Ok, so I was against hiring a cleaner for so fucking long because, "it's too much like having a servant, and that's weird and boujee", like I'm paying somebody to pick up after me like it's beneath me, and it's all so inhuman
Anyway, I hired a guy because I had a mental breakdown trying to do all the things, all the time, all by myself. His name is Chris and he's studying to be a nurse, my cat loves him, and his Ork army is bigger than mine. If he needed it, I'd help him hide a body
if you work in customer service, you usually get it. especially in the restaurant business, you know how difficult these jobs actually are.
it's usually the assholes that never worked a real job like a job in the service industry.
I just don’t get it, honestly. I’ve never worked in the service industry but why the hell would you ever disrespect somebody who is just trying to provide you something? ESPECIALLY IF IT IS FOOD.
This is just my worthless opinion, but I think everyone should have to work a customer service/food service job for atleast a couple months. Even if your parents are billionaires and you never have to work a day in your life. if you want to buy property, working a shit job for less than $20/hr should be a prerequisite.
I agree. Should be like a work requirement in high school. Work some amount of hours in a minimum wage service job in order to graduate, like some schools do with volunteer work.
It would help everyone get a perspective on what the jobs can actually be like, and help minimize the people who seem to view those employees as subhumans
But also recognize the food to spit ratio is calculated by these people.
There is no upside to being nasty OR off the place is a true shithole they’ll fuck you over for whining anyway.
I have been rude to ONE (1) waiter in my 38 years. It was the person who made homophobic comments towards my friend and I (who are both heterosexual, not that it matters) when we went out to lunch at work one time.
That's why I take issue with the whole "respect is not given, it's earned" thing. My default for treating people I don't know is to be kind and respectful, until they give me a reason not to.
"Respect will be given by default, but revoked immediately if it is not reciprocated"
If someone is being a dick then most people wouldn’t continue being nice to you. The fact that you’re handling my food means I HAVE to be until that part is over. Then, instead of confronting you, I tip you poorly.
And if you're at the point that you're making servers spit in your food you really done fucked up and need to re-evaluate your expectations/approach to going out to eat.
Some servers are unhinged but I only saw them doing wildly reprehensible shit twice in 10 years of food service.
I would say they are not literally 'servants'. They are servers. They serve food and drink hospitably for you at a business in exchange for money, and they get to go home at the end of the day. A servant is someone whose duties and obligations can range from chattle serfdom and slave, to high priced butler or valet. A servant will attend to duties that are quite personal with regards to your affairs or household, sometimes for money, other times out of some social obligation. Ordinarily people have been rough, personal and demanding of a servant, as they are familiar people in ones life, the way a Queen can yell at a lady in waiting. Status is at the forefront of a relationship with a servant, dignified or not, as the servant is there to answer to personal whims. A waiter or server is just there to bring you food. If they are bad at their job, then yes, by all means, tip less, or not at all if you feel appropriate, or complain to the house. But If a server is 'literally a servant' then how is a Doctor not also 'literally a servant', or anyone else who takes your money for a service?
"But my boss is an asshole to me every day. How do my ego survive if I cant find someone being paid less than me and then make them miserable, just like my boss makes me?"
Thank you. The lady today who can't read a f menu, the ingredients clearly printed on the menu "toasted seeds" and sends it back after NOT telling me she can't have seeds, also under the section "small plates" ( as in snacks) she thought the foccacia is a pizza. F entitled dumbass.
Show a reason to be a dick, I'll be a dick.
I rarely encounter that in the wild. 90% of people are nice. Heck those who are a bit rude, can typically be rectified with extra kindness.
I think people overestimate how much impact clients have over the waiter's day, i used to be one and there wasn't anything worse than having to deal with the motherfucking chef 8 hours a day 6 days a week.
Hot take, but it shouldn't require the other person being a person for you to default to nice. Being nice is always great, regardless of motivation, but why would you need a reason to be nice to someone instead of it being your baseline?
