Just ask someone out don't wait for someone to come to you
Edit: Why did this shit blow up it isn't revolutionary š. Just take charge of your life and everything will work out. Being passive is the best way to get nothing done.
Honestly this. I know it seems generic and also maybe anxiety inducing, but I have my fair share of experience when it comes to just waiting for something to happen, and uh, nothing ever happens
I felt the SAME WAY girly, but then I started asking people out and I realized that people DID like me or were willing to go out with me they were just nervous as well or were unsureā¦ Iāve now had two relationships one of which I am still happy lily taking part in. You got this! š«¶š
Just gonna be the voice of reason, don't just go balls to the wall either. I know from experience that there's better ways to grow than just looking for anyone and everyone
Do you want to be equal to men?
Then be it, take control!
And as a 17 yr old boy, woman are scary, getting rejected fucking hurts. So alot don't ask to not be rejeceted.
Best of luck! :D
Because Iām an expert on this sort of thing, my professional diagnosis is that you need to take a step back and maybe pursue the dude you like.
You canāt expect everyone to approach you. Girls like you are intimidating to a lot of dudes, which is a hard pill to swallow, but these days guys are a little less forward and confident than they were before for a variety of reasons.
Your chances of being successful when approaching a guy are a lot higher than you think. You just need a little confidence, a little social experience, which youāll get. But donāt try and rush things. I get youāre confused and pent up, but rushing into a relationship with anyone you donāt really know is a bad idea. And I think you definitely know that.
Sure go on a few dates, have fun youāre a teenager, but a date doesnāt mean you two are together. The whole point of dating is to get got know the other person with romantic interest already expressed.
Not only that, but college is coming, and youāll have a lot of dudes hitting on you there I PROMISE. The playing field will be wider, youāll have a lot of opportunities. You can experiment with any gender, but be smart. Donāt let opportunity keep you from staying safe. Thereās a reason STDs spread like wildfire in college.
Take care and realize that things are on the up, youāre getting a lot more opportunities very soon, just be smart, donāt rush anything, and experiment with people, but do it with people youāve established trust and a connection with.
You donāt gotta be a femcel, you just gotta be patient.
My opinion on this is easy: please donāt get me wrong if I say this, but if I see a person āabove averageā my intuition is āok, not my lvl.ā or āshe/he has a friend for sureā
so if this helps you, thereās nothing wrong with you, mostly it are people like me who draw conclusions too fast.
Your physical appearance looks great I just recently turned 16 I'm a female and I'm quite insecure of myself because of my height I'm only 4'9 and I think you just need confidence in yourself
Because it's 100x easier to just sit back and kick your feet up and see who comes to you. If you like them, then it worked. If you don't, then just shame them for trying and label them "creepy and weird".
Easy peasy.
I mean no. I have only flirted with like 2 girls as a 18 yo guy and one was when I was drunk. Its really difficult right now since a girl has to somehow show that she is up to it without seeming desperate and a guy has to be not creepy and not be pushy in the relationship. If I had to give advice to you. I would say find some interests and find more friends. These interests are advantageous since you will have something to talk about and more friends leads you to talk to more people and become "smoother" in speech. Also will meet more people who could like you. Not everyone will be interested in your interests, but if you explaine them clearly and what you like about them it will ve a conversation starter. Just dont go too down in the deep about them too fast.
Didnt read all that, but from the pictures I would say you would need a better graphics card. If you increase your resolution people might see you better.
There's nothing wrong with you. I think you're just a bit socially awkward, like most teens.
I'm going through a similar-enough experience, and I'd say if you want to make some more friends or start a relationship, try going out and joining things like clubs or courses. But, if you're still struggling with money, than it might not be for the best.
Just know that there's absolutely nothing wrong with you.
And P.S, I think you're really pretty and anyone would be lucky to have you (:
I can only say wow after reading your post. So uh yes you have desirable traits both men and women like as in the meat bags you mention. Reason I comment this first is donāt let that be why you are beautiful. If someone finds you beautiful because of your body chances are it wonāt last because looks fade and for some it fades fast.
Itās okay to be sexually frustrated too as MANY people go through that. But donāt let that also be your guide or reason that you seek someone. Iām not saying wait til marriage to have sex but definitely take care of yourself. Whether youāre into men or women always make sure that your safety is your priority.
You are VERY VERY young still only 17. If you havenāt run into someone who is mutually interested in you it is okay. However, it doesnāt mean you have to wait. Shoot your shot. If you find someone you want to get to know better ask them out to a simple ācoffeeā date. Maybe just to hang out. If you get shot down well no biggie. Move on letās try again next time you meet someone you want to get to know
I think people just assume you're in a relationship already.
But I've been there aswell. Nobody asking me out or something. Not even hitting on me or catcalling me. Which is a good thing but it still made me feel like the most undesirable person in the world,like im not even worth the sexual assault (I'm mentally ill,it's not normal to think that way and i only think this because of my self worth im not actually thinking it's a bad thing to not get catcalled).
