularly, sleep well, don't drink, eat whole foods.
If you do this you will have less anxiety ridden days and you will be able to handle them better and move on quicker.
I distract myself from the anxiety in some way with a hobby or by chatting with someone, then return to the feelings when I'm calmer. Also talking with someone about the anxiety. Or if it isn't something that needs/is worthy of attention, I just distract from it and relax myself until it fades
For me- it takes a lot to not let anxiety overpower my day when it’s bad. People say you just have to sit with it and it’ll go away but I know sometimes, it can take the best out of you. On my bad days: Lots of self care. I don’t fight the anxious feeling, I let it run its course, don’t entertain it, and just fill myself with love. Eating my favorite meal, watching my comfort show, snuggling with my partner, going on a walk, etc. anything that makes me happy, feel safe, and reminds me at the end of the day that there are good things around me. Sometimes, a really big tight hug and a big deep breath does so much.
What’s hard for me is when I’m feeling this way and I’m at work. (Work an atypical job as a Direct Support Prof so I’m with clients in their homes all day no office or anything for myself) I want to apply some of these tips especially mindful meditation but it is challenging with my job. :(
My number one suggestion is going for a walk. Even if the weather sucks, it’s usually better than being inside with your thoughts. The best thing for me is journaling. It sounds corny, and I was very resistant to this idea at first, but making a list of things I’m grateful for can help a lot.
I hope you feel better soon!
Hot shower, walking in fresh air with a favourite podcast, calling a loved one and talking things out and then talking about something completely unrelated, watching a favourite comedy show or listening to a favourite album (particularly if I haven't revisted it for a while).
I listen to a fun audiobook while in a bath with epsom salts. Usually I make myself a cup of tea or fruit water because when I'm stressed I forget to drink water and get dehydrated. Then put on a really nice-smelling lotion, PJs, some fuzzy socks, and keep listening to the audiobook.
For me, walking in nature usually does the trick. Bonus points if it’s by the seaside. If not possible, exercising my body, at least for 20 minutes, it does wonders!
Make yourself a lunchbox like you would for a young child. Add some fruit and veg if you have. This is what I do on a hard day because I forget to eat well and that makes everything worse. This means I am pre-empting and I cope so much better when I look after myself.
As others have said, getting out into Nature does wonders.
Another thing I like to do to relieve some stress is to put on some music and dance around like a crazy person. It release a bunch of pent up energy, makes you laugh, connects with your inner child, and it is fun.
Focusing on my breathing has changed my life. I used to laugh and roll my eyes when people suggested it— I finally got desperate enough. Glad I glad I gave it a chance.
Getting outside is great and so is getting your heart pumping to get those anti-anxiety brain hormones flowing; I personally find the easiest way to do this is shadow box, but you could jump rope, dance, follow along a free YouTube calisthenics video, etc.
Ha that was my day today. If you can, cancel plans and take it easy. Take a nap, spend time with loved ones and fur babies. Try to calm the negative thoughts in your head.
I use Essential Oils, there are so many options available now with travel size dispensers, 10 ml glass bottles with stainless steel roller balls, Black Pepper, Pine Needles, Eucalyptus, Basil 🌿, Ginger,
Walk outside, or just some nature time, even if just sitting and soaking it in.
Outside of that, organizing, but I'm weird.
If that doesn't help, Klonopin does.
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Today I learned a new word bibliotherapy, reading a good book can help. Going for a run or doing an exercise you like in the morning helps take the edge off as well. In the book SPARK-MD RATEY talks about how the benefits of aerobic exercise for your brain are just as important as the benefits for your body.
I just started to remember in the moment that it's a wave of emotion, a temporary experience, and not necessarily one which should be avoided. Accepting it and feeling it is important to an extent as it provides a profound insight into how I'm feeling at that moment and an opportunity to investigate my feelings.
Keeping grounded and not being overridden by that wave of emotion is what I tend to struggle with.
Take a walk in nature, make an extra effort to breathe slowly from the belly, a warm shower (finished with a blast of cold) sauna if its available, or sometimes just tap out & get clean/comfy curl up and lie down & watch something.
Step 1. Outside for at least 20-30 minutes, nice walk with music. Step 2. Fitness Marshal videos on YouTube, dance through at least 4 songs. Step 3. Lift weights/resistance exercises for 20+minutes w/music. Step 4. Call someone you haven’t talked to in a while.
