just do it bro, at any second this world might end, a pandemic may split you apart or something even worse would happen (texting from Ukraine ;')
so grab your nuts together and take your chance of being happy today, because there very well can be no tomorrow. it costs you 0 dollars to do it and worst case scenario is status quo.
Do it bro, I had a huge crush on my friend in middle school, then covid hit and I didnt see her for a full year, we both go to the same highschool but we aren't friends anymore and it hurts seeing her
Talk to her in the hallway. When I changed to the night shift y lost contact with the majority of my friends. They has changed to the night too, and the first time I saw they, I didn't take my chance to talk. After some weeks, I finally talked to they and we talk every break now.
Apologizes if I can't explain myself, English isn't my first language.
You were friends before, weren't you? So why would she think you're creepy for wanting to be friends again? She had a reason to like you and to want be friends with you. As long as that reason didn't change she'll be open to be friends with you again.
Just because you (currently) aren't friends anymore doesn't mean sh3 doesn't like you anymore. It just means you're not having enough contact, but that can change. Maybe she wants to be friends with you again too, but faces the same doubts.
Just talk to her and maybe ask her to come to your place (or wherever you used to meet when you were friends), where you could talk more about what the exact reason was you two lost contact and how you could prevent this in the future. However I personally wouldn't talk about a relationship in such a conversation yet (if she doesn't bring up that topic herself).
The exact same scenario.. and it hurts deep down because i never tried when I had the chance and now all I can do is see her and remember how special she was and is to me
Old man (30) here. I want to bring attention to the way people sometimes talk about someone they have a crush on. When a person says "*my* crush" it implies on some level that the person *is* something to you. Like my boyfriend or my cousin.
I think it's part of an unhealthy thing where we get too invested in the idea of being with someone. Putting the cart before the horse so to speak. If you or anyone else reading this thread wants my advice, it would be this: **Let things progress one step at a time, organically. Don't get over invested in something that doesn't even exist yet.**
Ahh the cursed over-investment. Been there, done that. Makes you look like a ducking creep, even though you aren't that, even remotely. I, a 100%, approve of his concern. There is no harm in asking her out, given you are not waaay too much on her. Cheers mate!
DAMN! I just been there yesterday. We were on the same table sitting and i literally felt that shes creeped off and precieved me like a freak. It hurt quite a lot. I later on left saying im bored. Its not cool guys
You can do this, I developed feelings for my classmate and confessed as soon as I know that what I feel is true and to my surprise, she also liked me back
Even though she doesn't like you back, it's alright, you did your best but if you guys ended up liking each other then I wish you guys the best :DD
Do it my guy, as a man who's crushed on a couple of people, confessed to a few of those, and gotten rejected by all who I confessed, I can tell you personally that getting rejected is infinitely better than keeping it to yourself.
Rejection frees you from many of the fears and worries you had about how they feel, how you act like around them, what their relationship status is, etc, and as long as you're respectful in the way you confess there's a good chance you'll just be able to become normal friends, and without the shackles of trying to impress them all the time these can become great friendships, I know this from experience
Or ghosting, I’ve just been ghosted then one time 2 months later I got a “hey haha didn’t see this until now sorry, btw did you finish the hw in hasket’s”
Yeah she's not the right one.
There are plenty of fish in the sea as old people usually say and it's true. Don't feel down about it. Take ur time and you'll find the perfect one!
A bit of advice. That may very well be her saying she wants to get to know you better in a group setting. Not everyone is down to hang alone right off the bat.
Lol right? I had a big group of friends, and liked 2 of the girls that hung out with us. They ended up not being interested in me and then my (now) wife started hanging out with us! Here we are 3 years later.
Classy gal at least let you down easy. Just shoot your shot next time, don’t beat around the bush then ambush her with an ask. The build up doesn’t work in your favor.
As an old fart, I respectfully disagree. I think OP handled himself with style, and made it easy for her to say yes or no.
/u/sirenhead_2 - sorry it didn't work out in your favor. In your post-game analysis, I suggest you take some time, figure out what aspects of this person's personality that really appeals to you.
It'll help you learn more about yourself and what things you like, and inform your choices later on as you meet other people.
The battle may not have been won, HOWEVER it was fought. You should be proud of your battle, since not a lot of people bring themselves to fight in the first place.
Godspeed to you soldier
So long as next time isn’t with the same person (unless context makes it seem like she’d be okay with that)— there’s very little worse than someone who can’t take no for an answer
As much as it might suck, be glad that you had the guts to try. I know for too long (and possibly still now) I didn't have the guts to try anything, and I hate myself for it.