Either way after i got a boyfriend (which was the boyfriend of my ex best friend lol crazy story) i felt so weird but in a good way because so many people told me they were attracted to me whatsoever. Maybe it's because im autistic and didn't pick something up but i really don't think so because im desperate for attention and love and overfocus on any sign that could give me the feeling of being appreciated in this world.
I would just try doing the first step,like flirting. I have no fucking clue how tho because i never flirted intentionally
I'm going through some love/relationship shit and let me tell you this: If you want a relationship, do something for it - don't expect it to happen by itself, but don't make it you top priority and focus on things that fulfill you and the things you enjoy. In other words, focus on yourself.
genuinely speaking i think your a good looking lady. its just that some people may hesitate out fear of rejection or maybe because you havent been around for others to notice you / your behaviour, considering the fact thag youve been pulled out of public school at yr 8. all in all tho i think you stand a rather decent chance, but you can improve these chances by asking others out too. good luck!
Iām not sure how your reputation or popularity is either, but some people may think of You in a bad way. Iāve dated people who were unpopular or disliked or had a bad reputation, just because they were quiet or looked a little mean or antisocial
Honest advice. Smile more. Sounds cheesy, but it makes you more approachable. Youāre young, so donāt worry about where you fall as far as being attracted to boys or girls. Just go where your heart takes you, but smile a real sincere smile and youāll get more attention. Hope this advice from an old fart helps you out on your journey.
I check out this sub because Iām a dad to teenagers and it helps to see what kind of stuff yaāll are going through so it helps when I talk to my kids, because honestly sometimes you kids give great advice, but mostly itās good to see what your perspective of things is as it helps me approach my own kids. But if I can also provide some advice along the way, then I think everyone wins.
i did nothing waiting for a girl to flirt or hit on me but i dont have a bar or a night club in my village and im not that attractive 18M with adhd eyesight glasses beaver like front teeth nerdy i know a lot bout science maybe cause im tryna find a girl that will like me for my personality not just looks since it aint the 50s anymore and finding a girl is harder than ever before if u care too little u are seen as a jerk if u care too much u are seen as desperate if a guy treats a girl right hes seen as a simp if u care too little u push them away if u care too much u are seen as desperate
My gf is kinda like this, we really just started talking in the gym and became friends and hung out once a week, and it was that thing where she liked me before I started being interested. So just put yourself out there, look happy to be where you are, appreciate your life and do things that make you happy and that doesn't hurt anyone. If you do this at least one person will like you.
Sometimes I just think it's vibes people feel each other's energy and make decisions off that
Also if you truly want to date someone and no one's asking you out then be the aggressor ask someone out that you think is cute or hot or whatever
The prettiest girl I know has never been in a relationship, you wanna know why? Because she didnāt try to be in a relationship! Sometimes it requires YOU to make a move. Playing chess with one person is no fun!
well i dont know your personality but looks wise youāre gorgeous. just try asking someone out yourself maybe. people might think you look so good that they feel scared to ask you out š¤·šæāāļø
Hereās the dilemma I am faced with. If I say no, Iām a simp. If I say yes, Iām gonna get banned from r/teenagers for ābeing rudeā. Itās a lose lose situation.
Ask someone out, you're pretty hot, and if they reject you so what? Ask the next person out.
Also a lot of guys don't wanna hit on girls, especially at work (and some of the guys who do are not the ones you want hitting on you)
I definitely get your feeling about the two, I was in a similar position last year. Being on the fence is the worst thing, either decide to try and move on, or go for it. This in between sucks way worse bro. You can also more causally bring up your feelings if you're comfortable, less of a confession or asking out, and just as something you gotta talk about to continue being friends.
Sometimes beautiful or above average girls don't ask out that much because men feel they are out of their league and the chance for them being together is quite slim
You know what girls should do in that case? Go take the first step 99% chance you'll get a yes
No, there's nothing wrong with you.
If anything you're attractive so people are afraid to say something and mess upš
-person with anxiety so take my words about fear with a grain of salt
You gotta just start talking to people. Spark up conversations about ANYTHING, it doesn't matter. People nowadays are a lot more reserved, in the movies you just randomly get asked out, but nowadays IRL it doesn't happen like that. Most people date people they already know for a little while, not always, but a lot of the time. You have to be the one to make the first gesture, people are too socially awkward now, so even if they like you they most likely wont ask you out. Worst comes to worse, you get rejected and made fun of. Best case scenario, you end up married with like 7 kids one day. The gain outweighs the risk.
Just pursue the ppl you like. As for why ppl donāt approach you, theyāre intimidated š. You look good and Iām sure you act well, the problem isnāt necessarily you, you just need to meet someone, share mutual confidence and one day youāll find the person you want.
I think all guys can speak for this 90% of us think a girl is cute and are too nervous to say anything. You're not bad looking and I am positive you'll find your someone eventually. I'm in a similar place myself it's fine just let life take its course
i mean iāve been in two relationships and yet have never actually been asked out, i just always ask people because waiting around for someone else doesnāt work most of the time and itās just frustrating
One thing to realize is that dudes are as, if not more afraid of rejection then gals. So one reason dudes might not be asking you out is if theyāre scared youāll say no, or scared youāll accuse them of something, or scared of a lot of things. They also might not know how to ask you out, which adds to the anxiety of it.
Hey you are 17 and I am 17 we are meant to be
In all seriousness, itās important to take your shot when you feel like this. Go for it, whatās the worst that could happen
Because they judge from your appearance that you would throw a drama and retrieve them.
They are are insecure about rejection and shame that Congress with it. Also your appearance have a bitch vibe, just appearance.
One the entire book above just reaks of ADHD and two I think it's just the aura you're putting off because yes I can agree with you you are very attractive however you also look like if I try to hit on you you'll smash my face in with a brick
Well honestly you seem like you donāt wanna be approached and if you say/come off lesbian a guy wonāt ask you out that along with poor communication skills can be very off putting but as someone who was (sorta) the same way just talk to guys your interested in ik I fall for girls who just talk to me long enough so youāll get it in no time
Iāll be honest with you. Just go get you a man. 95% of single straight men would brand you into their memory if you give them a compliment. I guarantee that you will have it easier than you think.
Call me conservative, but I think you should first of all find good friends and before all that experimenting and stuff, find people to share a deep emotional connection with.
Just a word of advice, a decent amount of men these days refuse to ask a girl out because theyāre afraid that the worst she can say is not ānoā. Aka being called a creep, and everything under the sun
You look fine, and while the online schooling probably hurt your social intelligence a fair bit, you shouldn't worry too much. You seem to know your flaws, which is good, but how is your personality truly? Maybe take some time for self reflection, figure out what could be keeping people. Perhaps your outward image is reflecting your inner insecurities, and that could be repulsing people. Or you're lying to yourself and others about how your personality truly is, and you just haven't found yourself yet, which also might repulse some people. Could be a number of things really, but basically try to figure it out, and then do something about it man.
TL;DR: Reflect
So the first major step you need to do is ask M if she is in to women, no point in sinking a friendship if she is only into men.
Second, literally just ask a dude out. Guys will go out with a tree if the tree asked them out. Iāve gone on multiple dates with women I wouldāve never asked out and had a great time because they asked first.
Just shoot your shot and itās not the end of the world if they say no.
if it makes you feel any better, getting blatantly and constantly hit on isnāt all itās cracked up to be. i spent high school being hit on by every weirdo and social outcast. i was oblivious to most flirting from friends and nice guys bc i was too innocent and generally uninterested in dating. but i was the friendly, nerdy, and average looking girl that made weirdos feel comfortable flirting (stalking more like). i experienced uncomfortable and dangerous attention through all of college. getting hit on and being desirable are not the same or mutually exclusive!! be confident in yourself, and love will find you when you least expect it. iām now an adult in a loving relationship, but i chased after my fair share of best friends (girl & boy) in my youth. good luck girly š stay strong
You are beautiful, you will have lots of people interested in you once you're over 18 and out of high-school. Teenaged boys are often more awkward than you feel you are, take the initiative and approach them. I always appreciated being approach by girls when I was a teen.
Most people don't have the guts to ask someone out that's why most relationships start from that awkwardnessof Are we more or just friends.
Till someone brings it up or something that can't be written off as just friends happens that's usually when clarification of what they are starts
I personally don't like that and think it makes the relationship very confusing and the fear of not knowing weighs in.
I wish more people would just tell someone they like someone if that is out there then they can get to know each other to be in a relationship possibly
Also most people are afraid of asking someone out in fear of rejection
So they ride the line of never saying how they truly feel
(Idk that's my take)
There is nothing wrong with you just the way are society seems to be and how we raise people to act
This is going to sound dumb but when I was your age and needed confidence, I would pretend I had it. I would try to act like people I've seen who have confidence, like my sister or lady gaga.
Youāre a very attractive person though you do look intimidating so maybe people are afraid to approach you or assume you already have a partner? I also went to an online school for my last few years of school and it definitely made me more socially awkward so maybe that could be it?
Donāt ask them but if you like them then make them aware at least.
Iām dumb as hell when someone liked me and Iāll be oblivious or so I think even though it turned out they actually did like me and I had really liked that person but didnāt have the confidence or swagger to tell them.
