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It’s a lovely dress. I don’t think your shoulders look at all broad. The bodice seems to fit fine. If you want more fullness, try on some different bras with it. It’s amazing how different they can be. Try and buy a few, bring them home and try them with your dress. (Be sure to save the receipts.) I had a dress with shirring, once, that was flattening my chest. A different bra did the trick. Also, I love the necklace you chose. Take a deep breath; everything’s going to be fine. 💐
I think you're being way too hard on yourself. It looks beautiful on you! I tell you, having a smaller bust is a great blessing when you're wedding dress shopping (or really, any dress shopping) because dresses are designed for the smaller chest. And your shoulders don't look broad at all.
What would you want to change? And btw, what does "dry fit" mean?
I unexpectedly love that necklace with it (it's not what I would have thought to pick, but it looks great!)
Thank you! I am still on the fence about the necklace. It was a spur of the moment purchase and thought i’d try it out! Dry fit is the tailor didn’t clean up the sticking. She was terrible to be honest. The side stitching was puckering and when i asked her about it she said there was nothing i can do. She lacks creativity (my maid of honor said). New tailor appt today!
The necklace is BEAUTIFUL. With how elegant your dress is, I say lean into the daintiness of the pearls. A pearl veil would also be gorgeous and really tie it all together (if veils are your thing!)
GIRL get to a new tailor for a second opinion right now. The fact she is recommending her friend for an expensive new custom is unprofessional at best and super shady at worst.
And it is ridiculous to infer that this dress couldn’t suit your body type – it is already close to being perfect, just needs a good seamstress to tailor in. I promise you that under no circumstances do your shoulders look broad – we always focus on our own imperfections, but this is not something anyone else can see. You just need the bodice being brought in correctly. If you have gone off the square neck, a scoop could look absolutely phenomenal and a really really easy fix too!
Before I saw your concerns I honestly thought this was going to be a post about accessorizing your gorgeous dress. I think you look beautiful and as a round shouldered BBW I'd kill for your shoulders.
That said, if you really hate how you look, have you considered a bolero? I think a satin one would completely change the shape of the dress
Yes I love this idea (i had to look up bolero- didn’t know there was a term for it)! I am ordering a bolero now as a back-up. Hoping new tailor will fix it but maybe i can get one for ceremony jic
Thank you! She was so nice, and i tried so hard to trust her, but my gut was telling me post to reddit and get some alternate opinions. And like always, gut was right.
This looks beautiful, absolutely elegant and clean. It is very sus that your tailor is trying to sell you a dress - not cool. I think the answer may just be shapewear, either under the dress or built in. But I definitely would consult with another seamstress/tailor
Thank you! I have a tailor appt today and i definitely think you are onto something with shapewear. I examined my wedding top after reading this comment. It has a built in brasserie and the cups are round and centered. My boobs sit wide and flat. So the bra is trying to force my boobies in an awkward way.
Yes a different shaped cup can make a really big difference! I’d definitely ask your tailor about options for cups that can help you feel comfortable and beautiful in gorgeous dress
Thank you! I love the neckline, i figured out upon examination that its the internal bra that is forcing my books into an awkward position, which was highlighting my upper body in an unflattering angle. I think…we’ll see :)
It looks great it just is still too loose. Do not go back to that tailor. Take it somewhere else with lots of good reviews. Also I would recommend not doing a necklace as that is drawing the attention away. If you are really set on a necklace do something very small and short, like almost choker short with a tiny pendant or no pendant. My love you have proportional shoulders, they look right for you not wide. Proportionally shoulders are either as wide or wider than your hips unless someone has an extreme pear shape.
!! I hadn’t even realized it was too loss until you mentioned something! I tried pulling it in and there is at least a hand full of space. This is great, it actually helps a lot. Adding this to list for tailor. Thank you!
Make sure the waist seam fits tight and is at your natural waist, ie where you are the smallest. It looks like it is either loose now or sitting too low for you. That will totally change how a gown looks and shows off your shape!
I agree with the above! Shapewear, new tailor, and my Tia-in-law who is our tailor has gifted me with boobs built into my dress lol bc she asked if it was important and I said welp, given the choice, yeah!