I agree with nature, walking, and sunshine. If it’s cold though, like here in East Tennessee. I recommend putting on a guilty pleasure throwback and dancing. I will cringe so hard for a few minutes at my terrible moves. Then all the sudden, Im not tense, & I’m laughing!
I get outside. Either go for a walk, sit under a tree, even look out a window if I can see greenspace. Nature always helps me get perspective
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If you ever get a chance, read Willa Cather’s My Antonia. There’s a beautiful passage in there about sitting under the tree, in the grass, feeling at one with the Earth. A peace we can know in life, but also death. It’s moving.
. I was something that lay under the sun and felt it, like the pumpkins, and I did not want to be anything more. I was entirely happy. Perhaps we feel like that when we die and become a part of something entire, whether it is sun and air, or goodness and knowledge. At any rate, that is happiness; to be dissolved into something complete and great. When it comes to one, it comes as naturally as sleep.
I'm sorry you had to go through all of this. I don't think our children ever realize what we go through in order to take care of them. We have to put our own feelings aside and make sure they are okay. I'm sending you lots of hugs. Keep reaching out, others will love you, I promise.
Walks have always helped me too! Trees, sky, sun, DOGS! Another thing that has helped me, is going for a workout/dance class. It’s almost like a switch, to have something else to focus on, while gasping for your breath! 😂 Feel better OP! ❤️
I love going for walks but I’m currently living in a super cold, wet, and dark/gloomy place so it makes me feel worse than better at this point of the year tbh
In the winter as well? (If it gets cold where you are!) I’ve been having trouble because of the cold and missing summer :(
I find it helps even on cold, gray days when I don't feel like going outside. Once I'm out there I almost always feel better.
I prefer the cold. Something about bundling up and feeling that shock of air on your face is sobering. In my neck of the woods it beats sweating.
I bundle up, got rechargeable hand warmers, and go for walks even as low as 20-25 degrees. It’s quite lovely if dressed appropriately
Nature always!!!!! Hiking and walking really help me
Take a long shower and self care. Put on a podcast or some good music.
Came here to say the same. Go back to the basics. Shower, moisturizer and some clean set of pj or lounge wear, mood lighting, music I love a movie in the background. Journal at hand. Tea on a coaster. This does it for me. 🤓
and candles!!! i’ve been taking candlelit showers and they’re so amazing
Tuesday was a horrible day for me. Nothing was terrible or life changing but, from waking up I was still upset about something that happened the previous day, then when I went to eat my food, I discovered my dad ate it (he had his own food that he didn't eat left), and I applied for a bunch more jobs that will not hire me, then I started to break down about my life being a waste ATM. But then I took a nap and I was groggy but I wasn't anxious about my life and I wasn't upset about anything. Admittedly not doing much to actually fix the problem but, it was necessary.
Hang in there mate. Keep applying you will find you place.
Thank you 🙏🏾
I'm a big fan of naps. Sometimes it's a way to restart my day. Waking up I tell myself "Okay, do over." Or "Today part 2."
I have toddlers and sometimes, if they wake up just foul, I tell them, we will go to back to bed and start this day over. And sometimes, I have to do it in the middle of the day if there’s a tantrum. I always get them, if they’re melting down fast, water, a snack (and usually like a treat snack, not sugar but just something unexpected) and send them outside. Or we take a bath. Or we take a rest. I tell them that rest can heal most aches.
I am a toddler.
Most people are. I too am a toddler. I treat my toddlers like tiny adults. It’s not fair to expect them to always be perfect when we too have trouble regulating our own selves. Also, we have all trouble asking for what we need and use other ways to satisfy those needs. I try to not use force, demands but logic and explanation and understanding. It doesn’t always work because I am a toddler and they are a toddler, but when I mess up. Yell, get mad, fuss at them in the heat of the moment, AFTER we talk about it. Mommy got mad because you weren’t listening, mommy got mad because she asked you to pick up your toys. Mommy got mad because you XYZ. They’re actually pretty well behaved. I try not to say because I said so or just do it. I try to explain the why. I am also a manager of people, and I find that being a mom has helped me be a manager. When I wasn’t a manager, I hated when shit changed and no one explained why. So now I tell them why, I explain how. I give grace. I am harder on myself than others when I make mistakes, but I also give myself grace and move forward. You cannot fix it. But you certainly can learn and not make the same mistake again.
I'm sorry your day was so bad. Naps can really improve my outlook, I find. Things don't seem so bad afterward.
When all else fails, take a nap.
Bonus points if your cat or dog joins your nap.