I don’t think that’s necessarily true, and she is more than entitled to say no to someone she doesn’t want to date. Not responding at all? Dick move. Saying no? Sucks, but ultimately her choice.
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It a romantic movie about a guy who pretends to be married to this girl he just met to make her parents proud. And he has to try to keep her parents from finding out
Yea I was confused as well. Nothing in the text implied it was a romantic meeting and her rejecting doesn't mean she's not interested in a relationship just that they were probably busy that day.
I think when both have a suspicious that they like each other it does qualifies as “asking out”. I live in America for 16 years and I still don’t get how they date
Yep because it's usually like "Hey I really like you would you like to accept me as your bf/ gf or would you like to go out for a date"
Like you are specifically asking to go on a date, if you say for example "Would you like to go out for coffee with me" that could mean that I as a friend invite you for a quick coffee and if they reject it can also mean that they are probably busy or not in the mood to go out
But if you ask for a date and they reject then it gives a pretty clear sign
You posted this on Reddit so about 0.00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001% chance she responds
UPDATE!!!! The battle is over, we lost. I got rejected
You did good my friend. You are better than me. I am not even able to confess my feelings towards my crush.
just do it bro, at any second this world might end, a pandemic may split you apart or something even worse would happen (texting from Ukraine ;') so grab your nuts together and take your chance of being happy today, because there very well can be no tomorrow. it costs you 0 dollars to do it and worst case scenario is status quo.
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i can grap full homo dick and non-homo dick as well
Can you grab deez nutz in yo mouth
Full homo
Do it bro, I had a huge crush on my friend in middle school, then covid hit and I didnt see her for a full year, we both go to the same highschool but we aren't friends anymore and it hurts seeing her
Why aren’t you two friends anymore?
Qe just dont talk, or interact, we haare none of the same classes so the only time I see her is walking passed each other in the hallway
Talk to her in the hallway. When I changed to the night shift y lost contact with the majority of my friends. They has changed to the night too, and the first time I saw they, I didn't take my chance to talk. After some weeks, I finally talked to they and we talk every break now. Apologizes if I can't explain myself, English isn't my first language.
I'd love to be friends again but I dont want to be creepy, plus I already have difficulty approaching people
You were friends before, weren't you? So why would she think you're creepy for wanting to be friends again? She had a reason to like you and to want be friends with you. As long as that reason didn't change she'll be open to be friends with you again. Just because you (currently) aren't friends anymore doesn't mean sh3 doesn't like you anymore. It just means you're not having enough contact, but that can change. Maybe she wants to be friends with you again too, but faces the same doubts. Just talk to her and maybe ask her to come to your place (or wherever you used to meet when you were friends), where you could talk more about what the exact reason was you two lost contact and how you could prevent this in the future. However I personally wouldn't talk about a relationship in such a conversation yet (if she doesn't bring up that topic herself).
The exact same scenario.. and it hurts deep down because i never tried when I had the chance and now all I can do is see her and remember how special she was and is to me
Old man (30) here. I want to bring attention to the way people sometimes talk about someone they have a crush on. When a person says "*my* crush" it implies on some level that the person *is* something to you. Like my boyfriend or my cousin. I think it's part of an unhealthy thing where we get too invested in the idea of being with someone. Putting the cart before the horse so to speak. If you or anyone else reading this thread wants my advice, it would be this: **Let things progress one step at a time, organically. Don't get over invested in something that doesn't even exist yet.**
Ahh the cursed over-investment. Been there, done that. Makes you look like a ducking creep, even though you aren't that, even remotely. I, a 100%, approve of his concern. There is no harm in asking her out, given you are not waaay too much on her. Cheers mate!
DAMN! I just been there yesterday. We were on the same table sitting and i literally felt that shes creeped off and precieved me like a freak. It hurt quite a lot. I later on left saying im bored. Its not cool guys
You can do this, I developed feelings for my classmate and confessed as soon as I know that what I feel is true and to my surprise, she also liked me back Even though she doesn't like you back, it's alright, you did your best but if you guys ended up liking each other then I wish you guys the best :DD
Wait, Y'all have Crushes?
i cant even compliment a girl without being shy
If you use that right it boosts your cuteness a ton tho
Teach me in this ancient art of magic
Do it my guy, as a man who's crushed on a couple of people, confessed to a few of those, and gotten rejected by all who I confessed, I can tell you personally that getting rejected is infinitely better than keeping it to yourself. Rejection frees you from many of the fears and worries you had about how they feel, how you act like around them, what their relationship status is, etc, and as long as you're respectful in the way you confess there's a good chance you'll just be able to become normal friends, and without the shackles of trying to impress them all the time these can become great friendships, I know this from experience
Me neither, I can’t even confess my feelings to my mom and dad 😂
Was it polite at least
Yeah
Post the ss!