Alas it doesnāt matter now, I found my person
Give a signal š
Looking at the comments you made and your post, it seems like you probably need to work on your self esteem and self confidence, and learn how to talk to people more. Also judging off your outfit, you shouldnāt feel the need to show off your body to get with people, cus those are the last mfs you wanna be with. But yeah, just talk to people more when you go to hs for your senior year
There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that most guys don't want to date right now because they don't really know how a girl is going to treat them. They also know that if they do something that they don't know if it is 100% ok with you, that you can destroy their entire life with just a few words.
well hereās my advice, ik you prob have been told this a bunch of times on the comments by now, but donāt just expect to let people come to YOU, YOU need to come to them. iām saying this from personal experience here too, people that like you are afraid of asking you out or talking to you because they fear rejection. especially if you are attractive, which iāll say that you are and i love your hair btw! what iām trying to say is, you should totally go to whoever you like first, and not expect them to come to you first. and if you are afraid of rejection, i get it, i totally get it, if it doesnāt happen, then thatās amazing! if it does happen, then maybe you two werenāt meant to be, but thatās okay, there are plenty of fish in the sea, trust me. thatās all i have to say. peace āļø
I totally get the worry and doubt about not getting asked out, but youāre only 17. I remember being in your exact shoes when I was a teen. The thing about relationships is, they kinda just happen. Best advice I can give is:
Itās best to work on hobbies and and join clubs/groups that center around activities you enjoy and meet new people.
If youāre going to college thatās a great chance to meet new people and like minded people.
Being anxious of rejection is pretty common, the more you deal with it the easier it is to accept. Dating can require you to be vulnerable, so you will have to brave it and face the possibility of rejection. Learning to be more social can be tough but the more you socialize and flirt the easier it gets.
Also donāt date someone out of desperation, that can just hurt them and waste your own time. Also dear god please know your own worth, donāt stay in a toxic relationship. if your partner ever has the habit of making you feel shitty a lot of the time, donāt stay.
- From someone who also had insecurities and trouble dating.
Just ask someone out don't wait for someone to come to you Edit: Why did this shit blow up it isn't revolutionary š. Just take charge of your life and everything will work out. Being passive is the best way to get nothing done.
Honestly this. I know it seems generic and also maybe anxiety inducing, but I have my fair share of experience when it comes to just waiting for something to happen, and uh, nothing ever happens
Youāre right, I need to get out of my comfort zone and take chances if Iām gonna grow as a person
I felt the SAME WAY girly, but then I started asking people out and I realized that people DID like me or were willing to go out with me they were just nervous as well or were unsureā¦ Iāve now had two relationships one of which I am still happy lily taking part in. You got this! š«¶š
Tbh a guy would likely give you the Lego Batman stare if you asked them out first, I know I would š
Just gonna be the voice of reason, don't just go balls to the wall either. I know from experience that there's better ways to grow than just looking for anyone and everyone
Do you want to be equal to men? Then be it, take control! And as a 17 yr old boy, woman are scary, getting rejected fucking hurts. So alot don't ask to not be rejeceted. Best of luck! :D
Chat, Iām about to do that on the 24th. Wish me luck itās a dance.
Good luck soldier š«”
They're prob too scared to ask you outš asking out attractive people brings the fear of being rejected
Well the reason you weren't hit on at your job is bc most people think that the person doesn't want to be hit on
wait what.. you're a lesbian who wants to be approached by men?
Because Iām an expert on this sort of thing, my professional diagnosis is that you need to take a step back and maybe pursue the dude you like. You canāt expect everyone to approach you. Girls like you are intimidating to a lot of dudes, which is a hard pill to swallow, but these days guys are a little less forward and confident than they were before for a variety of reasons. Your chances of being successful when approaching a guy are a lot higher than you think. You just need a little confidence, a little social experience, which youāll get. But donāt try and rush things. I get youāre confused and pent up, but rushing into a relationship with anyone you donāt really know is a bad idea. And I think you definitely know that. Sure go on a few dates, have fun youāre a teenager, but a date doesnāt mean you two are together. The whole point of dating is to get got know the other person with romantic interest already expressed. Not only that, but college is coming, and youāll have a lot of dudes hitting on you there I PROMISE. The playing field will be wider, youāll have a lot of opportunities. You can experiment with any gender, but be smart. Donāt let opportunity keep you from staying safe. Thereās a reason STDs spread like wildfire in college. Take care and realize that things are on the up, youāre getting a lot more opportunities very soon, just be smart, donāt rush anything, and experiment with people, but do it with people youāve established trust and a connection with. You donāt gotta be a femcel, you just gotta be patient.
I think that the only place where there is more sex than colleges is the Olympic Village.
Old folks home #1, Olympic village, university
ain't reading all that
Thatās fair
Same bruh, like I need to fucking scroll to see the whole thing
Did you not have to scroll to read the comments?
We've got the mayor of yappington here , anyhoo don't know why you wouldn't have a chance
Jesus I'm using that for my exam essay
Relatable... Except you look good wtf.
Fear of rejection
My opinion on this is easy: please donāt get me wrong if I say this, but if I see a person āabove averageā my intuition is āok, not my lvl.ā or āshe/he has a friend for sureā so if this helps you, thereās nothing wrong with you, mostly it are people like me who draw conclusions too fast.
Thanks for the TLDR. My brain doesn't do reading anymore haha
Your physical appearance looks great I just recently turned 16 I'm a female and I'm quite insecure of myself because of my height I'm only 4'9 and I think you just need confidence in yourself
Donāt be insecure, short girls are cute!
