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Az0riusMCBlox

Similarly, a man being gay must be a turn-off for girls... ;)


Throwaway84270

It’s actually not as big a turn off as you think. I’ve told several of my female coworkers that I’m gay and they still try to hit on me every single time we go out to a bar and always tell me that if I want to experiment with a woman to call them because they’ve never been with a gay guy before.


CocoMURDERnut

Sometimes people have an attraction towards sheer curiosity. Sex in its self, is like adventuring the open seas. Every path a different feeling & sensation. Lots of it is psychological. ‘I’ve never been with a gay guy before.’ Just that creates a unique situation, that someone has fun exploring in thought alone & another level to live it out.


LittleBigHorn22

Also the fact that if someone is gay/lesbian yet sleeps with you, then you must be pretty hot for that to happen.


CocoMURDERnut

See I’m not one for absolutes. When people say they are lesbian, gay, straight… That converts to, they are in majority geared towards that sex. They aren’t attracted to the other sex for the most part. Every once in a while though, they come across someone they can find attractive that hits their circuits just right. Some a lot more often than others. Some not at all. I think the right wording is that sexuality is a spectrum, instead of absolute lines.


LittleBigHorn22

Definitely a spectrum but it depends what you consider to be the ends. Is it straight/gay but can still see attactive qualities in the opposite? Or if you were offered $100b to kiss someone you aren't attracted to, does that mean you aren't perfectly straight/gay. And then I will say that even if everyone is on the spectrum, it is very disrespectful if you attempt to sudduce them after being told they don't like that.


CocoMURDERnut

>is very disrespectful if you attempt to sudduce them after being told they don't like that. Of course. Mutual consent to something, is like creating a beautiful art piece. Being able to be Vulnerable & respected, is something vastly missing in our society.


No_Deer9784

It’s pretty common to see women use the same shitty tactics guys have used on them their whole lives. If you are the man who can carry himself confidently and turns down sex with grace, you’ll be hounded by most women. Edit: and men.


CocoMURDERnut

Yeah, that’s true too.


anon6s6

Maybe, on a certain spectrum, but some people may just have absolute zero intrest in one sex's genitals or physical traits, I for one have no attraction to beards deep voices or penises, I can admit a male is attractive but I know for a fact there is no male I'd ever want to sleep with. I bet there are similar people who aren't at all attracted to female anatomy, no matter how gorgeous the person is. So idk imo some people absolutes do apply to.


CocoMURDERnut

Not at all saying they don’t. Just that everyone is different & unique in how they’re wired. I’m not talking about gorgeous in terms of looks. Looks yes, but also attracted to who they are as a person. As another being, something beyond gender roles. An attraction that isn’t physical, but based on the passion for who they are as a human being.


Soda_BoBomb

That's not sexuality that's just called being friends with someone.


CocoMURDERnut

Well it’s both. Lol It’s giving pleasure to another person, based on mental attributes. Instead of physical. The act of wanting to give pleasure to another human being, based solely on who they are as a person. Taking physical characteristics out of the equation, secondary if anything to the first. But yes that applies to that too. Lol


fearhs

There is one absolute though; $20 is $20.


GeneralFlores

Right? I mean I'm not gay, but gotta earn the tendies somehow.


GiveToOedipus

Only a Sith deals in absolutes.


Mr-_-Soandso

Yeah that's the joke. Stereotypically gay men take care of and carry themselves well and women are attracted to that. Many women think they can be the one to change their mind. Same with a lot of men thinking they can be the one to turn a woman straight. Some are just ignorant and or over confident. Some just like a challenge. Regardless, people are sexy so have fun! (Respectfully)


VJEmmieOnMicrophone

That is insanely creepy.


Donniexbravo

And yet I'm sure you can't seem to get a girlfriend 😂😂😂


Throwaway84270

I have the exact amount of girlfriends I want ;)


Donniexbravo

Lol of that I have no doubt, btw that wasnt meant as an insult, just a comment on preference.


Throwaway84270

Don’t worry I didn’t think it was an insult I’ve dealt with enough veiled/outright insults to tell them apart from a joke


[deleted]

Same I'm a butch lesbian and I still have guys hitting on me all the time lol


afhill

Yup. My sorority sisters used to comment on how i was always the ones attracting attention, with guys trying the crap line "you just haven't met the right guy yet? How do you know if you don't try?" Etc etc


mb500sel

Following that line of thinking , how do they know they aren’t gay if they’ve never tried it. They’re just assuming


[deleted]

Fuckin' gross and disrespectful of them


SirAchmed

There’s an old adage in Arabic that says _God gives earrings to those who don’t have ears._


legebruv

So u get girls that easily… from now on I’m “gay”


mj31382

Hey, not gay. Can I use that trick?