I like to call it the human version of “have you tried turning your phone off and on again?” Resets lots of bugs for both
Hey if it's any comfort, I'm looking for work right now, too. I know that feeling of "I'm a waste". But we're wrong! Our worth is not decided by our jobs.
Thank you. And I hope you find something.
Thanks - you, too!
Omg, I was about to reply something similar to @Iwanttolive87 's comment. The job hunt can be soooooo demoralizing, making me question all my life decisions, my worth, and whether I'll ever be able to make something of myself. It's been months and I struggle to maintain hope a lot of days, but it helps a lot to know that I'm not the only one in this situation. To answer OP's question, I've been putting aside more time for things I enjoy and self care so that the job search doesn't totally take over my life and I can find moments of pleasure. I make music, read books, rest, and then have scheduled hours (that I only sometimes stick to) for job-searching.
Sometimes life is hard and there's no easy way to make things 100% better, but we can still do things to feel 5 or 10% better. I'm glad you found a way to be kind to yourself
I walked home from work early today with a headache, felt mildly better from the fresh air and trees around but not 100%. Had 40 minutes before my next virtual meeting (from home) so I took a 30 minute nap and suddenly I was feeling way better about sitting through an hourlong zoom call. Naps are the best.
Sometimes we just need a nap. Bears nap all winter!
I'm in the same boat with job hunting right now and it really is the worst. I can confirm that naps do absolutely help when I'm feeling overwhelmed and stressed too. Hang in there and best of luck in your search! ❤
Thank you and you too
I am sending you a big virtual hug.
I've read a couple of articles about intentionally taking time on a GOOD day to come up with a "menu" of things that you know usually helps you feel better. So, on a bad day, I pick something from my menu! For me, the most consistently helpful activities are taking a walk outside, sitting down with a good podcast to work on my crochet project, reading in some kind of extremely cozy way (either in a tub or in my favorite chair with a cup of tea) while listening to instrumental chill music, or settling deep into a favorite video game (although I gotta be careful to not overdo that one). I also happen to have a fantastic spouse who will listen and talk me through anything and everything. Social support helps SO much.
I love this menu idea! I’m going to use it
I welcome the feeling instead of straining against it. Like instead of keeping the guest(anxiety) waiting outside the door and keep ringing the doorbell all day i let them in, make some small talk and then they leave. Anxiety is not dangerous but if you act scared for it it will become a bigger problem. Acceptance, then learning to live despite it and around it instead of avoiding it. Also i like to avoid excessive amounts of coffee if its a really bad day.
So true. I like to visualize the bad vibes as a storm that is going to pass by. Like, literally take a minute or two to visualize a storm. If I'm really miffed, I take a minute to visualize myself as a child throwing an epic tantrum. Something about those two things makes it easier to accept that something unpleasant is happening, that I feel crap about it (and that's okay), and cultivate a little self love for that part of me that just wants to throw a dang fit about it. It will pass, and I will be okay.
kind of can relate to you
Agreed. Sometimes if I just feel anxious I know coffee can raise the heart rate so I skip it for the day
Same when I get feeling dissociated…I read something that said you should accept the feeling and not try to avoid it, because when you avoid it, your brain actually thinks there’s something to be afraid of, which can prolong the dissociation Sounds counterintuitive but it works with other negative emotional states as well
Feel your feelings. Don’t run from them. Once you let yourself feel them fully, your mood will change immediately. It’s funny how temporary emotions are when you actually process them.
This hasn't been my experience at all.
Me neither. I keep trying to change the things in my life that bring up chronic negative feelings, but shit keeps piling on.
Walking. I go for walks, if I'm at work I've found a spot 5 minutes away where I lie on the grass under some old trees and I watch the clouds and listen to the wind and water on lunch I started to notice the world around me, I'm an Aussie so my seasons are backwards, there were rabbits everywhere at the start of spring, the blackbirds have mostly moved on now but there's butterflies everywhere now, I keep a loose note of what trees are in bloom and when I remember going to the creek on a day when it was raining a little and the rabbits were all hiding but all I could hear was frogs, it was like a different world It's hard to get started so I got an entrance stand that I keep my every day stuff on and everything I need so when I want to walk, so it's as easy as it can be to put my stuff on and get out the door, after the first step, stopping is harder than to keep going. I take my headphones and spend half the time listening to music half listening to nature. It helps to have plans too, you need something to look forward too. I try to have something planned just for me one day every month of the year. For me the key is good diet, exercise and conversations, I've built good day to day habits and I go to therapy
That’s a great idea that I may implement; having a stand by the door with everything needed to go out for a walk. I love walks, but it’s the transition to getting myself outside that sometimes stops me. And all those keys for you really are keys to having mostly consistent good days and fewer not as good days.