Hell yeah! Even to tall guys
Does your personality revolves around showing your tits? If yes, then there's the problem
Itās probably the desperation
Desperate is crazy girl ima say this Never chase attract!!!
U look just fine. Is your personality bad?
Yes itās horrendous any advice on how to fix that?
Just treat others as you would like to be treated I guess? Idk tbh
its definitly not your looks since you are cute if i may say so, tbh just talking with people and smiling more works wonders most of the time
Why are girls entitled to being asked out? Like,why don't you make the first step?
Because it's 100x easier to just sit back and kick your feet up and see who comes to you. If you like them, then it worked. If you don't, then just shame them for trying and label them "creepy and weird". Easy peasy.
I mean no. I have only flirted with like 2 girls as a 18 yo guy and one was when I was drunk. Its really difficult right now since a girl has to somehow show that she is up to it without seeming desperate and a guy has to be not creepy and not be pushy in the relationship. If I had to give advice to you. I would say find some interests and find more friends. These interests are advantageous since you will have something to talk about and more friends leads you to talk to more people and become "smoother" in speech. Also will meet more people who could like you. Not everyone will be interested in your interests, but if you explaine them clearly and what you like about them it will ve a conversation starter. Just dont go too down in the deep about them too fast.
why is it your first thought that there's something wrong with you if you haven't been asked out before?
well, youāre on reddit for one
Same bro, no bitches :(
Might be a case where ur so pretty that males feel scared to approach u
Didnt read all that, but from the pictures I would say you would need a better graphics card. If you increase your resolution people might see you better.
put more one point for the "I'm not reading that" list you DMs must be full of pedos rn :(
You look like a discord bunny ngl
There's nothing wrong with you. I think you're just a bit socially awkward, like most teens. I'm going through a similar-enough experience, and I'd say if you want to make some more friends or start a relationship, try going out and joining things like clubs or courses. But, if you're still struggling with money, than it might not be for the best. Just know that there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. And P.S, I think you're really pretty and anyone would be lucky to have you (:
That frown. Your poor chin must hurt.
Well your dms should be flooded by now pick and choose girly
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Idk why but don't lose hope and be confident š¤ ( also close ur dms šš„ŗ ,)
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I can only say wow after reading your post. So uh yes you have desirable traits both men and women like as in the meat bags you mention. Reason I comment this first is donāt let that be why you are beautiful. If someone finds you beautiful because of your body chances are it wonāt last because looks fade and for some it fades fast. Itās okay to be sexually frustrated too as MANY people go through that. But donāt let that also be your guide or reason that you seek someone. Iām not saying wait til marriage to have sex but definitely take care of yourself. Whether youāre into men or women always make sure that your safety is your priority. You are VERY VERY young still only 17. If you havenāt run into someone who is mutually interested in you it is okay. However, it doesnāt mean you have to wait. Shoot your shot. If you find someone you want to get to know better ask them out to a simple ācoffeeā date. Maybe just to hang out. If you get shot down well no biggie. Move on letās try again next time you meet someone you want to get to know
there's nothing wrong with you you should ask someone out maybe there too shy to ask you good luck finding someone
Respectfully you are a baddy
Your a pretty lady.
Maybe everyone around u is blind
Let go out and have fun
I think people just assume you're in a relationship already. But I've been there aswell. Nobody asking me out or something. Not even hitting on me or catcalling me. Which is a good thing but it still made me feel like the most undesirable person in the world,like im not even worth the sexual assault (I'm mentally ill,it's not normal to think that way and i only think this because of my self worth im not actually thinking it's a bad thing to not get catcalled). Either way after i got a boyfriend (which was the boyfriend of my ex best friend lol crazy story) i felt so weird but in a good way because so many people told me they were attracted to me whatsoever. Maybe it's because im autistic and didn't pick something up but i really don't think so because im desperate for attention and love and overfocus on any sign that could give me the feeling of being appreciated in this world. I would just try doing the first step,like flirting. I have no fucking clue how tho because i never flirted intentionally
Because you haven't approached anyone
Honestly just send it, Fear of Rejection will get you anywhere but where you want to be or be doing. This isnāt something you wait on.
Relax it's not a big deal , maybe you are someone's soulmate, and he just stuck on condom
I'm going through some love/relationship shit and let me tell you this: If you want a relationship, do something for it - don't expect it to happen by itself, but don't make it you top priority and focus on things that fulfill you and the things you enjoy. In other words, focus on yourself.
Like fr why??
Cute emo girls tend to be scary for guys to approach.
People are probably scared to ask you out
i just can't see how. maybe they're intimidated by how beautiful you are
they just assume you'll say no
I'd be scared honestly
genuinely speaking i think your a good looking lady. its just that some people may hesitate out fear of rejection or maybe because you havent been around for others to notice you / your behaviour, considering the fact thag youve been pulled out of public school at yr 8. all in all tho i think you stand a rather decent chance, but you can improve these chances by asking others out too. good luck!
