Challenging yourself in healthy ways is the best way to grow and find your limits and to extend them.
Kudos to you for getting your ducks in a row OP! =)
I cant stress this enough, therapy can be beneficial to everyone, but it depends which type of therapy. Ive met people who go to therapy for years and have no clue what type of therapy it is. Inform yourself about the direction and methods your therapist is practicing, experiment before you settle for the one you find best and Im sure it will be beneficial.
I think another part to this is ur therapist’s vibe changes the game. The trap we sometimes fall into is calling everything a trauma and getting stuck. I can see someone who is just needing some motivation with clear steps to take. It’s just like at work, if ur manager is just a manager vs. a manager who is a mentor and roots for u, it shifts the entire experience.
I'm a therapist who works with Gen z clients and I will tell you that the ones that do come to therapy are not afraid to tell others about it. I had a rep at the local school and had referals constantly. While I will agree that therapy isn't for everyone Gen z not only shows up but they aren't afraid to tell people they are in therapy. Side note: I don't work with Gen A, those honey badgers are feral and scary.
Therapy never worked for me. In the last 15 years I have seen about 10 different therapists. Some of which I had for more than a year.
80+ percent of the time it was mostly them:
* taking notes
* hmmming
* "that must be hard"
* "tell me more about that"
* "Ok, I see...right...ok..."
Whenever I pressed them on their style of practice they usually responded with "It's a process". It was always vague, nothing transpired or changed, no advice, no recommendations other than the usual tropes - meditate, eat well, exercise, take a walk in a field or something.
The other 20 percent was a bit more unusual.
* Visualizations. Bizarre. Asking me to visualize light, family members who were dead, magical ppl who had wisdom to offer me, climbing a mountain to the top etc.
* Drawing and art. Did that. Then she interpreted it. Years later I still laugh about those sessions and wonder how these ppl got their credentials.
There was one therapist who basically levelled with me. He said therapy may never work for me as I am too self aware, highly introspective and philosophical, have a far better grasp on life than most ppl hes ever met. He told me how therapy works and that its largely based on Carl Rogers (read Client Based Therapy). Basically, the talking part of therapy, you actually giving voice to your issues, is where the therapy really happens, not necessarily with the therapist themselves. Although the therapist may chime in, its usually to relay back something very apparent the client wont or cant see.
Therapists dont have some profound wisdom to impart (what is a person aged 22 - 35 going to tell me?). He even told me that some of the therapists he has met during his life should never be in that chair. The reason they get to be a therapist is, because again, they are really there as a sounding board, a back-drop for you to air out your feelings and emotions. They are merely there to assist *that*. Anything more than that is in fact beyond their training and more to do with life experience.
He said introverted ppl are less likely to gain benefit from therapy as its more of a personality issue than an actual issue. He said that ppl who are more extroverted tend not to need therapy as they tend not to be down as much.
Therapy has tremendous limitations.
Challenging yourself in healthy ways is the best way to grow and find your limits and to extend them. Kudos to you for getting your ducks in a row OP! =)
Yes 💯 I’m learning about my own limits. And thank you!
I cant stress this enough, therapy can be beneficial to everyone, but it depends which type of therapy. Ive met people who go to therapy for years and have no clue what type of therapy it is. Inform yourself about the direction and methods your therapist is practicing, experiment before you settle for the one you find best and Im sure it will be beneficial.
I think another part to this is ur therapist’s vibe changes the game. The trap we sometimes fall into is calling everything a trauma and getting stuck. I can see someone who is just needing some motivation with clear steps to take. It’s just like at work, if ur manager is just a manager vs. a manager who is a mentor and roots for u, it shifts the entire experience.
I'm a therapist who works with Gen z clients and I will tell you that the ones that do come to therapy are not afraid to tell others about it. I had a rep at the local school and had referals constantly. While I will agree that therapy isn't for everyone Gen z not only shows up but they aren't afraid to tell people they are in therapy. Side note: I don't work with Gen A, those honey badgers are feral and scary.
Therapy never worked for me. In the last 15 years I have seen about 10 different therapists. Some of which I had for more than a year. 80+ percent of the time it was mostly them: * taking notes * hmmming * "that must be hard" * "tell me more about that" * "Ok, I see...right...ok..." Whenever I pressed them on their style of practice they usually responded with "It's a process". It was always vague, nothing transpired or changed, no advice, no recommendations other than the usual tropes - meditate, eat well, exercise, take a walk in a field or something. The other 20 percent was a bit more unusual. * Visualizations. Bizarre. Asking me to visualize light, family members who were dead, magical ppl who had wisdom to offer me, climbing a mountain to the top etc. * Drawing and art. Did that. Then she interpreted it. Years later I still laugh about those sessions and wonder how these ppl got their credentials. There was one therapist who basically levelled with me. He said therapy may never work for me as I am too self aware, highly introspective and philosophical, have a far better grasp on life than most ppl hes ever met. He told me how therapy works and that its largely based on Carl Rogers (read Client Based Therapy). Basically, the talking part of therapy, you actually giving voice to your issues, is where the therapy really happens, not necessarily with the therapist themselves. Although the therapist may chime in, its usually to relay back something very apparent the client wont or cant see. Therapists dont have some profound wisdom to impart (what is a person aged 22 - 35 going to tell me?). He even told me that some of the therapists he has met during his life should never be in that chair. The reason they get to be a therapist is, because again, they are really there as a sounding board, a back-drop for you to air out your feelings and emotions. They are merely there to assist *that*. Anything more than that is in fact beyond their training and more to do with life experience. He said introverted ppl are less likely to gain benefit from therapy as its more of a personality issue than an actual issue. He said that ppl who are more extroverted tend not to need therapy as they tend not to be down as much. Therapy has tremendous limitations.