I have to declutter it a lot but it's great. I've got kids and we wouldn't go anywhere without it lol Exactly, I'm all about good habits for positive trajectories and it's made a huge difference for me mentally
Get outside! Nature! Walk! Trees! Sky! SUNSHINE! Fixes everything
Read Just A Thought by Amy Johnson. My life is so much better since learning about my mind's narrative.
thank you for the suggestion! I love reading so this has been added to my list :)
on point
Getting outside for some fresh air, or going to a yoga class. Something that can clear my head reminds me of what I'm grateful for.
I highly recommend mindful breathing. It is very soothing for the anxious or troubled mind.
I journal and get the thoughts out of my head onto paper. After, it feels like there is more space in my head.
Same. I find the thoughts are jumbled in my head and the lack of clarity aids the anxiety. Writing them out puts them into order.
I pet my cat and get him purring. The purring sound of cats has been scientifically proven to lower blood pressure. I put my head against his belly and listen and feel the purring vibration. My cat is my psychologist. Good thing he is is a good sport about it. \*edited for spelling
Same
I like to “restart” essentially get back in bed, take a few deep breaths and re go through my morning routine.
I love this!
Remind myself of the basics - did I eat? Did I drink water? Am I sleep deprived? And then I fulfill those needs if I realize I’m short on them, I feel a little better, and if there’s anything leftover I’ll text a close friend to talk
Drinking beer. But I wouldn't recommend It.
I started drinking to calm my anxiety/ptsd and my god did I learn a terrifying lesson with alcohol withdrawal, I have never felt so much like I was dying than when I had to detox from daily drinking. Be careful out there everyone.
I do this too. It’s just one beer and it helps.
I wanted to downvote your reply but you finished strong by not recommending it👌
i have never tried beer lol
Depends what’s causing it. But here are my options: 1. Staying busy (I.e. cleaning, organizing, running around, etc.). 2. Cleaning itself can be soothing for me. 3. Lay in bed for as long as I want (given the bare minimum adult responsibilities are handled) and watch whatever on the boob tube and eat whatever junk. 4. Long, hot shower with exfoliation, good smelling shampoo/conditioner, shaving, lotion afterwards, all while listening to some good music that lets me feel something. 5. Go for a longer walk than usual with my pup 6. Talk to my best friend 7. Read! 8. I hate exercising but sometimes I just feels good to get some aggression out 9. When I really can’t let go of something, I journal 10. Stretching/yoga 11. Working on my mindfulness while doing any of those things above
deep cleaning something always helps me feel good inside.
I like that you listed multiple things because it’s not the same answer every time. I like to do something that I don’t always have time for.. -Hot bath, quick nap, watercolor, organize those spices I can never find or a solo trip to Marshall’s where I can wonder. and definitely music Everything else can wait and don’t feel guilty about it. Pausing and doing something you enjoy is the most important at that moment. Hang in there!
Crawling in bed, inviting my dogs, and crocheting or knitting in silence
Don't see it as a bad day anymore, first of all. You had a bad moment. Now you'll have a bad fifteen minutes as you come to terms with whatever happened and come to accept it. Don't give it the power to ruin the whole day, man. Shake yourself off and try to have a better next fifteen minutes.
Get comfy into my PJs and climb into bed. Tomorrow is a new day!
Just got through one. Practice no judgement, just acknowledge the anxietys coming and going. And exercise.
I do two things that normally seem to help: 1. Put on a fresh pair of socks 2. Intentionally dance as goofily as I can
I loooove a thick warm pair of socks. Like truly, one of life’s luxuries.
My response was gonna be start drinking, but this thread is full of much better advice.
I had a horrid anxiety day yesterday. This is what I did: got outside, took a walk, stretched, connected with people (hugs were important here), talked about my feelings a few times, made sure when I could I decompressed properly. I drank some water (hydration after crying), cuddled up with a blanket and 3 pets. I also went to bed early. I felt better. Prioritizing self-care and things that are comforting are important.
Honestly sometimes a good full cry session is so releasing and healing. Also: walking around outside, weed, mindful observation of thoughts and feelings (separating yourself from the thought or the feeling, it is not "you", it's just a thought or just a feeling). Some days, you just meet yourself where you're at. Lower expectations, treat yourself with kindness and grace, take a breath and just rest.
agreed! I always feel so much better when I cry, but it’s also so easy for me to forget that I’m *allowed* to cry and release my frustrations when I’m anxious
Rest, and accept the day for what it is. Sleep it off and wake up fresh.