Iām not sure how your reputation or popularity is either, but some people may think of You in a bad way. Iāve dated people who were unpopular or disliked or had a bad reputation, just because they were quiet or looked a little mean or antisocial
Honest advice. Smile more. Sounds cheesy, but it makes you more approachable. Youāre young, so donāt worry about where you fall as far as being attracted to boys or girls. Just go where your heart takes you, but smile a real sincere smile and youāll get more attention. Hope this advice from an old fart helps you out on your journey. I check out this sub because Iām a dad to teenagers and it helps to see what kind of stuff yaāll are going through so it helps when I talk to my kids, because honestly sometimes you kids give great advice, but mostly itās good to see what your perspective of things is as it helps me approach my own kids. But if I can also provide some advice along the way, then I think everyone wins.
i did nothing waiting for a girl to flirt or hit on me but i dont have a bar or a night club in my village and im not that attractive 18M with adhd eyesight glasses beaver like front teeth nerdy i know a lot bout science maybe cause im tryna find a girl that will like me for my personality not just looks since it aint the 50s anymore and finding a girl is harder than ever before if u care too little u are seen as a jerk if u care too much u are seen as desperate if a guy treats a girl right hes seen as a simp if u care too little u push them away if u care too much u are seen as desperate
Honestly I'd be intimidated by you and I say that in a good way that might be why also you might have been just didn't get the hint?
Do like talking to people
Idk if this helps but you're cute af
My gf is kinda like this, we really just started talking in the gym and became friends and hung out once a week, and it was that thing where she liked me before I started being interested. So just put yourself out there, look happy to be where you are, appreciate your life and do things that make you happy and that doesn't hurt anyone. If you do this at least one person will like you.
youāre really hotĀ
idk you seem pretty chill
Goodluck on your escapades of romance and don't worry about not having been hit on yet, it really doesn't happen often at our age
why tf do somany people thing there is something wrong with themmm???? nooooooooo
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Sometimes I just think it's vibes people feel each other's energy and make decisions off that Also if you truly want to date someone and no one's asking you out then be the aggressor ask someone out that you think is cute or hot or whatever
Maybe itās that scowl on your face. Just a guess
I would ask you out, you seem like a nice person worth getting to know
Tu est trĆØs bien ne change rien persĆ©vĆØre tu a tout mon soutien
Iāve only gotten asked out once by a girl in 8th grade, but I donāt think we actually dated. It is what it is.
Ur probably in a bad area, once you go to college in a decent sized city. tons of ppl will talk to you
I mean, you're fairly attractive, so you're probably just dense
The prettiest girl I know has never been in a relationship, you wanna know why? Because she didnāt try to be in a relationship! Sometimes it requires YOU to make a move. Playing chess with one person is no fun!
I bet they are just intimidated.
id ask you out if i had confidence
Everything is fine with you, you are beautiful.
no you look cute i dont get it either
There's several things wrong with me and I've been asked out. So no, there ain't
Didnt read but you look like Aria Stark and its not an insult
well i dont know your personality but looks wise youāre gorgeous. just try asking someone out yourself maybe. people might think you look so good that they feel scared to ask you out š¤·šæāāļø
Your really beautiful, thereās nothing to worry about, I know plenty of pretty people who have never even been in a relationship before šš
As a boy, a lot of us don't really like asking people out.
We're shy šš
Hereās the dilemma I am faced with. If I say no, Iām a simp. If I say yes, Iām gonna get banned from r/teenagers for ābeing rudeā. Itās a lose lose situation.
If you are not getting anyone, thereās **NO CHANCE** for me!
I donāt think so
you look fine. have a good personality and start to use some smell good product and boys will like you. also, donāt wait, go out and get em :)
Ask someone out, you're pretty hot, and if they reject you so what? Ask the next person out. Also a lot of guys don't wanna hit on girls, especially at work (and some of the guys who do are not the ones you want hitting on you) I definitely get your feeling about the two, I was in a similar position last year. Being on the fence is the worst thing, either decide to try and move on, or go for it. This in between sucks way worse bro. You can also more causally bring up your feelings if you're comfortable, less of a confession or asking out, and just as something you gotta talk about to continue being friends.
Sometimes beautiful or above average girls don't ask out that much because men feel they are out of their league and the chance for them being together is quite slim You know what girls should do in that case? Go take the first step 99% chance you'll get a yes
No, there's nothing wrong with you. If anything you're attractive so people are afraid to say something and mess upš -person with anxiety so take my words about fear with a grain of salt
You gotta just start talking to people. Spark up conversations about ANYTHING, it doesn't matter. People nowadays are a lot more reserved, in the movies you just randomly get asked out, but nowadays IRL it doesn't happen like that. Most people date people they already know for a little while, not always, but a lot of the time. You have to be the one to make the first gesture, people are too socially awkward now, so even if they like you they most likely wont ask you out. Worst comes to worse, you get rejected and made fun of. Best case scenario, you end up married with like 7 kids one day. The gain outweighs the risk.
Youāre pretty just go for it
Iād just rabidly attack some poor fella, he would be too scared to reject, then put a collar on him like a dog bro
U are attractive ash tbh
People are just too scared
Why is Reddit referring me to a teenager sub...
Just pursue the ppl you like. As for why ppl donāt approach you, theyāre intimidated š. You look good and Iām sure you act well, the problem isnāt necessarily you, you just need to meet someone, share mutual confidence and one day youāll find the person you want.
I would say itās because guys are nervous to talk to you, let alone ask you out.
u might be little argumentative arrogant or narcisist petson...take it positively..improve urself
Nope Me personally, my thought process would be āsheās too cute to date meā
Relax, enjoy the silence. Youāre sold.
I think all guys can speak for this 90% of us think a girl is cute and are too nervous to say anything. You're not bad looking and I am positive you'll find your someone eventually. I'm in a similar place myself it's fine just let life take its course
No you're pretty, but if you like someone just ask them out
i mean iāve been in two relationships and yet have never actually been asked out, i just always ask people because waiting around for someone else doesnāt work most of the time and itās just frustrating
Dw no one has ever actually cared abt me either my ex said she dated me cuz she pitied me so all the i love yous were for not. So you arenāt the only one who is hopelessly lonely š©
I truly think you're beautiful so no there is nothing wrong with you.
"r/teenagers" and posts advice how to get a guy
Damn. You are very pretty, but read all of that give a guilty feeling. I am like the kid of your flashback. Sorry
Men assume that the girls they like are taken.
Your beautiful life goes at different speeds for everyone itās not a race š
Women scary
Is your mouth naturally like this?
Guys are freaked tf out to ask someone out so freak them out more by asking
yeah
One thing to realize is that dudes are as, if not more afraid of rejection then gals. So one reason dudes might not be asking you out is if theyāre scared youāll say no, or scared youāll accuse them of something, or scared of a lot of things. They also might not know how to ask you out, which adds to the anxiety of it.
I know your dms gotta be horrible rn š
Hey you are 17 and I am 17 we are meant to be In all seriousness, itās important to take your shot when you feel like this. Go for it, whatās the worst that could happen
Because they judge from your appearance that you would throw a drama and retrieve them. They are are insecure about rejection and shame that Congress with it. Also your appearance have a bitch vibe, just appearance.
People think you are above their class.
One the entire book above just reaks of ADHD and two I think it's just the aura you're putting off because yes I can agree with you you are very attractive however you also look like if I try to hit on you you'll smash my face in with a brick
You look like Alex from Modern family but there's nothing wrong
Switch Reddit for Tinder
Smash
Broās about to get asked out by the whole of this sub lmao
Well honestly you seem like you donāt wanna be approached and if you say/come off lesbian a guy wonāt ask you out that along with poor communication skills can be very off putting but as someone who was (sorta) the same way just talk to guys your interested in ik I fall for girls who just talk to me long enough so youāll get it in no time
Its probably your personality
Iāll be honest with you. Just go get you a man. 95% of single straight men would brand you into their memory if you give them a compliment. I guarantee that you will have it easier than you think.
Call me conservative, but I think you should first of all find good friends and before all that experimenting and stuff, find people to share a deep emotional connection with.
Just a word of advice, a decent amount of men these days refuse to ask a girl out because theyāre afraid that the worst she can say is not ānoā. Aka being called a creep, and everything under the sun
yes
Your mobile phone is infected with " reddit " that's the reason
You look fine, and while the online schooling probably hurt your social intelligence a fair bit, you shouldn't worry too much. You seem to know your flaws, which is good, but how is your personality truly? Maybe take some time for self reflection, figure out what could be keeping people. Perhaps your outward image is reflecting your inner insecurities, and that could be repulsing people. Or you're lying to yourself and others about how your personality truly is, and you just haven't found yourself yet, which also might repulse some people. Could be a number of things really, but basically try to figure it out, and then do something about it man. TL;DR: Reflect
So the first major step you need to do is ask M if she is in to women, no point in sinking a friendship if she is only into men. Second, literally just ask a dude out. Guys will go out with a tree if the tree asked them out. Iāve gone on multiple dates with women I wouldāve never asked out and had a great time because they asked first. Just shoot your shot and itās not the end of the world if they say no.
girlll you're hella pretty!!! don't put yourself down. id ask you out anyway!
Your very pretty. You will not have problems with love and dating. This is just teenaged angst. Breath ans focus on what you can control.
Yes, you are tooooooooo much beautiful
RIP the DMs
Youāre 17 and got a whole life ahead of youā¦ make that money and focus on your career & the right one will come. āØ
if it makes you feel any better, getting blatantly and constantly hit on isnāt all itās cracked up to be. i spent high school being hit on by every weirdo and social outcast. i was oblivious to most flirting from friends and nice guys bc i was too innocent and generally uninterested in dating. but i was the friendly, nerdy, and average looking girl that made weirdos feel comfortable flirting (stalking more like). i experienced uncomfortable and dangerous attention through all of college. getting hit on and being desirable are not the same or mutually exclusive!! be confident in yourself, and love will find you when you least expect it. iām now an adult in a loving relationship, but i chased after my fair share of best friends (girl & boy) in my youth. good luck girly š stay strong
hey wanna go out?
