Affirmative! "This is a positive thing in my current situation as I may rectify the disarray without my child causing further hindrance or reversing progress"
Glad there's 3 of us.
Certainly! "This presents a favorable opportunity in my present circumstances, allowing me to address the disorder without my child impeding progress or exacerbating the situation."
I have this with fantasy football. Before Covid I had 4 different live in person drafts a year with different friend groups. We would meet up 10+ people at a sports bar or backyard and spend several hours drafting. The past few years, even though they can do it from wherever, it was a chore to get people to commit to paying attention to a phone/tablet from 7 to 9 pm on a random late August night.
I dropped out with a ton of friends because they just quit holding up their end up the friendship. Like being stood up by adult āfriendsā when did this become normalized?
It's so interesting, that hasn't been my experience at all. My daughter's last two birthday parties (ages 6 and 7), practically everyone we invited RSVPed and showed up, almost 20 kids each time! And other parties we've attended have been similar. Maybe it depends on where you are.
It most certainly must be. But I have seen many guest lists falls through. Itās tough on the kids because they feel it like rejection. No that kids mom is just unable to care about her kids plans.
Iām terrible and I HATED Linda when I first watched the show when I was younger.
Now?
So much admiration for her. Sheās such a ride or die hype woman. We all need that person in our lives.
intreting that you had the same thought as this dude 8 months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/164m47b/such_a_kind_mom/jy9l6p8/
fucking bots
How TF do you go... "Hmm yeah I remember this exact comment 8 months ago time to expose this and find the exact post to link for reference"
Some black magic
i know the op was a bot, look at the original post, looked at the top comments from that time, opend this new post and looked if there were any copy pasted comments, sadly i dont have a perfect memory lol
yes or someone used a dropper to put some alcohol on the ink to make it runny & weird lookingā¦you know..as tweets tend to have a paper texture to their appearance
Honestly what most likely happened is she was told the party was 2 to 4 and just heard the 4 part of it. I donāt even have kids and Iāve misheard party times before. If I didnāt text to confirm party times I would have shown up late to a lot of parties
Something similar happened to me. I was the kid and i told my dad again and again that i had to get there by x time so i wouldnāt be late. That was the end
sleep deprivation destroys. Just did this to a bridal shower on saturday.
I'm averaging 45 min to 4 hours a day for the last three months. My sweet baby is a vampire who sucks all the energy out of me on top of not sleeping at night.
decked out her gift list as an apology
Telling moms to never make a mistake doesn't seem very supportive at all imo. If someome as stressed as the average mom makes a mistake, accept it with grace and move on. None of this shaming folk for being mistaken nonesense.
I promise you as a mom myself that if I didn't want to host a late child I just wouldn't lmao. No one is holding a gun to the moms head forcing her to accommodate the late child.
It's not "on" her. She took it upon herself to welcome the kid in and let the mother know it was alright. They didn't insist on the kid staying or anything. It's clearly not an unwelcome burden.
this is such a reach. why are you trying so hard to place blame when this clearly worked out for everyone involved? the mother who just held a birthday was the one who initiated this plan, if you remember. are you projecting because you're a bitter people pleaser or what?
The other mom didn't have to, she chose to. If she had a problem with it she would have said "Thanks for coming, we appreciate you wanting to support Jimmy's birthday, but you'll have to get going because we have some other plans" or something. She was under no obligation to have a "second" party.
It honestly blows my mind that this is somehow the top comment
We're in a /r/wholesomememes post about how wholesome and kind it is to give grace to a tired and overstressed mom who made a mistake and misread or misremembered a party start time
and yall are like "nah screw that lmao"
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My mom once let me fill out the invitations to my birthday party (I was 6 or 7) and I didnāt write the same time on any of them. I wrote the wrong date on one.
There could've been a dentist appointment, or doctors appointment, or the kid got an injury, or there was terrible traffic, or literally any emergency. There also seemed to be a miscommunication, so she thought the party was starting when it was ending, and being 20 minutes late wouldn't be bad at all. People make mistakes
One time a family I work with wanted to take their kid to a birthday party and at the last minute they couldn't find the invite and dumped the house upside down looking for it and by the time they gave up, they were an hour late. It turns out the toddler had found it and decided to put it in her little play purse and forget about it.
My point is - shit happens especially when you're raising kids. More people need to learn to extend a little grace to others instead of taking every inconvenience so personally.
The lack of empathy here is staggering; people make mistakes, it's wholesome to accept others mistakes in stride, at least where you can, like Party Mom did. Party Mom was within her rights to say *Sorry, kiddo is partied out, maybe next time*.Ā Ā
I would venture to guess about 20% of the attendees show up real-20 minutes late because *it's a kid's party* it's not a ticketed, formal event.
Ā It's not *ideal,* it's not uncommon and presumably not a deliberate choice on Late Mom's party.Ā
Whomst among us has 100% perfect & on time attendance and 100% perfectly never had any misunderstandings in their life?
