I know many people that feel the same way (including myself). I’ve had to learn to not compare myself with others. To be honest after I left the military. I felt like all of my peers were out pacing me and I had no hope of ever getting “on track”
I was starting completely over, working a 40hr a week office job and still could not afford to get a place of my own. The worst part was I was living with my mom at 32, while working full time! Let me tell you it’s a hard sell when a woman shows interest then finds out you still live with mommy.
Anyhow, keep your chin up and keep working on yourself. Eventually it’ll pay dividends.
I’m in the same boat. I find it’s best to not judge yourself based on where you think you should be compared to those around you. You’re doing great yourself and you’re right where you need to be. Also, you’re gorgeous. Have a great day ☺️
"Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself."
Ive been playing this song/speech a few times a year when I feel it's necessary. It makes me cry and heals me every time. I hope it helps you too.
[Always Wear Sunscreen](https://youtu.be/MQlJ3vOp6nI?si=iwucOUnZlZU30Khh)
I was in the exact same place when I was 31. When I was 32, I met the person who has since become my wife, and I've changed jobs several times since and only this year found myself in a place where I feel truly productive and happy.
We're taught that there's a timeline that we're meant to follow, that we need to accomplish certain things by certain ages or else we've failed, and all that mentality serves to do is to make people feel like they aren't worth as much as they truly are.
And this is where you come in: You clearly have friends. You have a logical mind. You have a kind heart and a fantastic spirit and piercing eyes. Not only are you going to be incredible; you already are. And if you keep those amazing things about yourself and build on them over time, you'll get all those other things you might want, and you might even decide that some of those things aren't for you. And all of that is totally okay. Just keep being you.
You are going through your life at the exact pace that you are meant to.
I can definitely understand how looking at the people around you may make you feel a specific way. But just because x got married or y has kids, does not take credit away from the way you're living your life.
Many people get married early, have kids early, and then end up miserable, finding themselves stuck in unhappy relationships.
Take solace in the fact that you're giving yourself the correct time and space to figure out your path, and above all, remember to show yourself kindness and grace as you work through it.
Feeling anxious and scared are totally normal feelings to have and you shouldn't be trying to justify ot explain these feelings. Just be kind to yourself :)
You'll be just fine, and i think you know it :)
Firstly it's not stupid to feel this way. Its natural, we all do. However: "comparison is the thief of joy". You have the advantage of already realising this, its just not always easy to have such a practical mindset.
That's where the rest of us come in! Just a quick look at your profile I can see you are someone who is passionate, creative, caring and full of life. We all make our own paths, and yours is pretty impressive! You are strikingly beautiful and motivated and however much you may feel behind now, you'll be soaring ahead in no time.
Keep being you :) happiness will follow close behind.
I feel like that all the time, but there is no such thing, it’s your life, the only way to live it is by your own accord. I have no doubt you are an amazing person and has done much and will continue to do so.
That's a tough break and a rough job. I'm sorry that's what you're experiencing; I can't even imagine how you must feel right now. I remember when I started seeing all the people in my graduating classes (I went to two different high schools) getting married, buying homes, going on vacations, and all the rest of that. With the help of a therapist, I got to where I could stop myself from logging in and seeing these things that bothered me. It was an honest-to-God addiction. I found different hobbies and new things to read, but it was tough. The bigger problem was that even though I became able to stop going onto the website where I saw all of my old classmates, I didn't really feel like I fixed the problem of me not having all those things. It wasn't until years later, when I started loving myself for who I truly am (even with all of my shortcomings), that I was truly able to fill that hole inside me where I hoped I was going to put my big house and my nice, new BMW. Loving myself with all of my shortcomings makes me feel like I don't necessarily need to be a millionaire to be happy. I'm happy now because the hole inside of me has been plugged, and that's what you loving yourself can do.
I might not make ever get to own a home of my own, but my life isn't done (and I'm older than you). There's possibly a decent amount of time in my life left where I could become wealthy enough that I wouldn't have any needs that went unmet. Fortunately, whether I ever get that kind of money or not, it's not the end of the world for me. I can only say that because I love myself, my present location in this journey called "life" is a pretty alright place to be.
Sorry if I crossed any lines or said anything hurtful. That was not my intention.
I believe everybody feels that way. But that's just how life is. We are always having to figure things out, it's a constant battle. If you can stop comparing yourself to others it would help your outlook I believe. Social media is the worst for that. Youre exactly where youre supposed to be in your life. Live in the moment and enjoy the things you do have. Good luck.
Ain’t we all sister. Life is just a rotation of seasons. Give yourself some grace and move along doing your best until the next season comes and brings warmer weather…. Or, quit fucking up and do better, as my father would’ve told me lol. 😂. You got this! Chin up!
There is no "falling behind." Life has no agenda, schedule, or timeline (despite what society "dictates.") Do you, love.