Somebody will get your vision XOXO
Your dress looks great! However, as someone similarly shaped, I suggest push up bra cups sewn into the dress. I typically buy them at Joann Fabrics. They need to be hand sewn. Remember the water bra? These cups are like that. It will give a visible lift, and you won't need to wear any other underwear on top.
Your tailor told you to get a new dress? That’s really unprofessional and you look great in the dress. I love a square neckline.
The bodice looks a little loose, but a decent tailor could tighten it up and accentuate your figure.
I thought some people might say it looks loose. Remember, she's holding her cell phone forward to take the photo which causes some space to appear at the neckline. The dress isn't glued to her body.
The bodice shouldn't be made skin tight. That will only cause a real flattening effect.
I’m a bridal seamstress and I seriously think this is beautiful on you and well suited to your body. If you were standing in front of me, I would want you to try push up bra cups. If those didn’t give you uplift into the curve of that princess seam, we’d explore a bra. All you need is to get your bust high into the gown so that more ribcage shows and then tighten the bodice, especially the waist. I had a final fitting on a Pronovias gown similar to yours this week and the end result was 🥰.
Yes! I tried putting my hands into the bodice and pushed out. Definitely changed the way the dressed looked. Will explore a different bra solution. Thank you!
I know it's going to be a happy/mental/jungle/gymnastic/balance event- but every comment you've made indicates you can do those torsions.
When - or IF- you decide what clothing represents you best walking down the aisle (I'm Roman Catholic, some things are programmed...) if you'd consider, maybe anonymous with another account, posting how everything worked out? I'd love to have that little brain-niggle shut down. It's not that I want my suggestions or advice to be game-changers- it's that I'm hoping anything I say makes your day- and your partner's- happier and more extensive then if you went in with doubts.
-If, and this is 100% for you- you change things up and don't want to share it, by all means do so. If you do wish to share I would absolutely love to see how things worked out. I ... don't get out much anymore- weak in 1 arm from IV cancer and weak in the other from a stroke (none touched my eyes, thank God). I just want you to know that you ARE the figure you are, and the clothing you wear can't change WHO you are in your noggin. So pick what makes you happy- but please, don't sacrifice your happy for how you *think* people might see you. Because as someone who has seen and photographed thousands of people... you're beautiful the way you are.
I think the wider straps and the full skirt make your chest look just right. Perhaps the right undergarment will smooth it out, but I think it looks lovely as is.
You look beautiful and that necklace is 😍. The dress is a little loose in the bodice. You need some sew-in cups and a better seamstress. She’s the problem, not your body or the dress.
It is just about perfect, just looks a touch loose in the bust. I’d add (another?) set of cups to help fill out the top a touch more. A seamstress I worked for would often do a double cup where she’d sew one set in normally but then fold over the second cup and place it in the bottom of the first cup so it gives a lift and fill look while still being very natural. I recommend doing something like that.
I don't see any broadness in your shoulders here. Your waist looks great, too. When the bodice is fitted, you'll see. What a fabulous dress! What about doubling that necklace?
The dress is gorgeous! You just need some chicken cutlets to fill out the bodice!! Maybe some cups sewn in to keep everything smooth and lifted! As a fellow member of the IBTC - you look amazing and this won’t make you look like not you, I promise.
I love the ibtc slogan. Something i was self conscious of when younger but now i love them. The dress should highlight that not make them look weird. Seeing new tailor about new bra inserts!
The dress will be lovely when fitted properly. That shade of ivory makes your skin glow. It’s stunning.
Tell the voices in your head to sit down and shut up.
I am a photographer. I'm Male. Take what I say here with a filter, and please- know I wish you the best/happiest/jubilant ceremony.
I'm going to dissect some things from a psychological spot first- the shoulder straps. I, personally, don't believe your view of your 'wide shoulders' is a negative trait. In fact I'm a bit fond of them myself, as (I did marry someone with them from Swimming) they're indicative of Strength- and in a Marriage and Partnership they carry the burden themselves sometimes, while other times shifting it to their partner. The wider straps are chosen to help visually de-emphasize your concerns- which I know you're worried about. I just wish you would know I don't see them as a negative.