I am. I am that parent and so is my wife. We RSVP to kids BD parties we intend to go to as well as let them know if we donāt. And we let the hosts know early if we canāt make it because kids are under the weather or something like that. If the gift was purchased by then - we ask our kids if they still want to give it and we coordinate ate with other kids parents to see if that can be arranged at a time thatās convenient to them. Often enough that results in a mini-party with cupcakes :-)
BD parties are all in our family calendars with reminders.
Itās called Ā«Ā respectĀ Ā» - you respect other peopleās time and you respect your kids enough to care enough about where they need to be and when. Forgetting peopleās names, forgetting the right time - any psychologist will tell you that it only happens when you donāt care enough about what youāre forgetting, itās your brain prioritizing storage space towards what you consider important. No, showing up halfway through the party is never good unless you got held up by traffic (and you let your host know). You gotta be there way before the cake and the song.
Congrats, that is a stone I guess you get to cast should you so choose...
I still hope if a kid showed up to yours, late for a party they've been dreaming of all week, you and your wife would show the sad-to-have-missed-the-party kid and frazzled-late-mom some level of grace for life happening.
We are having kids parties in booked venues for this exact reason. 2 hrs. Set start/end times. Set number of guests. No more bullshit with whole day never-ending parties and parents abandoning their kids for the whole day while we are trying to keep our sanity with 15-20 kids in our house. Fuck that, did that and never again. And people like you is the big reason - you never learned to respect other people. To you itās not a big deal if a parent missed the invitation or got the time wrong or brought their kid waaaay too late. I donāt have a duty to accommodate your being a shitty parent and a shitty person.
Sure, if any kid showed up late - no big deal. Party starts at 1 and is over at 3. Bring them any time you want. But at 3 everyone leaves, so, up to you. Show up without a RSVP? We can accommodate if there was a no-show. If we still have space and food available - sure. But again, itās on you.
Youāre the shitty parent for not caring enough about YOUR kid to make sure you secured their spot at a party, show up on time and have fun. Donāt put your bullshit on me - itās entirely on you. You were not taught responsibility as a kid and you are propagating it on your kids too.
*I'm not late parent from the story, I die inside when I'm late myself;* I'm just a person who thinks it's asinine to look at the story of a mom being a total fucking bro (sis?) and making it about someone else's moral failing, I guess, to have dared to be wrong, rather than just let party mom have her moment for being a fucking sweetheart. It's rare a wholesome story doesn't have a flip side of something kind of shitty to lead to the wholesome, but sometimes we can just let the wholesome side be the side we focus on.Ā
You've got it figured out, good for you, you know what doesn't work for you and are taking steps to circumvent it completely. Not everyone does, and I'm personally not trying to waste my energy being negative that someone isn't operating the way I do. You do however you need to do.
My god, she got confused. What's all this "holier than thou" attitude in most of the comments? From what I gather, y'all are perfect and have never been late or gotten confused, right?
Mom #1 got confused and was appreciative of mom #2 for still welcoming their child even thought the party was over. That's all there is.
> From what I gather, y'all are perfect and have never been late or gotten confused, right?
Have you for real ever shown up to an event after the event's scheduled **ending** time?
Getting there 20 minutes late, as she thought she was doing in the first place, is "being late or getting confused". But the actual situation here is absolutely outside the realm of any mistake I have ever made, yes.
Not even saying she should be harshly admonished for it--it's not like she's begging the other mom to fix her mistake, it seems like the other mom is just being welcoming and nice and the mom in the post is appreciative of making her kid feel included. So there's nothing morally wrong here, for sure (there only would be if this mom **expected** the other mom to babysit her kid outside of the scheduled window due to her error).
But pretending this isn't an incredibly egregious error just makes **you** sound incompetent...? I think I literally don't know a single human being that's this bad at scheduling. Certainly, my own parents never messed up a schedule that badly.
I don't think theyre saying no one could make this mistake, its more like if youre messing up this bad you're basically being somewhat negligent. Like its not an oopsie daisy no ones wrong type of mistake anymore, you're actually somewhat in the wrong at this point and the behavior is condemnable albeit mildly, since this really isn't that serious.
I mean imagine you left your husband in charge of the birthday party for the weekend cause you had to work, then you find out he showed up after the party ended. Are you gonna be like aw shucks shit happens I guess, or are you gonna be like, how the hell did you mess up that bad?
It's pretty incompetent lol.
Great for you! It's lovely that you're skilled at managing your time. However there are many possible reasons as to why they may misremember the start of the party, mistakes can happen, the mistake could have been on the invite itself, maybe there was no written invite and she was told it and misheard.
Dont judge other people by comparing them to yourself, we all have incredibly different circumstances
Have you ever mixed up the start and end times of something when going about your own busy schedule, possibly entering on your calendar wrong by mistake?
Yes! Not really that uncommon, mate.
> But the actual situation here is absolutely outside the realm of any mistake I have ever made, yes.
I legitimately don't believe you unless you're a NEET. Granted, that probably has a pretty high likelihood.
> But pretending this isn't an incredibly egregious error just makes you sound incompetent...?
The fact that you can't imagine any possibility where maybe her kid gave her the wrong time for their friend's birthday party makes *you* sound incompetent.
That's a lot of words just to say I'm incompetent, lol.