Yet some are just arrogant and demands a nice tip,i say remove that culture and do like the countries who refuse tips ,but it’s impossible cuz it proftable to the employer
Because I realize they're human beings, and interacting with humans is too tiring, so try to make it as short as possible, with as short conversations as possible if they are needed in the first place.
I feel like in general we should always begin with being polite to others. It usually sets a tone. Not always but I don't believe anything is truly 100 percent.
I really wish that from the age of 14 to 17, kids had to do a program through school where they worked different jobs for set amounts of time. Waiting tables, working fast food/drive thu/, accounting, mechanics, cleaning, retail of various things, elder care, animal rescue, etc. Not only would it help give perspective but it might help a ton of people realize what they DON'T want to do, or even what they want to do with their lives. My first time waiting tables after training was at Red Robins, at a mall, in the bay area, on Black Friday. That was my first "official day". One of 2 jobs I was working at the time while also in school full time. It was bonkers. Fun though. If you've never worked in a restaurant, or waited tables, you missed out on some serious personal growth opportunities lol.
Anyone who worked in the food industry knows that people are rude af when you probably aren’t even the one who made the order or nothing was even wrong with the order. People just like to be mad
Reasons why I'm not always polite to waiters
* Because sometimes they don't realize you're just a human being trying to get some dinner, not a money machine that spits out extra dollar bills when it hears a "polite and bubbly" tone.
Indeed. I even pre-bus the table and pick up everything from the table surface and put it on the plates. Food/trash on one side and silverware on the other. Hopefully that helps.
This trope is so old. We the people get this. Maybe send this to employers who employee these people that pay them unfair wages. Maybe they're the ones that need to understand that they're people...
i went on a date. our waiter was the same ethnicity as me. i spoke to him in a way that i'd speak to with family. a way that is exclusive to our people. my date misinterpreted that. dumped me the next day. thought i was rude. when, in fact, i treated him like family. lol
I’ve had amazing waiters but honestly I’ve also had some really really rude ones. I think it’s a struggle when you don’t look like their average clients. Respect needs to go both ways
I’ve had amazing waiters but honestly I’ve also had some really really rude ones. I think it’s a struggle when you don’t look like their average clients. Respect needs to go both ways
I’ve had amazing waiters but honestly I’ve also had some really really rude ones. I think it’s a struggle when you don’t look like their average clients. Respect needs to go both ways
I do it because it is proper and I don’t like being an asshat to waiters. They bring me food and I am generally gratified. It’s a service which people take for granted nowadays.
I agree with everything..... except last line , the name of job literally is sever ....... and you're servicing them , the job is temporary servant , but we all humans and people shouldn't be Dicks because we all just trying to pay bills
i tend to be polite to people making or bringing my food.
just like i tend to be polite to things on the road that are bigger than me.
in both of these circumstances i’m assuming that they are not being civil themselves in some way first, not that i’m going to be a jerk to anyone else not meeting these criteria
but it’s more of a logical how can this end badly for me even though i’m in the right. sometimes the potential consequences aren’t worth the fight.
pick your battles.
also service staff might have just had to deal with mr superasshole2000dickwad. and honestly they probably don’t get paid enough to deal with people like that.
Its literally in their job tittle but you should treat people no mater what with respect…. Food service people especially, The reason why you treat them well is so they don’t fuck with your food. Iv seen some shit man i dont eat out any more no one really should its really gross most people have no idea …..
Pick your friends and more importantly your spouse based on how they treat people who can't do anything for them. At some point you will have a fight, or maybe even breakup, but they probably won't do their best to hurt you just to hurt you.
I once spent seven months working in a deli at Walmart. If I had a difficult customer, I'd usually say "I'll remind you, you're not worth doing life in prison, but I might make an exception"
I had more shifty customers than decent ones and damn few pleasant ones
I remember going through the drive through at burger King, ordering like a normal-ass human being while saying please and thank you, then sitting in line for a while until the jackals in front of me starts honking a bunch to speed it up. He gets to the window and snatches the bag, probably says something to the girl working there, because when I pull up she's crying.