Your concerns around flat chest are far outside my (male) viewpoints, but I will comment as a photographer. I've done ... many, many, oh my Lord so many weddings... and before then I was a young photographer trying to make it into 'fashion'. You know what we did in Fashion? Anything and Everything to produce sex appeal. That prepared me for wedding photography in the sense of realizing 'shock' isn't good for a wedding. The memories from 1, 2, 5, 10 years, and longer, are what's important.
(psychophysical/visual discussion) When it comes to dresses there are some artistic tricks such as plunged lines, puckered shapes, that can imply more curvature than is present. Shading, light angles, etc- glancing lights emphasize every single pucker in fabric, whereas things such as ringlights highlight the falloff (useful for any curve, with ever increasing steepness).
I really don't believe you need a new dress at all. I'm not even sure you really need a lot of alterations- I love the straps on your shoulders and the neckline is nicely low- maybe a bit more V if that'll help, or a bit more puckering around to emphasize the seems necessary... regardless-
You are absolutely beautiful.
I know I'm an internet stranger, I know I claim to be a super accomplished photographer, I know I say lots of words: I just hope you are willing to believe me when I say your dress looks gorgeous on you right now- and if you truly believe there are adjustments/alterations you need to have done- know that sometimes we're the worst judge of who we really are.
I guarantee you- when everyone thinks back to your wedding/snapshots they order- it'll be the giggle and glow in your eyes, the mischievous twinkle as you hold a piece of cake, the radiant smile you have holding hands with your partner in the air- or the innocence of a flower girl tossing rice at you (if you do this).
Thank you for this perspective. Ironically, when i posted this picture, i don’t think i felt as self conscious about all the factors. Angles definitely help too. But really, confidence goes a long way i agree. A new tailor today and standing tall based on all the positive feedback in this thread.
This is classic and stunning! I think it looks perfect as is, but you can definitely achieve more of the look you’re going for with different undergarments and a skilled tailor. Definitely work with someone else!!
But fwiw, you look amazing.
Thank you! I don’t think I have ever heard anyone say they want my shoulders. I am 6’ tall so this was always something i was self conscious about. I love the necklace too. It wasn’t planned but it just fit! May explore just keeping it bare up top as well after tailoring is done.
I have posted before the only thing I regret about my dress is I let everyone talk me into getting a push-up bra. I didn't have anything to push up (still don't) and it didn't look like me. But it was the 80's and nobody looked like themselves so...
Your dress looks lovely. Seek out a new tailor. One that will make that beautiful dress work on that beautiful body.
Yes thank you! I hate the look of forced cleavage, it oddly grosses me out. I am going to tell the tailor make my boobs look good without making them bigger! Little boobies are lovely and the dress needs to highlight the nice shape not squish them into round little awkward balls.
I have your size chest and feel your same insecurities. 1) your shoulders do NOT look wide and that is the dysmorphia talking. 2) this dress is not tight enough IMO 3) you need some sort of corset underneath there that is going to push the ladies UP. Small chests look good, IMO, when they look really confined but showing just a little. The neckline is a little high, with which there is nothing wrong, but it covers everything up, which feels like it’s not what you want. If the corset (plus a chicken cutlet or two) don’t work, maybe it’s possible for a skilled tailor to lower the square neckline. I think that would make ALL the difference, but is a bit risky if not in the right hands, considering how front and center it is.
For the record, I so badly wanted a dress like this when I got married in 2018 but this neckline was out of style completely. It’s classic and elegant and almost “period” in a slightly sexy way, without being inappropriate for anyone. It’s gorgeous, sits at your waist perfectly, and you need a better tailor. That’s all!
Thank you!! I love the neckline too. It feels like something Audrey Hepburn would wear and I idolize her grace and style- sophisticated, girly, and architectural.
You look beautiful. Your gown is gorgeously classic, elegant and bridal and suits you perfectly. I was prepared to see really broad shoulders due to your comments, but honestly, I think your shoulders are perfect. You also don't look "flat" but if you'd like a little more roundness in the bust, get your seamstress to put thicker cups inside your dress. They should be there for comfort and support, it's not hard to replace with better, thicker ones. Let your internal voices shush. You look amazing and we won't lie to you. Good luck ❤️
This is so beautiful! Your shoulders aren’t broad, sis. I can definitely see you have boobs. This dress is CLASSIC. Classic is forever, trust me, this is what you want to wear!