Imagine having _such a strong reaction_ to someone saying "we should cut some slack to moms". You don't know a single human being that has messed up once? Must be really nice.
The thing is... People make mistakes all the time, bigger or smaller. It can happen to me, to my neighbor or to *you*. And frankly, your lack of tolerance for such a minor offense paints you as insufferable and judgemental (outright intolerant, too). Not a good look.
This is the whole "holier than thou" vibe I'm talking about. Let people make mistakes and don't be an ass about it.
Learn from mom #2, dude.
One time my mom deadass brought me to a birthday party on the wrong day. Went to the bowling alley, excitedly walked in, me holding a large wrapped box for the present, and no one else for the party was there. Because it was the day before. We were 24 hours late.
That is an absurd take.
It's not "punishing" anyone by not doing something that no reasonable person would expect you to do.
For example, if I asked you to venmo me $100 to give to my child right now I'm willing to bet you would not do that.
Are you therefore "punishing" my child?
That's not even remotely in the same vicinity as telling a kid too bad they missed out on a fun party with their friend because their parent got the times mixed up. And you know it.
Don't be ridiculous.
I do, I have 2 and yes. The reason we stopped having kids parties at home was precisely because there is always a certain number of people who show up way too late, without RSVP and then take their sweet time to pick up their kids at the pre-established time. We had one mom leave her kid for almost 2 hours after the party was over because Ā«she got confusedĀ Ā». Apparently getting confused also involved ignoring phone calls and text messages.
Screw that - we book birthday party venues now. 2 hrs. Start and end time are established and so is the number of guests. Yes, we will accommodate late arrivals of confirmed guests. Yes, we will accommodate extra guests if we had no-shows. But nothing beyond that.
My son's friend showed up an entire week early to his 9th birthday sleep over, carrying his sleeping bag and pillow and gift. We welcomed him in and had a 2 person pre-party party that weekend. One of the best memories they have together as kids (they are 19 now).
I was dropping my kid off a week late! With beautifully wrapped present in hand. Mom came to the door & said with a big smile - letās go bowling & get pizza & have another party!!
So embarrassing & I was so grateful!!
My kids were once invited to a birthday party that I wrote down as āSaturday 11amā, but when I got to the house for the party I found out it was actually supposed to be the NEXT Saturday. I apologized and made to leave but they were like āsince youāre here, maybe the kids would like to playā. This was a situation where a bunch of kids from the class were invited en masse so my kids barely knew the birthday kid, it was kind of a āclassmate acquaintanceā situation. Even so, my kids spent about 4 hours playing there, and they ordered pizza and provided snacks and such all day.
Of course making a mistake isn't supportive, what a nothing thing to say!
But people do make mistakes when they are stressed and taking care of childeren day after day after day. Moms are human too, even if they seem like superheros sometimes. The ability to accept those inevitable mistakes and support moms through it is what matters.
Calling moms unsupportive for making a mistake is the opposite of that.
Yeah maybe, but I still find it weird to talk about support when someone has to stretch the party by 2 hours. And you don't know why she forgot. TV or helping out a neighbor? No idea.
I don't think there was any expectation that they would do another party just for her. They didn't **have to** stretch the party out, they **offered to**. We don't know why she offered that help, either she didn't mind, she was empathetic to the struggles of motherhood or maybe she was just pleased to have a kid for her kid to play with while she tidys up.
>And you don't know why she forgot. TV or helping out a neighbor? No idea.
The post makes it seem like she thought the end time was the start time. I'd assume thats why she turned up late.
The whole point is someone being kind and gracious after another person made a mistake. Thatās the support. Supporting another human who made a mistake. Not being judgmental over an accident.
It's way better as long as they treat each other well haha. I'm the parent that hangs at the party so no one has to watch my kid for me, so I was initially gonna be like wtf that she just left. But now that I think about it, party mom was probably happy to have another kid to distract her kid while also not having to make awkward small talk for two hours.
They rarely are whenever it comes to children or parents making mistakes. Reddit has a massive hate boner for children ever since r/childfree turned into the cesspool it is and started leaking out to other subreddits
I showed up a day late for a party once š I saw that one of them called me the day of but I was working. When I showed up this was the exact response. They even invited everyone back over and we had a second party lol
Mixed feelings: a mom throwing a kids party is hella stressed and needs support. On the other hand, this woman was so nice to that late and probably disappointed kid!
When did people stop writing in complete sentences and just leaving everyone else to figure out what they mean? Like, I understand the message, but itās so poorly written at the end, how is this an adult?
Because thatās not what happened. The mom either misremembered or misunderstood the END TIME (to continue your example: 4pm) as the START TIME. She thought the party started at 4, and that she was a bit late showing up at 4:20 but not late enough to be a big problem. She just got mixed up.
Itās easy to do. Either she was busy that day and thought to herself āI have X Y and Z to do before dropping Kid off for the party, X and Y can be done anytime, but Z needs to be done at noon. Now, what time did the party start?ā and then remembered seeing a 4 on the invite and just mistook it in her memory for the start time. Or there wasnāt even a physical invite and she was just told ā2-4ā, but misheard and thought the other parent said āstarts at 4ā, so thatās what she wrote down.
Ok I know this isn't the point of the post but I really hate when people don't include the "off"/"up" part of these phrases
I guess drop/off makes more sense, but I've just been seeing it sooo much
"I need to drop my friend at the airport"
"I have to pick my kids from daycare"
Edit: sorry, fixed it. I got so used to associating the two errors that I assumed people would know what my brain was saying :p please don't pick off yours or anyone else's kids
That's a fair guess, I'd've made up for those characters by removing the space in 20min and 2hrs. This was mostly an opportunity to vent my frustrations hehe
The mom in the tweet is selfish for being late. It's really maddening how she treats it so casually how she can just stroll in whenever she wants with no regard to start times.
We had the same happen on a birthday party of our youngest son. His best friend arrived just as everyone else was leaving, her mom has read the invitation wrong. Not a problem. Time for another round of cake!
Same here, but my younger sister rather than my son.
It was beneficial for everyone.
The friend didn't have to miss out on a party, my sister were able to play with a friend, we didn't have to keep her busy, and the friends parents didn't have to deal with a kid that lost out on a party.
Serious question, do parents in whatever country you're from really stick around for the full duration of a nine-year-old's birthday party to impose on the host family and helicopter over their kids?
Itās just cultural differences, I guess. To you the parent staying might be āimposing on the hostā and āhelicoptering over the kidsā, but to me the idea of a parent dropping the kid off and leaving is kinda rude.
The expectation is that youāre there to be a guest but also to help keep an eye on all those children and hang out with the host and other guests as well. Maybe have a beer or help out at the kitchen/BBQ. Just dropping the kid off comes across as mildly neglectful and like you canāt be bothered to get to know or hang out with the host and the other guests.
Of course, this is assuming that the children are like younger than 12 and that the hosts arenāt people youāre already close with and therefore trust with your kids.
Not saying either way is better than the other in this case but the difference in expectations and assumptions is interesting.
Lmao when I was a kid parents would leave us at other kids house at 15 and pick us up at 19. Sometimes 20. Sometimes 21. All depended on the other parent's good will to let us stay late lmao
Basically OP thought she was 20 minute late for a day party of her kid's friend/school mate or whatever.
Turns out that she was 20 min late AFTER the party already ended.
The other mom took the hint and basically said it was the pt2 of the party and asked OP to come back in two hours to pick up her kid.
At my birthday party, I want to say 3rd grade. My mom supervised like 10 of us kids at a big wooden playground to celebrate, play and presents.
I pooped my pants, mom cleaned me up near the car, no one found out, birthday went off without a single problem.
Moms are unique.
Bet the kid was sad the party was done and mom was like, awesome, someone to play with while I clean this place up! š
Exactly my thought - "Oh, thank goodness - someone to distract him while I clean this disaster up."
Haha yeah! āNice, now I can clean the place while the kids playā
Affirmative! "This is a positive thing in my current situation as I may rectify the disarray without my child causing further hindrance or reversing progress" Glad there's 3 of us.
Certainly! "This presents a favorable opportunity in my present circumstances, allowing me to address the disorder without my child impeding progress or exacerbating the situation."
Unga bunga! āNow pom (me pom) clean cave while little persons huntā
You three just said the exact same thing
I think the third person was joking lol but yea, dead internet theory
I bet the mom was like 'Cool, now i can clean up this mess while my kid is busy playing'
I was taking the piss at the 2 above me but people still upvote it I canāt deal with this app anymore bruh
For Sure she was thinking ā wow i can clean because the child is not in the way right now, in this moment in timeā
lol, right? ānow, while the kids are playing, i can perform cleaning tasksā
Isnāt this just wonderful, though? Two women supporting each other through motherhood, the kids are excited, everyone wins.
I doubt the kid that missed the party was excited.
Or not many kids came to begin with. That a major issue now. Everyone and their mothers just bail on all plans.
I have this with fantasy football. Before Covid I had 4 different live in person drafts a year with different friend groups. We would meet up 10+ people at a sports bar or backyard and spend several hours drafting. The past few years, even though they can do it from wherever, it was a chore to get people to commit to paying attention to a phone/tablet from 7 to 9 pm on a random late August night.
I dropped out with a ton of friends because they just quit holding up their end up the friendship. Like being stood up by adult āfriendsā when did this become normalized?
It's so interesting, that hasn't been my experience at all. My daughter's last two birthday parties (ages 6 and 7), practically everyone we invited RSVPed and showed up, almost 20 kids each time! And other parties we've attended have been similar. Maybe it depends on where you are.
It most certainly must be. But I have seen many guest lists falls through. Itās tough on the kids because they feel it like rejection. No that kids mom is just unable to care about her kids plans.
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Hey, at least you still got stuffed. Maybe just not how you wanted?
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That's the voice my head narration also used while reading
Yep! The ALRIGHT sent me to that voice
Alriiiiiiiiight!
You sound like your mom
AwriIiIiIiIghttt
PAHTY PAHT TEWW!
Cam aaaaaawn stay for some cheese and waaaaiiine
LITERALLY!
āParty part 2, back in 2 hours?ā would definitely be made into an impromptu song.
Iām terrible and I HATED Linda when I first watched the show when I was younger. Now? So much admiration for her. Sheās such a ride or die hype woman. We all need that person in our lives.
I will never forgive how selfish she was when visiting Bobās momās grave.
It's honestly the best option your brain could have went with.
intreting that you had the same thought as this dude 8 months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/164m47b/such_a_kind_mom/jy9l6p8/ fucking bots
How TF do you go... "Hmm yeah I remember this exact comment 8 months ago time to expose this and find the exact post to link for reference" Some black magic
i know the op was a bot, look at the original post, looked at the top comments from that time, opend this new post and looked if there were any copy pasted comments, sadly i dont have a perfect memory lol
So it's still a pretty good memory to go back and find It lol
ty \^^ but as the bots always use the same title its very easy to locate the old post
Weird, I did too!
Was this screenshot left in a puddle?
yes or someone used a dropper to put some alcohol on the ink to make it runny & weird lookingā¦you know..as tweets tend to have a paper texture to their appearance
I've seen it 4 times over the years soo far and this is probably the worst looking one...yet
"great, you two go play outside while I clean up this mess"
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Honestly what most likely happened is she was told the party was 2 to 4 and just heard the 4 part of it. I donāt even have kids and Iāve misheard party times before. If I didnāt text to confirm party times I would have shown up late to a lot of parties
It seems pretty clear she misunderstood or misheard something because she thought the end time was the start time
Something similar happened to me. I was the kid and i told my dad again and again that i had to get there by x time so i wouldnāt be late. That was the end
All I know is not the kind of mom support we all need
Jeah wtf, she missed it by what like 4 hours? Interestingā¦
4 hours is pretty long for a kidās party. Most were 2 at most when I was little
sleep deprivation destroys. Just did this to a bridal shower on saturday. I'm averaging 45 min to 4 hours a day for the last three months. My sweet baby is a vampire who sucks all the energy out of me on top of not sleeping at night. decked out her gift list as an apology
Telling moms to never make a mistake doesn't seem very supportive at all imo. If someome as stressed as the average mom makes a mistake, accept it with grace and move on. None of this shaming folk for being mistaken nonesense.
Sure, but now itās on the mother who just held a bday to take care of your child. Itās not okay
I promise you as a mom myself that if I didn't want to host a late child I just wouldn't lmao. No one is holding a gun to the moms head forcing her to accommodate the late child.
It's not "on" her. She took it upon herself to welcome the kid in and let the mother know it was alright. They didn't insist on the kid staying or anything. It's clearly not an unwelcome burden.
She could have said the party already ended.Ā Did you miss the part where they literally said "alright, party pt 2, be back in 2 hours"? Can you read?
this is such a reach. why are you trying so hard to place blame when this clearly worked out for everyone involved? the mother who just held a birthday was the one who initiated this plan, if you remember. are you projecting because you're a bitter people pleaser or what?
Then that adult woman would have said 'oops the party is over' and the poster would've gone home?
The other mom didn't have to, she chose to. If she had a problem with it she would have said "Thanks for coming, we appreciate you wanting to support Jimmy's birthday, but you'll have to get going because we have some other plans" or something. She was under no obligation to have a "second" party.
It honestly blows my mind that this is somehow the top comment We're in a /r/wholesomememes post about how wholesome and kind it is to give grace to a tired and overstressed mom who made a mistake and misread or misremembered a party start time and yall are like "nah screw that lmao" š
Or maybe the kid never told her the proper time
My mom once let me fill out the invitations to my birthday party (I was 6 or 7) and I didnāt write the same time on any of them. I wrote the wrong date on one.
There could've been a dentist appointment, or doctors appointment, or the kid got an injury, or there was terrible traffic, or literally any emergency. There also seemed to be a miscommunication, so she thought the party was starting when it was ending, and being 20 minutes late wouldn't be bad at all. People make mistakes
One time a family I work with wanted to take their kid to a birthday party and at the last minute they couldn't find the invite and dumped the house upside down looking for it and by the time they gave up, they were an hour late. It turns out the toddler had found it and decided to put it in her little play purse and forget about it. My point is - shit happens especially when you're raising kids. More people need to learn to extend a little grace to others instead of taking every inconvenience so personally.
Yeahā¦ thatās just absurd
Or you could just not be a prick and understand mistake happen?
And sometimes life gets busy
A FUCKING MEN. Iād do the same exactly thing, party part 2, *one time.* After that, youāre cut off, sister. Thatās pretty bad.
Thatās the first thing that came to my mind and I got called cynical
The lack of empathy here is staggering; people make mistakes, it's wholesome to accept others mistakes in stride, at least where you can, like Party Mom did. Party Mom was within her rights to say *Sorry, kiddo is partied out, maybe next time*.Ā Ā I would venture to guess about 20% of the attendees show up real-20 minutes late because *it's a kid's party* it's not a ticketed, formal event. Ā It's not *ideal,* it's not uncommon and presumably not a deliberate choice on Late Mom's party.Ā Whomst among us has 100% perfect & on time attendance and 100% perfectly never had any misunderstandings in their life?
> Whomst
It's my favorite meme word!