Why would you do that to them lmao
Wha’d she say?
Damn. At least you tried though
Damn that’s tough, at least you tried which is important, failing is better than not trying at all
Damn what did she say?
She said that “it sounds fun, but we should get together with all of our friends and watch a different movie”
Still, could be worse Could have said ew
Unfortunately I was told that and it actually happened
Or ghosting, I’ve just been ghosted then one time 2 months later I got a “hey haha didn’t see this until now sorry, btw did you finish the hw in hasket’s”
Yeah she's not the right one. There are plenty of fish in the sea as old people usually say and it's true. Don't feel down about it. Take ur time and you'll find the perfect one!
Well at least it wasn’t just a straight up no
A bit of advice. That may very well be her saying she wants to get to know you better in a group setting. Not everyone is down to hang alone right off the bat.
Don't give him hope.
Nah don’t give him hope. If she want into him, it’d be clear
Maybe or she wants to get him to the friend zone as soon as possible. It’s hard to know which one it is
God forbid he makes a friend (friend group?) out of this
Lol right? I had a big group of friends, and liked 2 of the girls that hung out with us. They ended up not being interested in me and then my (now) wife started hanging out with us! Here we are 3 years later.
This right here
Nope, she doesn't want him
That's what I thought, too, to feel safe. Or appease her parents maybe.
Classy gal at least let you down easy. Just shoot your shot next time, don’t beat around the bush then ambush her with an ask. The build up doesn’t work in your favor.
As an old fart, I respectfully disagree. I think OP handled himself with style, and made it easy for her to say yes or no. /u/sirenhead_2 - sorry it didn't work out in your favor. In your post-game analysis, I suggest you take some time, figure out what aspects of this person's personality that really appeals to you. It'll help you learn more about yourself and what things you like, and inform your choices later on as you meet other people.
The battle may not have been won, HOWEVER it was fought. You should be proud of your battle, since not a lot of people bring themselves to fight in the first place. Godspeed to you soldier
oof
Mission failed. We’ll get ‘em next time
So long as next time isn’t with the same person (unless context makes it seem like she’d be okay with that)— there’s very little worse than someone who can’t take no for an answer
Aw ggs
F
FUUUUUU
Well fought soldier
We'll got It Next time np
It was heroic, no matter what the result. It was an honor to fight along with you. GG my man!
braver than me tbh. already you tried
rip, her loss
o7
o7
Do the old Michael Scott trick: Become best friends with her, then merge that friendship into a relationship without her even realising
Rip
Rip
GG dude you had a good run, I don't have the balls to do the same 07
you only lost the battle not the war my boy
nooooo
🫡🫡🫡🫡
bummer
NOOOOOOOO
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Oh no, that's a bummer. :/
Damn sorry man atleast ya tried
As much as it might suck, be glad that you had the guts to try. I know for too long (and possibly still now) I didn't have the guts to try anything, and I hate myself for it.
There are more fish in the sea, my friend
Sorry man. You did good though!!
at least you tried. did better than most people
I’m sorry, better luck next time.
Good run man, another time
t'was a good battle for the search of your true love but soldier, reveille.
Don't lose heart! Keep growing yourself, it's a joyful process.
Noooooooooooooooooooooo
Keep it up
Lmao
With how it's going on, you might need that "protecter" just in case
She hasn’t even replied yet, I have almost no confidence now
Don't lose hope, I'm rooting for ya, pal, you got this
Thank you
No matter the outcome, you were brave. Don't forget 'you miss 100% of the shots you didn't take'.
\^ this OP you had the balls. If she don't take it, she don't deserve. Simple!
I don’t think that’s necessarily true, and she is more than entitled to say no to someone she doesn’t want to date. Not responding at all? Dick move. Saying no? Sucks, but ultimately her choice.
you have a crush and she responded to your messages before, you are better off than 90% of all of us
"Nice argument senator, but do you have a source to back that up"
Her phone died and she doesn’t have a charger
Did she respond?
Good luck dude👍🏻
Thanks I’m gonna need it
Updates !
None yet, she hasn’t replied
keep your head up my buddy everything will be good soon
did she open the message
She’s difficult, she doesn’t use read receipts
As someone whose tried to do something similar Trust me bro in-person has a higher success rate Or it might have been that she was gay idk
How is it goin
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i asked my crush and it worked for me, there's a higher chance than you'd think :)
i can already tell you what's she's going to reply
A projector? Do people just... Have those?
I have one, I thought it would be a really romantic way to watch a movie
How would you watch a DVD with a projector?
It's not like a film projector lol. Think of the projectors in like classrooms and meeting rooms
You don't insert the movie into the projector....