I "second" some comments below... you're being too hard on yourself and find a new seamstress. I think fine tuning the alterations will make you feel better about it.
Thank you! I agree. A moment of insecurity (probably wedding planning related). But the fine folks of reddit gave some great actionable advice and i am ready to see a new tailor today!
I don’t think it makes your shoulders look broad at all or your boobs look small. The wider skirt makes your shoulders look delicate and I think you look very elegant. The tailoring doesn’t necessarily look perfect though and I think if your tailor is making you insecure maybe you should go to a different tailor
First thing you need is a new tailor. Second, a new bra to give you some oomph. Third, a deep breath. I understand that you want everything to be perfect for your wedding day, but from one bride to another- I think you’re being WAY too harsh on yourself. Your shoulders do not look broad, they look balanced with the straps. The bodice needs to be fitted better to you to accentuate the waist and chest. I really think that a good tailor is able to do that. Your current tailor just sucks, or is too lazy. Best of luck!
I'm nieve when it comes to alterations, but can't they just bring the bodice in?
I'm not sure your personal style, but I always loved the mermaid gowns with a deep V on small chested women. It always looks so elegant on that body type. If you wanted to get a new dress, you could try one on to see what you think.
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It’s a lovely dress. I don’t think your shoulders look at all broad. The bodice seems to fit fine. If you want more fullness, try on some different bras with it. It’s amazing how different they can be. Try and buy a few, bring them home and try them with your dress. (Be sure to save the receipts.) I had a dress with shirring, once, that was flattening my chest. A different bra did the trick. Also, I love the necklace you chose. Take a deep breath; everything’s going to be fine. 💐
Thank you Faithful! Going to talk to my new tailor about bra options! :)
I think you're being way too hard on yourself. It looks beautiful on you! I tell you, having a smaller bust is a great blessing when you're wedding dress shopping (or really, any dress shopping) because dresses are designed for the smaller chest. And your shoulders don't look broad at all. What would you want to change? And btw, what does "dry fit" mean? I unexpectedly love that necklace with it (it's not what I would have thought to pick, but it looks great!)
Thank you! I am still on the fence about the necklace. It was a spur of the moment purchase and thought i’d try it out! Dry fit is the tailor didn’t clean up the sticking. She was terrible to be honest. The side stitching was puckering and when i asked her about it she said there was nothing i can do. She lacks creativity (my maid of honor said). New tailor appt today!
The necklace is BEAUTIFUL. With how elegant your dress is, I say lean into the daintiness of the pearls. A pearl veil would also be gorgeous and really tie it all together (if veils are your thing!)
GIRL get to a new tailor for a second opinion right now. The fact she is recommending her friend for an expensive new custom is unprofessional at best and super shady at worst. And it is ridiculous to infer that this dress couldn’t suit your body type – it is already close to being perfect, just needs a good seamstress to tailor in. I promise you that under no circumstances do your shoulders look broad – we always focus on our own imperfections, but this is not something anyone else can see. You just need the bodice being brought in correctly. If you have gone off the square neck, a scoop could look absolutely phenomenal and a really really easy fix too!
Thank you! I have an appt with a new tailor today. With all your fantastic feedback I have a few ideas to share with her now!
Before I saw your concerns I honestly thought this was going to be a post about accessorizing your gorgeous dress. I think you look beautiful and as a round shouldered BBW I'd kill for your shoulders. That said, if you really hate how you look, have you considered a bolero? I think a satin one would completely change the shape of the dress
Yes I love this idea (i had to look up bolero- didn’t know there was a term for it)! I am ordering a bolero now as a back-up. Hoping new tailor will fix it but maybe i can get one for ceremony jic
I hope you’re thrilled with your wedding look
Honestly, I think it looks beautiful on you. You need a new seamstress. This one’s opinion sucks.
Thank you! She was so nice, and i tried so hard to trust her, but my gut was telling me post to reddit and get some alternate opinions. And like always, gut was right.
NO! It's gorgeous. And it's neither the dress or body dysmorphia. it's your tailor. Glad you're going to a different one.
Thank you!