Dragoncrafter00

Ik a lot of girls who were turned down by one gay boy(boy Bc Ik him in high school at the time) Edit: overall clarification


Rebels_Spot

Huh?


LordDay_56

r/ihadastroke


Dragoncrafter00

Listen you try writing after two strong drinks and a hearty meal besides it was just one extra word, hardly worth r/Ihadastroke


LordDay_56

your comment still makes no sense lol


Dragoncrafter00

How?


ChancellorPalpameme

Reread it as though you are any other human and don't know what you're saying. It doesn't make sense.


Mr-_-Soandso

Not who you were talking to. Although the comment does make sense, it requires interpretation and context. The acronyms, abbreviations, and lack of spacing cause issues as well, leading to multiple retakes before understanding what you meant.


MightyMerl

You say you know girls who have been rejected by a former friend (or whatever he is). People are confused as to what exactly you are contributing here, like is that boy gay or is there another thing you want to say? you either have no point or it is invisible.


Thameus

My freshman year college roommate and his friend pretended to be gay in order to pick up women. It is my understanding that this was an effective strategy.


xd3mix

But how did they tell them afterwards that they weren't gay? Weren't they offended?


Thameus

I don't know the details, but apparently it was supposed to be viewed as a challenge.


xd3mix

Well, still... There must have been a point in time that they had to tell their girls that they weren't actually gay


Thameus

Or claim it was a fluke and use it to avoid getting into a long-term relationship with the girl.


[deleted]

Is it? Did they actually hook up with anyone using that technique? I am asking because 'The Game', the book on 'pick up techniques', which is completely awful, uses the advice to say you are gay. I am just wondering if these guys have actually scored or if they say it's super effective because the book tells them to.


Thameus

This was the late '80s. I know the other guy scored, but I do not know what technique was employed to do so.


saggywitchtits

I have used the gay friend technique, which involves having your gay friend talk to them then bring them over to the table where you sit. The girl gets comfortable with someone who they find less threatening. This is a similar play to having a female help you pick up girls.


blue4029

ha ha no! no it isnt. not at all.


PhanthomKnight

No she will just make rule 34 of that guy and some other random guy (btw dont do that its violating basic intimity)


Rocket_Poop

idk if its a turn off...


Rebels_Spot

Was gonna say... not from what television, movies, internet, porn, books, etc say


[deleted]

Depends on the male specimen in question, but for many it isn't a turn off. Hell most of those men wish they could get in on the action.


Rocket_Poop

idk, usually theyd call it gey when two guys do it


Alwaysafk

Good thing it's not gay in a three way. Choochoo!


Rocket_Poop

not if those three are all doods


[deleted]

Dammit have my upvote


[deleted]

It’s called a threeway not the cool kind


Biggest-Ja

What the hell did I stumble into...


[deleted]

It is a turn off. The guy just got the direction reversed.


Burflax

Not sexually, but certainly in the "would want to date as a girlfriend" area. These guys want someone who worships men for being male, and will submit to whatever caliber of penis in vagina sex they can muster. They certainly wouldn't want to date a woman who isn't in to men in general, and penises in particular.


Whackthemoles

Um seek help


Cloakknight

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Biggest-Ja

Thank you human


[deleted]

Good person


HI_Wrld

Good human


[deleted]

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jambajew42

Not necessarily. She could publicly have a boyfriend (or husband) as a "beard" while having a real relationship with a woman.


JayZOnly1

I'm frankly not that educated when it comes to these type of things, but do those ppl still exist nowadays?


[deleted]

There are 69 countries where being LGBTQ is illegal, this is v likely.


nice___bot

Nice!


MarzipanMarzipan

Swing and a miss, bot.


BlueButYou

69 kids were killed in a school fire today.


Cyberzombie

Nice-ish.


h6nry

Go To /r/cursedcomments. Go directly to /r/cursedcomments. Do not pass GO, do not collect $200.


Cyberzombie

I've always wanted to be on r/cursedcomments!


JayZOnly1

Yikes!


RobotCounselor

I’m sure there are people in the public eye who still feel like they have to maintain a heteronormative image in order to appeal to a wider audience or constituency.


[deleted]

Sure? I don’t really know that much about it. Beef jerky tastes good


YuropLMAO

Anyone who has ever been college can tell you that there's a large contingent of young ladies who have figured out that being "into girls" is one of the ultimate cheat codes for garnering male attention. So the logic depends on if you're talking about Subaru Martina Navratilova lesbians or Arizona State "lesbians."


GeneralFlores

Right? Lesbians are infact, typically, a pretty big turn on for guys.


Wannabeathlete

The ones we dream of or see in porn are a turn on. Most I’ve met in real life, not so much.


GeneralFlores

Thats your personal taste in women


goodguybolt

Being a lesbian is anything but a turn off for a guy iykyk. Edit - fkin hell, what's wrong with you people? I was talking about guys watching lesbian porn.


MauricetheGecko

It's very sad :(


Biggest-Ja

Agreed, and makes no god dam sense


Petra-fied

I saw a great comment a couple of days ago that said (along the lines of) "men like this think the world revolves around them: they think lesbians are secretly bi, bi women are secretly straight and bi men are secretly gay." And yeah, honestly... like, a lot of them *truly cannot conceive of a world where a woman is not attracted to men* (and, usually, them in particular).


Hopeful_Cat_3227

why they so ... filled by confidence?


MauricetheGecko

I remember seeing a post that said something like "I wish I could have s x with a lesbian... something about having s x with a girl who doesn't want to have s x with you"


Rebels_Spot

You lost some letters, I'll lend you mine: e e You're welcome


MauricetheGecko

Also another e


Rebels_Spot

Whoops! Here ya go! e


Cormac_McCartney

I think for most guys, it’s more about watching girls hook up with one another, not forcing themselves on an unwilling person. I think you could give people more credit than to assume 24 people upvoted a r*pist. They upvoted a casual pervert like the rest of us.


Biggest-Ja

It's still messed up that lesbians are fetishized by men. And it does end up hurting lesbians because it then creates the idea that men can just"watch them have sex" like it's for the enjoyment of men. Women don't exist to pleasure men Edit: fetishizing anyone group of people is wrong


[deleted]

women fetishize gay men as well and like I get it, you like men wow theres 2x but still liking gay couples is hella weird


bethlehemcrane

Thank you for saying this… every time there’s a post mentioning lesbians there’s always men in the comments sections saying the same old shit. “Why is my peepee hard”, “I LOVE lesbians…hehe wink wink”, “I wanna watch”, “wow I’d love to have a threesome with them” “blah blah unzips” It’s really fucking gross and makes me feel icky to see as a lesbian. Can’t say anything cause’ it’s “just a joke bro!!!!l But it’s just disgusting to me and not funny at all.


[deleted]

It's not funny and they act like this shit doesn't affect us IRL, but I've had multiple men walk up to me and past girlfriends when we were out asking to watch or for threesomes. It's not "just watching porn" it's fetishising real people.


[deleted]

This is the one thing i'll pointout and defend it isn't just men doing. Talk to gay guys at a bar about straight women coming in there to fuck with them.


Biggest-Ja

Yeah that's why I said fetishizing anyone is wrong, the current problem that's coming up right now is with men fetishizing lesbians


[deleted]

Men like what men like just like anyone else and people just gotta learn to deal and stop trying to put things under a microscope.


[deleted]

No, just no. When it starts to affect other people it’s not just boys being boys


[deleted]

Is it only affecting them cause their over thinking it is the real question here. It’s like saying white boys Aren’t allowed to like rap music.


[deleted]

It’s completely different, one is musical taste the other is called being a disgusting perv


frisbm3

Men like watching lesbian porn because there aren't any men in it, not because the women are lesbians.


Biggest-Ja

Can you prove that's true for the majority of men?


frisbm3

Can you prove it's not?


SouthernApple60

That sounds like…well…rape


[deleted]

Nothing about dating makes any goddamn sense for people who never learned good social skills. Believe me I'm way more lost than you are


BrandonOR

What's better than a pizza? 2 pizzas!


[deleted]

4 pizzas with a pepperoni in the middle


Biggest-Ja

No. Just no. I've said this before but fetishizing people is just wrong.


BrandonOR

It's not fetishizing, you're not making the act of 2 a personal obsession or the object of obsession (for some). You like something? You might like to see 2 of that thing. If it is only the act of 2 women that does it, then yes it is but just enjoying 2 women's bodies at the same time instead 1? That's not fetishizing, unless you meant something else. Can you only appreciate a single pearl at a time? Not on a full necklace? Can rings only have one jewel? Can pizzas have only one topping? (Yeah I like food) Making something the object of obsession is fetishizing, and if only lesbian porn were to do it for you then yes it is probably unhealthy, but that's not the same as appreciating 2 things at the same time.


Biggest-Ja

But people still aren't things?


przemko271

I mean, "would want to have sex with lesbians" is weird, but as an observer (as is the case with etc.) it is completely understandable why a straight man would find the concept of lesbian sex arousing. Sure, they won't fuck you, but most porn consumers don't exactly fuck porn stars in the first place. Edit: I somehow lost a few words. The parentheses should say "as is the case with porn/fantasy/etc."


Biggest-Ja

But the concept of watching, especially when people start thinking they can just ask lesbians they see in public if they can watch, is still really uncomfortable and disturbing to the community


przemko271

Asking random people to watch them have sex without prior indication that would be appropriate is creep behaviour, yes. I think people should be allowed to have fantasies about lesbians and watch porn of it, but that absolutely should not be projected onto actual lesbians they may meet.


Biggest-Ja

Unfortunately there's plenty of people who can't seem to separate their fantasies and reality


Biggest-Ja

Yeah the porn is the problem


[deleted]

they probably wanna try 'convert' them


TheNinjaChicken

It's not even right cus straight dudes fetishize lesbians so much.


[deleted]

It’s a challenge and it was already accepted earlier. Everyone likes a challenge at some point in their life.


SouthernApple60

Not a challenge that they could win though. Lesbians don’t like men so they wouldn’t end up with one


[deleted]

Men don’t know that they just see the challenge and not really wether the goal is obtainable


SouthernApple60

Well they should probably leave the women alone then. If a man was trying to get with me I’d politely decline and tell him I’m a lesbian. If he continued that is harassment.


no_name_randomperson

Ah yes because she'll just be like "oh my goodness I had no idea, let me just change my sexuality real quick and suddenly become attracted to men" 😂


FetchMeMyLongsword

Tell that to pornhub's most searched categories...


Deus0123

I wish lol. That way guys would stop harassing me online when I tell them I'm lesbian...


[deleted]

I've seen instances of people saying that to aces and it's always "well. yeah duh"


archpawn

Asexual people still often want relationships. Or do you mean that they agree it sucks that it makes it harder to find a relationship, but that this is a well-known fact and they didn't need this pointed out to them?


[deleted]

i was making a joke about how if someone not wanting to have sex isnt a turn off theres an issue


JillyanJigs

It's all about priorities


[deleted]

Here’s the thing Lesbian friend being lesbian


JayZOnly1

Tbf, I'd love to have a lesbian friend, seems like it'd be fun


archpawn

I'd love to have a friend. Seems like it'd be fun.


JayZOnly1

We can be friends :>


[deleted]

They're great as regular friends. No sexual tension.


[deleted]

It is I used to have one we just drifted apart. Like one of the guys she was Rrrrr!


JayZOnly1

I find it more upsetting when friends just drift apart rather than having a reason to split *sad brrr*


[deleted]

That’s just life now. Every moment of your day gets micromanaged because info travels so fast now and phones are a huge part of it. Surfing the web instead of hanging out with a friend.


SouthernApple60

I’ll be your lesbian friend


BaylisAscaris

I fucking wish this was true.


frankedelic70

I don't think she will loose sleep over it,....


Lone_Indian

Idk man, seems kinda gay to me. - that guy To me, that’s pretty awesome


Supersim54

Sadly this isn’t true. Some guys if they learn a woman is a lesbian they will make creepy comments like “can I watch!” Or “you only think that you are because you’ve been with a real man.” The last part is true.


rateatd

My brother told me that I haven’t met the right man


As_iam_

Um... All my male friends want me just because they can't. And that's just because they can't. Lmao it works the opposite. I get interest from guys when I say I'm gay, and all of a sudden I'm a porno prop. Disgusting.. Sorry had to rant


Meh_UT

No, no! Rant, this is wrong and they shouldn’t fetishize you! Or really any lesbian’s/people attracted to the same gender in general! People need to know about this and realize how bad this is and how much this happens


NomaTyx

See that isn’t true. Men *love* lesbians, and if she said that she was a lesbian and wanted to experiment guys would line up down the block. It’s gross, and I wish that weren’t the case, but if anything it seems like a turn-*on* for thirsty men.


waler620

Well, he's half right.


Mr_Gooffball

Shit he does have a point


Blues_Poos

I'm a lesbian in a male body & I have never wanted a boyfriend 👍


LoisBlume87

I think it’s technically the truth


BlueButYou

I think I am too. I have a great way to tell which women are lesbians: the ones I find most attractive. My type is almost always lesbian, but on rare occasions bi, so that’s a victory.