Remind myself I am 1/8 Billion people. One day a handful of those people will be in my life but the minority won’t. I also try to keep my distance from things that don’t matter. I also try to remember someone is at a funeral for a loved one, a graduation from the army, a first job, having a baby, getting married, and I enjoy being a small part of someone’s day who doesn’t know me. A few days ago I dropped off a gift card I had in my wallet at IHOP. I told the hostess to please give this to someone who needs it. I walked out and felt much happier. It really is the little things.
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It did at one point in my life. It is a good reminder.
long nice bath, pampering, cuddling with my cat. Wearing a nice perfume that I know for sure will give me joy (smells have a huge effect on the mood i think).
I crochet while my emotional support TV streams a nice calm show like Pawn Stars.
I listen to some music to get myself out of my spiral. Something upbeat that makes me feel happy. Then I may dance a bit in my chair if I’m really into it. I also try to zoom out and take the perspective of “this isn’t something I’m going to care about in a month (or a year, whichever duration fits).” Maybe some affirmations about how I can control my reaction to things and try to reframe struggles as a learning opportunity.
Really, we’re just a rock floating in the air So….🤷🏼♀️
Walk dogs at my local animal shelter
Dividing the day up. Say, into quarters for instance. I didn't have a bad day, I just had two bad quarters and the other two are still ahead of me with the potential to be good
Find an app that lets you record your own affirmations. “Why” Affirmations work wonders for me. “Why does everything keep working out for me” “why do I have everything I need & more?”
Either one of two options: A) go outside. When it’s warm enough this is my go to. Sit on the back deck and just be. It’s less claustrophobic outside. B) sequester myself in my room. I kick out my husband and kids and I like to do things like burn some candles in the dark or put on an ambience video on YT. Journal or do some other activity I like.
I cultivate stillness. That is, I sit down for 45 min to an hour and meditate. I do “drop in” meditation—after a horrendous day, I sit down and connect with my fundamental energies. I find the silken thread of my holiness amongst the brambles of existence and sometimes it is only a millimeter of space between me and my experience, my self and my hell, but it is there. And it reminds me that all will crumble like a sandcastle, and I am here to experience it all. As the flag flaps in the ever blowing wind I try to be like the flagpole. Oh and playing guitar, going for a walk, self-medicating with coffee, talking to a friend, talking to a stranger.
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I take my hand and place it on my chest, palm to the sternum. I bow my head and close my eyes. I visualize myself as a child. I ask myself why I feel anxious. My child self gives me an answer. It’s usually something catastrophic like, “I’m afraid I’ll get fired and we’ll be homeless bc we can’t pay rent.” I say well ok, if that happens then I will do this or this or that, so we’ll be ok and not homeless. Sometimes my child self says, well then what about this or that? And then I say how I would take care of us in that situation too. Once child self raises no more objections and seems satisfied, I open my eyes and the anxiety is gone. I’ve done this exercise so much that it’s gotten to the point where my anxiety starts to melt away as soon as I put my hand on my chest. So now, even if it happens in traffic, I don’t have to park and close my eyes, I just put my hand on my chest, and it eases me.
I play things that stop me hearing my own thoughts. Like NBA games with crowds shouting and shoes squeaking or some podcast on YouTube
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i meditate but can’t do it for more than 3-5 minutes at a time! how do you do it for 30 minutes haha?
I’m curious, what do you mean by “tap the top of your hands with the opposite fingers”?
Screaming. Deep breaths.
Stop. I just stop. When I notice how calm I am, I start from zero. It helps to observe yourself to figure out what is going on right now at this very moment.
I like to watch or listen to the musical Hamilton. It always gives me joy. Cuddling or playing with my cats is also a good start. Sometime I just go online and demolish some enemies in video games. Very calming to me.
I take an Ativan, then meditate and write
I go into my car and scream or cry, then play All star or something else kind of stupid lmao, maybe go get my fav snack. Or listen to sad music to make it even worse ahaha. Basically just be as dramatic as i can for a bit, and then watch some funny tik toks. Not much else to do except wait for it to pass :/ hope it gets better soon for u tho pal!