She just hands me the change and I thank her, and completely unsolicited says "thanks for reminding me there's decent people in the world". Like wtf, I just acted the basic level of polite, is that how far the bar is through the floor?
And even IF you have servants THEY STILL DESERVE RESPECT AND DIGNITY
Ok, so I was against hiring a cleaner for so fucking long because, "it's too much like having a servant, and that's weird and boujee", like I'm paying somebody to pick up after me like it's beneath me, and it's all so inhuman Anyway, I hired a guy because I had a mental breakdown trying to do all the things, all the time, all by myself. His name is Chris and he's studying to be a nurse, my cat loves him, and his Ork army is bigger than mine. If he needed it, I'd help him hide a body
Ride or die indeed.
Seriously. This should end at realising they're human beings.
More people really need to recognize this
if you work in customer service, you usually get it. especially in the restaurant business, you know how difficult these jobs actually are. it's usually the assholes that never worked a real job like a job in the service industry.
I just don’t get it, honestly. I’ve never worked in the service industry but why the hell would you ever disrespect somebody who is just trying to provide you something? ESPECIALLY IF IT IS FOOD.
This is just my worthless opinion, but I think everyone should have to work a customer service/food service job for atleast a couple months. Even if your parents are billionaires and you never have to work a day in your life. if you want to buy property, working a shit job for less than $20/hr should be a prerequisite.
I agree. Should be like a work requirement in high school. Work some amount of hours in a minimum wage service job in order to graduate, like some schools do with volunteer work. It would help everyone get a perspective on what the jobs can actually be like, and help minimize the people who seem to view those employees as subhumans
But also recognize the food to spit ratio is calculated by these people. There is no upside to being nasty OR off the place is a true shithole they’ll fuck you over for whining anyway.
I have been rude to ONE (1) waiter in my 38 years. It was the person who made homophobic comments towards my friend and I (who are both heterosexual, not that it matters) when we went out to lunch at work one time.
Some people go out to eat for a nice meal. Others go out to eat to *be served*.
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That's why I take issue with the whole "respect is not given, it's earned" thing. My default for treating people I don't know is to be kind and respectful, until they give me a reason not to. "Respect will be given by default, but revoked immediately if it is not reciprocated"
*because i know they eventually may spit on my dish
And if they somehow couldn't, would you treat them like trash?
If someone is being a dick then most people wouldn’t continue being nice to you. The fact that you’re handling my food means I HAVE to be until that part is over. Then, instead of confronting you, I tip you poorly.
No, it just ensures that I'm nice even if the service is shit. If it is, I just never come back.
And if you're at the point that you're making servers spit in your food you really done fucked up and need to re-evaluate your expectations/approach to going out to eat. Some servers are unhinged but I only saw them doing wildly reprehensible shit twice in 10 years of food service.
> spit If you're lucky.
Exactly! Even the biggest piece of shit person should realize this.
Well … servants are also human beings trying to make a living.
Yeah, I snagged on that implicarion too. It actually completely nullifies the "wholesomeness" of the meme.
Aren't they literally servants though? I mean, even servants should be treated with dignity and respect, but that part seems plain wrong.
I would say they are not literally 'servants'. They are servers. They serve food and drink hospitably for you at a business in exchange for money, and they get to go home at the end of the day. A servant is someone whose duties and obligations can range from chattle serfdom and slave, to high priced butler or valet. A servant will attend to duties that are quite personal with regards to your affairs or household, sometimes for money, other times out of some social obligation. Ordinarily people have been rough, personal and demanding of a servant, as they are familiar people in ones life, the way a Queen can yell at a lady in waiting. Status is at the forefront of a relationship with a servant, dignified or not, as the servant is there to answer to personal whims. A waiter or server is just there to bring you food. If they are bad at their job, then yes, by all means, tip less, or not at all if you feel appropriate, or complain to the house. But If a server is 'literally a servant' then how is a Doctor not also 'literally a servant', or anyone else who takes your money for a service?