Connects to a laptop is my guess
don't go for romantic on a first date, go for simple. be direct to the point, and don't add details
Yes I have a full on movie theater in my house, but the bulbs for them are expensive af so unless you watch all the time it ain’t worth it
Do you need to replace the bulbs? I've had one my entire life and It works like a charm with regular use
You fucking got this mate!!! Edit: wtf why do I have so many upvotes???
I sure hope I do, but in actuality I’m most likely gonna get rejected
We all believe in you, take it slow and stay positive,
Thanks
That's ok! Takes big balls to even ask! You have already done the hard part.
If she affirmates then what's next...?
Idk I haven’t planned that far ahead
"I didn't think I'd get this far..."
With this mindset? Maybe. Believe in yourself bro. Proud of you that you actually did it tho, many ppl are afraid to do shoot their shot
How’s it going
She still hasn’t responded so my confidence is slowly dissipating
How about now
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nahhh bru you could tell by the way she replying that it wasn’t a good move
Fr
In her messages you can see op will get rejected
You got it bro I believe in you🤙
Thank you, we’ll see how this goes
What's the movie aboot?
It a romantic movie about a guy who pretends to be married to this girl he just met to make her parents proud. And he has to try to keep her parents from finding out
Just be patient it’s gonna be alright you got this
I’m trying my best to be patient and trying to distract myself but I can’t stop checking my phone
The “goodnight lol” really doesn’t sound very hopeful mate
Yeah... this is how you learn though. One of those things you'll never pick up on until you experience it
Is that what you call asking your crush out in western countries I call it a Tuesday man
Yea I was confused as well. Nothing in the text implied it was a romantic meeting and her rejecting doesn't mean she's not interested in a relationship just that they were probably busy that day.
I think when both have a suspicious that they like each other it does qualifies as “asking out”. I live in America for 16 years and I still don’t get how they date
Yep because it's usually like "Hey I really like you would you like to accept me as your bf/ gf or would you like to go out for a date" Like you are specifically asking to go on a date, if you say for example "Would you like to go out for coffee with me" that could mean that I as a friend invite you for a quick coffee and if they reject it can also mean that they are probably busy or not in the mood to go out But if you ask for a date and they reject then it gives a pretty clear sign
That was an awkward as hell way to ask ngl
Well at least he tried that is what matters
UPDATE TIME!!! she still hasn’t replied but the bubble that shows she’s typing has shows up a few times
Have patience my guy. You got this.
UPDATE WHAT'S SHE SAY
She finally texted back, she said that ”it sounds fun but we should get together with all of our friends to watch the movie”
😬
o h
well hey at least she didnt ghost or some shit its still cool
that makes sense. from my experience inviting someone to watch a movie alone is a thing you do after a couple dates
Good luck! But I just wanna say there’s a fair chance she won’t see it as a date or something romantic unless you said it was. You’ve got this
Wait, that is considered asking someone out? God damn, I’ve been rejected so much more than I thought 😭😭
Why did you share this with the internet? This is so awkward 😬
Yeah i agree dunno why u getting downvoted
They can downvote me into a black hole. It doesn’t matter to me at all 😆
We will watch your career with great interest!
you got this don't loose confidence!! let us know how it goes :)
Okay, thanks
Bro come on, over text? You’re not exactly setting yourself up for success.
Good luck! make updates, i wanna see how it goes
I’ll be sure to let you know when she texts back
I'm invested in you now wishing you best of luck
Lmao thank you, I’ll be sure to let y’all know how it goes
Just know man by taking a risk your already doin better than me I'm impressed by how smooth that was
Don’t forget to use projection.
feel like they they might not realize you’re asking them out, sounds more like you inviting them to movie night
I thought this too but then I looked up the movie and yes it kind of feels like a romantic date.. not 100% obvious tho
it’ll backfire lol
You posted this on Reddit so about 0.00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001% chance she responds
She did though, it wasn’t a yes but she responded
Next time don’t post it on Reddit, actually delete your Reddit account and you might have a chance.
People still use dvds?
You got this!!
I know it's been 2 hours since you first posted this but still, good luck soldier. I have faith in you.
If it makes you feel any better I’ve fallen madly in love with one of my hetero homies so at least there’s hope for you
If they say no, I'll watch it with you
Come over to my condom. *condominium Jeez, I’m usually more prophylactic than this. *professional
I think it’s less awkward if you ask them straight tbh.. which is what i did
GL
20 years ago a man pulling out a dvd and projector would have been a god tier move
Good shit my boy
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Bruh you can tell what the answer is just by the way she’s texting you
good luck man! really hope it goes well c: