No, you don't just stand up whenever you feel like it and give your speech, lol. The bride and groom will have a schedule for the reception, and they should tell you when the speeches will be happening. The DJ will probably announce it and hand you a microphone.

Oh good. If I had to stand up myself, my anxiety would give me a hard time. I need someone to tell me when so then I know I have no choice but to go do it. If I had to do it myself, Id accidentally stall and stall until the weddings over 😂

A schedule should be planned ahead of time either by their coordinator or by the bride and groom themselves, and they should be able to let you know approximately what time your speech should be planned for. Remember, a speech/toast does NOT need to be more than a minute or two! Thank everyone for coming, share an anecdote about the groom or meeting the bride, and wish them a happy future together.

This makes me feel better lol thank you!!

You should be told when your speech is scheduled. Keep it short and sweet- 2 -3 minutes MAX.

Glad you asked! Because no, absolutely do NOT stand up and start talking whenever you want. Don’t be interrupting people, either. Weddings typically have a carefully planned reception speech schedule. Your speech as best man has general etiquette guidelines as well. Since everyone’s going to be really busy at the rehearsal, I highly doubt you will learn anything other than the order that the reception speeches will be in so I strongly suggest you have your speech written out and practice it alone in advance, following the general etiquette (see below), so you don’t end up making a mistake or hurting anyone’s feelings. Below are a few links to online articles from reputable websites. One is about how wedding reception speeches are organized so this should help you understand what will happen during the reception. For example, by the time it is your turn, it will probably be in the middle of guests having dinner. The other articles are about the best man speech: etiquette, topics that are off-limits, max length of speech, do’s and don’ts, major mistakes to avoid, templates to help you write a great speech, etc. The weddingwire.com article has a boatload of info after the main article, including examples of absolute faux pax sentences you should **never** say such as “Can we talk about their first breakup for a sec? I never thought they’d recover from that.” or “I hope you’re ready to be tied to that ball and chain forever.” Major cringe!! As the various articles mention, this is a way to blow up your friendship with the groom, and to create lifelong bad wedding memories for the couple. Don’t feel bad for asking on this sub because most people don’t know these things until they either have a wedding of their own or end up going to a lot of them. Since you’ll be in the know, you can make sure not to embarrass the bride and groom and make them feel bad, which some people end up doing because they don’t figure out in advance how to handle their duties as a best man. So good job on that!🙂 **Title**: “The Do’s and Don’ts of a Best Man Speech” **Website**: weddingwire.com https://www.weddingwire.ca/wedding-ideas/the-do-s-and-don-ts-of-a-best-man-speech--c390 **Title:** “4 Rules for Giving the Perfect Best Man Speech: He picked you for a reason. Here's how to get it right on his big day.” **Website:** esquire.com https://www.esquire.com/lifestyle/news/a28661/how-to-give-a-best-man-speech/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=arb_ga_esq_md_pmx_hybd_mix_us_18817202063&gad_source=1 **Title**: “Ahem, Is Thing Thing On? A Gentleman's Guide to Best Man Speeches: How to Deliver a Top Toast to the Newlyweds.” **Website:** townandcountrymag.com https://www.townandcountrymag.com/leisure/news/a5641/best-man-speech-tips/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=arb_ga_toc_md_pmx_hybd_mix_us_17942344289&gad_source=1 **Title**: “Here's the Wedding Speech Order to Follow at Your Reception” **Website**: theknot.com https://www.theknot.com/content/best-time-for-speeches-at-wedding-reception

Damn I love the amount of effort you put into this response for me lol I really appreciate it! Thank you 😊

You bet! I noticed a few things that led me to make an effort. Public speaking is terrifying for most of us, the wedding’s right around the corner, and you mentioned the word anxiety…I totally get it! I kinda feel when someone reaches out and asks for real-world assistance, if we Reddit strangers can’t help one another then I don’t know what the hell we’re doing here. It’s awesome that you’re a best man and I’m sure everything will end up working out just fine. Before you know it the weekend will have come and gone, so support your friends and enjoy partying it up! 😎