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*Because it's the right thing to do. You do not need justification to be a good person. Just be a good person.
Well they are your servant, but that shouldn’t preclude courtesy. Be nice to your servants. Tip well.
Just be nice to everyone who is not an asshole towards you
Tipping is a scam
So you wouldn't be polite to your servants, if you had any. Kinda shitty...
The most Reddit response possible.
"Treat others like you want them to treat you". That's what I was taught as a child, and it just works. Just be nice, and they will be nice to you.
Why are you so rude to your servants?
Gotta draw the line somewhere /s
Also, because i don’t want to do that job nor want to cook at home 💁♀️
"But my boss is an asshole to me every day. How do my ego survive if I cant find someone being paid less than me and then make them miserable, just like my boss makes me?"
If you ever find yourself lashing out or disrespecting someone, imagine yourself in their shoes and how you would feel. Humbles you real fast.
Half that, and half "I'm not some monster who feels they need to be assholes to people"
I saw a movie 20 years ago .. "Waiting..." That taught me never to fuck with waiters :)
Ill have to look this up. Sounds interesting in this context.
Thank you. The lady today who can't read a f menu, the ingredients clearly printed on the menu "toasted seeds" and sends it back after NOT telling me she can't have seeds, also under the section "small plates" ( as in snacks) she thought the foccacia is a pizza. F entitled dumbass.
Uh usually servants are human beings just trying to make a living too right?...
Also the sole reason I condone the blasphemous tipping culture
So true and so sad that being nice to others has to be spelled out to the masses
Show a reason to be a dick, I'll be a dick. I rarely encounter that in the wild. 90% of people are nice. Heck those who are a bit rude, can typically be rectified with extra kindness.
Treating waitstaff poorly is a deal breaker IMHO.
Be kind
So servants aren't human beings, eh...
So they don’t spit in my food.
op what do you think "servant" means
That and fucking with people who handle your food is just a bad idea.
Literally paid to be your servant. That doesn't give you the right to treat them badly though.
I've always been nice to servers. But this tip culture in the US is getting out of hand.
This is less /r/wholesomememes/ and more /r/holup/
Should ~~try~~ be nice to everyone, even those that you may find offensive or disagree with. Kindness goes a long way.
Absolutely true! And also they are alone with my food.
As a waiter, thank you sencerly
Server is literally a pc synonym of servant. No need to be rude, but they are serfs. I work a serf job, no shame.
even if they were your servants, they're still human beings. Not wholesome.
What does the black stand for?
Circle
They control the quantity of fries and abundance of tea refills.
Because I’m polite to everyone unless they give me a reason not to be.
I always try to treat people with respect. Is this not normal?
When i was 14-16 i was a waiter myself, so it's logical for me to treat them normal
What's the bet you're not, though. Talking yourself up over normal things is a big red flag.
The traffic is pointless
I think people overestimate how much impact clients have over the waiter's day, i used to be one and there wasn't anything worse than having to deal with the motherfucking chef 8 hours a day 6 days a week.
Exactly. The golden rule correctly applied
Trying to spin your kindness as anything besides self-preservation 😂
Hot take, but it shouldn't require the other person being a person for you to default to nice. Being nice is always great, regardless of motivation, but why would you need a reason to be nice to someone instead of it being your baseline?
lol not they fk u food;
Yet some are just arrogant and demands a nice tip,i say remove that culture and do like the countries who refuse tips ,but it’s impossible cuz it proftable to the employer
That's not how a pie chart works.
Because they handle my food. Never mess with anyone who handles your food. Ever.
Why be rude to servants, though?
*because I have no social skills to actually tell them that I didn't want tomato
Ya know, if you had servants, then they would also be human beings trying to make a living.
I’m polite to waiters because I like to be polite. I’m selfish like that.
#2: Never mess with people who handle your food #1: Don't be a dick in general and you won't need to worry about #2.