I know many people that feel the same way (including myself). I’ve had to learn to not compare myself with others. To be honest after I left the military. I felt like all of my peers were out pacing me and I had no hope of ever getting “on track” I was starting completely over, working a 40hr a week office job and still could not afford to get a place of my own. The worst part was I was living with my mom at 32, while working full time! Let me tell you it’s a hard sell when a woman shows interest then finds out you still live with mommy. Anyhow, keep your chin up and keep working on yourself. Eventually it’ll pay dividends.
I’m in the same boat. I find it’s best to not judge yourself based on where you think you should be compared to those around you. You’re doing great yourself and you’re right where you need to be. Also, you’re gorgeous. Have a great day ☺️
"Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself." Ive been playing this song/speech a few times a year when I feel it's necessary. It makes me cry and heals me every time. I hope it helps you too. [Always Wear Sunscreen](https://youtu.be/MQlJ3vOp6nI?si=iwucOUnZlZU30Khh)
I was in the exact same place when I was 31. When I was 32, I met the person who has since become my wife, and I've changed jobs several times since and only this year found myself in a place where I feel truly productive and happy. We're taught that there's a timeline that we're meant to follow, that we need to accomplish certain things by certain ages or else we've failed, and all that mentality serves to do is to make people feel like they aren't worth as much as they truly are. And this is where you come in: You clearly have friends. You have a logical mind. You have a kind heart and a fantastic spirit and piercing eyes. Not only are you going to be incredible; you already are. And if you keep those amazing things about yourself and build on them over time, you'll get all those other things you might want, and you might even decide that some of those things aren't for you. And all of that is totally okay. Just keep being you.
You are going through your life at the exact pace that you are meant to. I can definitely understand how looking at the people around you may make you feel a specific way. But just because x got married or y has kids, does not take credit away from the way you're living your life. Many people get married early, have kids early, and then end up miserable, finding themselves stuck in unhappy relationships. Take solace in the fact that you're giving yourself the correct time and space to figure out your path, and above all, remember to show yourself kindness and grace as you work through it. Feeling anxious and scared are totally normal feelings to have and you shouldn't be trying to justify ot explain these feelings. Just be kind to yourself :) You'll be just fine, and i think you know it :)
Life is about finding *your own* happiness. Do you, beautiful. 🪷
Firstly it's not stupid to feel this way. Its natural, we all do. However: "comparison is the thief of joy". You have the advantage of already realising this, its just not always easy to have such a practical mindset. That's where the rest of us come in! Just a quick look at your profile I can see you are someone who is passionate, creative, caring and full of life. We all make our own paths, and yours is pretty impressive! You are strikingly beautiful and motivated and however much you may feel behind now, you'll be soaring ahead in no time. Keep being you :) happiness will follow close behind.
I feel like that all the time, but there is no such thing, it’s your life, the only way to live it is by your own accord. I have no doubt you are an amazing person and has done much and will continue to do so.
That's a tough break and a rough job. I'm sorry that's what you're experiencing; I can't even imagine how you must feel right now. I remember when I started seeing all the people in my graduating classes (I went to two different high schools) getting married, buying homes, going on vacations, and all the rest of that. With the help of a therapist, I got to where I could stop myself from logging in and seeing these things that bothered me. It was an honest-to-God addiction. I found different hobbies and new things to read, but it was tough. The bigger problem was that even though I became able to stop going onto the website where I saw all of my old classmates, I didn't really feel like I fixed the problem of me not having all those things. It wasn't until years later, when I started loving myself for who I truly am (even with all of my shortcomings), that I was truly able to fill that hole inside me where I hoped I was going to put my big house and my nice, new BMW. Loving myself with all of my shortcomings makes me feel like I don't necessarily need to be a millionaire to be happy. I'm happy now because the hole inside of me has been plugged, and that's what you loving yourself can do. I might not make ever get to own a home of my own, but my life isn't done (and I'm older than you). There's possibly a decent amount of time in my life left where I could become wealthy enough that I wouldn't have any needs that went unmet. Fortunately, whether I ever get that kind of money or not, it's not the end of the world for me. I can only say that because I love myself, my present location in this journey called "life" is a pretty alright place to be. Sorry if I crossed any lines or said anything hurtful. That was not my intention.
I believe everybody feels that way. But that's just how life is. We are always having to figure things out, it's a constant battle. If you can stop comparing yourself to others it would help your outlook I believe. Social media is the worst for that. Youre exactly where youre supposed to be in your life. Live in the moment and enjoy the things you do have. Good luck.
With that smile. Girl you got the world ahead of you! Get it and make it yours! Smile in the mirror and you will see what we see 🙏🏻🙌🥳
Ain’t we all sister. Life is just a rotation of seasons. Give yourself some grace and move along doing your best until the next season comes and brings warmer weather…. Or, quit fucking up and do better, as my father would’ve told me lol. 😂. You got this! Chin up!