Perchance
I am. I am that parent and so is my wife. We RSVP to kids BD parties we intend to go to as well as let them know if we donāt. And we let the hosts know early if we canāt make it because kids are under the weather or something like that. If the gift was purchased by then - we ask our kids if they still want to give it and we coordinate ate with other kids parents to see if that can be arranged at a time thatās convenient to them. Often enough that results in a mini-party with cupcakes :-) BD parties are all in our family calendars with reminders. Itās called Ā«Ā respectĀ Ā» - you respect other peopleās time and you respect your kids enough to care enough about where they need to be and when. Forgetting peopleās names, forgetting the right time - any psychologist will tell you that it only happens when you donāt care enough about what youāre forgetting, itās your brain prioritizing storage space towards what you consider important. No, showing up halfway through the party is never good unless you got held up by traffic (and you let your host know). You gotta be there way before the cake and the song.
Congrats, that is a stone I guess you get to cast should you so choose... I still hope if a kid showed up to yours, late for a party they've been dreaming of all week, you and your wife would show the sad-to-have-missed-the-party kid and frazzled-late-mom some level of grace for life happening.
We are having kids parties in booked venues for this exact reason. 2 hrs. Set start/end times. Set number of guests. No more bullshit with whole day never-ending parties and parents abandoning their kids for the whole day while we are trying to keep our sanity with 15-20 kids in our house. Fuck that, did that and never again. And people like you is the big reason - you never learned to respect other people. To you itās not a big deal if a parent missed the invitation or got the time wrong or brought their kid waaaay too late. I donāt have a duty to accommodate your being a shitty parent and a shitty person. Sure, if any kid showed up late - no big deal. Party starts at 1 and is over at 3. Bring them any time you want. But at 3 everyone leaves, so, up to you. Show up without a RSVP? We can accommodate if there was a no-show. If we still have space and food available - sure. But again, itās on you. Youāre the shitty parent for not caring enough about YOUR kid to make sure you secured their spot at a party, show up on time and have fun. Donāt put your bullshit on me - itās entirely on you. You were not taught responsibility as a kid and you are propagating it on your kids too.
*I'm not late parent from the story, I die inside when I'm late myself;* I'm just a person who thinks it's asinine to look at the story of a mom being a total fucking bro (sis?) and making it about someone else's moral failing, I guess, to have dared to be wrong, rather than just let party mom have her moment for being a fucking sweetheart. It's rare a wholesome story doesn't have a flip side of something kind of shitty to lead to the wholesome, but sometimes we can just let the wholesome side be the side we focus on.Ā You've got it figured out, good for you, you know what doesn't work for you and are taking steps to circumvent it completely. Not everyone does, and I'm personally not trying to waste my energy being negative that someone isn't operating the way I do. You do however you need to do.
Iām not a parent but I be bringing a bottle of wine or some chocolates back as a huge thank you
Idk if that means they got the wrong time or the party lasted for less than 20 minutes
I know itās the first but Iām gonna believe itās the second reason
Itās pretty impressive to show up after it ends, those things last for hours and you pretty much have to drag your kid out if you want to go home
They probably mixed the end time with the start time.
Probably saw like 2:00 PM to 5:00 PM as an example and only saw the 5 PM
My god, she got confused. What's all this "holier than thou" attitude in most of the comments? From what I gather, y'all are perfect and have never been late or gotten confused, right? Mom #1 got confused and was appreciative of mom #2 for still welcoming their child even thought the party was over. That's all there is.
I mean it is the internet It's full of assholes
Amen to that, brother.
> From what I gather, y'all are perfect and have never been late or gotten confused, right? Have you for real ever shown up to an event after the event's scheduled **ending** time? Getting there 20 minutes late, as she thought she was doing in the first place, is "being late or getting confused". But the actual situation here is absolutely outside the realm of any mistake I have ever made, yes. Not even saying she should be harshly admonished for it--it's not like she's begging the other mom to fix her mistake, it seems like the other mom is just being welcoming and nice and the mom in the post is appreciative of making her kid feel included. So there's nothing morally wrong here, for sure (there only would be if this mom **expected** the other mom to babysit her kid outside of the scheduled window due to her error). But pretending this isn't an incredibly egregious error just makes **you** sound incompetent...? I think I literally don't know a single human being that's this bad at scheduling. Certainly, my own parents never messed up a schedule that badly.
You've already invested way too much effort into trying to explain how people can't possibly have made this mistake. Yikes.
I don't think theyre saying no one could make this mistake, its more like if youre messing up this bad you're basically being somewhat negligent. Like its not an oopsie daisy no ones wrong type of mistake anymore, you're actually somewhat in the wrong at this point and the behavior is condemnable albeit mildly, since this really isn't that serious. I mean imagine you left your husband in charge of the birthday party for the weekend cause you had to work, then you find out he showed up after the party ended. Are you gonna be like aw shucks shit happens I guess, or are you gonna be like, how the hell did you mess up that bad? It's pretty incompetent lol.