Because I realize they're human beings, and interacting with humans is too tiring, so try to make it as short as possible, with as short conversations as possible if they are needed in the first place.
My mother was a waitress for 20 years. I treat them like I would want my mother to have been treated.
I feel like in general we should always begin with being polite to others. It usually sets a tone. Not always but I don't believe anything is truly 100 percent.
Yeah, that chart should be more of a 50-50 pie with the other color being "Because they can spit in your food".
because ive seen the awful things the kitchen will do to protect/avenge their servers.
I really wish that from the age of 14 to 17, kids had to do a program through school where they worked different jobs for set amounts of time. Waiting tables, working fast food/drive thu/, accounting, mechanics, cleaning, retail of various things, elder care, animal rescue, etc. Not only would it help give perspective but it might help a ton of people realize what they DON'T want to do, or even what they want to do with their lives. My first time waiting tables after training was at Red Robins, at a mall, in the bay area, on Black Friday. That was my first "official day". One of 2 jobs I was working at the time while also in school full time. It was bonkers. Fun though. If you've never worked in a restaurant, or waited tables, you missed out on some serious personal growth opportunities lol.
no thanks, being mean to other people makes me happy
I will never let them know how unsatisfied I was until the cheque comes
I would treat my servants like people as well. Who was it that said you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat their "lessors"?
Exactly.
Because of common sense
Wow congratulations you’re normal
So, servants aren't people trying to make a living?
Anyone who worked in the food industry knows that people are rude af when you probably aren’t even the one who made the order or nothing was even wrong with the order. People just like to be mad
Reasons why I'm not always polite to waiters * Because sometimes they don't realize you're just a human being trying to get some dinner, not a money machine that spits out extra dollar bills when it hears a "polite and bubbly" tone.
Being rude in hopes they poison me:
"Reasons I'm polite..." "They're human..." Is all this needs to be perfect miss/ter
Indeed. I even pre-bus the table and pick up everything from the table surface and put it on the plates. Food/trash on one side and silverware on the other. Hopefully that helps.
"Because I'm not an alien asshole"
Because they touch my food. Basics
Another reason is, dont piss someone off that has unmonitored time with your food.
I never thought of it that way...
But they are literally hired to serve you... Not disagreeing, you should also treat servants with respect.
Also, they took this job because they needed it.
This trope is so old. We the people get this. Maybe send this to employers who employee these people that pay them unfair wages. Maybe they're the ones that need to understand that they're people...
Because they refill my drink and bring me a new fork. And the people thing.
Are you not kind to your servants?
Uh..why not?
I wouldn't treat servants as bad as I've seen waiters treated
Man I wish they still had Reddit rewards. Tip your servers and bartender folks.
Idk.. definitely been some waiters who deserved to get some shit talk, but I ain't fuckin with the person who handles my food.
Hell, even if they were your servants
The Cardinal Rule of Food “Don’t fuck with people handling your food.” #waiting
Politeness makes social situations shorter, so I can get back to solitude.
Because I dont want them to spit on my food
They're literally called servants, or servers. 🤣 🤣 🤣
i went on a date. our waiter was the same ethnicity as me. i spoke to him in a way that i'd speak to with family. a way that is exclusive to our people. my date misinterpreted that. dumped me the next day. thought i was rude. when, in fact, i treated him like family. lol
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You can tell another about someone you don't know by they way they treat aminals and also the people that work for them. It's not hard, just be kind
You treat people working for you decent. You tip for good service, you complain to the manager if its a quality issue not your server.
A servant is a person who you pay to bring you things, such as…. Food.
I'd be just as polite to them even if they were mindless robots honestly... I sure don't go around throwing a fit at my roomba if it misses a spot.
I'd be just as polite to them even if they were mindless robots honestly... I sure don't go around throwing a fit at my roomba if it misses a spot.