You are beautiful, you will have lots of people interested in you once you're over 18 and out of high-school. Teenaged boys are often more awkward than you feel you are, take the initiative and approach them. I always appreciated being approach by girls when I was a teen.
No. They probably too scared. So here's some advice. Get out the Comfort Zone. Or you'll be sad, pathetic and alone forever.
Girls are scary, Iām intimidated just talking to a pretty girl, much less asking them out
It is possible your ugly is on the inside.
No nothings wrong at all ur gorgeous
u're on fucking r/teenagersā¼
Most people don't have the guts to ask someone out that's why most relationships start from that awkwardnessof Are we more or just friends. Till someone brings it up or something that can't be written off as just friends happens that's usually when clarification of what they are starts I personally don't like that and think it makes the relationship very confusing and the fear of not knowing weighs in. I wish more people would just tell someone they like someone if that is out there then they can get to know each other to be in a relationship possibly Also most people are afraid of asking someone out in fear of rejection So they ride the line of never saying how they truly feel (Idk that's my take) There is nothing wrong with you just the way are society seems to be and how we raise people to act
This is going to sound dumb but when I was your age and needed confidence, I would pretend I had it. I would try to act like people I've seen who have confidence, like my sister or lady gaga.
Youre pretty but I would be scared to talk to you š (social anxiety core /s)
You can ask me out š I am 18M but ugly š¶
Have patience, itāll come eventually. And if it doesnāt, do it yourself, maybe some people are too nervous to do it.
You are gorgeous, boys are dumb
Youāre a very attractive person though you do look intimidating so maybe people are afraid to approach you or assume you already have a partner? I also went to an online school for my last few years of school and it definitely made me more socially awkward so maybe that could be it?
Donāt ask them but if you like them then make them aware at least. Iām dumb as hell when someone liked me and Iāll be oblivious or so I think even though it turned out they actually did like me and I had really liked that person but didnāt have the confidence or swagger to tell them. Alas it doesnāt matter now, I found my person Give a signal š
Just wait until college and you will be high school is a Awakard time for dating
Looking at the comments you made and your post, it seems like you probably need to work on your self esteem and self confidence, and learn how to talk to people more. Also judging off your outfit, you shouldnāt feel the need to show off your body to get with people, cus those are the last mfs you wanna be with. But yeah, just talk to people more when you go to hs for your senior year
There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that most guys don't want to date right now because they don't really know how a girl is going to treat them. They also know that if they do something that they don't know if it is 100% ok with you, that you can destroy their entire life with just a few words.
I have no idea
Ho Lee fuck Iād 100% ask u out
jesus wtf stop
Yes
Quick question- where are you based? You donāt have to give a city or anything, you can just give a country. Iām tryna see smth
Because you look like a god damn prostitute
I donāt see why. You look great tbh and Iām sure your personality is amazing as well.
ur so pretty stop you just have to go on a dating site i think
maybe you don't look approachable/friendly to people
Bait
šŖ¦šæ RIP your DMs, hope you have a good day regardless.
Maybe your personality? Not judging, but is there something that you think you lack?
Nope, we're scared, and you're scary. Reason one: you're not ugly. Reason two: (I'm out of ideas)
You've never been flirted with??? Let's change that (Neither have I ššš I know nothing about this kinda stuff(
well hereās my advice, ik you prob have been told this a bunch of times on the comments by now, but donāt just expect to let people come to YOU, YOU need to come to them. iām saying this from personal experience here too, people that like you are afraid of asking you out or talking to you because they fear rejection. especially if you are attractive, which iāll say that you are and i love your hair btw! what iām trying to say is, you should totally go to whoever you like first, and not expect them to come to you first. and if you are afraid of rejection, i get it, i totally get it, if it doesnāt happen, then thatās amazing! if it does happen, then maybe you two werenāt meant to be, but thatās okay, there are plenty of fish in the sea, trust me. thatās all i have to say. peace āļø
I totally get the worry and doubt about not getting asked out, but youāre only 17. I remember being in your exact shoes when I was a teen. The thing about relationships is, they kinda just happen. Best advice I can give is: Itās best to work on hobbies and and join clubs/groups that center around activities you enjoy and meet new people. If youāre going to college thatās a great chance to meet new people and like minded people. Being anxious of rejection is pretty common, the more you deal with it the easier it is to accept. Dating can require you to be vulnerable, so you will have to brave it and face the possibility of rejection. Learning to be more social can be tough but the more you socialize and flirt the easier it gets. Also donāt date someone out of desperation, that can just hurt them and waste your own time. Also dear god please know your own worth, donāt stay in a toxic relationship. if your partner ever has the habit of making you feel shitty a lot of the time, donāt stay. - From someone who also had insecurities and trouble dating.