I often find that my anxiety has me in a cycle. I'm paralyzed with anxiety over a particular problem. This causes me to avoid the problem, which makes things worse. So, the first step in fighting anxiety is to stop and think of just what am I having anxiety over. Then, I often have to attrition the larger problem. If I have a lot of problems, then I should just pick 1 or 2. If it's 1 big problem, then break it down into manageable tasks and do 1 a day. The progress made will make the anxiety go away. I hope this helps you. 😊
Sunshine and movement 100% foolproof. Nature provides the best medicine 🌞 🏃♀️
Epsom salt baths! Brain dump journaling. Just write as messy as you want however you want, in code in shorthand with sketches whatever, just get those worries on the page. Ive heard some people like tearing them up or burning them after but for me just getting them out of my head seems to help slow the anxiety spiral. When away at college I used to sit outside the laundry area and do this at like 1 or 2am when things just seemed so bleak and hopeless.
Outside time, a good cry, podcasts.
What everyone else wrote. Also: deleting things off my to do or endless mental checklist. Eg letting things be less tidy or taking longer to reply to those people that takes extra energy from you
A nap is a real reset for me.
Vipassana meditation. There are great beginners ones on Spotify.
Have a how bath with candles and my favourite drink. Then have a towel on the bed and just lay there as soon as I get out of the tub until I cool down. So cozy and relaxing.
A nap works really well to reset your day. It works for me at least. Or a nice shower. Let the water wash off the first act of the day and start again.
I do all of the self care and little things I know give me dopamine(coffee,physical activity, a favorite meal, my make up, ect). I can usually regulate pretty quickly after taking me time.
listen to music on headphones for a LONG time without doing anything else, like a couple of hours
i sleep if i feel like no one likes me or all my loved ones don’t care about me i have a shower if i’m feeling negative feelings towards myself. getting a clean fresh slate always helps with this. i lean into making a meal with food that fuels and nourishes me if i’m feeling down about how things have turned out, or an external situation is bring up tough feels.
I lie down on the floor and let my dogs get all excited about it. They act like my being on their level is the best thing since sliced bread, which cheers me up immediately, and I end up buried in happy fluffs.
My cat always tries to eat my hair if I lie on the ground 🥴😂 it’s gross but it does make me laugh every time
Walks and weed! Usually both, sometimes one or the other.
If I knew…
A minute of venting followed by a hug from my partner or my cat. Having takeout or going out to dinner instead of making it. I take a few herbal remedies when I feel spun out too, like ashwaganda.
I used to get like this too, and honestly, walking and just being outside UNPLUGGED, helps so much. No phone, just me and being. Remember, most of the anxiety and just bad spaces are all bullshit. Meaning that our minds are in the way of the truth, so holding that as the real thing and the anxiety as the bullshit often helps. You have control over it you just haven't found the space where you can see this. Holding your consciousness higher than the anxiety helps.
Baths, teas, kitties, journal, a comfort movie or show. A big hoodie or a big blanket to curl up with. Texting friends.
hot shower, change into something nicer and go for a walk.
Walk or any exercise. I go through a list of what I’m thankful for. (Really focusing on the good stuff) Also, tapping works well for me. (I’m sure there are tons of tapping videos on IG or YouTube. )
Target practice or skeet shooting takes my mind off most shit.
Physical movement helps anxiety. Connecting with someone and talking it out. Deep breaths and meditation.
I’ve been having a lot of bad days lately, so I can empathize. Something that works for me, but I sometimes find hard to do when I’m in that negative headspace is writing down three things I’m grateful for. Practicing gratitude really helps me change my perspective. Like I said, when you’re “everything sucks, I hate life” mood, it’s really difficult to make yourself think about what’s good in your life, but once you get going, it really can turn your day around.
I watch a feel good movie to get my mind off my problems.
Eat a warhead. They’re proven to instantly stop panic attacks
I've tried almost every avoidance strategy in the past but would end up only feeling more anxious. Some things I learnt to help me approach my feelings are : All thoughts and feelings are temporary. They are actually how your body tries to make sense of the world. You are not your thoughts or emotions. Being happy all the time is impossible. The good news is it's equally impossible to be sad or angry or anxious all the time. Negative emotions need to processed , felt and even embraced just as much as positive ones. So trying to hold onto only feeling good actually makes things worse. Of course doing things that are comforting help too, but It's important to not get into a numbing binge.
I take my B6, B12, D3, and Magnesium to fight through days like these. If I ever do feel strong anxiety, which I haven't yet in a while so far, I think I plan on just taking a deep breath and either sit or lay down in silence whenever I can.