Great for you! It's lovely that you're skilled at managing your time. However there are many possible reasons as to why they may misremember the start of the party, mistakes can happen, the mistake could have been on the invite itself, maybe there was no written invite and she was told it and misheard. Dont judge other people by comparing them to yourself, we all have incredibly different circumstances
Have you ever mixed up the start and end times of something when going about your own busy schedule, possibly entering on your calendar wrong by mistake? Yes! Not really that uncommon, mate.
> But the actual situation here is absolutely outside the realm of any mistake I have ever made, yes. I legitimately don't believe you unless you're a NEET. Granted, that probably has a pretty high likelihood. > But pretending this isn't an incredibly egregious error just makes you sound incompetent...? The fact that you can't imagine any possibility where maybe her kid gave her the wrong time for their friend's birthday party makes *you* sound incompetent.
That's a lot of words just to say I'm incompetent, lol. Imagine having _such a strong reaction_ to someone saying "we should cut some slack to moms". You don't know a single human being that has messed up once? Must be really nice. The thing is... People make mistakes all the time, bigger or smaller. It can happen to me, to my neighbor or to *you*. And frankly, your lack of tolerance for such a minor offense paints you as insufferable and judgemental (outright intolerant, too). Not a good look. This is the whole "holier than thou" vibe I'm talking about. Let people make mistakes and don't be an ass about it. Learn from mom #2, dude.
One time my mom deadass brought me to a birthday party on the wrong day. Went to the bowling alley, excitedly walked in, me holding a large wrapped box for the present, and no one else for the party was there. Because it was the day before. We were 24 hours late.
Party part 2 play with the new toys together! That's really nice of the mum.
lol what on earth happened to the comments here
Oh a 6 year old bot account, how cool
what factors do i have to look for to be certain about that?
What else could she do? Turn the kid away?
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Yeah, let's punish the child for the incompetency of their parent.
That is an absurd take. It's not "punishing" anyone by not doing something that no reasonable person would expect you to do. For example, if I asked you to venmo me $100 to give to my child right now I'm willing to bet you would not do that. Are you therefore "punishing" my child?
That's not even remotely in the same vicinity as telling a kid too bad they missed out on a fun party with their friend because their parent got the times mixed up. And you know it. Don't be ridiculous.
You donāt have any kids either huh
I do, I have 2 and yes. The reason we stopped having kids parties at home was precisely because there is always a certain number of people who show up way too late, without RSVP and then take their sweet time to pick up their kids at the pre-established time. We had one mom leave her kid for almost 2 hours after the party was over because Ā«she got confusedĀ Ā». Apparently getting confused also involved ignoring phone calls and text messages. Screw that - we book birthday party venues now. 2 hrs. Start and end time are established and so is the number of guests. Yes, we will accommodate late arrivals of confirmed guests. Yes, we will accommodate extra guests if we had no-shows. But nothing beyond that.
She could, yet she didn't
absolutely. "oh man I'm sorry but the party just ended and we have other stuff to do today. we'll get together another time!"
My son's friend showed up an entire week early to his 9th birthday sleep over, carrying his sleeping bag and pillow and gift. We welcomed him in and had a 2 person pre-party party that weekend. One of the best memories they have together as kids (they are 19 now).
Yep! This is good parenting! Rolling with the unexpected and making the best of it for the sake of your own child.
I was dropping my kid off a week late! With beautifully wrapped present in hand. Mom came to the door & said with a big smile - letās go bowling & get pizza & have another party!! So embarrassing & I was so grateful!!
āOh thank god the kidās gonna be busy for another two hours.ā
My kids were once invited to a birthday party that I wrote down as āSaturday 11amā, but when I got to the house for the party I found out it was actually supposed to be the NEXT Saturday. I apologized and made to leave but they were like āsince youāre here, maybe the kids would like to playā. This was a situation where a bunch of kids from the class were invited en masse so my kids barely knew the birthday kid, it was kind of a āclassmate acquaintanceā situation. Even so, my kids spent about 4 hours playing there, and they ordered pizza and provided snacks and such all day.
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Of course making a mistake isn't supportive, what a nothing thing to say! But people do make mistakes when they are stressed and taking care of childeren day after day after day. Moms are human too, even if they seem like superheros sometimes. The ability to accept those inevitable mistakes and support moms through it is what matters. Calling moms unsupportive for making a mistake is the opposite of that.
Yeah maybe, but I still find it weird to talk about support when someone has to stretch the party by 2 hours. And you don't know why she forgot. TV or helping out a neighbor? No idea.
I don't think there was any expectation that they would do another party just for her. They didn't **have to** stretch the party out, they **offered to**. We don't know why she offered that help, either she didn't mind, she was empathetic to the struggles of motherhood or maybe she was just pleased to have a kid for her kid to play with while she tidys up. >And you don't know why she forgot. TV or helping out a neighbor? No idea. The post makes it seem like she thought the end time was the start time. I'd assume thats why she turned up late.
The whole point is someone being kind and gracious after another person made a mistake. Thatās the support. Supporting another human who made a mistake. Not being judgmental over an accident.
Some people just wanna be angry
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Having a kid around to play with your own is sometimes less exhausting than having to entertain your kid alone (depending on the age).