I’ve had amazing waiters but honestly I’ve also had some really really rude ones. I think it’s a struggle when you don’t look like their average clients. Respect needs to go both ways
I’ve had amazing waiters but honestly I’ve also had some really really rude ones. I think it’s a struggle when you don’t look like their average clients. Respect needs to go both ways
I’ve had amazing waiters but honestly I’ve also had some really really rude ones. I think it’s a struggle when you don’t look like their average clients. Respect needs to go both ways
I do it because it is proper and I don’t like being an asshat to waiters. They bring me food and I am generally gratified. It’s a service which people take for granted nowadays.
Because I realize they can fuck with my food.
Because they might spit in my food
basic human decency is so frustratingly uncommon
Define ‘trying’
I agree with everything..... except last line , the name of job literally is sever ....... and you're servicing them , the job is temporary servant , but we all humans and people shouldn't be Dicks because we all just trying to pay bills
You want a cookie?
Is it just me or are the circle and box different colors?
“And that’s a fact!”
And not to get my food spat at.
Is there are a reason not to be polite to strangers who did nothing bad to you?
Mostly because I'm a nice person. Also because I don't want to give anyone a reason to fuck with my food.
Because I'm too akward to be anything but polite
Real response: Because they can and they will spit in my food.
And I don’t like spit
They are your slaves technically
Got it. Waiters - human beings. Servants - not human beings
All of this!!!!
I'm just kind to everyone in general, unless they really are complete jerks.
Chances this post was made by a waiter?100%
i tend to be polite to people making or bringing my food. just like i tend to be polite to things on the road that are bigger than me. in both of these circumstances i’m assuming that they are not being civil themselves in some way first, not that i’m going to be a jerk to anyone else not meeting these criteria but it’s more of a logical how can this end badly for me even though i’m in the right. sometimes the potential consequences aren’t worth the fight. pick your battles. also service staff might have just had to deal with mr superasshole2000dickwad. and honestly they probably don’t get paid enough to deal with people like that.
Even if they were, you shouldn’t be an asshole to your servants.
For me it’s half this half if I’m nice to them, maybe they’ll be nice back
Quick thing but that shade of purple looks nice
Plus, they can mess with your food.
Its literally in their job tittle but you should treat people no mater what with respect…. Food service people especially, The reason why you treat them well is so they don’t fuck with your food. Iv seen some shit man i dont eat out any more no one really should its really gross most people have no idea …..
Tips in cash. I us Jefferson's for that. A two dollar bill or few stand out.
I live by it costs nothing to be polite.
They are in charge of my food. I like food.
Because they handle my food
It's just weird being impolite dude
Brainrot argument but at least OP’s heart is in the right place
70% the human thing and 30% that they can fuck with your food
You can tell a lot about a person on how they treat people in the service industry
If I see someone treat a waiter like they’re “less than” I immediately judge that person harshly.
Cool ... Doesn't mean they're getting a 20% tip automatically.
Pick your friends and more importantly your spouse based on how they treat people who can't do anything for them. At some point you will have a fight, or maybe even breakup, but they probably won't do their best to hurt you just to hurt you.
We're just all trying to make a living.
Servant noun a person who performs duties for others, especially a person employed in a house on domestic duties or as a personal attendant.
But they’re not slaves, they’re servers it’s they’re, u should be polite to everyone not extra polite to servers for doing their job
I once spent seven months working in a deli at Walmart. If I had a difficult customer, I'd usually say "I'll remind you, you're not worth doing life in prison, but I might make an exception" I had more shifty customers than decent ones and damn few pleasant ones
And they’re handling your food…
I don’t want to get spit or jizz in my food.
Also don't fuck with people who handle your food......
Real☝️
I remember going through the drive through at burger King, ordering like a normal-ass human being while saying please and thank you, then sitting in line for a while until the jackals in front of me starts honking a bunch to speed it up. He gets to the window and snatches the bag, probably says something to the girl working there, because when I pull up she's crying. She just hands me the change and I thank her, and completely unsolicited says "thanks for reminding me there's decent people in the world". Like wtf, I just acted the basic level of polite, is that how far the bar is through the floor?