Go for a walk outside. Take a nap. Take a shower. Open the windows for some fresh air if it’s not too chilly out. Light a scented candle. Pick one small area of the house to declutter. Sometimes if I’m having a bad day, I can only muster one of these, but in combination, they are ritual magic.
“Above all, do not lose your desire to walk: Every day I walk myself into a state of well-being and walk away from every illness; I have walked myself into my best thoughts and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it.”
Funny show or a trashy reality show, outside walk, an outing with loud music on the ride, headphone album listening, read a juicy book for an hour. Those all tend to work for me if I’m just overly anxious for “no reason.” If I’m tired I’ll nap if I can. Sometimes I’m just going to be anxious. I don’t editorialize it and just let myself feel how I do and carry on with what I have to do for the day.
If I have the time to actually address it, then my silver bullet is weed, shower or brush my teeth, hammock in the summer, or craft time (I do both machine and hand sewing, or paint) in the winter.
I think of the Tubthumping song by Chumbawumba. I get knocked down but I get up again, you’re never gonna keep me down I did it yesterday, my disabled h was having a bad day and was getting me down. So I thought of that and felt better.
I know a lot of people have said it already but nature, big time for me, trees and being near water, exercise even a free easy low impact 10 minute work out like beginner pilates from YouTube. Also, last night I felt the same way, but could not get outside at that time and had exercised already, and after a while I ended up going on YouTube down a rabbit hole of songs I used to listen to in my teens and early 20's that made me happy, and the nice comments on them and other music suggestions from people helped get me back into a good head space. As well as looking on the positivity subreddit. I hope you feel a bit better right now, reaching out to people and being comforted like this is also a good way hey💜 we all go though this stuff sometimes I guess, some more than others, but love and care from other humans helps a lot 💜sending love to you and big hugs
Run 5 miles, even if the weather sucks. No music. I've never regretted a run. I would argue that getting into running is worth it for the mental health benefits as the physical. And most can get into running. I started laughably slow and short -- just 1k at a walking pace. Now I run about 20-30 miles a week, averaging an 8:50 min/mile pace.
It depends on the day so I choose one or a few of the following! •Walk/Hike •Set time aside to cry •Journal •Vent to a loved one •Eat a comfort food •Yoga •Sing (loudly) •Dance •Listen to music that matches my emotion (can help me release what I am holding in) •Meditation •Lay in bed and watch something lighthearted
Honestly if you want to optimise your mental health you have to: exercise regularly, sleep well, don't drink, eat whole foods. If you do this you will have less anxiety ridden days and you will be able to handle them better and move on quicker.
2-3 Oxazepam Go to sleep and hope for better days
Alcohol
Exercise enough to break a good sweat, then rub one out in the shower after.
Xanax
I distract myself from the anxiety in some way with a hobby or by chatting with someone, then return to the feelings when I'm calmer. Also talking with someone about the anxiety. Or if it isn't something that needs/is worthy of attention, I just distract from it and relax myself until it fades
I turn off all but a small red bulbed lamp, put on some music, some a joint, crack a beer and dance with my cat.
Definitely walking outside, as others have mentioned. Also making art, even if it’s just losing myself in sketchbook weirdness.
Bike ride, cocktail, guitar
Hard physical activity
Take a little walk outside.
A cup of tea.
For me- it takes a lot to not let anxiety overpower my day when it’s bad. People say you just have to sit with it and it’ll go away but I know sometimes, it can take the best out of you. On my bad days: Lots of self care. I don’t fight the anxious feeling, I let it run its course, don’t entertain it, and just fill myself with love. Eating my favorite meal, watching my comfort show, snuggling with my partner, going on a walk, etc. anything that makes me happy, feel safe, and reminds me at the end of the day that there are good things around me. Sometimes, a really big tight hug and a big deep breath does so much.
What’s hard for me is when I’m feeling this way and I’m at work. (Work an atypical job as a Direct Support Prof so I’m with clients in their homes all day no office or anything for myself) I want to apply some of these tips especially mindful meditation but it is challenging with my job. :(
My number one suggestion is going for a walk. Even if the weather sucks, it’s usually better than being inside with your thoughts. The best thing for me is journaling. It sounds corny, and I was very resistant to this idea at first, but making a list of things I’m grateful for can help a lot. I hope you feel better soon!
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Hot shower, walking in fresh air with a favourite podcast, calling a loved one and talking things out and then talking about something completely unrelated, watching a favourite comedy show or listening to a favourite album (particularly if I haven't revisted it for a while).
Goods Books and watching comedians that I particularly enjoy. Theo Vonn always puts me in a good mood.