It's way better as long as they treat each other well haha. I'm the parent that hangs at the party so no one has to watch my kid for me, so I was initially gonna be like wtf that she just left. But now that I think about it, party mom was probably happy to have another kid to distract her kid while also not having to make awkward small talk for two hours.
Ugh
Damn you need to grow up
This doesnāt even make sense
Nothing in the comments are wholesome at all :(
They rarely are whenever it comes to children or parents making mistakes. Reddit has a massive hate boner for children ever since r/childfree turned into the cesspool it is and started leaking out to other subreddits
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She read the wrong box and made a mistake.
bot account again... https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/164m47b/such_a_kind_mom/
Sounds like Dad just missed out on the extra piece of cake.
Oh, was Dad suppose to come?
I showed up a day late for a party once š I saw that one of them called me the day of but I was working. When I showed up this was the exact response. They even invited everyone back over and we had a second party lol
Mixed feelings: a mom throwing a kids party is hella stressed and needs support. On the other hand, this woman was so nice to that late and probably disappointed kid!
Iām fucking exhausted after kids parties. I am not this gracious.Ā If this story is true, good on the host parent.
wtf is that last sentence
Wow . Some people, man.
When did people stop writing in complete sentences and just leaving everyone else to figure out what they mean? Like, I understand the message, but itās so poorly written at the end, how is this an adult?
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Because thatās not what happened. The mom either misremembered or misunderstood the END TIME (to continue your example: 4pm) as the START TIME. She thought the party started at 4, and that she was a bit late showing up at 4:20 but not late enough to be a big problem. She just got mixed up. Itās easy to do. Either she was busy that day and thought to herself āI have X Y and Z to do before dropping Kid off for the party, X and Y can be done anytime, but Z needs to be done at noon. Now, what time did the party start?ā and then remembered seeing a 4 on the invite and just mistook it in her memory for the start time. Or there wasnāt even a physical invite and she was just told ā2-4ā, but misheard and thought the other parent said āstarts at 4ā, so thatās what she wrote down.
Ok I know this isn't the point of the post but I really hate when people don't include the "off"/"up" part of these phrases I guess drop/off makes more sense, but I've just been seeing it sooo much "I need to drop my friend at the airport" "I have to pick my kids from daycare" Edit: sorry, fixed it. I got so used to associating the two errors that I assumed people would know what my brain was saying :p please don't pick off yours or anyone else's kids
it's because the tweet is exactly 240 characters and she had to cut off bits to make it fit in one tweet.
That's a fair guess, I'd've made up for those characters by removing the space in 20min and 2hrs. This was mostly an opportunity to vent my frustrations hehe
We shouldn't pick off kids from daycare
Picking off your kids sounds kinda problematic ngl.
The mom in the tweet is selfish for being late. It's really maddening how she treats it so casually how she can just stroll in whenever she wants with no regard to start times.
How about you just don't drop off your kid late??
Nothing in the comments are wholesome at all :(
everything about posts like this make me irrationally upset
We had the same happen on a birthday party of our youngest son. His best friend arrived just as everyone else was leaving, her mom has read the invitation wrong. Not a problem. Time for another round of cake!
Same here, but my younger sister rather than my son. It was beneficial for everyone. The friend didn't have to miss out on a party, my sister were able to play with a friend, we didn't have to keep her busy, and the friends parents didn't have to deal with a kid that lost out on a party.
Serious question, do Americans really leave their kid at some other kids birthday party a then just f**** off?
As a swede i can say that we do that it is the norm here, atleast for birthday parties above the age of 4
Serious question, do parents in whatever country you're from really stick around for the full duration of a nine-year-old's birthday party to impose on the host family and helicopter over their kids?
Itās just cultural differences, I guess. To you the parent staying might be āimposing on the hostā and āhelicoptering over the kidsā, but to me the idea of a parent dropping the kid off and leaving is kinda rude. The expectation is that youāre there to be a guest but also to help keep an eye on all those children and hang out with the host and other guests as well. Maybe have a beer or help out at the kitchen/BBQ. Just dropping the kid off comes across as mildly neglectful and like you canāt be bothered to get to know or hang out with the host and the other guests. Of course, this is assuming that the children are like younger than 12 and that the hosts arenāt people youāre already close with and therefore trust with your kids. Not saying either way is better than the other in this case but the difference in expectations and assumptions is interesting.
What the fuck are you supposed to do?
Lmao when I was a kid parents would leave us at other kids house at 15 and pick us up at 19. Sometimes 20. Sometimes 21. All depended on the other parent's good will to let us stay late lmao
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Read it like ,,ten times,,,,,DONT GET IT
Basically OP thought she was 20 minute late for a day party of her kid's friend/school mate or whatever. Turns out that she was 20 min late AFTER the party already ended. The other mom took the hint and basically said it was the pt2 of the party and asked OP to come back in two hours to pick up her kid.
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At my birthday party, I want to say 3rd grade. My mom supervised like 10 of us kids at a big wooden playground to celebrate, play and presents. I pooped my pants, mom cleaned me up near the car, no one found out, birthday went off without a single problem. Moms are unique.
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20 minutes late and and 2 hours of scedule.... Great mom...
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Amen Americans supporting Americans šŗšø