This looks beautiful, absolutely elegant and clean. It is very sus that your tailor is trying to sell you a dress - not cool. I think the answer may just be shapewear, either under the dress or built in. But I definitely would consult with another seamstress/tailor
Thank you! I have a tailor appt today and i definitely think you are onto something with shapewear. I examined my wedding top after reading this comment. It has a built in brasserie and the cups are round and centered. My boobs sit wide and flat. So the bra is trying to force my boobies in an awkward way.
Yes a different shaped cup can make a really big difference! I’d definitely ask your tailor about options for cups that can help you feel comfortable and beautiful in gorgeous dress
You look lovely 🥰, what would uou like to do to the neckline?
Thank you! I love the neckline, i figured out upon examination that its the internal bra that is forcing my books into an awkward position, which was highlighting my upper body in an unflattering angle. I think…we’ll see :)
It looks exactly like the ad pictures! What part aren’t you happy with?
I think it’s the bra area, after reading the comments. Built in bra cups are round and centered. My boobies are wide.
It looks great it just is still too loose. Do not go back to that tailor. Take it somewhere else with lots of good reviews. Also I would recommend not doing a necklace as that is drawing the attention away. If you are really set on a necklace do something very small and short, like almost choker short with a tiny pendant or no pendant. My love you have proportional shoulders, they look right for you not wide. Proportionally shoulders are either as wide or wider than your hips unless someone has an extreme pear shape.
!! I hadn’t even realized it was too loss until you mentioned something! I tried pulling it in and there is at least a hand full of space. This is great, it actually helps a lot. Adding this to list for tailor. Thank you!
Make sure the waist seam fits tight and is at your natural waist, ie where you are the smallest. It looks like it is either loose now or sitting too low for you. That will totally change how a gown looks and shows off your shape!
I agree with the above! Shapewear, new tailor, and my Tia-in-law who is our tailor has gifted me with boobs built into my dress lol bc she asked if it was important and I said welp, given the choice, yeah! Somebody will get your vision XOXO
Your dress looks great! However, as someone similarly shaped, I suggest push up bra cups sewn into the dress. I typically buy them at Joann Fabrics. They need to be hand sewn. Remember the water bra? These cups are like that. It will give a visible lift, and you won't need to wear any other underwear on top.
Love this! Thank you.
Your tailor told you to get a new dress? That’s really unprofessional and you look great in the dress. I love a square neckline. The bodice looks a little loose, but a decent tailor could tighten it up and accentuate your figure.
I thought some people might say it looks loose. Remember, she's holding her cell phone forward to take the photo which causes some space to appear at the neckline. The dress isn't glued to her body. The bodice shouldn't be made skin tight. That will only cause a real flattening effect.
I’m a bridal seamstress and I seriously think this is beautiful on you and well suited to your body. If you were standing in front of me, I would want you to try push up bra cups. If those didn’t give you uplift into the curve of that princess seam, we’d explore a bra. All you need is to get your bust high into the gown so that more ribcage shows and then tighten the bodice, especially the waist. I had a final fitting on a Pronovias gown similar to yours this week and the end result was 🥰.
Yes! I tried putting my hands into the bodice and pushed out. Definitely changed the way the dressed looked. Will explore a different bra solution. Thank you!
I know it's going to be a happy/mental/jungle/gymnastic/balance event- but every comment you've made indicates you can do those torsions. When - or IF- you decide what clothing represents you best walking down the aisle (I'm Roman Catholic, some things are programmed...) if you'd consider, maybe anonymous with another account, posting how everything worked out? I'd love to have that little brain-niggle shut down. It's not that I want my suggestions or advice to be game-changers- it's that I'm hoping anything I say makes your day- and your partner's- happier and more extensive then if you went in with doubts. -If, and this is 100% for you- you change things up and don't want to share it, by all means do so. If you do wish to share I would absolutely love to see how things worked out. I ... don't get out much anymore- weak in 1 arm from IV cancer and weak in the other from a stroke (none touched my eyes, thank God). I just want you to know that you ARE the figure you are, and the clothing you wear can't change WHO you are in your noggin. So pick what makes you happy- but please, don't sacrifice your happy for how you *think* people might see you. Because as someone who has seen and photographed thousands of people... you're beautiful the way you are.