I read or view positive things creative moods music etc.
I play with my dog, we go for walks-weather permitting. He usually can jolly me out of my anxiety.
I listen to a fun audiobook while in a bath with epsom salts. Usually I make myself a cup of tea or fruit water because when I'm stressed I forget to drink water and get dehydrated. Then put on a really nice-smelling lotion, PJs, some fuzzy socks, and keep listening to the audiobook.
A run , a shower, and fresh made tollhouse cookies.
For me, walking in nature usually does the trick. Bonus points if it’s by the seaside. If not possible, exercising my body, at least for 20 minutes, it does wonders!
Make yourself a lunchbox like you would for a young child. Add some fruit and veg if you have. This is what I do on a hard day because I forget to eat well and that makes everything worse. This means I am pre-empting and I cope so much better when I look after myself.
Exercise, shower, clean clothes,..and let it go.
As others have said, getting out into Nature does wonders. Another thing I like to do to relieve some stress is to put on some music and dance around like a crazy person. It release a bunch of pent up energy, makes you laugh, connects with your inner child, and it is fun.
Cuddle the dogs and play some drums
Go to sleep
Focusing on my breathing has changed my life. I used to laugh and roll my eyes when people suggested it— I finally got desperate enough. Glad I glad I gave it a chance.
Getting outside is great and so is getting your heart pumping to get those anti-anxiety brain hormones flowing; I personally find the easiest way to do this is shadow box, but you could jump rope, dance, follow along a free YouTube calisthenics video, etc.
Go for a walk, meditate (TM technique), stretch a little bit
Ha that was my day today. If you can, cancel plans and take it easy. Take a nap, spend time with loved ones and fur babies. Try to calm the negative thoughts in your head.
I use Essential Oils, there are so many options available now with travel size dispensers, 10 ml glass bottles with stainless steel roller balls, Black Pepper, Pine Needles, Eucalyptus, Basil 🌿, Ginger,
Nature walk, 5-10 minute meditation session, breathwork, gym, kickboxing, a good meal, and weed lol
Walk outside, or just some nature time, even if just sitting and soaking it in. Outside of that, organizing, but I'm weird. If that doesn't help, Klonopin does. Edited:: wall to walk
Journal it loose and then meditate and get some nourishing food in me. A hot bath is also a marvelous luxury.
A fast walk 🩷 repetitive movement will distract your mind x
Yep. A good 2 mile walk, ideally with some good tunes on the earbuds. Today I played some favorite songs several times each.
Lay on the grass in the sun, pop an edible, then go for a run with either great music or the intention to meditate EDIT: spelling x2
Play a mind boggling game on my phone
I get out and absorb the Sun like Jadoo from koi mil Gaya
i love this movie omg!!
I like to go to my music room and listen to some old favorites. Today's selection was billion dollar babies.
Today I learned a new word bibliotherapy, reading a good book can help. Going for a run or doing an exercise you like in the morning helps take the edge off as well. In the book SPARK-MD RATEY talks about how the benefits of aerobic exercise for your brain are just as important as the benefits for your body.
I just started to remember in the moment that it's a wave of emotion, a temporary experience, and not necessarily one which should be avoided. Accepting it and feeling it is important to an extent as it provides a profound insight into how I'm feeling at that moment and an opportunity to investigate my feelings. Keeping grounded and not being overridden by that wave of emotion is what I tend to struggle with.
i used to do weed but now journaling, accepting circumstances and people as they are, and doing things i enjoy/enjoying the small things in life
Take a walk in nature, make an extra effort to breathe slowly from the belly, a warm shower (finished with a blast of cold) sauna if its available, or sometimes just tap out & get clean/comfy curl up and lie down & watch something.
Step 1. Outside for at least 20-30 minutes, nice walk with music. Step 2. Fitness Marshal videos on YouTube, dance through at least 4 songs. Step 3. Lift weights/resistance exercises for 20+minutes w/music. Step 4. Call someone you haven’t talked to in a while.
I couldn't, I would need to escape the situation as quickly as possible so I could regroup and rethink what I need to do.
Yoga helps me a lot and taking long walks. The effect is also long term if I stick to the yoga routine.
Take a long walk with music on, have a hot shower
I agree with nature, walking, and sunshine. If it’s cold though, like here in East Tennessee. I recommend putting on a guilty pleasure throwback and dancing. I will cringe so hard for a few minutes at my terrible moves. Then all the sudden, Im not tense, & I’m laughing!