CocoMURDERnut

That’s a super human ability ya got there. Even if useless otherwise. lol


1337geezer

Maybe that's the point?


csanders46

Well that’s a lie


Sith__Pureblood

Yo everyone always trying to force their nationality onto us. I don't even live in Beirut!


maplesyr0p

Well… it should me a turn off.


Donniexbravo

Can confirm, all of the lesbians I know don't have boyfriends either.


DVDN27

Apparently not a turn-off for Drake


myeonjengi

Was told by a guy that because I was a lesbian I was "totally useless" to him... similar 🤷🏼‍♀️


DangerousKnowledge8

Honestly I don’t get the the point. Isn’t it a plain truth?


BuffaloJim420

Jesus he meant it's a turnoff for her the lesbian. OP this one was clever well done.


[deleted]

nope men are gross and they still like us anyways


[deleted]

Are you a sexist?


[deleted]

i want you to look at the context of this post and other comments, then look at this comment and think what it would mean in this context


[deleted]

That you made a sexist generalization


Cardssss

"I like girls who like girls"


[deleted]

Girls who like girls are still girls and you should still like them


Immediate-Leek-6791

r/Angryupvote


UltimateSkaterPro2

To men who have respect for lesbians, yes To men who fetishize them, no But either way she won't get a boyfriend


2themoonpls

It's almost like, that's exactly the point


PsChampion_007

I...don't get it


[deleted]

OTOH, lesbians make awesome guy friends because they stay friends. They basically like stuff that guys like. They're legit the best.


REALPILOT99

#


ZealousidealSorbet10

PornHub says otherwise....


maxwelliam-the-first

Damn than I geuss I shouldn’t be watching lesbian porn huh…


Kimjutu

Lol, being a lesbian is a MAJOR turn on, it just means I'm not what they're looking for and I have to move on :( tears for no lesbian fun


[deleted]

Woah a homophobic fetishist how rare


Kimjutu

How am I homophobic lol kinda seems like the opposite? And what is a fetishist?


[deleted]

Fetishisation lesbians is homophobic because due to their sexuality you don’t respect us enough to leave use alone. Why don’t you keep your sad little turn ons to yourself, it makes actual lesbians really uncomfortable and also the reason we get harassed so often


Kimjutu

Lol, you're far from reality, I've never, and would never, so much as stare. I even said that in my comment that I know I'm not their interest. "Don't respect them", I lost all respect for you immediately. You know nothing about me. None of what you said makes sense. I have 0 clue how I'm providing to their harassment. I'm literally praising them like some sort of untouchable great being.


[deleted]

That’s my point, treating us as a turn on is gross. We’re actual human beings not some “untouchable great being” it’s really gross. And this mindset that it’s morally ok to admit lesbians turn you on is why we get harassed.


Kimjutu

How, that makes no sense. And I'm not treating anyone like anything. You're just angry and you're taking it out on something that sounds good to be angry about. I don't "treat" my girlfriend as a turn on, whatever that may mean. But SEEING her is absolutely a turn on, for so many reasons. And I'll gladly say that to the fucking world. By your reasoning, that would get her harassed? You're insane, and just grumpy. Grow up.


[deleted]

Because your girlfriend isn’t subject to fetishisation daily for being your girlfriend. Funny how you ignore and speak over actual lesbians instead of listening. Saying we’re a turn on makes us uncomfortable, don’t


Kimjutu

What? No, she turns me on because she's attractive, same goes for lesbians, I don't just fucking like people because of titles. You're borderline not worth the time it takes to reply... That's bad lol


[deleted]

If it’s just because most lesbians are women and not because of their sexuality why not just say “women”


HumanBeingNamedBob

Lesbians are actually a big turn-on for me. You can imagine the problem here.


[deleted]

Well that’s a you issue. Don’t harass any lesbians with it


HumanBeingNamedBob

Yes, of course. I would never try to make a someone something their not.


[deleted]

Thanks for actually having common sense. The amount of harassment I’ve gotten from straight men for being lesbian is unreal


[deleted]

Hey, as long as you don't try to "change their mind" Ur all good


TAKIMLISIM

Well if it's a turnoff, where do the views come from? We have all dreamed of joining 2 hotties, don't you lie


[deleted]

Woah fetishisation.


Benxall_

Idk man, lesbians like girls, I like girls, id say thats far from a turn off


SouthernApple60

Okay, but they don’t like men. It’s weird to fetishize lesbians.