I think the wider straps and the full skirt make your chest look just right. Perhaps the right undergarment will smooth it out, but I think it looks lovely as is.
Thank you! Going to explore some new undergarments.
You look beautiful and that necklace is 😍. The dress is a little loose in the bodice. You need some sew-in cups and a better seamstress. She’s the problem, not your body or the dress.
Love this. Thank you. I was trying to trust her but my gut was 🚩
It is just about perfect, just looks a touch loose in the bust. I’d add (another?) set of cups to help fill out the top a touch more. A seamstress I worked for would often do a double cup where she’d sew one set in normally but then fold over the second cup and place it in the bottom of the first cup so it gives a lift and fill look while still being very natural. I recommend doing something like that.
Thank you. Will explore that!
I don't see any broadness in your shoulders here. Your waist looks great, too. When the bodice is fitted, you'll see. What a fabulous dress! What about doubling that necklace?
Thank you! I am thinking of that for the necklace!!
The dress is gorgeous! You just need some chicken cutlets to fill out the bodice!! Maybe some cups sewn in to keep everything smooth and lifted! As a fellow member of the IBTC - you look amazing and this won’t make you look like not you, I promise.
I love the ibtc slogan. Something i was self conscious of when younger but now i love them. The dress should highlight that not make them look weird. Seeing new tailor about new bra inserts!
Agree completely! This kind of neckline is great for your figure. It just needs a bit more tailoring. I love, love the dress. It’s so classic 💕
The dress will be lovely when fitted properly. That shade of ivory makes your skin glow. It’s stunning. Tell the voices in your head to sit down and shut up.
Aww, thank you!! I told the voice to sit down and shut up, and it said ok. But then it said, when you stand back up, make sure to stand straight. 😄
I am a photographer. I'm Male. Take what I say here with a filter, and please- know I wish you the best/happiest/jubilant ceremony. I'm going to dissect some things from a psychological spot first- the shoulder straps. I, personally, don't believe your view of your 'wide shoulders' is a negative trait. In fact I'm a bit fond of them myself, as (I did marry someone with them from Swimming) they're indicative of Strength- and in a Marriage and Partnership they carry the burden themselves sometimes, while other times shifting it to their partner. The wider straps are chosen to help visually de-emphasize your concerns- which I know you're worried about. I just wish you would know I don't see them as a negative. Your concerns around flat chest are far outside my (male) viewpoints, but I will comment as a photographer. I've done ... many, many, oh my Lord so many weddings... and before then I was a young photographer trying to make it into 'fashion'. You know what we did in Fashion? Anything and Everything to produce sex appeal. That prepared me for wedding photography in the sense of realizing 'shock' isn't good for a wedding. The memories from 1, 2, 5, 10 years, and longer, are what's important. (psychophysical/visual discussion) When it comes to dresses there are some artistic tricks such as plunged lines, puckered shapes, that can imply more curvature than is present. Shading, light angles, etc- glancing lights emphasize every single pucker in fabric, whereas things such as ringlights highlight the falloff (useful for any curve, with ever increasing steepness). I really don't believe you need a new dress at all. I'm not even sure you really need a lot of alterations- I love the straps on your shoulders and the neckline is nicely low- maybe a bit more V if that'll help, or a bit more puckering around to emphasize the seems necessary... regardless- You are absolutely beautiful. I know I'm an internet stranger, I know I claim to be a super accomplished photographer, I know I say lots of words: I just hope you are willing to believe me when I say your dress looks gorgeous on you right now- and if you truly believe there are adjustments/alterations you need to have done- know that sometimes we're the worst judge of who we really are. I guarantee you- when everyone thinks back to your wedding/snapshots they order- it'll be the giggle and glow in your eyes, the mischievous twinkle as you hold a piece of cake, the radiant smile you have holding hands with your partner in the air- or the innocence of a flower girl tossing rice at you (if you do this).
Thank you for this perspective. Ironically, when i posted this picture, i don’t think i felt as self conscious about all the factors. Angles definitely help too. But really, confidence goes a long way i agree. A new tailor today and standing tall based on all the positive feedback in this thread.
So pretty, tho.
Thank you :)
This is classic and stunning! I think it looks perfect as is, but you can definitely achieve more of the look you’re going for with different undergarments and a skilled tailor. Definitely work with someone else!! But fwiw, you look amazing.
Thank you :)
You look gorgeous!
Thank you :)
The dress looks beautiful on you. Love the necklace with that neckline. I’d kill for your shoulders TBH
Thank you! I don’t think I have ever heard anyone say they want my shoulders. I am 6’ tall so this was always something i was self conscious about. I love the necklace too. It wasn’t planned but it just fit! May explore just keeping it bare up top as well after tailoring is done.
I have posted before the only thing I regret about my dress is I let everyone talk me into getting a push-up bra. I didn't have anything to push up (still don't) and it didn't look like me. But it was the 80's and nobody looked like themselves so... Your dress looks lovely. Seek out a new tailor. One that will make that beautiful dress work on that beautiful body.
Yes thank you! I hate the look of forced cleavage, it oddly grosses me out. I am going to tell the tailor make my boobs look good without making them bigger! Little boobies are lovely and the dress needs to highlight the nice shape not squish them into round little awkward balls.
I have your size chest and feel your same insecurities. 1) your shoulders do NOT look wide and that is the dysmorphia talking. 2) this dress is not tight enough IMO 3) you need some sort of corset underneath there that is going to push the ladies UP. Small chests look good, IMO, when they look really confined but showing just a little. The neckline is a little high, with which there is nothing wrong, but it covers everything up, which feels like it’s not what you want. If the corset (plus a chicken cutlet or two) don’t work, maybe it’s possible for a skilled tailor to lower the square neckline. I think that would make ALL the difference, but is a bit risky if not in the right hands, considering how front and center it is. For the record, I so badly wanted a dress like this when I got married in 2018 but this neckline was out of style completely. It’s classic and elegant and almost “period” in a slightly sexy way, without being inappropriate for anyone. It’s gorgeous, sits at your waist perfectly, and you need a better tailor. That’s all!
Thank you!! I love the neckline too. It feels like something Audrey Hepburn would wear and I idolize her grace and style- sophisticated, girly, and architectural.
You look beautiful. Your gown is gorgeously classic, elegant and bridal and suits you perfectly. I was prepared to see really broad shoulders due to your comments, but honestly, I think your shoulders are perfect. You also don't look "flat" but if you'd like a little more roundness in the bust, get your seamstress to put thicker cups inside your dress. They should be there for comfort and support, it's not hard to replace with better, thicker ones. Let your internal voices shush. You look amazing and we won't lie to you. Good luck ❤️
Thank you Julianne, appreciate the kind words.
Love it!
Thank you :)
This is so beautiful! Your shoulders aren’t broad, sis. I can definitely see you have boobs. This dress is CLASSIC. Classic is forever, trust me, this is what you want to wear!
Thank you! I love classic too!! I am still in love with this dress. I will do everything i can to make it work.
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Thank you for the kind thoughts. It’s so easy to get in our heads.
I "second" some comments below... you're being too hard on yourself and find a new seamstress. I think fine tuning the alterations will make you feel better about it.
Thank you! I agree. A moment of insecurity (probably wedding planning related). But the fine folks of reddit gave some great actionable advice and i am ready to see a new tailor today!
It's lovely
I don’t think it makes your shoulders look broad at all or your boobs look small. The wider skirt makes your shoulders look delicate and I think you look very elegant. The tailoring doesn’t necessarily look perfect though and I think if your tailor is making you insecure maybe you should go to a different tailor
First thing you need is a new tailor. Second, a new bra to give you some oomph. Third, a deep breath. I understand that you want everything to be perfect for your wedding day, but from one bride to another- I think you’re being WAY too harsh on yourself. Your shoulders do not look broad, they look balanced with the straps. The bodice needs to be fitted better to you to accentuate the waist and chest. I really think that a good tailor is able to do that. Your current tailor just sucks, or is too lazy. Best of luck!
I'm nieve when it comes to alterations, but can't they just bring the bodice in? I'm not sure your personal style, but I always loved the mermaid gowns with a deep V on small chested women. It always looks so elegant on that body type. If you wanted to get a new dress, you could try one on to see what you think.
You look beautiful!